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Kristen Stewart Uncomfortable During Balenciaga Q & A — Expert Thu, October 18, 2012 6:44pm EST by Sandra Clark 15 Comments View Gallery→5 Photos During Kristen’s live interview Oct 18 discussing the new Balenciaga fragrance, she appeared self-critical and disapproving of herself, says top body language expert Patti Wood. has all the EXCLUSIVE details on how Kristen really feels about herself. Kristen Stewart is known for being fidgety during interviews, however Body Language Expert Patti Wood says Kristen’s recent Q & A with Balenciaga reveals someone who is very nervous and insecure. World-renowned body language expert Patti Wood, who recently released her new book SNAP – Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma, tells exclusively, “Kristen’s behavior during the interview indicates that she didn’t feel like she was doing a very good job. She was self-comforting throughout the entire Q & A.” “Several times Kristen put her index finger up to her bottom lip where there are tons of sensitive nerve endings. This gesture would stimulate endorphins, thus making her feel more at ease. She also touches her chin, almost rubbing it showing that she feels very uneasy and unsure of herself,” said Patti.“Kristen also feels the need to protect herself which is why she brushes the outside arm with her inside arm. This shows she wants to protect herself from the camera, the public. At one point, Kristen twists her head and brings her chin down and then sucks in her lips, again indicating that she is very uncomfortable, typically a shame gesture. She also touches her ear, another indication that she feesl like she isn’t doing a very good job.” “The rocking and running like motion of her foot is symbolic of running away from the interview. And the clicking sound she often makes when she finishes a sentence is a combination of disapproval and comforting herself.” “Kristen is trying really hard but feels like she is coming up short. If she had to grade herself on how well she did during the interview, she would have most likely given herself a ‘D’.” “Overall, it makes sense that Kristen would feel uptight and insecure because this is one of the first times she is talking in public since the whole cheating scandal on Robert Pattinson. She’s probably feeling judged and perhaps even thinking about Rob at times during the interview and wondering what her fans are thinking about the whole situation.” “For future interviews, I would advise Kristen to feel more comfortable and she can achieve this in different ways. I would suggest she wear clothing that is LESS revealing. I would suggest that she cover up her upper arms and lower legs a bit more so she doesn’t feel so exposed. I would have her do some positive self-talk prior any interviews. It’s also important for her to connect with the interviewer. She can do this by shaking hands or doing a kiss on both cheeks– something to show they are connected. This will help Kristen’s fans feel like they too are connected with her.”How do YOU feel, HollywoodLifers? Did Kristen appear unusually nervous and self-critical? 

Robert Pattinson & Kristen Stewart: Their Love Is Real, Say Experts Thu, October 18, 2012 10:09pm EST by Billy Nilles 23 Comments There has been a lot of speculation that Rob and Kristen were just pretending to promote the release of ‘Breaking Dawn: Part 2,’ however two body language experts tell us that their loving feelings are real! Read on for all the details. Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart‘s reconciliation, after her tryst with Rupert Sanders, has happened just in time for the press tour for Breaking Dawn: Part 2 to begin — causing a lot of cynics to wonder if the reunion is solely a publicity stunt. With the arrival of new photos catching the two kissing at Kristen’s new house on Wednesday, Oct. 18, two experts in the field of body language assure us that this reconciliation is very real! Patti Wood, body language expert and author of SNAP – Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma, spoke with exclusively and analyzed the romantic photos, of Kristen, 22, and Rob, 26, exclusive to PopSugar. Reading Rob“Even though the photos are a little blurry and distorted, he is extraordinarily happy,” she says. “If you look, you can tell by the ways the eyes get smaller — that when you’re truly smiling. And the way his cheeks are lifted up, and even though he has all the stuff in his arms, he has a slight lean forward down to her which is really nice.”Absolutely Comfortable“[In] the kissing photo, I also really like how far over his shoulders are hunched towards her and surrounding her,” Patti continues. “He’s really reaching out and going over to her making an effort to her. Then I like the mutual hugging, the side hug. It’s really nice. I like two things: that he’s going up and over to hold her, that’s partly due to his height, but he’s absolutely comfortable and relaxed. This is where he feels most comfortable. He is absolutely comfortable with her. He’s not holding anything against her. Also, how gently he’s cradling her in. Her arm also isn’t only wrapped around him. She looks comforted by him and she is making an effort. If you look at the walking up the stairs photo. He’s pressed into her.”Genuine Emotion Patti concluded that nothing in these photos was forced or faked, it’s the real deal. “I think in his smile it’s absolutely genuine,” she says “Even though [his] mouth is closed, he’s really happy to see her. The comfort in the hug, that’s a hard thing to fake. It’s really genuine. The kiss isn’t a super sexy kiss, but it’s tension-free. He’s showing he’s not holding anything against her and he’s happy to see her.”A Changed Woman Dr. Lillian Glass, author of the book The Body Language Advantage, agrees with Patti. When she looked at the photos, her initial response was, “WOW! In the first photo he has a tight-lipped protective smile.”Dr. Glass read a bit into Kristen’s body language, seeing a changed woman. “In the second one, she is more agressive in her kiss and more responsive, as she has been so aloof in the past…in the third one, she is agressive as she clings to him and warpas her arms around him.”Do you think Rob and Kristen’s love is real, HollywoodLifers? PopSugarPatti Woods Website

