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How To Dress For Graduations And Church - A Body Language Expert's Opinions

Last week I went to my friend's MBA graduation ceremony at Kennessaw University. My friends and I were so proud and excited to see our friend earn his MBA after two years of hard work and while working full time at his corporate marketing job.
The ceremony was wonderful. I will post on my speech coach blog my thoughts on the speeches. I wanted to share with you my thoughts on the way people dressed for the graduation.

It was 98 degrees in Atlanta on the day of the graduation. Standing in front of my suit closet I couldn't imagine putting on a silk blouse and suit even though the ceremony was going to be inside. We were parking with over a thousand other friends and family of future graduates and I assumed we would need to hike in from a distant parking lot. That ruled out high heels for me as well. I would have loved to have worn a dress, but I am five feet tall and I look like a little girl in a dress without high heels.

I wanted to show my honor and respect for the graduates, so I chose a white linen jacket and pants. Why am I detailing my struggle to dress appropriately for the event despite the heat and walking distance? Because my friends and I, in our respective dresses, felt like a Mayberry, Brady Bunch, time traveler from another Galaxy when we got there. There were fellow students and hundreds of parents wearing shorts, blue jeans, t-shirts and even flip flops for a college graduation. Perhaps they all thought they were being videotaped for a possible guest on "What not to Wear." Perhaps I am being to critical. After all I know I have dyslexia and can't see spelling and grammatical errors. Perhaps there is a disorder that keeps you from seeing your fashion mistakes.
Out of the two thousand or so audience members I would say half were dressed very nicely, but my friends and I were shocked to see the rest. Was I crazy to think that you should dress nicely on that one special day celebrating so much hard work and persistence on the part of the 800 or so graduates? I was a nerdette in high school and I still may be one today writing about the proper dress for a graduation. What did my friends wear? The other women wore dresses and the guys were all wearing crisp long sleeved button down shirts and nice crisply pressed pants. They were so handsome. It looked like they called each other to dress as they had a nice assortment of colors from pink, to blue to grey and white shirts.

Here are my rough notes from a journalist request on the topic of
Dressing for Church,
My response to a journalist request.
I am a body language expert and I live in Atlanta. I love that churches now have a casual dress service. With a casual service more people feel comfortable going to church as they don’t have to “dress up.”. I also believe that overdressing for church is more about appearance, looking good for other people rather than honoring God. On the other hand flip flops, slogan t-shirts and caps show a lack of respect for others in the congregation. You are going to church not Disney World! I also know as a body language expert that how you dress affects your behavior. Research indicates that formal business attire formalizes your communication and interactions. You are more guarded and distant in a suit and tie, that’s why you take off your tie the minute you get around friends and that it is also just more comfortable. In the workplace casual dress codes increase morale but do not increase productivity. Observing the effect of dress on behavior as a body language expert, I think casual dress relaxes behavior, both good and bad behavior. I included research finding on business dress below my sig line.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Two Cozy

Body language expert, Patti Wood, is quoted in Ok Weekly about the coziness of Sebastian & Leighton. What does it reveal about this couple?
Details at the link!
http://www.scribd.com/doc/34274018/OK-SebastianLeightonTwo Cozy


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

How To Tell If Someone Likes Your Cooking - Body Language At The Dinner Table

How to Tell if Someone Likes Your Cooking by Reading Body Language my quotes in Every Day With Rachel Ray.

Discover what they really think about your cooking. Body language expert, Patti Wood, says to look for these telling gestures.
By Eliza Borné Photography by Peter Arkle

Closed Eyes
When food tastes really good, some people shut their eyes to block out other senses and enjoy it. Take this as a sign that you did something right!

Scrunched Nose and Lips
Unhappy eaters might slightly turn up their noses and lips when they’re displeased with a bite. It lasts an instant, so watch the person you most want to satisfy.

Stomach Touching
Often assumed to mean someone is full, touching the stomach after eating actually signifies satisfaction. “They want to hold in the pleasant feeling,” says Wood.

Turning away
Whereas people who like their food will surround their plate, those who don’t will often lean away, pulling back their chests or leaning against the back of the chair.

Speak Up!

http://www.rachaelraymag.com/Every-Day-Living/Every-Day-Advice/Instant-Help/how-to-tell-if-someone-likes-your-cooking


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Make A Great Impression On The Phone

There are certain techniques you can use to improve your effectiveness on the phone and create a positive impression. Patti Wood, body language expert, who has over 20 years of experience researching and teaching nonverbal communication shares her insights for The Business Journal. Check out the 8 techniques at the link.
http://www.scribd.com/doc/34851953/The-Business-Journal-Make-a-Great-Impression-on-the-Phone

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Sandra Bullocks' Body Language

My read on Sandra Bullocks' body language on People Mag quoted on website http://www.limelife.com/blog-entry/Sandra-Bullock-Traumatized-Child/42079.html

Body language expert weighs in
Is Sandra Bullock traumatized? While many people declared a recent body language expert article to be reaching, there's a lot to be analyzed in Sandra's initial public appearances after her estranged husband's cheating scandal. Do you agree or disagree with the celeb expert?

Sandra was wearing a dark outfit when she ventured outside recently, looking like she was trying to shield herself from the paparazzi.

Body language expert, Patti Wood, spoke with US Weekly magazine, saying that Sandra Bullock's body language while hiking makes her look "traumatized."

"She is gripping the coffee cup very high up," Wood said. "That's what you do when you really want to grab hold of something and show your power. She's really making it obvious and playing toward the camera to show that empty finger."

Good for her if she is trying to give us a glimpse of that empty finger! Patti also took a look at Sandra's clothing choice for the outing and said that she picked protective items.

"She's chosen a heavily padded jacket and has it zipped up very high," Wood said. "The choice of her scarf, which is tied over heart, means that she is hiding her heart window and throat window, which is the communication window." The colors, Woods explains, are "protection choices. Black is a protection color."

"She looks like a child who's been traumatized," Wood said. "Her face takes on attributes of a child who's experiencing a deep pain."

Do you believe this kind of analysis, or is it poppycock? I think there is plenty of truth to body language and color choice studies, and it just gets a little embroidered for these purposes.



Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.