He is Playing With His Wedding Ring. What Does That Body Language Mean?
When we look at the data from this blog the post that get the most hits are couples sleep positions and
What does playing with a wedding ring mean. There is actually no current research studies on the topic. However, because this question is asked so often I have observed over the years two things. First that many single women and married women want to know what it means.
The second if you are wondering what it means and your curiosity is driving you to this post I would hazard to guess you are anxious and stressed. Your central nervous system stress when you see human behavior that does not make sense to you. When for example the body language and the words spoken don't align. So for example a man says he cares for you, but does not where the wedding ring you have him or plays with he plays with it when he is out with you and their are other attractive women around, or you are single and out with a business colleague and he is flirting with you subtly while playing with a wedding ring that his wife gave him. There is mismatch there and it drives the limbic brain crazy and alerts the central nervous system to stress mode. (The stress responses are freeze flee, fight, fall or faint) So if you see the behavior and for a moment your freeze in place and are speechless be wary and know that something is very wrong.
Side note. I am fascinated with autobiographies and biographies of women. I read Elizabeth Edwards Autobiography a few years ago and was struck by a chapter where she discusses how her husband keeps loosing his wedding band when he goes out running and how she in an effort to help him goes out and busy several wedding bands for him so he will always have one. The writing in that section was so odd and stilted. You know she wanted to say, I know my husband is cheating on me, but darn it I am going to fight for this relationship.
The Wedding Ring and Human Behavior: Current Research and Future Directions
I am sure there are many good reasons why some married people don’t wear a wedding ring; for example, they may be allergic to gold, silver, or platinum. And the same may be true for those who don’t disclose their relationship status on Facebook.
Allergies aside, a good explanation for some people’s reluctance to advertise their marital or relationship status is that they are still (unofficially) on the mating market and want to keep their options open. Many married men and women who engage in extra-marital affairs, of course, are happy to wear a wedding ring, only to take it off before they go to a party without their spouse. Taking the wedding ring off and putting it back on repeatedly, however, can be risky because sooner or later you will forget to do the right thing with the right person. Living a double life, with and without the wedding ring, also increases the chances that you lose the damn ring and then are forced to make up some awkward story about how this happened. To curb people’s temptation to take off their wedding ring before they go on a date with someone they met online, a company that specializes in manufacturing and selling original gifts, called The Cheeky, has just released on the market an Anti-Cheating Ring (http://thecheeky.com/anti-cheating-ring), which has a negative engraving on the inside such that when you take off the ring, it leaves a mark on the finger’s skin that says “I’m married.”
This article is from Psychology Today
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The evolution and economics of human relationships.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net.