Gender Differences In How We Feel About Our Looks

Carol King and her husband wrote “You’re Beautiful as you feel.” It’s a great song lyric, and a great thought.  There are gender differences in how we feel about our looks. Teenage boys and men tend to look in the mirror and think, “I look great!” Teenage girls and women tend to look in the mirror or phone camera and see what they don’t like and think they are not attractive. In the age of selfies, we make faces in the mirror or change the angle of the camera and tweak the photos to make ourselves more attractive rather than accept our true selves.

I suggest that for ourselves and our children every time you look in the mirror smile and say something positive out loud like, “You Rock!”  What a concept. Accept yourself and think you Rock! You can also use other methods to build self-esteem in your children here.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at