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Showing posts with label apology body language. Show all posts

Rules and Tips for a Proper Apology, How Can you tell a true apology from a fake one?


Apology Statements

I analyze apology statements for the media. The Jules Woodson assault by her minister and his false apology about his horrible attack to his congregation.

This was not a true apology. A true apology is given to the person that you abused, that’s it!
You must seek forgiveness, from the person you hurt not to group your afraid of loosing!!
In a true apology you do not make excuses and you certainly don’t blame the victim as he does in his “speech” and you darn sure don’t act like a little boy victim. You also promise to work on yourself and never abuse anyone again. And if you have done something horrible you pay a price for your transgression. He didn’t pay the correct price he was only embarrassed for the length of the speech.

So what do we do? How do we do the right thing in our lives? It’s not just about noticing bad behavior, I like to follow a negative thing that’s happened with a positive action so we can create a wave of decency and make the world better through our actions. So we need to think about anyone we hurt in any way and give a proper apology. I am starting with myself so I am thinking of what I need to do better.
In addition, if someone admitted hurting someone else to you and didn’t apologize and seek forgiveness from the person they hurt, and you say, “ I forgive you for hurting Sally” you become a part to their crime. You have relived them of their burden of guilt without them doing the hard thing, the right thing. It makes you feel good but it’s an ethical mistake, That’s the big mistake the congregation made. I’m sure the congregation felt good about themselves. They said we are so forgiving! But they were only doing something that made them feel good about themselves. When they gave him a standing ovation they took away his guilt. They gave their forgiveness that he did NOT earn at the cost of his victims pain. It may seem righteous but it’s just wrong.
I have a chapter in my new book on how to give a proper apology! Can’t wait to finish it!

I Was Assaulted. He Was Applauded.

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Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Harvey Weinstein's Apology Statement.

I have done nonverbal behavior and statement analysis reads of apology statements for many years.
Someone asked me to analyze Harvey Weinstein's apology statement, but I had already read this analysis and thought they did a fine job.
Here is what I would add. First note the length of the apology. A person who is truly contrite is brief in his or her written statement. His statement, uses,  justification, (the sixties made me do it) obfuscation, (Look overa here at thndI would add that you see his disorder thinking. He does not speak in logical order.

http://justnotsaid.blogspot.com/2017/10/sociopath-alert-harvey-weinstein.html


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Was Jian Ghomeshi Truly Apologetic in his Apology Statement?

Was Jian Ghomeshi Truly Apologetic in his Apology Statement?

I did a radio interview On Corus Radio Toronto analyzing the content of Jian Ghomeshi statement.

My insights below:
Look below at the apology statement of Jian Ghomeshi in its written version.  It’s a very extensive apology that goes into a great deal of detail about what he did wrong and its effect and into how much he has learned. I can say that I have been analyzing apology statements for many years and I have never seen this level of detail and introspection. I would have liked him to repeat the apology and say, “I am so sorry.” But other than that the content analysis, which is part of a deception/credibility analysis of the content of his apology shows he has thought about this a great deal and that he has come to a new perspective on his past behavior which is a deeper apology that just saying, “ I apologize.” Count the number of times he says, “I” in the four paragraphs and see how much of the apology is about his status, his feelings and his reflection and you can see that he is highly self-focused. Not the best thing for an apology statement, but pretty standard among politicians and star athletes. 

Moments ago at Old City Hall, as part of a peace bond hearing that resulted in his last sexual assault charge being withdrawn, Jian Ghomeshi read his first public statement since October 2014. The text below was copied from a written version of the statement, not transcribed from an audio recording of Ghomeshi’s speech.

