WHAT DO HIS KISSES MEAN? EACH GUY HAS HIS OWN KISSING STYLE… BUT WHAT EXACTLY DO HIS KISSES MEAN, ANYWAY?

Patti will be on the Steve Harvey TV Show during the week of Valentine's Day discussing Kissing.
Below is just a taste of what she will be sharing with Steve and his audience.  Watch the blog for the date the show will air and tune in!

The lips (and tongue) are the most densely concentrated with nerve endings of any part of the human body, yes any part. The skin on the lips has very few layers so that the blood vessels show through and give them their red color.  The juncture where the lips meet the surrounding skin of the mouth area is the Vermillion border and typically reddish area within the borders is called the vermillion zone and the vermilion border the v at the upper lip is known as the cupids bow.  
 A bad first kiss can kill a would-be romance faster than you can re-apply your lipstick. In a S.U.N.Y. Albany survey, more than half 59 percent of men and 66 percent of women reported ending a relationship because the first kiss was off.


Different Types of Kisses to Try

Cheek Kiss
 A peck on the cheek for a first date. Is also a friendly way of greeting someone.  A woman can signal she wants a cheek kiss by leaning in. To kiss your date or partner on the cheek put your hands on the man’s arms lightly and offer your cheek. For the man reach out and rest your hands lightly on the shoulders and gently move in to kiss the cheek.

Forehead or Top of the Head Kiss- If it is the only kind of kiss you get it signal I am your big brother or big sister kiss. Or if you have kissed before it signals I feel protectiveness and nurturing as well as lust for you.

Earlobe Kiss
This kiss is more sensuous. The earlobes are a sensitive area and kissing or nibbling or sucking on them can be very arousing.


French Kiss
This is the most popular and widely known kiss. It involves closeness along with a hint of sexual excitement. It is a beautiful experience. But it is definitely not a first or second date kind of a kiss. You have to start with a normal lip to lip kiss and then slowly bring your tongue into play. Let your tongues brush against each other but don't go too deep.
Don't rush take it slow. Recognize body cues that show your kissing partner wants to kiss or is closed to the kiss open vs. closed windows, blocking gestures, retreat.

Butterfly Kiss
This is a simple and sweet type of kiss that signals a sweet and tender trusting relationship. Because it would indicate that your partner loves only you.  To perform the butterfly kiss, bring your face very close to your partner's face so that your eyelashes are touching. Now flutter your eyelashes like the fluttering of a butterfly's wings.

Single-Lip Kiss
This is again a very sensual kind of a kiss. To do it just take your partners lip and suck it with two of your lips. Do it very gently as doing it hard will make their lip go numb and it might even be painful. It is a nice change from the usual types of kisses.

Eskimo Kiss

In the Eskimo kiss you have to get your face close to your partner's and rub your nose against theirs. Do it gently to enjoy it. Based on Greeting followed by the Eskimos.

Angel Kiss
In this kiss you lightly touch your partner's eyes with your lips. It is a very caring and loving gesture. This is a very sweet gentle type of kiss. Men just to let you know a woman feels especially cherished when you gently and loving give an angel kiss.

Arabian Nights Kiss -  

Seal me with kisses or open kisses that go all over the body all over kisses.
The name of this kiss says it all. There were 101 stories in the Arabian nights.  Kiss from the top of the head to the waist and or from the toes to the thigh.  You can start this kiss from the top of the head or forehead and slowly move down on the face and further kissing gently everywhere.


Surprise Kiss
Kiss your partner when they don’t expect it for example: in the middle of cooking dinner together, across the dinner table, just after you have gotten in the car, or just after you brush your teeth.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

How to get the songs stuck in your head from playing over and over


Ever since I played the music video “Starship” that promoted the movie Pitch Perfect.  I have been singing the song.  And yes, I know singing about Starships and saying that they “are meant to fly…” as you walk through airports and hotel lobbies may make people think I have been recently abducted by aliens.  Recently I read new research saying we can get songs out of our heads.   After I get that song out I may have to work on reducing the number of times I sing the Bruno Mars lyric, “You make me feel like I have been locked out of Heaven for too long.” Here is the research. What songs are playing in your head recently?
http://psychcentral.com/news/2013/01/16/intense-emotions-best-communicated-via-body-language/50423.html


