Do You Know a Stand-Up Guy or Stand-Up Gal? Are You a Stand-Up Person for Someone?

Do You Know a Stand-Up Guy or Stand-Up Gal?
 Are You a Stand-Up Person for Someone?

My dad was a Stand-Up Guy, and I didn’t know it. The other night I was talking to my mom about love and she shared a story about my dad.  Many of you know my parents met and married seven days later. (Read that romantic story here)

Sitting in the convertible on the beach under a full Miami moon, my dad proposed and my mother turned him down. She gestured to her hearing aids, two large transistors in the pockets of her dress and the chords going to her ears and said, “I can’t hear well and you deserve to marry someone without a hearing problem.” My dad responded, “That will never be a problem.” “We will take care of it.” And he did. My mom said, in the many years that they were married and she still had the hearing problem, he never once said, “You are not listening.” Or “You need to pay attention.” In all those years he never in any way mentioned it or demeaned her or made her feel less than.” Not once.  She said, “He saw me as a whole person, so I could see myself that way.” Now by this time I am crying on the other end of the phone, because I didn’t know this about my dad and my heart is just filling up. I fell in love with my dad again. I thought about how much love they had. It would have been so easy for anyone to such a disability as weakness against their partner.

My mom goes on to share that my dad spent years researching her hearing problem and after I was born finally found a doctor at the Mayo Clinic and my mother had surgery, in fact eventually six surgeries which my father researched, interviewed doctors about and arranged every other detail to make happen. My dad was a Stand-Up Guy. Suddenly, so many things about the deep affection my parents had for each other, how they always held hands, how she looked at him with love, even though he was a tough man to love at times made sense. For me this story was a revelation and it made me think about all the Stand-Up Guys and Stand-Up Women I know. The people that do the right thing, the moral and good thing, who give of themselves even for just a moment can heal, change and inspire you. How they can help you stand up in life. My father died when I was in college and my parents didn’t share this story with my sisters and I and I am so glad my mom shared it. 

I have been asking friends and audience members to share stories of their stand up friends, family colleagues and more. I have heard some beautiful, heart tugging stories. Stories about doctors that serve patients in extraordinary ways, stories about special moms and dads, of support through divorce, job loss, illness and depression. I have heard stories about open hearted mentorship, and even a story about a guy who talked on the phone to the wee hours so that a friend who was struggling could fall asleep comforted with the phone against her ear. What a great gift it is to know a Stand-Up Person.

I would love to hear more stories of Stand-Up People, so please send them on. Write it down, just a few words, or share it in voice to text or record it and then please share it. I want to hear about these people in your life and what they have meant to you. In my body language programs on deception detection and my programs on leadership I share a method you can use to recognize if someone is credible, if they are a person of integrity.  You can read the short version of the method here: http://www.pattiwood.net/article.asp?PageID=10452 

Good people make you feel good, and giving of yourself, being selfless, even for moment, can give back to you and enlarge your heart. Ask someone today if they have known or know a Stand-Up person and perhaps, pull your shoulders back a little and bring your head high, open your heart and know the strength and love inside you that always gives you the opportunity to Stand Up! 


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

First Meeting of Obama and Trump, What the Body Language Reveals

How Obama out-manspreaded Trump: Body language expert reveals the truth behind that very awkward-looking first meeting between the pair at the White House

·         Obama and Trump put on a united front when they met at the White House
·         Body language expert Patti Wood analyzed the meeting for DailyMail.com
·         She described Obama as 'extremely fatigued, resigned and not hopeful
·         Trump was 'tentative, serious and perhaps fearful', Wood revealed
·         Hand position suggests 'he learned something he didn't know before

Click the link below for the full body language read:

 


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     



http://www.newsweek.com/whats-donald-trump-hiding-his-body-language-says-it-all-541941




Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Trump's Body Language in the Muir Interview Voter Fraud, and Nuclear Codes

Here are my rough notes on Trump's body language, for a media interview. Forgive any spelling or grammatical errors.