I want to apologize to [the complainant, Kathryn] Borel for my behaviour toward her in the workplace. In the last 18 months, I have spent a great deal of time reflecting on this incident and the difficulties I caused Ms. Borel, and I have had to come to terms with my own deep regret and embarrassment.
I enjoyed a position of privilege in my job at the CBC as the host of a program I loved. I was a person in a position of authority and leadership, and I did not show the respect that I should have to Ms. Borel. I did not always lead by example and I failed to understand and truly appreciate the impact of my conduct on Ms. Borel’s work environment. That conduct in the workplace was sexually inappropriate. I realize that there is no way for me to know the full impact on her personally and professionally.
I now recognize that I crossed boundaries inappropriately. A workplace should not have any sexualized tone. I failed to understand how my words and actions would put a co-worker who was younger than me, and in a junior position to mine, in an uncomfortable place. I did not appreciate the damage that I caused, and I recognize that no workplace friendship or creative environment excuses this sort of behaviour, especially when there is a power imbalance as there was with Ms. Borel. This incident was thoughtless and I was insensitive to her perspective and how demeaning my conduct was towards her. I understand this now. This is a challenging business to be in and I did not need to make it more difficult for Ms. Borel. The past 18 months have been an education for me. I have reflected deeply and have been working hard to address the attitudes that led me, at the time, to think that this was acceptable.
I apologize to my family for letting them down and in particular for the impact that all of this has had on my dear mother and sister. I apologize for the burden my actions have placed on those dear friends who have stood by me throughout this difficult time. I regret my behaviour at work with all of my heart and I hope that I can find forgiveness from those for whom my action took such a toll.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Does Angelina Jolie Really Have Chicken Pox? Angelina's Body Language, is She Lying?

Does Angelina Jolie Really Have Chicken Pox? Angelina's Body Language, is She Lying?


A body language expert Patti Wood
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WnxoEIJMsUc

Is Angelina lying about her Chicken Pox. Well, I can tell you she is having a really good time telling the world she can’t go to her Unbroken Events because she has Chicken Pox.

She starts the recording with the words “I just want to be clear and honest.” These are not the typical words of someone who is just sending out a message that she has Chicken Pox.  These are not the normal first words for any apology stantement, the  baseline of a normal “I am sick” announcement is to start with what you are most upset about which should be, "I am sick!"  In an honest message the emotional message comes out first. It is a limbic brain response. Typically your nonverbal delivery will also show your emotions. You should see her have the facial expressions of pain, or discomfort of being sick and or contriteness at having to miss the events. Instead she has a rather frozen face and monotones delivery of very logical words, “I just want to be clear and honest.” The words themselves are words a liar uses before they lie. Honest people don’t say they have to be clear and honest.”
Next notice in the video what she does with her head as she says, “…Clear and honest.” See how her head jerks back as she says it.  I call that a "heat retreat." We retreat under threat, and liars often, pull back or retreat in some way when they are lying. She could have the Chicken Pox, but she does NOT want to be clear and honest in this message.

Also notice what happens as she says  the words Chicken Pox. On the YouTube video this is a the .17 time marker. She smiles. Yes, sometimes people give a cover smile when delivering bad news, but this is not a cover smile. The corners of the mouth go down in a cover smile and the eyes don't typically move. Notice how the coursers of both sides of her mouth go up, her eyebrows go up and her eyes open and most significantly her head goes up. We go up when we are happy and joyful. She is happy. Yes, oddly she is happy not sad, that is not a surprised smile. That is a happy smile.

Notice that her eyes are not inflamed, as they might be if she had chicken pox, notice though her voice is lowered it is forced and has subdued strength. It is not scratchy and strained as it might be for someone who has chicken pox. She might have them, but they have not hit full force yet.

Finally, one of the most interesting statements is “I just can’t believe it.” If you watch her say that statement, you see it is sincere. It has the normal FEEL SHOW SAY of an honest statement. You see her go back slightly, you see the surprise on her face, you’re here her voice change and then you hear the words silvered that match that emotional statement of disbelief. But here is the thing.  She could be in disbelief about Chicken Pox. But the pause before she makes that statement in the context of what she is saying is long, and sometimes liars, hold a true thought in the mind and they talk about something they are lying about in order to have an authentic delivery. In this case she could authentically be in disbelief that she has the chicken pox, but she could also be in that moment be thinking about and in disbelief about the emails about her that where released.
In any case she is not normal in much of her nonverbal delivery at anytime and she is not normal in the delivery of her I have Chicken Pox delivery.

Late last night I got a call to read this video for Radaronline, but know that they misquoted me. This have me saying things I did not say. For example I did not say, "She was giving her worst acting..." and I did not say, "There are a couple of physical things that are obvious."   http://radaronline.com/exclusives/2014/12/angelina-jolie-body-lanugage-rips-apart-patt-wood/

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

George Zimmerman's Body Language - What Does It Reveal?