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

The Top Body Language Experts


Patti Wood Ma, CSP
Dr. Lillian Glass
Janine Driver 
Susan Constantine
Kevin Hogan
Jan Hargrave
Traci Brown
Vincent Harris
Eliot Hoppe
Blanca Cobb
Linda Talley
Nicolas Fradet
Tonya Reiman
Judi James
Carolyn Finch
Allan Pease
David Alssema
Robert Phipps

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Psychologists Uncover Hidden Signals of Trust


    Psychologists Uncover Hidden Signals of Trust—Using a Robot What body language indicates “trustworthy I am a science fiction fan all Ray Bradbury and Authur C Clark so I found this new research interesting. http://digitallearningandteaching.wordpress.com/2013/01/15/mind-brain-mind-matters-january-8-2013-3-comments-email-print-psychologists-uncover-hidden-signals-of-trust-using-a-robot/



Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Latest research says that we send more intense emotions via the face rather than body language




Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Here is new research that tells you more about this key aspect of ISOPRAXism




Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Georgia Mining Handout


Georgia Mining – January 24, 2013

By Patti Wood MA, CSP Body Language Expert


Patti is called “The gold standard of body language experts” by the Washington Post and credited in the New York Times with bringing the topic into the national consciousness. Patti has degrees with a specialization in nonverbal communication and was a university instructor in body language and other communication topics. She is the author of eight books including the new SNAP – Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma”, “The Conflict Cure” and “Easy Speaking-Dynamic Delivery.”  Patti is a professional speaker and consultant for fortune 100 companies. Her clients include; AT&T, Hewlett Packard, Proctor and Gamble, Kroger, UPS, Porsche, Coca-Cola and Cisco Systems as well as hundreds of National Associations. She speaks on PBS, the BBC, CNN, FOX News, FBN, HLN, Nancy Grace, Dr. Drew, MSMBC, In Session, The History Channel, Inside Edition, The Soup, The Discovery Channel, and more. She appears regularly in hundreds of newspapers and magazines around the world including; Esquire, Us Weekly, Psychology Today, USA Today, People, AOL.com, Women’s Health, In Touch, OK!, Reuters, ESPN, Men’s Health, Details, Oprah Magazine, Entertainment Weekly, Family Circle,  Parents Magazine,  The Wall Street Journal, and hundreds more.


1.    Start with Something Powerful

2.    Watch Your Stance and Posture

3.    Face Towards the Audience

4.    Movement—Room—Space

5.    Facial Expressions and Body Movement

6.    Hands-Gestures

7.    Eye Contact 

For “ How to Make a Positive First Impression”  article go to www.PattiWood.net   to Articles on the menu click then scroll down  to Featured Articles to “How to Make a Positive First Impression” (http://www.pattiwood.net/article.asp?PageID=11491)
For the handout on  Powerful Presentation Body Language  Go to www.PattiWood.net  On the Menu on the left side of the screen scroll down to Articles and click then go Articles with Tips then scroll down “Powerful Presentation Body Language”   (http://www.pattiwood.net/article.asp?PageID=2331)

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

When should you Match and Mirror body language?


Yesterday I was on HLN news talking about the effects of the Texas campus shooting. When there is a dangerous situation and people are afraid the group will tend to match and mirror that fear. This basic survival instinct allowed danger to be committed to the tribe.  So I always teach that you must mirror with integrity for your sake and for the sake of the person you are empathizing with.  You may have crossed your legs to match your best friend’s seating position or leaned in close as your sweetie and noticed that they did the same, using matching and mirroring to get close. . Whether you realize you’re doing it or not, subtly mimicking people in social settings helps you form bonds and establish connections. Mirroring—copying a person’s looks, gestures and general body language is especially effective on job interviews and dates or when we're in other SNAP first impressions (http://www.snapfirstimpressions.com) settings when you are trying to establish a rapport and develop trust.
While this unconscious activity has its benefits—imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, after all—new research reveals that unchecked mirroring can backfire.

 
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Sacramento Book Review of SNAP Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma

http://citybookreview.com/2013/01/snap-making-the-most-of-first-impressions-body-language-and-charisma/

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

KHSU Radio Interview of Patti on SNAP Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma

Below is a wonderful note from the host of the radio interview that I did for KHSU.  Click the link given in the note to hear the entire interview. 


