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Patti Wood MA, CSP is an international speaker, author and consultant to Fortune 500 companies. She reads the body language of politicians, celebrities and other well-known world figures for national media such as CNN and FOX News. Her corporate clients describe her as a dynamic, powerhouse presenter.

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Dear Patti


After you kiss your sweetie this Valentine's Day, you may want to share with him or her how the ritual of kissing, (also known by it's scientific term Osculation) improves your health and the quality of your relationship. You can read about the "Secret Benefits of Kissing" in this month's first article.
This month I was in Chicago to do a segment on Kissing Secrets with comedian and talk show host Steve Harvey and traveled to Miami, Savannah and beautiful Cancun Mexico to speak on body language, selling and dynamic presentation skills. I hope to be in your city soon.
Here are this month's articles and TV interview links.

Video of HLN interview of the body language of suspected murderer Jodi Arias while she is on the witness stand during her trial.
Toronto Sun article about how personal items displayed at work convey messages.
This Valentine's Day you may want to catch my interview on Kissing with comedian and author, Steve Harvey on his show about kissing. It airs on NBC on Thursday at 1 pm EST.
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Patti
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A baby cries when he is hungry, a teenager whines when she doesn't get her way, a boss yells when he wants something done right now, a customer rants when she has to wait. When a person does not get what they want, when they want it, they can quickly turn into a difficult person. We all have needs and when those needs are not met we yell, cry, whine and in other equally annoying ways become difficult people. The number one reason we fail to deal with a difficult person is we fail to recognize their need...what made them difficult in the first place? So to prevent the crying, whining, yelling and ranting figure out what a person needs - and if you can, give it to him. Here are four basic human needs and how you can meet them and prevent conflict without losing time, energy or your own temper. Avoid Conflict by offering Comfort.
Comfort - When someone needs comforting, comfort him or her. A few years ago someone broke into my mother's retirement condominium. She got up in the morning to make her tea and toast and there was a drunken man, passed out cold on her couch. My mom was frightened and upset. Two days later, after the break-in was mentioned in the paper and was the talk of the retirement home, one of my mother's friends who she had not talked to since the break-in, called my mother and asked her out to dinner. My mother was hurt, her friend didn't talk about the break-in, nor did she mention why she hadn't checked in with my mother for two days. My mother got very upset and told her friend she did not want to have dinner with her and why which led to an argument between the two friends. What caused the argument and the rejected invitation? An unmet need. What need did the friend not meet? Comfort. My mother wanted her friend to say, "I am sorry this frightening event happened." And along with that, to visit her and give her a hug. However, her friend for whatever reason had not called her in two days and when she did she didn't mention the break-in. My mother simply wanted to be comforted and given attention and her friend did not meet that basic need.
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Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Patti Decodes Kissing Styles on the Steve Harvey Show


Click on the link below to watch Patti on the Steve Harvey Show during "LOVE WEEK" as she shares her insights on the different kissing styles.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Patti on the Steve Harvey Show during "LOVE WEEK"

Patti will be on the Steve Harvey Show for his annual "LOVE WEEK" sharing her insights on Kissing on February 13th at 1 pm, EST.  You can view the show on NBC. If you miss the show, watch Patti's blog for a future post in which we will have the entire segment for your viewing. 

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

10 Different Kisses and What They Mean

 
Different Types of Kisses to Try

Cheek Kiss
A peck on the cheek for a first date is also a friendly way of greeting someone. A woman can signal she wants a cheek kiss by leaning in. To kiss your date or partner on the cheek put your hands on the man’s arms lightly and offer your cheek. For the man reach out and rest your hands lightly on the shoulders and gently move in to kiss the cheek.

Forehead or Top of the Head Kiss- If it is the only kind of kiss you get it signal I am your big brother or big sister kiss. Or if you have kissed before it signals I feel protectiveness and nurturing as well as lust for you.

Earlobe Kiss
This kiss is more sensuous. The earlobes are a sensitive area and kissing or nibbling or sucking on them can be very arousing.
French Kiss
This is the most popular and widely known kiss. It involves closeness along with a hint of sexual excitement. It is a beautiful experience. But it is definitely not a first or second date kind of a kiss. You have to start with a normal lip to lip kiss and then slowly bring your tongue into play. Let your tongues brush against each other but don't go too deep.

Don't rush take it slow. Recognize body cues that show your kissing partner wants to kiss or is closed to the kiss open vs. closed windows, blocking gestures, retreat.