Patti was interviewed on HLN recently to analyze the body language of George Zimmerman's apology.  Check the YouTube link below to hear her comments!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BkmPdSexnA4

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Bishop Eddie Long's Body Language after Sexual Molestation Allegations

More on my interview on CNN reading Bishop Eddie Long's body language,
Bishop Eddie Long's Body Language in his sermon after Sexual Molestation Allegations
When you are doing a body language analysis of someone suspected of wrong doing you go through a multistage process. One of the first steps is to compare the person's behavior with a baseline of what a normal innocent person's body language would be in the circumstances. You also take into consideration what the normal behavior would be for a power person (celebrity, politician, sports figure or in this case popular minister of a large congregations' behavior would be in these circumstances. Innocent people who are accused and the in the grip of media attention want to speak, they want to speak about their innocence, they want to speak as soon as possible and they want to speak continually until they know you believe in their innocence. Even if Bishop long was advised by his lawyers to "..not try the case in the media." I believe if he was totally and completely innocent of the molestation charges he would have said he was innocent of those charges. Instead he used the confusing phrase that, "I am not the man portrayed in the media.' Even someone guilty of the charges, could believe he was not a "bad" guy. Believing yourself to be "portrayed" differently than you see yourself is not the same thing as not having committed a crime. Recently, I watched a murderer's testimony of killing two of his ex girlfriends. He said, "I am not a bad guy." "I was angry." "I regret the killing ----(the second) girlfriend." "I wished I hadn't done that." He regretted killing the second girlfriend, because that led to his arrest! . But he believed himself to be a good guy.
In the Bishop Long sermon he also nodded his head counter to his statements several times a clear cue of deceit, he also did tongue thrusts of passive aggressiveness. More later. Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Body Language of Bishop Eddie Long about Allegations, Sex candal. Long Speaking to Church Concerning Sex Allegations



Bishop Eddie Long doesn't say he is innocent nor does he apologize to his congregation for putting them through all the pain caused by the sex scandal. I just analyzed his body language for CNN Headline News "Prime News"
He paused, he read from his notes, he used his glasses theatrically. But he didn't say, "I didn't do it."
He used humor to work the congregation before he brought up the charges. He smirked, just liked Former president Bush, showing his glee at getting the congregation on his side. More later.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

The most memorable sports apologies and the fall out

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Sports figures apologize all the time.



They apologize for losing and for not giving 110 percent. But let's be honest, no one cares about that stuff. What we want is the scandal, the inappropriate comment and the juicy details. We also want closure. We want the apology, and you can't have one without the other.



Tiger Woods hopes apologizing for his personal indiscretions is the first step toward closure in the ugliest episode of his public life.



But before we rigorously overanalyze Woods' performance, Page 2 compiles the 25 most memorable apologies in sports history:



UPDATE: We selected our top 25 before Tiger Woods issued his statement, but it's only fitting that we now include Eldrick as a bonus apology. After all, he said he isn't above everyone else's rules.



Tiger Woods
The 411: We assume you haven't been living under a rock. Moving on …



The Apology: You can read his entire statement here but his message essentially was this: "I want to say to each of you, simply and directly, I am deeply sorry for my irresponsible and selfish behavior I engaged in."



The Aftermath: With Tiger apparently expecting to be away from golf for many more weekends, the economy will likely collapse and the average PGA Tour purse will bottom out at $12.50 (give or take 35 cents). Finally, Steve Stricker will become the Hakeem Olajuwon of golf, stepping to the forefront of the sport now that the best player on the planet is out of the way.



Now, back to your regularly scheduled list …





25. Scot Pollard
The 411: During a timeout in a Cleveland-Indiana game in March 2007, the Cavs center looked into a camera and said, "Hey kids, do drugs."



The Apology: Pollard: "It was a bad joke. That's all it boils down to. There are a number of things people could say about it, but it just turned out it was a bad joke. Obviously, I don't believe that."



The Aftermath: The Cavs did not re-sign Pollard after the '07 season, and he sat on the bench for most of his final NBA season with the Celtics in 2007-08. Yes, he has a championship ring.


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Gilbert Arenas gave a whole new definition to the term "gun locker."24. Gilbert Arenas
The 411: The Wizards guard admitted he decided to store his unloaded gun collection in his locker at the Verizon Center after the birth of his child. Add a gambling-related argument with teammate Javaris Crittenton in December 2009 in which Crittenton reportedly threatened to shoot Arenas in his surgically repaired knee. Then, apparently as a joke, Arenas put his guns near Crittenton's locker and told him to pick one.