Just wanted to let you know how much I enjoyed interviewing Patti. The original air date of January 14, 2013 was postponed due to a preemptive programming decision at KHSU.  Therefore the interview will be airing tomorrow, January 21, 2013 at 1:30 p.m. PST.  The interview can be streamed live at www.khsu.org.  It will also be available in the KHSU archives for the two weeks following the air date.  To listen to the archived program go to www.khsu.org, click on web audio, then audio archives.  Scroll down the page to Through the Eyes of Women and choose the Windows Media Player version or an mp3 version. 

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Defined By Your Desk

Click the link below to read how you can be defined by your desk according to Patti in a recent article for the Toronto Sun.

http://career.jobboom.com/workplace/challenges/2005/03/16/3277969-torsun.html

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Get Powerful!

The first speaker walked confidently onto the stage, his shoulders back, his chest held high, and stood with his feet apart and began gesturing broadly. The second speaker shuffled hesitantly onto the stage and stood with his shoulders slumped, his head bowed his feet together and his hands twined together held below his belt. What do you think of each speaker and what do you think each was feeling?
Powerful body language is telling. In a study of 132 business school graduates that took place over eight years and included extensive interviews, researchers looked at women who showed powerful body language and discovered that women who can turn their body language on and off according to their circumstances (called self- monitoring) get more promotions than men or other women. We know that body language can make people think and feel differently about you, but in her popular TEDTalk Amy Cuddy enthusiastically shares her research results that show that holding a powerful or powerless body language posture for two minutes can change your hormones (raising or lowering testosterone and cortisol), and thus how you feel. The Huffington Post asked me to comment on this TedTalk and let me say for the record, Hallelujah! Some great new research to support what I feel is one of the most remarkable and beneficial aspects of body language awareness. I say in my book, Snap Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma, that however you hold yourself, however you move through space, and however you gesture, your body sends messages back to your brain to make you feel that way. So, if you are standing with your shoulders drooping and head bowed, the little pharmacy in your brain creates and sends chemicals into your bloodstream in less than a fortieth of a second to make you feel less powerful. The great news is, if you know what creates powerful body language messages, and integrate that with an awareness of your own body language, you can feel as powerful as you wish to be in a fraction of a second. What can you do to make yourself feel authentically powerful immediately? The four foundation principles of power are confidence, space, openness, and relaxation. So to feel more powerful:
1. Take up space with your body. Notice how far apart your feet are normally and if you don't feel powerful, Stand or with your feet as little as one inch further apart to feel lion like stability and presence. If you are seated you can put your feet further apart or out and use those arm rest. Spread out.
2. Hold and or gesture your hands above your waist, or to feel victorious and euphoric hold them very high up at or above your head. What I call Up posture makes you feel up and confident. So hold your head and body up. We spend far to much time looking down at our smart phones train yourself to look up.
3. Keep what I call your body windows open. Focus on the windows at your feet your pelvis your heart your neck and the palms of your hands. Stand or sit with your limbs unfolded and don't close and block your windows with your stuff, such as your coffee cup or purse smart phone or by touching you face, your neck shirt collar in power reducing self- comfort moves.
4. Relax your body. Tension makes us get small relaxing and breathing make you look and feel powerful.
You have the power change the way you feel in any situation. So put your hands in the air and get powerful.
Ideas are not set in stone. When exposed to thoughtful people, they morph and adapt into their most potent form. TEDWeekends will highlight some of today's most intriguing ideas and allow them to develop in real time through your voice! Tweet #TEDWeekends to share your perspective or email tedweekends@huffingtonpost.com to learn about future weekend's ideas to contribute as a writer.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/patti-wood/positive-body-language_b_2459454.html

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Lance Armstrong's Body Language ..... Very Unsettling!

Check the link below to hear my insights on the body language of Lance Armstrong during the AP Newswire interview that I did this morning from my home.

http://news.yahoo.com/video/gma-lance-armstrong-winfrey-interview-080000618.html;_ylt=AnjQhwQ.YeB_Q8LhvHkQMp2r9LQF;_ylu=X3oDMTM0N2tuajZkBG1pdANWaWRlbyBQbGF5IFBhZ2UgUGxheWxpc3QgQmFyBHBrZwNkNzdjMDkzNy0zOTg4LTM3NGYtODBhMS02ZTdmMGUyN2JmZjIEcG9zAzEEc2VjA01lZGlhUGxheWxpc3RCYXI-;_ylg=X3oDMTA1bmkzZDc4BHRlc3QD;_ylv=3?pb_list=26b8970e-9767-4d75-b991-7552a5360c45

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Lance Armstrong’s body language during Oprah interview. Was Lance Armstrong Lying?

