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Closer Than Ever



Mad Man hunk Jon Hamm, 42, didn't look thrilled to have longtime girlfriend Jennifer Westfeldt, 44, on his arm before a January 2013 event in LA.  According to Patti "he looks exhausted, his posture is very stiff and he does not want to be there."  However, the duo's Jan. 24th dog-walk this year tells a much different story. Patti observes there is a lot of tenderness between them and it is obvious by the way he puts his arm around her and she clasps his hand.

Patti gives the couple a 4 1/2 on the Life & Style True Love Rating Scale in 2014!

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Flirtier Than Ever


Nearly four years ago, Matthew McConaughey, 44, and Camila Alves, 32, shared a tense moment on the red carpet.  According to Patti, "there is a sadness in her face but an intimacy in her touch."  His touch is a bit admonishing and he is looking away as if he is distracted."  But the duo were genuinely affectionate during Matthew's big night at the Dallas Buyers Club premiere in Rome.  Camile playfully has her arms around him like, "He's mine!"  and with his leg crossed toward her, he happily agrees!"

Patti gives this couple a 4 on the Life & Style True Love Rating Scale in 2014!

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Alzheimer's patients were far less able to smell peanut butter with their left nostrils than with their right.



I recently read in THE WEEK that their is a new Sniff test that helps doctors diagnose Alzheimer's Disease. It involves sniffing peanut butter. Alzheimer's patients were far less able to smell peanut butter with their left nostrils than with their right.
Makes me think of my occasional craving for PBJ's in a whole new light.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Attention Getting "Headlines" for Your Speeches, Blogs. What is UPWorthy?

Attention Getting "Headlines"  for Your Speeches, Blogs. What is UPWorthy?

Think about this when you are creating the first few lines of your next speech or blog.


I Didn't Think I'd Love This Upworthy Headline Generator. Boy, Was I Wrong.
So great.
T
he most popular Upworthy story of all time contains the word "wondtacular."
Sold. The post in question is about a talented 14-year-old musician who recently lost his battle with terminal cancer, and it has been viewed 17 million times and counting. It's very touching. You may have already come across it in your Facebook feed.
And if you haven't, chances are you have already encountered something eerily similar. Perhaps it was the site's second-most viewed post of all time: "See Why We Have An Absolutely Ridiculous Standard of Beauty In Just 37 Seconds" (11.8 million pageviews). Or maybe it was the instant classic: "His First 4 Sentences Are Interesting. The 5th Blew My Mind. And Made Me A Little Sick" (4.9 million). There are many, many others, and they all follow the same basic template.
This, my friend, is the wondrous world of socially engineered content. And we might as well get used to it.
For the unfamiliar, Upworthy is a progressive website built around the idea that heart-warming, life-affirming content — in this case, obscure YouTube videos unearthed by the site's editors — deserves to be put in front of as many eyeballs as possible. This is accomplished almost exlusively through social media channels like Facebook.
To give a video wings (the "up" part), Upworthy contributors write dozens of headlines for each story designed for the sole purpose of plucking your heartstrings. Then they pick the one most likely to spark an emotional reaction.
BuzzFeed's John Herrman called it 2013's reincarnation of the internet chain letter. The Atlantic's Derek Thompson, on the other hand, dubbed Upworthy "the internet's latest viral wizard."
The site's overwhelming success is enviable. At just 17 months old, Upworthy attracted 46.7 million unique visitors this past October according to ComScore, making it much more popular than many news sites. Its earnestness, exemplified by its sticky-sweet two-sentence headlines, has already been duplicated by a host of imitators, some unabashed in their flattery (Viral Nova) and others still finding their footing (Viral Conservative). Even the venerable Washington Post has launched an Upworthy-style vertical.
Ryan Holiday at Betabeat writes that what these sites (which include BuzzFeed) have in common is that they have mastered the art of "filtering and exclusively delivering only a small sliver of reality — one that is all sweet and no sweat." They provide a quick endorphin rush to make you feel warm and fuzzy — and, hopefully, generous with your clicks.
Which isn't a bad thing! But with all that success comes the inevitable blowback, which in this case has manifested itself in the Upworthy headline generator created by former BuzzFeed and Google employee Mike Lacher.
The single-serving site, which is "in no way affiliated with Upworthy," pokes fun at some of the Upworthy's more cloying attempts to snare clicks from your Facebook friends. It's quite funny, too:



I think part of the Upworthy generator's appeal is that it mockingly strips away the warm veneer that can make Upworthy feel one-dimensional. It's a gentle reminder to the feel-good economy that the world is sometimes awful and largely indifferent, and that armchair inspiration still takes place, well... in an armchair.
To say Upworthy does more harm than good is downright silly. But like most things, it's best enjoyed when you know a bit about how it actually works.
HT: Joe Puglisi
Chris Gayomali is the science and technology editor for TheWeek.com. Sometimes he writes about other stuff. His work has also appeared in TIME, Men's JournalEsquire, and The Atlantic.

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Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Is Eye Contact Overrated, Power and Eye Contact

Is Eye Contact Overrated?

I think that speakers make less eye contact than listeners and that is really what this research finding shows rather than any truths about debating. 

  

Is eye contact overrated?
Don't look now, but...
Traditionalists and high-powered guys with Machiavelli on their Kindles will probably tell you that looking straight into another person's face and maintaining unflinching eye contact is the age-old secret to the Powers of Persuasion. In actuality, though, the opposite may be true, especially in the midst of a heated debate.
"Debate" is the operative word here. Unlike previous psychological studies analyzing the bonds forged when a mother stares into a baby's eyes, or when two lovers tenderly lock gazes, this time a team of researchers from Harvard University and the University of British Columbia sought to understand eye contact from a different vantage point: Does looking into another person's eyes really help your cause when you're trying to win an argument?
The short answer: Perhaps not. The new paper, published in the journal Psychological Science, only took a look at 20 participants, but the results are intriguing. Researchers had subjects share their opinions on contentious issues, such as affirmative action and assisted suicide, then watch recorded talks by a speaker on those same topics. At the same time, researchers used eye-tracking technology to determine when and (more importantly) if participants were looking at the eyes of the person in the recording.
When participants shared an opinion with the speaker, they were more likely to establish eye contact. But when they disagreed, suddenly their gaze was less focused. "The participants were less likely to change their opinions if they were looking into the eyes of the speaker, especially when the speaker was also looking directly at the participant, rather than to the side of the screen," says Alexander Sifferlin at TIME:
To test this again, the researchers had the participants watch more videos, but sometimes they were told to look into the speaker's eyes, and other times they were instructed to look at the speaker's lips. The participants who looked into the speaker's eyes were once again less likely to change their opinions compared to participants focusing on the speaker's lips. [TIME]
Now, most people simply aren't accustomed to making consistent eye contact. "Your eyes naturally go back and forth between the eyes and the mouth," co-author Julia Minson, a psychologist and assistant professor at Harvard, tells Forbes. "There's also some time when your eyes just wander around."
Of course, the study does have its flaws. Video interaction is a poor substitute for person-to-person interaction, so all those reactive subtleties communicated by body language are lost in transmission.
Still, not locking eyes may be your best tactic going forward if you're trying to make a point. Putting your phone away probably helps, too.




Is eye contact overrated?
Don't look now, but...


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.