The Apology: After meeting with his attorney and authorities over potential felony gun possession charges, Arenas offered this apology: "Joke or not, I now recognize that what I did was a mistake and was wrong. I should not have brought the guns to D.C. in the first place, and I now realize that there's no such thing as joking around when it comes to guns -- even if unloaded."



The Aftermath: Arenas pleaded guilty to a felony charge of carrying a pistol without a license and NBA commissioner David Stern suspended Arenas for the remainder of the 2009-10 season, making this item suddenly much more affordable.





23. Josh McDaniels
The 411: In a December 2009 game against the Giants, NFL Network cameras caught the Broncos coach on the sideline berating his team with profanities tossed in for good measure.



The Apology: Although McDaniels shrugged off the incident after the game, he apologized a couple of days later, saying "Anybody that was offended by that, young or old, I know that's not the kind of example that I want to set or we want to set."



The Aftermath: When the Broncos missed the playoffs at 8-8 after a 6-0 start, it was probably Denver fans who turned to spicy language.





22. Terrelle Pryor
The 411: The Ohio State quarterback wrote "Vick" on the eye-black patch under his left eye during the Buckeyes' game against Navy, in support of controversial NFL quarterback Michael Vick. After the game, Pryor said, "Not everybody's the perfect person in the world. I mean everyone kills people, murders people, steals from you, steals from me, whatever. I think that people need a second chance, and I've always looked up to Mike Vick, and I always will."



The Apology: Pryor went on to apologize, adding, "Not to catch anyone's attention, [but] I'd do it again. He'd been a big role model as I was growing up, and I always looked up to Mike Vick. Maybe it was stupid to get involved in that, I shouldn't put myself in that position. But nothing against dogs, I love dogs and all that. He's out of jail and I looked up to him and he's a big role model. That's why I did it."



The Aftermath: Pryor recently underwent surgery on his right knee and, luckily for OSU, it wasn't performed by a doctor who kills and/or murders people.





21. Sean Avery
The 411: The NHL agitator, then playing with the Dallas Stars, made a point of waiting for cameras to be rolling before a December 2008 game against Calgary when, referring to his ex-girlfriend, actress Elisha Cuthbert, he said "I'm really happy to be back in Calgary; I love Canada. I just want to comment on how it's become like a common thing in the NHL for guys to fall in love with my sloppy seconds. I don't know what that's about, but enjoy the game tonight." (Cuthbert was dating Calgary's Dion Phaneuf at the time.)



The Apology: While en route to meet with NHL commissioner Gary Bettman, Avery added, "I would like to sincerely apologize for my off-color remarks to the press yesterday from Calgary. … It was a bad attempt to build excitement for the game, but I am now acutely aware of how hurtful my actions were."



The Aftermath: Avery was suspended six games without pay and ordered to undergo anger management therapy. Dallas coach Dave Tippett publicly criticized Avery, and the Stars waived the pesky winger, taking a sizable financial hit in the process. Avery ultimately landed on his skates when his previous team, the New York Rangers, claimed him and agreed to pick up half the money remaining on his contract. Sorry, fashion world, you're just going to have to wait a little longer for Sean.


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It's tough to take Greg McMackin seriously when he's ensconced in flowers.20. Greg McMackin
The 411: At a news conference before the 2009 season, Hawaii coach Greg McMackin used a gay slur several times when describing a dance performed by Notre Dame players leading up to the '08 Hawaii Bowl. McMackin later explained he was trying to "be funny."



The Apology: After an initial apology, McMackin offered a more formal one through the university, saying "I sincerely apologize for the inappropriate words I used. My comments were out of character, and I have no prejudices against anyone. I'm really upset with myself and I'm truly sorry for my remarks."



The Aftermath: We'd like to point out the irony of a man who coaches a team once known as the Rainbow Warriors stooping to use a gay slur.





19. George Steinbrenner
The 411: After losing the 1981 World Series to the Dodgers despite winning the first two games, Yankees owner George Steinbrenner made one of his many fire- and brimstone-laced statements regarding the team's future.



The Apology: Steinbrenner: "I want to sincerely apologize to the people of New York and to the fans of the New York Yankees everywhere for the performance of the Yankee team in the World Series. I also want to assure you that we will be at work immediately to prepare for 1982.''



The Aftermath: The Yankees finished fifth in the AL East in '82, going through three managers in the process, and didn't make the playoffs again until '95 and didn't have another dynasty until they hired a new assistant to the traveling secretary.