MTV Interview Threatened Robert Pattinson’s Masculinity — Expert Fri, November 2, 2012 10:16pm EST by Sandra Clark 28 Comments View Gallery→16 Photos Behind the smile and laughter, poor Rob was struggling with some confidence issues during his joint interview with Kristen on MTV, a top body language expert reveals to Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart put on some brave faces during their first interview together on MTV. But was REALLY going on inside Rob’s head? According to one expert, Rob’s body language during his Nov. 1 interview showed us his more insecure, vulnerable side. Body language expert Patti Wood, who recently released the book SNAP- Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma tells exclusively, “At the beginning of the interview Robert Pattinson touched the zipper of his pants in a cover cue showing he felt that his masculinity was threatened by the prospect of this interview, and perhaps sitting by Kristen Stewart on national TV.” “Robert then hunched his shoulder over, hunkered his head down like a turtle and brought his legs together–a gesture cluster that showed he was a bit cold during this outside interview, and clearly would have preferred to hide out rather than be interviewed,” explained Patti. Do you think Rob looked uncomfortable during the interview? What do YOU think, HollywoodLifers?–Reporting by Sandra Clark

4 Subtle Signs Your Boss Hates You

by Ashley Insalaco August 26, 2012, 03:00 pm EST

Think your boss hates you? Here’s just one reason you need to know: Being paranoid at work causes your coworkers to dislike you, according to a study in the Organizational Behavior and Human Decision Processes.

Researchers found that people who think their coworkers or bosses dislike them seek out information through spying or eavesdropping. This annoys their colleagues, causing your paranoid self to be rejected. (Layoff-proof your job—and even get a raise!—with these 30 Ways to Save More and Earn More.)

How do you know if you’re doing a good job without having an awkward talk with the head honcho? Here are a few ways to know the big cheese thinks you’re a block of lindberger.

1) He doesn’t move his coffee cup when you sit down
If your boss respects you, he won’t want anything between you when sitting across the table. He will unconsciously move his cell phone, coffee cup, or pen to the side so there is no blockade. “If something else is more important than you, or if they don’t want to engage with you, they’ll put up a barrier,” says Patti Wood, MA, Body Language Expert and author of Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma.

2) He stands facing you
When a male boss likes you, he will stand at your side to talk with you. Standing side-to-side rather than face-to-face means he trusts you. “That’s where guys feel the most comfortable, the safest, disclosed the most,” says Wood.

3) She aims her body away from you
Next time you step in your boss’s office, pay attention to how she moves. A person’s body windows are their toes, knees, pelvis, stomach, heart, throat, mouth, eyes, and palms of hands, says Wood. If she trusts you, she’ll be more likely to aim her body at you, keep her hands on the desk, and let her mouth slightly open.


4) He only emails you
If your boss emails, calls, texts, and stops by your cube, that’s a good sign. An employer who likes you is more likely to communicate through all media platforms. Unlike the guy that he just wants emails from, he’s interested in what you have to say.

Is She Faking It?

by Ashley Insalaco August 23, 2012, 04:50 pm EST

He's a real king of comedy.

You tell a joke. She laughs. That means you’re funny, right? Not so fast: Social norms pressure people to laugh at jokes that aren’t exactly comedy-club-worthy, which results in overconfidence in your humor, according to a study presented at the American Psychological Association’s convention.

In the study, researchers had one person tell jokes while the other listened. When the two people were asked about the experience, the jokester thought he was hilarious. Meanwhile, the guy who listened thought the cracks fell flat—but laughed anyway. Researchers say people want to be polite, which leads to a lot of guys who think they’re funnier than they are.

So how can you be sure that your jokes actually deserve the laughs they’re getting? Decode your crowd’s facial expressions with the help of Patti Wood, M.A., body language expert and author of the book Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma. (And for more ways to sniff out people’s body language, read Marc Salem’s Mind Games blog.)