Butterfly Kiss
This is a simple and sweet type of kiss that signals a sweet and tender trusting relationship. Because it would indicate that your partner loves only you. To perform the butterfly kiss, bring your face very close to your partner's face so that your eyelashes are touching. Now flutter your eyelashes like the fluttering of a butterfly's wings.

Single-Lip Kiss
This is again a very sensual kind of a kiss. To do it just take your partners lip and suck it with two of your lips. Do it very gently as doing it hard will make their lip go numb and it might even be painful. It is a nice change from the usual types of kisses.

Eskimo Kiss

In the Eskimo kiss you have to get your face close to your partner's and rub your nose against theirs. Do it gently to enjoy it. Based on Greeting followed by the Eskimos.
Angel Kiss
In this kiss you lightly touch your partner's eyes with your lips. It is a very caring and loving gesture. This is a very sweet gentle type of kiss. Men just to let you know a woman feels especially cherished when you gently and loving give an angel kiss.

Arabian Nights Kiss -
Seal me with kisses or open kisses that go all over the body all over kisses.
The name of this kiss says it all. There were 101 stories in the Arabian nights. Kiss from the top of the head to the waist and or from the toes to the thigh. You can start this kiss from the top of the head or forehead and slowly move down on the face and further kissing gently everywhere.

Surprise Kiss

Kiss your partner when they don’t expect it for example: in the middle of cooking dinner together, across the dinner table, just after you have gotten in the car, or just after you brush your teeth.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Secret Benefits of Kissing


“A kiss is the contraction of mouth due to the expansion of the heart.”       

Secret Benefits of Kissing 

When you kiss your sweetie this Valentine's Day, you are practicing a nonverbal interaction that takes place in over 90 percent of human cultures.  

Research shows that kissing or if you prefer the scientific term Osculation, is often the deciding factor in selecting a sexual partner as well as first “kiss or miss” determiner of selecting a life partner, especially for women.
Kissing evolved to stimulate all three distinct brain systems involved in mating and reproduction those that involve sex drive, romantic love, and attachment. In fact more of your brain lights up during kissing than it does for other later romantic activity. Sex drive compels us to seek partners, romantic love tells us to commit to one, and attachment helps us tolerate this person (at least long enough to have a child). 
·         Kissing is a stress reliever. Researchers found that in long term relationships the more the couple kissed the more their stress hormone cortisol levels declined. 
 
·         Kissing is good for your health. According to the Kinsey Institute New Report on Sex; a passionate kiss burns 6.4 calories per minute. (And it is a lot more fun than jogging on a treadmill that burns not much more: 11.2 calories per minute.)
 
·         Why women kiss before they say, “I do.” Studies reveal many women use information they gain through kissing to decide on a mate. Because a woman tends to be attracted to male partners with a different immune system makeup from her own and she detects this information through smell when they kiss.
 
·         Have a great first kiss or else. A bad first kiss can kill a would-be romance faster than a woman can reapply her lipstick. In a S.U.N.Y. of Albany survey, a higher number of women than men said they would not have sex with a poor kisser and more than 69 percent of women say they would end the relationship if the first kiss with their partner was bad. 
 
·         A kiss is the best “On” button.  Women are stimulated faster by kissing than any other physical activity to prompt them to want to engage in sex. Yes you read that right. 
 
·         Kissing can improve your immune system by building anti-bodies to foreign bacteria. Don't worry; about 95% of your partner's bacteria is probably friendly and familiar to your own body already.
 
·         Women like kissing before, during, and after sex. Men use it to get sex then they are more likely to go to sleep.
 
·         French kiss for workout - A simple pucker kiss takes only two muscles, but all 34 of your facial muscles get a workout during a deep French kiss.
 
·         Men like French kissing for a reason - Research shows that men show a preference for French kissing. Scientist explains this preference. Wet, open-mouthed kisses allow men to dose women with small amounts of libido-raising testosterone via their saliva. Over time, weeks or months of this dosing increase her testosterone which can enhance her libido. 
 
·         More Kissing More Fun- Testosterone doping can explain why if you stop kissing before you make love a woman’s libido may go down. This should be great motivation to kiss and kiss again.
 
·         What he thinks and she thinks about during kissing – Because of the chemical and brain differences in genders research suggests that when a woman kisses a man he thinks, “Oh boy we are going to get more physically close.” And when a man kisses a women she thinks, “Oh boy, we are getting more emotionally close.” 

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.