Patti on HLN Monday, Oct.1st - Weighing in on Arnold Schwarzenegger's Body Language


 Patti analyzes the body language of Arnold Schwarzenegger as he is being interviewed on 60 Minutes.  Patti shares her insights with Kyra Phillips on HLN - Evening Express. 
 


1: SOT IN SETUP TO BRING YOU IN

Stalh: I've spent time with you, and you are so much fun and you have enormous charm. And I have to keep reminding myself about this chapter of your life. I do, I have to keep saying, "Wow, he did something that speaks to character." (Arnold just stares at her and doesn’t answer the question.)

He is very conflicted. He actually has his eyes tight and focused in an attack glare and has his mouth in what he thinks is a neutral smile, but is actually an asymmetrical sneer. This means he would like to attack her for saying he has done something that mars his character, “I am mad but I am trying to keep that in and smile.”  But after the long frozen expression and silence he finally nods his head yes and agrees with the statement.

She follows by asking, “Do you have to remind yourself or is it always there.”

We see his most difficult coming to grips with the question. He does a tongue flick, his mouth is dry with stress and he has to moisten it. His head comes back slightly. His eyes don’t just shutter close with the bad feelings he pulls his eyes shut so there are visible wrinkles at the corners and his mouth tightens back and you can see on freeze frame his suppressed cry of anguish. As he comes out of it he tries to pull himself together and he says, ““It’s always there.”

Only affair 11:14 or so
 
2: SOT ABOUT MARIA AND THE AFFAIRS

You write that Maria did ask you before the confrontation with the marriage counselor “Is that your child?" He is nodding his head yes.  So you lied to her. >>Schwarzenegger: “you can say that.” He has the composed smile that he holds as if for a photograph. Then he uses a tongue eraser to erase what he just said, He feels he shouldn’t have made that admission.

 Stahl: was that the only affair? >> Schwarzenegger: “no, I had others. But, I mean... But, you know, it's something that's obviously between Maria and me.” >> Stahl: she knew? >> Schwarzenegger: “yea.” >> Stahl: so it's a recurring issue with you. >> Schwarzenegger:”I’m not perfect.”

To the questions, “So, It is a recurring issue with you?”  His eyes narrow down into attack focus and he gives that tight lipped smirk his mouth pulling up on his left and he says, “I am not perfect. “ In a very soft voice as his chin comes down.  I have analyzed his body language for many years. His chin usually comes up defiantly in his answers to the media so here we see his version of an admission that he was bad.

3: SOT ABOUT MISTRESS

8:32 How does money start showing up? >> Schwarzenegger: “I gave it to her and she knew what it was about.” >> Stahl: did you think that, if you gave her money, that she wouldn't talk, like hush money? >> Schwarzenegger: “I don't think that Mildred was at all into talking. He is honest here. He didn’t think Mildred would talk.

19:52:54 you write... Is my child 19:53:17

You write, "I wanted Mildred to continue working in our home because I thought I could control the situation better that way." and I read that to mean that, if she was in the house, you could make sure she wouldn't tell anybody. >> Schwarzenegger: “no” He does an eye shutter here. . It was more that it would be the wrong thing to do to let them go and not make her feel like she's being punished when I find out that this is my child.

What is very interesting is his response to her asking him she remained the house keeper was that strange.  He does a lip suppression cue again focusing to control himself here.  Interesting that then he changes using a light almost playful voice and partial smile as he talks about the bizarreness of the situation. It reads to me as if he enjoyed the bizarreness of the situation.  He at some level is enjoying being “cornered by her in the interview into revealing the bizarreness of it.

4: SOT ABOUT TELLING MARIA HE WAS RUNNING FOR GOVERNOR THE DAY BEFORE ANNOUNCING IT PUBLICLY

You had no idea that this was something she would not want to get back into? >> Schwarzenegger: “no”. As a matter of fact, I was thinking that she would say, "Wow that is amazing. Welcome to the club. We finally convinced you to be a public servant, just like my entire family." none of that. He seems inauthentic. His answer seems pat.  He does something I call edit emotional event.  This is something self-focused people do when their behavior is not met with the reaction they want.  Here I would expect him to describe her emotion. Instead he pauses to edit out her reaction and instead says, none of that.  So, all of a sudden, it came to a grinding halt and I had to now deal with the drama.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Arnold Schwarzenegger Body Language Read During His Interview On 60 Minutes


Arnold Schwarzenegger Body Language Read during his Interview on 60 minutes last night talking about his affairs and his relationship with Maria.

Notes below from watching video

Current Relationship


This was from tape shown this morning on CBS news rather than last night’s interview

He barrels through her question to whether or not by saying I did says, “…I apologized many times (This behavior shows his aggressiveness not what we would expect a feeling of contrition and humility) He then says, “I hope (with an asymmetrical face, eye brow far up and sharp) “… that down the line she will be able to forgive me for that.”

He says, “She has been an extraordinary women (though shaking his head no) wife (again as he shakes his head no) and mother. (Here he does not shake his head no)

“I felt terrible about the whole thing.” The emphasis is on how HE feels not the pain he causes.

He is asked the question “was the marriage over anyway?’  Then there is a long pause before he says, “It was really a lot of strain on the marriage, (then he swallows) relationships (as he gives a downward sour smile.)

I would interpret this response as the relationship had already gone sour, and Maria was strained.

Only affair-  He turns his head to the right  in attack block blinks his eyes tightly shut also in an attack block and dips his head as if he has been jabbed but most interesting is that his voice his paralanguage is the starting tight voiced no that goes up high then playful voice as he smiles and adds I doubt it that shows he is  actually bragging that he had the affair with Bridget and would never say that it is his only affair,  the smile stays on his face but turns into a conflicted smirk as he says sotto voice, but that is between Maria and me. Can I just say the smile lasts so long that it shows his enjoyment of sharing that affair?  This is a bit odd as he wrote about the Bridgett affair in the book that he is now doing a National TV interview and talking about the details of the affair are now not just between him and Maria.

Notes to go with this video Schwarzenegger: 'I'm not perfect'

CNN|Added on October 1, 2012Arnold Schwarzenegger opens up with "60 Minutes" ahead of the release of his memoirs.

http://www.cnn.com/video/?/video/showbiz/2012/10/01/schwarzenegger-interview.cnn#/video/showbiz/2012/10/01/schwarzenegger-interview.cnn

To the questions, “So, It is a recurring issue with you?”  His eyes narrow down into attack focus and he gives that tight lipped smirk his mouth pulling up on his left and he says, “I am not perfect. “ In a very soft voice as his chin comes down.  His chin usually comes up defiantly in his answers so here we see his version of an admission that he was bad.

His son by housekeeper - It was never discussed but I put the things together here. He is smiling.

When wife asks him, He says, “You’re absolutely correct and does a tongue thrust.  That tongue thrust is a symbolic strike out attacking Maria for outing him.

Asked, “Do you have to remind yourself or is it always there.”

We see his most difficult coming to grips with the question. He does a tongue flick, his mouth is dry with stress and he has to moisten it. His head comes back slightly. His eyes don’t just shutter close with the bad feelings he pulls his eyes shut so there are visible wrinkles at the corners and his mouth tightens back and you can see on freeze frame his suppressed cry of anguish. As he comes out of it tries to pull himself together and he says, “It’s always there.”

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.