The Smile
After you crack a joke, look at her cheeks. If you’ve really made her smile, her cheeks will be higher with wrinkles around her eyes and forehead. Her eyes also become smaller—more almond shaped—with a real smile, says Wood.

Is she faking it? No wrinkles around the eyes or forehead equals no dice, Wood says. Also, study her lips—they’ll be tight and more pressed together if she’s not into it. The fake grin might also last longer, as if it’s painted on.


The Laugh
With an authentic laugh, her head will go up so her chin is pointed at someone. Listen, too: A real laugh will fill her chest with air, creating a fuller sound.

Is she faking it? Detecting the phony laugh is two-fold. She’ll either freeze in place or move her body forward and down, says Wood. She’s also not really taking in any air, but rather compressing her body and moving it lower to the ground, like she’s ducking from something. (Probably those rotten tomatoes being hurled your way.)

Want a fool-proof way to crack her up for real? Emulate Jon Stewart. According to a 2011 survey from eHarmony, women are most attracted to men who use dry, saracastic humor. But save the morbid stuff: In the same survey, ladies were also least into guys with a dark sense of humor.

Interview Body Language Mistakes That Can Cost You The Job


You’ve sent in your perfectly manicured résumé and flawless cover letter. You’ve researched the company and gave brilliant responses to tough interview questions. You’re probably a strong candidate—but forget to smile, slouch in your chair or fail to make eye contact during the interview, and you could be out of the running.

A candidate can give out thousands of non-verbal cues within the first minute of meeting a hiring manager, and those messages make more of an impact than the words that you use during the interview,” says Patti Wood, a body language expert and author of Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma (to be released October, 2012). “Our body language says a lot about who we are and our emotional state, and poor body language often sends a message that we are stressed or fearful.”

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Wood says don’t wait until you’re in the hot seat to start focusing on your body language. Be aware of your posture, your facial expressions and your gestures from the moment you arrive.

Author and career expert Dan Burns agrees. “I try to stress to people that the first impression you make happens before you even sit down to interview,” he says. “The hiring manager will look at your face, your hair, what you’re wearing and the image you are projecting, all before you have had a chance to formally meet.”

Once the interviewer greets you, make eye contact and offer a palm-to-palm handshake that is not too strong and not too weak. Keep an appropriate distance as he or she greets you. Relax your body and smile. “Don’t freeze,” Wood says. “Candidates often stiffen up when they are walking in to an interview.”

Once you’re in the hot seat, find an appropriate place to set down your belongings. Don’t put your briefcase or purse on your lap or on the table. Sit up straight, avoid touching your face and hair, and don’t cross your arms or hide your hands. “Don’t be afraid to gesture,” Wood says. Gesturing shows that you’re enthusiastic and expressive. It can also help access more information in your brain and create vocal variation, she adds.

Power and confidence are typically conveyed through body language, and so are your stress level and how open and honest you are. “An employer will get a sense of who you are and how you will perform under pressure by assessing your body language before, during and after the interview,” Wood says.

“Interview body language mistakes may tell the hiring manager that you’re flippant, scared or passive,” she adds. “If you’re under-qualified or you say the wrong thing, the interviewer can forgive that, but if your body language says you’re a person who doesn’t work well in stressful situations or that you’re not confident, that’s something they know they can’t change.”

So how do you avoid making body language mistakes? With practice and preparation.

“Practice entering and leaving a room, think about where you will put your briefcase during the interview, and plan how you will say hello and goodbye to the interviewer,” Wood says.

Preparation for the interview often builds confidence, Burns says. When you’re confident, you tend to have fewer body language issues.

The hiring manager looks for ways to set a candidate apart from others, Burns says. “The negative differentiators, like poor and ineffective body language, help make the decision easy for the hiring manager.”

Here are some interview body language mistakes that could cost you a job offer.

Weak Handshake
Before you shake hands, rise, walk up to the hiring manager with confidence, make eye contact and smile.
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“Make sure your handshake is firm, but don’t crush the hiring manager’s hand,” says body language expert and author Patti Wood. “The secret to a great handshake is palm-to-palm contact. Slide your hand down into the web of theirs and make palm-to-palm contact. Lock thumbs with the hiring manager, and apply as much pressure as he or she does.” But remember that the appropriate pressure varies from culture to culture.

Invading Personal Space
Be respectful of the hiring manager’s personal space. Don’t stand too close and certainly don’t hug them.

Crossing Your Arms
That can make you look defensive or uncomfortable. Instead, gesture with your hands. That way you’ll appear more enthusiastic and engaging.

Playing With Your Hair
It’s a stress comfort cue that can make you look childish,” Wood says. You don’t want to distract the hiring manager with this body language gaffe.

