Patti is Quoted in "How to Date Like a Grownup"

Tip #17: Be Fluent in Body Language
The key to using body language to attract the opposite sex is in making yourself
as approachable as possible.
Basically, you want to send the guy a message that he won’t get shot down
immediately if he tries to spark a conversation with you. Otherwise, he may never get the
nerve up to try.
First, avoid folding your arms, and don’t chew on gum, ice, or your fingernails.
Body-language experts say that the chewing indicates anxiety, frustration, or general
unrest—none of which are very attractive emotions.
According to body-language expert Patti Wood, you want to make yourself a
“safe” (read “approachable”) target. How do you accomplish that?
Don’t take up a lot of space (which, in body-language terms, is a sign of power
and superiority). So keep your stance feminine (feet less than six inches apart, toes turned
slightly inward) and your posture relaxed. According to Wood, “We are strong women,
but remember, we’re trying to get a man to come over and talk to us.” She explains, “You
have to show you have room for someone else in your life.”

Link to Book

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at