Body Language Expert, Professional Speaker, Author, Media Authority, Spokes Person, Corporate Consultant, Trainer and Coach.
Patti speaks to Fortune 500 Companies, Associations, and Universities on: Body Language, Deception Detection, Selling, Interviewing, Public Speaking, First Impressions, Conflict Management and more.
She also consults with Law Enforcement and the Media on the Body Language of Celebrities, Politicians and Suspects.
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Poor Communication Skills, Lack of Face-to-Face Time, My Childhood Was Wonderful - A Body Language Expert's Perspective
When I was
growing up, the neighborhood kids all knew each other and whose mom made the
best cookies. We played outside all day and we didn’t have to come home
till the streetlights came on. Our moms would leave a big pitcher of
“Kool Aid” and yummy snacks on the kitchen table if we wanted to swing by and
grab lunch. We would have adventures,
minnow fishing, tree house building, secret forts, and hikes up the creek. We
would play games in the street. red light green light, softball and Simon says.
We would pretend we were the Beatles and the Partridge family and give
concerts. We would get on our bikes together and ride miles to the shopping
center. We had enormous freedom. We felt powerful and creative and limitless.
Now so many kids
seem to stay glued to the TV from all day and late into the night or they are
on their other electronic devices. I see the effect of the lack of face-to-face
in my work training those kids as they go into the workplace. They don’t know
how to communicate with each other. If you don’t grow up modeling your parents
communication over and over again, for example at the family dinner table or
with your gang of friends, you don’t learn the complexities or body language
and paralanguage so you cannot read another person’s emotions and you don’t
know simple interaction skills like “Turn Taking” or how to ask a question, and
In my book “SNAP
Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma” I discuss what
you can do about this to improve your own skills and some of the scientific
that explain the problems with using technology too much. For example:
“When you talk to other people face-to-face you lay down neural pathways to the
social centers of your brain. The more you interact interpersonally human
to human the stronger the pathways become. Meeting people and talking to them
becomes easier and you become more skilled and confident and make a great first
interact with a technological device you make quick shallow decisions, such as,
“I want this text. I don't want this text. ““I want this website it’s
interesting. I don't want this one it’s boring” “I want to take this call.” “I
don’t want to take this call.” These quick shallow decisions lay down pathways
to the ego centers of your brain. In fact, doing so gives you a bit of a high
and makes you feel superior to those around you. You can now understand the
techno jerk that seems irritated and uncomfortable to have to talk to you.
Unfortunately, to successfully make quick shallow decisions you have to weaken
pathways to the social centers of your brain. You’re laying your tracks down to
the ego center that produces that nice addictive high but interpersonal
communication becomes more difficult and may even feel like an inferior means
of interacting. Something you are "above" having to do. “