Below are my rough notes from the Lance Armstrong interview with Oprah.

Posture Tell
We expected and hoped that Lance Armstrong would be humble and contrite in his Oprah interview. We didn’t see his head down in shame shoulders down as he was asked about his bad behavior. Instead he starts the interview siting up and very comfortable and large taking up space in a stereotypical powerful American male leg cross. It is a blocking cross that protects him but signals his superiority.  This is telling and shows how he feels about Oprah Winfrey. The feet are the most honest portion of the body. Lance’s left leg is pointed away from Oprah Winfrey. Lance’s right leg crosses over his left protecting his pelvis and the bottom of Lance’s right foot is towards Oprah symbolically stepping and stomping on her.

Castle Hand Position
He is also in a double protective sitting position. His legs are crossed and his hands folded and resting on his lap with the fingers interlaced in what I call the castle wall. This hand position gives you something to do with your hands and protects you from frontal attack and is normal for anyone stressed or fearful but he does it in combination with a dominant leg cross of superiority showing he wants to “win “the interview.  He will protect himself and end on top.  He is saying with his body “I want to be in charge and I need to protect myself from this attack. “

As Oprah begins talking about how Lance agreed to this no holds bar interview… “Lance wipes his nose symbolically saying, “This doesn't smell good to me.

Lip Behavior
As she lays out the no holds bar open field interview parameters rules Lance Armstrong's mouth tightens and he brings his lips together. Lance also gives a pursed lip sour taste expression. This will be one of over 30 times he gives the lip suppression cue in the interview that indicate he is keeping in the truth and in this first instance also indicating that he is not looking forward to this interview.

This first set of lip suppression cues are not surprising considering the circumstances that led up to the interview and the stress of any Oprah interview, but it is interesting for Lance to do. He has successfully lied to interviewers and the press for many years. He rarely showed that cue before.  He has been able to present himself so well to the media for so many years.   

Eye Behavior and Suppressed Anger
He does show his acting skills in many of his responses. He is able to look Oprah directly in the eye with no eye movement cues as he responds throughout the interview. He is a confident deceiver. For example, he looks at Oprah directly as she asks him the first question.  He is still sitting in the cross leg castle wall protected and guarded position but he is looking at her with his head but the rest of his body is positioned so he is facing away from her.  He does a micro facial cue as he begins to answer the first question. There is a micro facial cue that is a fraction of the second of a true feeling expressed before the neocortex can control the limbic brain response to the situation of anger. This is going to be a very interesting interview.

Voice cues and Micro-facial cues
Lance says he looked up the definition of cheat instead of answering Oprah’s question, “Didn’t you know how big this (the story the deceit the betrayal) was.  He gets more upset with her. His voice gets louder he says, “You asked me the question and I said I didn't know.” and his head strikes out at her and he grimaces. He feels cornered. You also hear him stutter out his answer and his voice becomes strident. In addition you see a micro facial cue of rage come across his face just for an instant and he bares his teeth at Oprah.

Interesting when asked about his bad behavior he says, “I will spend the rest of my life …” then doesn’t finish the sentence.   This is Lance backing off his responsibility. He hesitates again and begins again, “I will spend the rest of my life trying to apologize to people.” First he does not say he will apologize he says he will try. Then he de-emphasizes others and puts the focus on his pain using the word I and my life.”  “I will spend the rest of my life.
He is self-focused on his pain rather than other focused. Recognizing the severe pain he caused others.  He emphasizes his suffering the price he will pay.

More anger shown towards Oprah.
Lance says, “I am happier today” and she calls him on it and he gets mad at Oprah and replies noting this is not the first time she caught he says, “Once again I said I was happier today.” He was vocally emphasizing the word today saying it loudly and forceful and adding a thrust of the chin forward toward Oprah and an explosive T in today. He then finishes the sentence, “Not yesterday Today.” a reply that makes no sense except to emphasize how he is able to lie by choosing certain wording. As former president Clinton said, “I did not have sexual relations (instead of the word intercourse) “He is accusing Oprah of misinterpreting him and shows suppressed anger again when she really just caught him in a lie.

