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How To Dress For Graduations And Church - A Body Language Expert's Opinions

Last week I went to my friend's MBA graduation ceremony at Kennessaw University. My friends and I were so proud and excited to see our friend earn his MBA after two years of hard work and while working full time at his corporate marketing job.
The ceremony was wonderful. I will post on my speech coach blog my thoughts on the speeches. I wanted to share with you my thoughts on the way people dressed for the graduation.

It was 98 degrees in Atlanta on the day of the graduation. Standing in front of my suit closet I couldn't imagine putting on a silk blouse and suit even though the ceremony was going to be inside. We were parking with over a thousand other friends and family of future graduates and I assumed we would need to hike in from a distant parking lot. That ruled out high heels for me as well. I would have loved to have worn a dress, but I am five feet tall and I look like a little girl in a dress without high heels.

I wanted to show my honor and respect for the graduates, so I chose a white linen jacket and pants. Why am I detailing my struggle to dress appropriately for the event despite the heat and walking distance? Because my friends and I, in our respective dresses, felt like a Mayberry, Brady Bunch, time traveler from another Galaxy when we got there. There were fellow students and hundreds of parents wearing shorts, blue jeans, t-shirts and even flip flops for a college graduation. Perhaps they all thought they were being videotaped for a possible guest on "What not to Wear." Perhaps I am being to critical. After all I know I have dyslexia and can't see spelling and grammatical errors. Perhaps there is a disorder that keeps you from seeing your fashion mistakes.
Out of the two thousand or so audience members I would say half were dressed very nicely, but my friends and I were shocked to see the rest. Was I crazy to think that you should dress nicely on that one special day celebrating so much hard work and persistence on the part of the 800 or so graduates? I was a nerdette in high school and I still may be one today writing about the proper dress for a graduation. What did my friends wear? The other women wore dresses and the guys were all wearing crisp long sleeved button down shirts and nice crisply pressed pants. They were so handsome. It looked like they called each other to dress as they had a nice assortment of colors from pink, to blue to grey and white shirts.

Here are my rough notes from a journalist request on the topic of
Dressing for Church,
My response to a journalist request.
I am a body language expert and I live in Atlanta. I love that churches now have a casual dress service. With a casual service more people feel comfortable going to church as they don’t have to “dress up.”. I also believe that overdressing for church is more about appearance, looking good for other people rather than honoring God. On the other hand flip flops, slogan t-shirts and caps show a lack of respect for others in the congregation. You are going to church not Disney World! I also know as a body language expert that how you dress affects your behavior. Research indicates that formal business attire formalizes your communication and interactions. You are more guarded and distant in a suit and tie, that’s why you take off your tie the minute you get around friends and that it is also just more comfortable. In the workplace casual dress codes increase morale but do not increase productivity. Observing the effect of dress on behavior as a body language expert, I think casual dress relaxes behavior, both good and bad behavior. I included research finding on business dress below my sig line.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

The New Short Shorts

I looked at a fashion magazine last week. Yes once or twice a year I splurge on a fashion magazine. It is a reward for a week of intense 12 hours days of speaking and writing.

I noticed that super short shorts the flow out like a skirt are the new look.
They show them with suit jackets. Yep, I can just see my next audiences response to me in the new look! I would make a great first impression. Me in those gladiator high heeled sandles that for some reason are still in style and the new short shorts and a jacket. Crazy. Of course if I were 15 it would look amazing!

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Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional

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How to Always Look Young, Fashion for Fall

How to Always Look Young Fashion Musts for Fall.

1. The Little Black Jacket: this season the little black jacket is being hailed as, "The answer to every fashion question." My favorite is cropped and fitted just under the bust or boy cut in black leather or black denim. This is look made for us. The little black Jacket can dress you up and make you look youthful if you pair it with a little dress or jeans and a high quality little white t-shirt! Tuxedo, biker, military, or lady-like... velvet, wool, or embellished... so many to choose from! Make sure it fits. You have to be very careful with denim the “washed” or faded look or biker look is difficult to pull off when you are an over 40 woman, but if the jacket fits you and you pair it with crisp well pressed clothing you can look really cute. Do not pair denim with denim. It looks great on a teenager but it can make us look like we are trying to hard to get the "under twelve" discount at the movies. Wear your cute black fitted jacket with your jeans and flash your AARP card with a big ole’smile on your face.

2. Pants: Jeans are taking a back seat this season to cotton or leather trousers, I don’t know many women over 40 who can do leather pants, but we can look great in black denim. Ankles are this season's bare-skin. Great for us as they ankles don’t wrinkle! If your comfortable with your ankles roll loose-fit jeans above your ankle and give yourself some length with nice heals.

3. Skirts: Classic cuts and lines in vivid, can't-look-away colors dominate the skirt collections of this season. If A-lines and pencil cuts aren't for you, don't fret! Super short, super full skirts are just as noteworthy for fall. Love those full skirts. One of my sisters looks adorable in a short super full skirt. She is over 60 and a size sixteen!

4. Tops: While jackets were a focus in the top-department, what goes under them is just as important! Ruffles are big big big. However, we must be very careful in how we choose them. We can look hip in deep jewel tone purple and like a little churchwoman in pastel pink. Don’t pull out your old ruffled blouses from the back of the closet. The ruffles this season are bigger often asymmetrical and the colors are bolder. In addition, when you wear the new ruffles make sure you pair them with something hip not dowdy. Mix the formally formal ruffles with jeans, corduroys, and an above the knee skirt or casual boy cut jacket. Boundaries of matching formal to formal are aging and are out out out this season. Mix and match the style and dressiness of your tops with your other pieces: a white t-shirt with a velvet blazer and patent heels goes just as well as a silk, puff-sleeve blouse with jeans. Rebels rejoice.

5. Dresses: perhaps the most understated piece of the current wardrobe, sheath dresses and draped frocks are the two most sought-after styles: think 50's style silhouette... and then pair it with high heels! I wish I could wear them.

6. Colors: Black is back! Black, white, black & white, navy (yes, navy,that has been out of style for several years is back) gray, deep yellows, reds, nudes, and my favorite, purple are the front-runner colors of this season's pallet. You have to be careful with this seasons hot stripes, sequins, hounds tooth, embellishments, studs, and plaid. Plaids and hounds tooth can make you look spinster aunt, Agatha Christie Miss Marple old and the hot looks in stripes, animal prints and sequins can make us look like you are ready to go to Las Vegas and sit on a stool at the end of the row of slot machines with a coin cup and a cigarette. You can pair a hounds tooth skirt with a low next cashmere sweater in bold color and you can look great with the new cute patched pockets on jackets and jeans, or candy-colored-footwear. Take the somber new looks that make you think of afternoon teas and foggy-morning-in-London main pieces and accent them with traffic-stopping, bold, bright accessories.

7. Accessories: Don’t you just love TJ MAX for purses and Marshals for shoes! So in Quilted clutches, gloves. So what if we can’t wear these seasons knew high socks. We may be able to do the leggings. I like me feet to be comfy but if you can do them heels and cut-away booties, metal and metallic detailing, riding boots, patent leather, fringe, and animal print shoes are so so in. The switch-up this season: bare your ankles, not your knees! Sadly, to say, nary a flat was in sight... unless, of course, it is a boot. I will be looking at out for what my favorite oh so comfortable no more sore feet and aching back shoe brand Q form Merrill’s has in a boot this fall.Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional
The Body Language Expert
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