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How Ivanka Has Changed The Way She Speaks Over The Years — & What It Means

In her 2007 appearance on Late Night with Conan O'Brien, Ivanka sounded more relaxed and at ease with being interviewed. "Her voice had a rough smokiness to it here," Patti Wood, a body language expert and author of Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma, told Refinery29. "And her presentation made it clear that she was expecting a humorous response." … Continue


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Confusion, Cognitive Dissonance, Deceit and Malignant Narcissist’ Abuse. Tactics Malignant Narcissist Use to Abuse Their Targets



Confusion, not knowing what is truth or fiction, real or imagined can destabilize you an make you more susceptible to future deceit and abuse.  That’s why Malignant narcissists love to confuse you with mixed messages. It destabilizes you and makes you a great target for their abuse. 

In psychology, this tactic is called cognitive dissonance. An example, an abuser acts compliments and showers someone with compliments at work, gives them great projects and or jobs with perks then attacks them and comes back and says, but your a great guy and I would never fire you, then goes then attacks them again. The romantic narcissists acts lovingly, love bombs, then abuses, then comes back and acts more loving, this confuses the target. What is real. When someone makes promises you something, makes a commitment then pulls it back it affects your ability to trust. You don’t know how to act.  You can clearly see in the article that the Republican representatives are being abused by Trump’s use of cognitive dissonance.


This is a dangerous situation as confused abuse victims will let their abuser do awful things in hopes of getting the sweet love they got before.

One of the key methods of emotional abuse employed by people with narcissistic tendencies is the generalized concept called cognitive dissonance. What this abuse tactic does is create in the target a sense of unreality, confusion, and a mind-set of not trusting his or her own perception of the situation. Leon Festinger (1957) was one researcher who studied the theory of cognitive dissonance. Essentially, cognitive dissonance occurs when humans experience a state of holding two or more contradictory thoughts or beliefs in their cognition at one time. The result is a state of anxious confusion and a desire to reduce the resultant overwhelm and unbalanced perception.

A simplistic, condensed example in a toxic relationship: an abuser professes love and divines a marriage date with his or her partner. The partner is courted, romanced, and ultimately falls in love with the abuser, not knowing that the abuser has ulterior motives (i.e., not staying in the relationship). The partner envisions wedding details and enjoys the courtship, flowers, and being placed on a pedestal. The abuser then suddenly makes a comment denying that he or she said anything about getting married. He or she goes on to say that the partner is “crazy” for thinking that. Blame is then projected upon the partner, and the partner is dizzy with confusion, recalling that, indeed, his or her significant other did discuss wedding bells and a future together.

The partner then experiences a state of cognitive dissonance—a hazy unreality of confusion. Such emotional abuse renders the target confused and reeling with heartache that the pace of the relationship has slammed to an abrupt halt, in addition to feelings of betrayal and being blamed.

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Melania Trump "Looks so Uncomfortable" in New Fourth of July Photos with Donald Trump (EXCLUSIVE)


On July 4, Donald Trump and Melania Trump greeted members of the military and their families at the White House for their second annual Fourth of July picnic. And while the FLOTUS is known for avoiding her husband’s touch, she decided to hold the president's hand as he addressed the crowd from the Truman Balcony. But just because the couple put on a rare public display of affection doesn’t mean the First Lady enjoyed it. According to body language expert Patti Wood, the new photos of Melania and Donald Trump reveal the FLOTUS actually looked “uncomfortable.” …Read on for Patti's Insights 

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Body Language Experts Tell Us Exactly When Sarah Huckabee Sanders Is Lying

While there are rumors that she could be the next one to get a pink slip, White House Press Secretary Sarah Huckabee Sanders has held on for a good long time so far, at least by this White House's standards.
An essential part of being Donald Trump's henchwoman is bending the truth or, as Michelle Wolf called it at the White House Correspondents Dinner, burning facts and using the ashes to create a killer smoky eye. Insiders say Sanders tries very hard not to lie outright and "spends considerable time crafting talking points that convey the president's wishes but also are technically truthful." Behind the scenes, she is reportedly "largely regarded as more pleasant and helpful" to reporters. She also wishes members of the press happy birthday and bakes them pecan pies.
But pies don't make up for lies, and the press secretary often gets into trouble as she goes to bat for the president, primarily for her sins of omission. Recently, she was criticized after Trump's new personal attorney Rudy Giuliani went on Sean Hannity's Fox News show and told him that Trump had reimbursed his attorney Michael Cohen $130,000 for Stormy Daniels' "hush money." One reporter asked her: "Were you lying to us at the time? Or were you in the dark?" Sanders said that she first learned about the reimbursement by watching Giuliani's interview, and gave the best information she had at the time.
While what Sanders says and doesn't say are the best indicators of lying, body language experts say she also exhibits telltale nonverbal signs of being deceptive. And when you see several signs of deceit clustered together, like in her case, you have a higher degree of confidence that the person is lying at any given time.
Ahead, body language experts Dr. Jack Brown, who is also a physician, and Patti Wood, author of Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma, break down Sanders' behavior. the videos with their reads is here  Continue Reading



Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.