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How to Change Your Life
By Patti Wood MA, CSP
What you resist persists and grows stronger. What are you resisting? Are you resisting being mad at your boss, a family member or sweetie? Are you resisting gaining more weight or exercising? Are you resisting changing a bad habit?
Do you need to move toward something positive rather than sit back? Do you need to move forward to what you want rather than pull away from what you don’t want?
When you stop resisting, let go and allow, you can release an enormous amount of energy that is holding that resistance (or block) in place. It is like trying to hold a huge beach ball under water all the time, it's exhausting. You can free up that energy for the things that you want and not what you don't want or are resisting. And what we usually resist is pain, or feeling our pain. The more you don't listen or resist, the louder your pain has to shout.
It is interesting to me that when you set a goal to make a change in your life how the universe offers both gifts to make that change and opportunities for you to be challenged to not make the change.
For example, if you decide to make a change and say, “I don’t want to be a victim. The universe may place you in situations where you would normally be a victim. Your wallet or purse might be stolen, a relationship may have conflict, or end and so may a job. In those situations you can say, “Why does this always happen to me?” or you ask, “How can I act differently in this situation so I don’t feel like a victim?” “How can I be strong in this situation?” If you say, “I don’t want to get mad all the time,” the universe may put you in situations where it would be easy to get mad. So you have the choice to go down that path or say, “What could I do or say that would be the opposite of getting mad.” Or “If you say, “I am ready to communicate more effectively and say my feelings out loud.” You may be put in situations that challenge you to do just that. Perhaps you have to say something to an angry boss or sweetie or speak out against the team’s ideas in a meeting and risk criticism. You can learn from the challenge and grow stronger like a racer who moves from flat road to mountain peaks or you can sit on your sofa in your socks saying your feet hurt.
What are you going to do to make your life better? Are you ready to grow? Here are some recommendations:
1. Say what you want rather than what you don’t want.
2. In the moment where you find yourself wanting to do the old thing ask yourself what you could try to do differently.
3. Be gentle with yourself if you do it the old way and notice it!
4. Get a support system.
5. Don't wait until it feels right, start now!
6. Share your goals.
7. Don't give up!
And remember. There is no such thing as a problem without a gift for you in its hands.