If you
truly want to understand how smart warm wonderful women are targets of
Psychopaths read the research of Sandra Brown:
“The seminal aspect of the research was in detecting these women's
unique and astounding elevated 'super traits' of temperament, personality
strengths and weaknesses. These proved to be an amazingly compatible match for
the strengths and weaknesses of a psychopath and brought a natural 'balance' to
the honeymoon aspects of the relationship.”
“While the uncovering of her innate traits and
conditioned behaviors explained much about this dangerous relationship and has
brought huge intellectual and emotional relief to the victims, it does not seem
to have gone very far in modifying the public misperceptions about psychopaths
or their victims. On a recent radio show, after describing the huge elevation
of some of the victim's temperament traits and explaining how it could affect
her patterns of selection and even tolerance in these relationships, the host
said, "That's a crock of crap! You're telling me that a few temperament traits
can do that? I don't believe it. She picked him, she stayed, she needs to own
it and she was probably abused as a child." These simplistic answers are
what have been, and continue to be, at the core of the abysmal lack of public
psychopathology education.”
“As mentioned, my research has revealed that
women who love psychopaths (and other Cluster B personality disordered
individuals) possess rather unique and extraordinary 'super traits' of
temperament that make them the perfect target/victim of the psychopath. While
the following does not cover all of her traits, these were the ones most highly
elevated and were thus likely contributing factors:
Here is
the research by Sandra Brown on what psychopaths look for in a romantic partner:
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Extraversion and excitement seeking (Psychopaths are also extroverts and excitement seekers.) In other words, these women started out being
the least dependent types on the planet!
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Deep Investment in all relationships (The victim gives great emotional, spiritual, physical, financial
investments in any of her relationships, not just the intimate ones.)
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Sentimentality
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Attachment – Deep bonding capacity (She has a deep bonding capacity.)
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Competitiveness – stand ground – not codependent (She is not likely to be run out of relationships – she will
stand her ground. Again, not the
co-dependent type at all.)
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Low Harm Avoidance – does not expect to be hurt (She doesn’t expect to be hurt, sees others through who she
is. In other words, not a person looking
to recreate an abusive relationship of childhood. In fact, more often than not, these women
were never exposed to abuse of any kind as children.)
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Cooperation
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Higher Empathy – can be genetic
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Responsibilty and Resourcefulness
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at
www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at
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