18. Kobe Bryant
The 411: While in Colorado to undergo knee surgery, Lakers guard Kobe Bryant had what he claimed to be consensual sex with a female hotel employee. The woman claimed she was raped and filed charges. The ensuing case eventually was dropped when the accuser refused to testify in court.



The Apology: After purchasing a $4 million purple diamond ring for his wife, Bryant publicly apologized, saying that "although this year has been incredibly difficult for me personally, I can only imagine the pain [the accuser] has had to endure."



The Aftermath: After that season, Bryant signed a new contract to remain with the Lakers. Meantime, coach Phil Jackson left the team after his contract was not renewed, allegedly at Bryant's behest. Jackson then wrote a book in which he called Bryant "uncoachable." The two ultimately reconciled (it helped that Jackson was dating the daughter of the team's owner) and went on to win their fourth championship together in 2009. All of this is pretty much the exact plot of "Gossip Girl," Season 2. Seriously, just change the names.





17. Mark McGwire
The 411: After several denials and one notorious appearance before Congress in 2005, McGwire finally admitted to using steroids last month after being named batting coach of the St. Louis Cardinals.



The Apology: Speaking to The Associated Press, McGwire said "it's very emotional, it's telling family members, friends and coaches, you know, it's former teammates to try to get ahold of, you know, that I'm coming clean and being honest."



The Aftermath: Despite his impressive career statistics, McGwire's hasn't come close to receiving the number of votes required for Hall of Fame induction, but that doesn't bother him. McGwire sees great promise in his new partnership with manager Tony La Russa, adding "He's seen me grow as a person, he's seen me grow as a hitter." And about eight hat sizes, too.





16. Joey Porter
The 411: While playing for the Steelers, the linebacker used a gay slur to describe the play of rival tight end Kellen Winslow.



The Apology: Although citing that "it was a poor choice of words," and "if I offended anybody, I apologize for that," Porter also added, "I didn't mean to offend nobody but Kellen Winslow."



The Aftermath: Porter was released by the Steelers after the season in a money-saving move, then signed with the Dolphins.





15. Charles Barkley
The 411: On Dec. 31, 2008, TNT analyst and Basketball Hall of Famer Charles Barkley was pulled over in Scottsdale, Ariz., and arrested on suspicion of DUI.



The Apology: Barkley, on missing his television job: "I let so many people down. It just [stinks] watching the shows and not being there. I screwed this up."



The Aftermath: Barkley took a leave of absence from TNT to deal with his legal and personal issues and returned after the '09 All-Star Game and is working for a for-profit group to stamp out hunger $5 at a time.


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The Yankees spent $120 million and all they got out of it was the golden slump-busting thong.14. Jason Giambi
The 411: A series of investigative reports by San Francisco Chronicle reporters Lance Williams and Mark Fainaru-Wada revealed, among other things, that Giambi testified before a grand jury that he took PEDs provided by Victor Conte and BALCO for three seasons.



The Apology: Although never actually admitting anything while addressing the media in 2005, Giambi said, "When I went into that grand jury, I told the truth," and "I know the fans might want more, but at this present time because of all the legal matters, I can't get into specifics." Giambi's benign tumor and parasite refused to comment.



The Aftermath: Giambi ultimately received the remaining $82 million on the $120 million, seven-year contract he signed with the Yankees in 2001 and was praised by Steinbrenner, who said, "It takes a hell of a big man to stand up and apologize."





13. Andy Pettitte
The 411: Pettitte's name also appeared in the Mitchell report (via trainer Brian McNamee's testimony) as an alleged user of human growth hormone. Pettitte admits to using HGH twice to recover from an elbow injury in 2002.



The Apology: Said Pettitte in 2007: "I felt an obligation to get back to my team as soon as possible. For this reason, and only this reason, for two days I tried human growth hormone. … This is it -- two days out of my life; two days out of my entire career, when I was injured and on the disabled list. I wasn't looking for an edge. I was looking to heal."



The Aftermath: Amid the admission and public skepticism of Pettitte's honesty, the pitcher signed a one-year, $16 million contract to remain with the Yankees.





12. Alex Rodriguez
The 411: Sports Illustrated writer Selena Roberts details Rodriguez's use of PEDs and a failed 2003 drug test in her book "A-Rod: The Many Lives of Alex Rodriguez." To get in front of the story, Rodriguez interviewed with ESPN's Peter Gammons and held a news conference at the Yankees' spring training facility.