Bad Posture
Sit up straight. “Asymmetrical body language can make you look confused or dishonest,” Wood says.

Lack Of Eye Contact
“It’s okay for the candidate to look away when he or she is talking,” Wood says. “It’s normal to look around when you’re speaking because you’re accessing different parts of the brain by moving your eyes. But be attentive and make eye contact when the interviewer is speaking.” Think of eye contact as a connection tool.

Looking Like You’re Not Interested
“It’s fine if you have an expressive face,” Wood says. “It makes you more likeable.” But be aware of your facial expressions, and don’t check your watch or your cell phone during the interview.

Not smiling
You can all too easily appear nervous or unfriendly. Smile, but keep it subtle.

Don’t touch your face, play with change in your pocket or bite your nails. Fidgeting is a distraction and a sign of anxiety.

Hiding Your Hands
“Don’t sit on your hands or hide them in your lap,” Wood says. “Place them on the arms of your chair or the desk or use them to gesture. Gesturing makes you look more expressive, and the interviewer can read how open and honest you are by looking at your hands.”

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by Reality Tea on January 14th, 2012 491 Comments

They have been dubbed the ‘Fakest Family In America and now we have proof that not only are the Kardashians fake but their reality shows are also phony and staged!

While a new episode of Kourtney and Kim Take New York aired last Sunday, Kim Kardashian’s husband of 72 days, Kris Humphries, made the following cryptic tweet — “I can’t wait for the truth to come out! People will be surprised or maybe they won’t. #FCC.” This had many wondering what Kris could have been referring to and folks, I believe we have cracked the code.

The photos you’re seeing above of Kim and pimpmomager Kris Jenner were taken on December 6, 2011. The photo agency which snapped the pics stated Kim and Kris were leaving a studio in Los Angeles.

Does Kim outfit look familiar? It should because Kim is sporting the same exact outfit, same hairstyle and same makeup as she did in a scene that aired on KKTNY last Sunday which according to E! was filmed in Dubai… in October… weeks before Kim pulled the plug on her marriage.

In the scene, Kim tries to garner sympathy appear remorseful as she tells her mom she is having marital issues with hubby Kris. There’s only one problem folks: Kim filed for divorce on October 31 and it appears that “Dubai” scene was actually taped in Los Angeles on Dec. 6. Still having doubts? Well, feel free to check out the outfit Kris’ assistant is carrying behind her. Ding ding ding! It’s the SAME “Dubai” outfit plus Kris is still wearing the same earrings.

Wowzers. So this proves the Kardashians’ shows are as phony as the Kardashians. Furthermore, Kim and Kris actually filmed this scene last month to not only try to fool their audience, but to also try to make Kim a victim. Unfortunately for Kris Humphries, he didn’t get a chance to go back and film phony scenes to help his image.

Even before we were able to put two and two together with these images many were already doubting the authenticity of this “heart to heart” scene between Kim and mom Kris.

For starters, TheImproper blog via Perez Hilton points out that in the scene:

- Windows are totally blacked out

- No visible lights and the scene has low lighting

- Scene seems contrived, and could have been staged to gain sympathy for Kim

It gets even better as two body language experts for the HollywoodLife blog stated the scene was fake based on the body language and the reaction of Kris to Kim’s bombshell about her marital issues.

“[This seems] completely phony, staged and emotionless for someone who is not happy about a marriage,” Dr. Lillian Glass told the HollywoodLife. “Plus, Kris’ dialogue is just that like of a bad actress giving bad dialogue. There is too much pause time between the answers and her reaction shows no surprise and a matter of factness monotone — much like Kim’s indicative non-genuineness.”

Also, raising a red flag was Kris’ reaction to her daughter’s bad news. “She is smiling while her daughter is sharing this terrible news,” says body language expert Patti Wood. “This is not normal. She isn’t leaning toward Kim to show her support or trying to comfort her in any way.”

Still need more proof that the above photo of Kim was taken in December? UsWeekly did a story about Kim and that photo of her on December 7. The story also states Kim was snapped leaving a studio in LA on Dec. 6.

The actual clip of Kim and Kris’ phony heart to heart is below.

As for Kris Humphries, his family and friends have always insisted the show was fake and scripted including scenes which demonstrate Kris being a jerk or villain. “Little did Kris know that he was being set up,” his father, William Humphries, told Life & Style in November. “Kris got used — 100 percent used.”

To close out this story, SHAME on the Kardashians and SHAME on E!. It’s one thing to make a reality show and kind of create scenarios to make it more interesting, but to actually go back and act out FAKE scenes months after the fact is a new low. No word yet on how the Kardashians and E! will try to defend this.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at