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Normalizing, The Effects of Propinquity - Physical or Psychological Proximity


Normalizing Bad Behavior 

In this article Reshma Saujani  says collaborating with Ivanka Trump would mean normalizing the "..hate and bigotry" she believes the Trump administration represents, Saujani wrote ---

She is correct. When you associate and or do business with someone who is amoral you contaminate yourself. You, by association, sanction his abhorrent behavior. You say, "He is normal." She is right. Separate yourself from people who don’t match your level of integrity.

There is a nonverbal behavior that we study, the effects of propinquity (“nearness.") It refers to the physical or psychological proximity between people. Propinquity can mean physical proximity, a kinship between people, or a similarity in nature between things ("like-attracts-like".)
In business and in life we can be with people who have different beliefs, but when someone’s actions are abhorrent choose to step away.

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Gibberish is the White House's New Normal

Gibberish is the White House’s New Normal


I do statement analysis of speeches, apologies and interrogations for the law enforcement and the media. Analyzing Trump's speeches, interviews and texts is incredibly interesting, because he often spouts half finished sentences and run on nonsensical sentences and gobeldy gook. This is a technique of a liar.

http://billmoyers.com/story/gibberish-white-houses-new-normal/


"But the problem is not just that Trump lies, or that he lies about having lied. The problem is not just that he distracts — for example, changing the subject from his entanglements with Russians to the leakers who leak stories about his entanglements with Russians. The problem is that he insinuates more than he argues. He disdains not only evidence but logic. He asserts by indirection. This is bubble-think. It makes a sort of sense only if you’re trapped in the bubble with him."  "He spatters the air with unfinished chunks, many of which do not qualify as sentences, and which do not follow from previous chunks. He does not release words into a stream of consciousness but into a heap." "It is a peculiar sort of derangement. It is the derangement of a man who is used to getting what he wants, and arranging his mental universe so as to convince himself that what he has gotten is what he wanted. His operating theory is that he makes things so because he is powerful. His power is such that he is not subject to laws of ordinary grammar."

45's speech patterns tell us what is wrong with him. 27 psychiatrists stand up and contribute their diagnosis in the book, 



The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump: 27 Psychiatrists and Mental Health Experts Assess a President Hardcover – October 3, 2017


They say he is a sociopath and malignant narcissist. Read their insights below:

Take heart and find the people in your life that are good. Yes, there are motivated by selfishness in the world. But, there are people with integrity, acting with compassion all around you. Choose to be responsible and know your actions effect everyone you encounter. In your daily life choose integrity and kindness. Do your best to make those around you feel anchored and safe. 

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Why Is There Complicity In Abuse? - Why No One Spoke Up About Weinstein's Abuse

Wonder why no one spoke up about Weinstein during his years of abuse? For many years I spoke on sexual harassment and the groups response to it. (In fact, the groups response to abuse, affairs and romantic relationships was my first research paper in my doctoral program) People around the abuser may know about the abuse to the victim or victims and let it continue. Think about the people around Bill Cosby. There are many reasons they may need to believe the abuser is innocent, as believing the truth. That the abuser has abused and is in fact evil creates too much cognitive dissonance. They would have to admit they know and are working with someone evil. Many prefer to keep the mask on the monster and continue their lives as they are. They may not feel comfortable tattling and or it is easier to look the other way, blame the victims and or as in this story, they are being fed by the abuser. Sexual Predators like to spread the goodies out to their "Apaths"or "Enablers" In this case the very success of the journalist’s livelihood depended on being friendly with the abuser.
Here is a good story on this.



 Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

The Human Stain – Why the Harvey Weinstein Story is Worse Than You Think

The Human Stain – Why the Harvey Weinstein Story is Worse Than You Think

When abuse occurs it’s hard for even good people to speak out. In this case, there was a culture of complicity at Weinstein’s places of business, with numerous people throughout the companies fully aware of his behavior but either abetting it or looking the other way. Some employees said that “they were enlisted in subterfuge to make the victims feel safe."
Link to Article


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.