When asked by Oprah if he paid off UCI so that they would look over what he had done.
Lance’s response is fascinating (very similar to his taped interrogation years ago by the way) He sweeps his head from his left to his right. But really his head sweeps forceful totally away from Oprah to retreat from the question then he catches himself and quickly swings it back.  In what I call the Shakespearean, “Thou doth protest too much.” 

Lance then presses his lips together he is overly enthusiastic in his denial which signals to me there's something not quite right in his response. He is lying.

When he is asked about the female masseuse that testified against him, Riley, he brings his hand up to cover his mouth and says, “She is one of those people I have to apologize to she is one of these people who got run over got bullied.” His word choice bullied instead of betrayed shows us that he thinks of the behavior as a school boy playing a game in a school yard.  When Oprah calls him on that sidestep saying, “You sued her and she was telling the truth,” Lance says, “To be honest with you and then rambles on smiling and even slightly laughing as he says “…there were so many people I am sure we did. “ He says it so lightly and races through it and smirks and even says, “I don't remember the many people I don't remember. To say in effect there were so many people I “won this game” I don't remember “is so appalling.  The smirk shows there is dissonance about how he feels about the situation. But the smile and laugh show he is not conflicted about what he did that was bad but indicates that he doesn't like getting caught in betrayal of so many people.

Eye Block
As he finishes this response he does an eye block bringing the eyelids down and keeping them closed more than normal baseline, this shows he feels cornered on this particular line of questioning he does not want to talk about how he sued his friends and terribly betrayed so many people. Normal behavior perhaps, but why didn’t he show shame and guilt?

Fist raised to Oprah
When Oprah says, “you're suing people knowing they're telling the truth what is that?” he responds with a long pause his hand goes up into a fist and he places that fist over his mouth again I believe he’s suppressing his anger his desire to punch Oprah in getting into this line of questioning the anger is all the way up and is tightly held together… To the glare in his eyes the timestamp at this point is one hour into the played interview. I wish I had a freeze frame screen grab of the steel sharp glare of his eyes.

When asked by Oprah did you call Betsy telling the truth about the women in the Indiana hospital he responded with a long pause again preparing what he wants to say to this statement rather than just coming out with the truth in a quick loud smooth flow that is his baseline for honest answers. He also shakes his head no and does an eye blink block and follows that with the glare at Oprah and twisted lips. He avoids answering the question and puts his hands over his knees wrapping them around the knee interlacing the fingers together to put a wall up between him and Oprah he really doesn't want to go here even knowing he agreed to any kind of questioning.

She asked if he made peace with them and he goes “me no” shouting it out and looks at Oprah like she's crazy and snarls again as an attack his wording in his response is telling. “…because they've been hurt too badly.” Notice he abdicates responsibility. The emphasis away from himself they've been hurt too badly instead of the how can they forgive me I've hurt them so badly. Why didn’t he say “because I hurt them so badly?”

Oprah calls him on his ability to rationalize his behavior
On suing the woman on defamation of character because he didn’t say she was fat. saying “Well, I called her a liar called her a bitch but I didn't call her fat.” He smiles and actually raises his body in pride at his skill at playing the right word game. He doesn't feel like he did anything bad. Interesting we see into the way he rationalizes here and he's actually laughing he’s figured it out it was a game to me. He does not say I did harm or I betrayed.

When asked about his under the breath use of the” whore word” Lance’s voice gets rough and he used the filler word as he says “not good” and he brings his chin down as he shakes his head no.

When asked by Oprah,  "when the Department of Justice dropped the case, I have to ask, why? "did you have any influence on that? Lance says with his words no but his head shakes yes. He does not complete the sentence in his response but he does smirk. He then brings his lips together in an eerie clown like closed lipped smile.

This shows he got away with something and he is secretly happy and gleeful that he did. Again in his mind he “won.” that game.

I wish I had I a screen grab of this at 1:18 on the taped show.