Trump sits with his legs far apart in classic alpha male seating position of power. Muir questioned Trump about his voter fraud numbers of 3 to five million and Muir said, “..That would be the largest voter fraud in history, “ Trump takes his downward prayer steeple and flings his fingers out in symbolic weapon to strike out at Muir then interlocks them to hold his own hand then goes back again into  downward prayer to gain internal control, as he battles the statement saying it was, “.. It was so misrepresented…that was supposed to be confidential meeting….I said it and I said it strongly.”

As he argues with Muir Trump says, “I am going to do an investigation…” as he holds up both hands palm open slightly downward in a stop and suppress motion to Muir. Trump flings out his finger in symbolic attack, he points his left finger to symbolically shoot Muir with his left hand while holding his right hand more cupped as a shield and he interrupts Muir several times.
When discussing the Pew report Muir says, “What you have said about Fraud has been debunked. Trump says, “No it hasn’t.” “Take a look at the Pew report” (as a source to support his claims of Fraud.

As he says, “Take a look at the Pew report. “ His voice becomes loud and certain and his head goes forward. Then in the next moment when Muir says he talked to Pew and Pew said his report does not support voter fraud Trump says, “According to the Pew report… “then he pauses realizing he was just told it does not support him and finishes the sentence “… then, He (Pure) is groveling again” and then he denigrates the report and Pure as a groveling reporter as he does this he holds his downward steeple to gain internal control again, then clasps his hands together to center himself and gain strength.. So in one sentence he quotes the report as support stops mid sentence and denigrates the writer of the report and the report.

 When Muir says in follow up to Trump talking about voter fraud and says he wants to ask about something bigger Trump put his both hands up in  stop push down motion and says, “There is nothing bigger,” “There is nothing bigger…” and then goes onto to say, “…millions of people agree with me.” Note here that his posture has gone down and forward and he again goes into the resting posture of holding his own hand.

When Trump is asked about his visit to the CIA and the crowd size and when he will let it roll off his back. Trump says that his speech was a, “Home run” and that he got a standing ovation for a long period of time and they never sat down for long period of time.” As he holds his arms close to his chest and flings out both hands to fling Muir’s question away. Then Trump says, “You and couples of other reporters tried to downplay that speech…” He flings his fingers toward Muir again, symbolically flinging Muir’s statements away then at time code ---he grimaces and as he has down before in the interview holds up both hands with the fore fingers in symbolic pistols and the  bottom fingers curled like hands on the triggers and holds then pointed at Muir’s head. (This is a very proactive image.)

Part of my whole victory is that the men and women who have been forgotten, will never be forgotten again, part of that is when they try to demean me unfairly “cause” we had a massive crowd of people, we had a crowd. “I looked out at that sea of people, and as he says that he does something very interesting he at time code ---- he holds his hands outward and down showing he feels he controlled and was omnipotent over the crowd.  Typically speakers hands go up to honor a massive audience. They cup up and our  to hold and embrace and even lift up the crowd. Speakers typically only hold their  hands  and bring them down to suppress the crowds noise. So for him to be describing the big crowds and go into a crowd suppress motion it interesting. He may be doing that to continue to suppress Muir’s line of questioning but he is doing as he continues he hands go out, “WOW!” and he first holds his hands out on the wow and then instead of going further out he pushes his hands in to hold in the wow in a motion that is confusing, unless he doesn’t fully believe the word wow he is saying.

Later in the interview when they are walking and he is asked hearing about the nuclear codes Trump moves his hands and arms that have been at his sides swinging very slightly in a very front  pelvis in a  natural protective motion as he walks. When he is asked if hearing about the codes and possible destruction keeps him up at night. He says, “NO…” and then his arms come up and he holds them out expansively and confidently and flings out his finger in power as he continues the thought, “…confident I will do the right thing… the right job.”













Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.