How to Change Your Life
By Patti Wood MA, CSP
What you resist persists and grows stronger. What are you resisting? Are
you resisting being mad at your boss, a family member or sweetie? Are you
resisting gaining more weight or exercising? Are you resisting changing a bad
habit?
Do you need to move toward something positive rather than sit back? Do
you need to move forward to what you want rather than pull away from what you
don’t want?
When you
stop resisting, let go and allow, you can release an enormous amount of energy
that is holding that resistance (or block) in place. It is like trying to hold
a huge beach ball under water all the time, it's exhausting. You can free up
that energy for the things that you want and not what you don't want or are resisting. And what we
usually resist is pain, or feeling our pain. The more you don't listen or
resist, the louder your pain has to shout.
It is interesting to me that when you set a goal to make a change in your
life how the universe offers both gifts to make that change and opportunities
for you to be challenged to not make the change.
For example, if you decide to make a change and say, “I don’t want to be
a victim. The universe may place you in situations where you would normally be
a victim. Your wallet or purse might be stolen, a relationship may have
conflict, or end and so may a job. In those situations you can say, “Why does
this always happen to me?” or you ask, “How can I act differently in this
situation so I don’t feel like a victim?” “How can I be strong in this
situation?” If you say, “I don’t want to get mad all the time,” the universe
may put you in situations where it would be easy to get mad. So you have the
choice to go down that path or say, “What could I do or say that would be the
opposite of getting mad.” Or “If you say, “I am ready to communicate more
effectively and say my feelings out loud.” You may be put in situations that
challenge you to do just that. Perhaps you have to say something to an angry
boss or sweetie or speak out against the team’s ideas in a meeting and risk
criticism. You can learn from the challenge and grow stronger like a racer who
moves from flat road to mountain peaks or you can sit on your sofa in your socks
saying your feet hurt.
What are you going to do to make your life better? Are you ready to grow?
Here are some recommendations:
1.
Say what you want rather than what you don’t
want.
2.
In the moment where you find yourself wanting
to do the old thing ask yourself what you could try to do differently.
3.
Be gentle with yourself if you do it the old
way and notice it!
4.
Get a support system.
5.
Don't wait until it feels right, start now!
6.
Share your goals.
7. Don't give up!
And remember. There is no such thing as a problem without a gift for you
in its hands.