Lance says he disrespected the rules then uses the word but to split the answer. Know that when anyone speaks to you and makes a statement and follows it with the word but the truth comes after the word but.  He follows it with. “but because regardless of that generation when you have what was going on at the time.” So the truth he reveals is that he feels it was that generation that was responsible. Then Lance pauses and says, “but that was my choice and touches his chest with closed fingers. That's the first time I feel like at some level Lance is realizing that it was his choice that he does take responsibility.

When asked about his friend George being interviewed.

There are an awful lot of "buts” in his response.  Lance says, “I don't fault GEORGE KAPPY but…. shows in a fact that he does feel George was responsible that he is upset with George. Always listen to what is said after the "but" because that is the truth.

 
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Body Language Reads for Daily Front Row

Patti did some body language reads for the Daily Front Row.  Click the link below to read her insights on Karl Lagerfeld and Linda Evangelista.

http://www.fashionweekdaily.com/chic-report/article/body-language-revealed-karl-lagerfeld-and-linda-evangelista


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Lance Armstrong's Body Language During His Apology Statement Interview with Oprah

Patti just did an interview with OutsideMag.com on what to look for in the body language of Lance Armstrong tonight and she will be reading the body language of Lance Armstrong during his interview tonight with Oprah.  Check back tomorrow to get all Patti's insights!  Also, click the link below to read Patti's interview with Outsidemag.com!

http://www.outsideonline.com/outdoor-adventure/biking/road-biking/Countdown-to-the-Lance-Armstrong-Oprah-Confession-Updates-Analysis.html?page=all

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Five Ways to Create a Great First Impression

Check the link below to find out Five Ways to Create a Great First Impression.
http://www.pattiwood.net/article.asp?PageID=11491

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

What Your Bag Holding Style Says About You

Patti was asked to weigh in on different handbag hold styles by Refinery29. 
Which one are you and what does it say about you?
Click the link below to find out Patti's insights!

The Arm-Crook Hook
Held with a bent arm
Favorites of Paparazzi-chased celebs, this limp-handed style just screams power.  "you're wearing the bag as if it's a badge of honor or an award.  You feel as if you've got a sense of superiority."

The Briefcase

Held by the top handle
There's a certain type of woman who chooses to forgo the shoulder strap for the top handle.  "She's in business mode.  She's going fast and her bag has a lot of weight - she cares less about her appearance and more about where she's off to"

The Thumb-To-'Pit
Hooking your thumb onto the handle strap
There's a reason this move is associated with Carrie from Sex and the City.  "I see women in cosmopolitan cities doing this.  They remember their Mamas telling them to protect their bags...they don't want to get them pulled off while they're walking! They're street-smart."

The Hands-Free
Wearing a bag that crosses over your body
"The girl who wears a hands-free bag willingly covers up her silhouette and outfit.  It's useful, but it also shows you're slightly dorky.  I see this a lot with young women."

The Armpit Vice

Clutching a bag to your body without a strap
Clutches are hard to hold, we know, but this move keeps your bag in place while leaving your hands free.  "There's an awkwardness about it, and I see it happen a lot with women who are carrying a purse that doesn't fit her body."

The Third Arm Drape

Wearing a bag with a long strap over one shoulder and letting a swing
This move usually involves a bag with a long strap...but instead of crossing it over, you choose to wear it over your shoulder.  And since that baby is prone to slipping around, it shows a lack of awareness.  "It says, I don't have power over my world."


The "I've Got A Bag Bitch"

Not holding the bag yourself--because you've got someone else to do it for you!
You've got better things to do than to hold a bag, for some, that's what assistants and boyfriends are for.  "When people feel the need to look fabulous all the time, they can't be encumbered with anything."


The Twofer

Holding a bag in front of your body with two hands
Usually done with a coy smile and a leg cross, the two-handed twofer clutch denotes a shy, defensive person.  "This creates a fig leaf position as if you were protecting your goods.  If you find yourself doing this on a date, it's because you feel weird about where it's going."


The Shlepper
Holding 2, 3, 4, 5 bags at once
You've got two, three, four...five bags to worry about, so you've got a "whatever fits" strategy going on.  "You're fatigued, exhausted, and in a rush - the bags suggest you're a little spaced-out and have a hard time being present."