The Apology: Rodriguez to Gammons: "It was such a loosey-goosey era. I'm guilty for a lot of things. I'm guilty for being negligent, naive, not asking all the right questions. And to be quite honest, I don't know exactly what substance I was guilty of using." His presser at spring training was attended by various Yankees players, including catcher Jorge Posada, who walked out halfway through.



The Aftermath: After recovering from hip surgery, Rodriguez led the Yankees to the 2009 World Series title and won the Babe Ruth Award as the New York chapter of the Baseball Writers' Association of America's postseason MVP. Upon receiving the trophy, an emotional Rodriguez asked, "What's next, the good guy award?" No, A-Rod, what's next is the death of karma.





11. Latrell Sprewell
The 411: During a practice in December 1997, Golden State Warriors guard Latrell Sprewell got into an argument with coach P.J. Carlesimo. The argument escalated to where Sprewell choked Carlesimo until teammates pulled him away.



The Apology: Eight days later in a news conference at an Oakland hotel, Sprewell offered this: ''I want to start by apologizing publicly to P.J. Carlesimo and [general manager Garry] St. Jean." Sprewell added, "I think there are several things that can be learned from this incident. For me, the one thing I've learned is that I have to do a better job of controlling my temper when I'm put in a situation where frustration mounts and you want to lose control."



The Aftermath: Sprewell was suspended for the remainder of the season, and the Warriors voided the remaining $24 million on his $32 million contract. Sprewell later signed a lucrative contract with the Knicks. In 2002, while making $16 million a year with the Timberwolves, Sprewell turned down a contract valued at $27 million from Minnesota, calling it an "insult" and reminding everyone that "I got my family to feed." In retrospect, it probably wasn't a shrewd move.





10. Wade Boggs
The 411: After Boggs ended a four-year extramarital affair with Margo Adams, his private thoughts on various teammates (Jim Rice "thinks he's white") and opponents were chronicled in Adams' 1988 interview with Penthouse magazine.



The Apology: Although Boggs apologized to teammates mentioned in the article, he refused to say anything else in a closed-door team meeting. Also, Boggs did what everyone who felt like crying did in the 1980s -- he appeared on "20/20" with Barbara Walters (aka the Original Oprah).



The Aftermath: This resulted in a rare double apology when pitcher Dennis "Oil Can" Boyd publicly said he was sorry for telling the media Boggs needed to seek professional help for being a sex addict.





9. Rex Ryan
The 411: While attending an MMA fight in Florida shortly before Super Bowl XLIV, Jets coach Rex Ryan responded to taunts by Dolphins fans by flipping them the middle finger, which was captured on a cell phone camera and shared extensively over the Internet.



The Apology: Before the incident, Ryan told the crowd in an interview, "I want to just tell everybody in Miami, hey, we're coming to beat you twice next year." A few days later, Ryan said the gesture "was stupid and inappropriate."



The Aftermath: Ryan was fined $50,000 by the Jets, but we suspect he earned respect of about 98 percent of the team's fans in the process. Oh, and the Jets probably will beat Miami twice next year.





8. George Hill
The 411: After the Spurs guard took nude pictures of himself and sent them to a girlfriend, the photos were leaked to the notorious blog "The Dirty."



The Apology: Hill apologized to just about everybody earlier this month, saying "I have matured and learned from this episode."



The Aftermath: Hill and the Spurs attempted to sue The Dirty to take the photos down, claiming the use violates the league's copyrights to all things representing the Spurs, but a lawyer for the blog refused, responding that "trademark law does not apply to criticism of celebrities making fools of themselves."





7. Grady Sizemore
The 411: Several seminude photos of the Indians outfielder were stolen from an e-mail account and sent out to various blogs in November 2009.



The Apology: While apologizing for the incident, Sizemore added, "It was meant for me and my girlfriend, and it just happened to work out the way it did."



The Aftermath: Only time will tell when the MLB season begins in April.


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Greg, everyone in the arena really appreciates you going with, you know, ... clothes.6. Greg Oden
The 411: Oden took several self-portrait nude photos with his cell phone camera and sent them to a girlfriend. After they broke up, she posted the pics on the Internet.



The Apology: Talking to 95.5 The Game in Portland, Oden apologized profusely, adding, "Those pictures were taken over a year and a half ago. I've definitely grown since then."



The Aftermath: Some jokes write themselves.





5. Joey Porter
The 411: In September 2006, two of Porter's dogs, a pit bull and a mastiff, escaped from his property and killed a miniature horse at a nearby farm.



The Apology: Porter released a statement saying, "I have reached out to the owners of the horse and will do whatever I can to help them get through this very unfortunate situation."



The Aftermath: Our dubious sources report that the dogs didn't actually intend to harm the horse, they only wanted to offend Kellen Winslow.





4. Roger Clemens
The 411: Amid allegations of steroid use from the 2007 Mitchell report, pitcher Roger Clemens was also accused of having an affair with country singer Mindy McCready -- allegedly beginning when she was 15 years old.



The Apology: Clemens denied ever using performance-enhancing drugs or bedding McCready at 15, but he did admit in 2008 to "mistakes in his personal life."



The Aftermath: Any alleged affairs are the least of Clemens' worries. He still might face federal perjury charges if he lied to Congress, and the defamation suit brought against him by former trainer Brian McNamee is still ongoing. He allegedly settled the civil suit brought by his third ear.





3. Rick Pitino
The 411: Louisville coach Rick Pitino admitted to an extramarital affair in 2003 with Karen Cunagin Sypher in his testimony to the FBI regarding Sypher's alleged $10 million attempted extortion of the coach. The tryst supposedly took place in a Kentucky restaurant after it had closed.



The Apology: Pitino apologized to the Louisville community and his immediate family, stating "I let them down with my indiscretion six years ago. And I'm sorry for that and I tell them that every day." Pitino's apology also mentioned how he came to the university "at a very difficult time," referring to the 9/11 tragedy.



The Aftermath: With the Cardinals out of the Top 25 this season, Pitino reportedly floated his name as a candidate to coach the Nets. He later denied it, with our dubious sources claiming that restaurants in New Jersey close too late for his liking.





2. Vince Coleman
The 411: While with the Mets in 1993, Vince Coleman threw an M-80 firecracker at fans waiting for player autographs outside Dodger Stadium. The powerful explosive injured three people, including a 2½-year-old girl.



The Apology: Addressing the media with his wife and children at his side, Coleman stated "I now realize that my actions on July 24 were very inappropriate." Coleman also took issue with being depicted as "an insensitive, non-caring athlete," adding, "nothing more can be further than the truth."



The Aftermath: Coleman was suspended for the remainder of the season by the Mets and traded to Kansas City in the offseason. He also received three years' probation for the incident and is currently paid not to be a public speaker.





1. John Calipari
The 411: In his rookie season coaching the Nets in 1997, Calipari took issue with the written criticism of Newark Star-Ledger writer Dan Garcia and confronted him in a parking lot, calling him a "Mexican idiot."



The Apology: Although Calipari claimed he was joking (even though multiple witnesses heard him shouting the slur across a parking lot), at the request of league and team officials, he read a statement saying, "In retrospect, I can understand how the remark could have been misinterpreted."



The Aftermath: Twenty games into the lockout-abbreviated 1999 season, the Nets (3-17 at the time) fired Calipari.





Thomas Neumann, Jemele Hill, DJ Gallo, Cameron Martin, Toby Mergler and Paul Lukas contributed to this article.



Mike Philbrick is an editor for Page 2 and the co-host of the Page 2 Podcast. You can contact him at michael.w.philbrick@espn3.com. If you didn't like this piece, he sincerely apologizes.





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Governer Sanford's Body Language Durring His New's Conferance Apology for affair


I was asked by a reporter from the Associated Press to read Governor Sanford's body language. He showed lip suppression and tongue thrusts as he talked about his wife standing by him and then later exhibited the following behavior:

I have been unfaithful to my wife. I developed a relationship um with a …um (pressed pulled back lips with frown and upward furrowed brow and eye block) what started out as (head pulled away) as a dear friend from Argentina (head bowed not just down but back) and ummmm it began very (lip pulled back) innocently (showing no it was not innocent) … developed in too much much more.

This body language indicated he was attracted to her from the beginning and especially his paralanguage delivery as he said, "developed into much much more" that he feels deeply for her and continues to feel connected to her. Also his diversion statement, "she is there and I am here," indicated he would like to be with her. When asked, "Did you break off the relationship," he replied, "Obviously not." And he vocally emphasized the not. Sticking the word hard showing he feels strongly about her and has a relationship with her.


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