The Baguette
Holding by cupping it

A recent favorite of street style stars, the Baguette style, is a scoop-up, on-the-go method.  "It's a utilitarian look and you don't really care about the bag but rather what's in it.  You're goal oriented."

 

http://www.refinery29.com/bag-holding-style

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Get Powerfu! Change your body language to change your life.



By Patti Wood, MA, CSP body language expert and Author of Snap –Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma.

The first speaker walked confidently onto the stage with his shoulders back, his chest held high and stood with his feet apart and began gesturing broadly. The second speaker shuffled hesitantly onto the stage and stood with his shoulders slumped, his head bowed, his feet together and his hands twined together held below his belt. What do you think of each speaker and what do you think each was feeling?  Powerful body language is telling.  In a study of 132 business school graduates that took place over eight years and included extensive interviews, researches looked at women who showed powerful body language and discovered that  women  who can turn their powerful on and off according to their circumstances, (called self- monitoring) get more promotions than men or other women. We know that body language can make people think and feel differently about you but in her popular TED talk Amy Cuddy enthusiastically shares her research results that show that holding a powerful or powerless body language posture for two minutes can to change your hormones, (raising or lowering testosterone and cortisol) and thus how you feel.  Halleluiah, some great new research to support what I feel is one of the most remarkable and beneficial aspects of body language awareness. I say in my book Snap Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma that however you hold yourself, however you move through space, and however you gesture, your body sends messages back to your brain to make you feel that way. So, if you are standing with your shoulders drooping and head bowed, the little pharmacy in your brain creates, and sends, chemicals into your bloodstream in less than a fortieth of a second - to make you feel less powerful. The great news is, if you know what creates powerful body language messages, and integrate that with an awareness of your own body language, you can feel as powerful as you wish to be in a fraction of a second.  What can you do to make yourself feel authentically powerful immediately? The four foundation principles of power are confidence, space, openness, and relaxation. 
So to feel more powerful:
1)      Take up space with your body. Notice how far apart your feet are normally and if you don’t feel powerful, stand or with your feet as little as one inch further apart to feel lion like stability and presence. If you are seated you can put your feet further apart or out and use those arm rests. Spread out.
2)      Hold and or gesture your hands above your waist, or to feel victorious and euphoric hold them very high up at or above your head. What I call Up posture makes you feel up and confident. So hold your head and body up. We spend far too much time looking down at our smart phones.  Train yourself to look up.
3)      Keep what I call your body windows open. Focus on the windows at your feet your pelvis your heart your neck and the palms of your hands. Stand or sit with your limbs unfolded and don’t close and block your windows with your stuff, such as your coffee cup or purse smart phone or by touching you face, your neck shirt collar in power reducing self- comfort moves.
4)      Relax your body. Tension makes us get small relaxing and breathing make you look and feel powerful.
You have the power to change the way you feel in any situation. So put your hands in the air and get powerful!
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

How to 'take over' a brain



By Leonard Mlodinow, Special to CNN

updated 10:22 AM EST, Sun January 6, 2013

 

In junior high I was a science fiction fan, divorcing Ray Bradbury and Author C Clark novels of strange new worlds, robots, Martians and brain control. I was reading today about new research in the field of optogentics by Leonard Mlodinow.  The article sounds like someone out of science fiction and discussed fascinating new research in Optogenetics and the  discovery of a kind of protein that can be used to turn brain neurons on and off in response to light.

The exotic light-sensitive protein is not present in normal neurons, so scientists designed a way to insert it. That is accomplished through a type of gene engineering called "transfection" that employs "vectors" such as viruses to infect the target neuron, and, once there, to insert genetic material that will cause the neuron to manufacture the light-sensitive protein.

Put it all together, and you have that sci-fi-sounding technology: genetically-engineered neurons that you can turn on and off at will, inside the brain of a living and freely-moving animal.

It is the combined use of optics and genetics that give optogenetics its name, but it's not the "how" that makes optogenetics exciting, it is the "what." Scientists didn't really develop it to "take over" a creature's brain. They developed it, like fMRI, to learn about the brain, and how the brain works, in this case by studying the effect of stimulating specific types of neurons. To see how they are using it to study Parkinsons disease and Schizophrenia read on http://www.cnn.com/2013/01/06/opinion/mlodinow-science-frontier/index.html?hpt=hp_c3

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.