The broader your stance typically
the more powerful you feel or want to feel. There’s physics to it the more
space you take up the less of a pushover you are as well as a message of the
power you send to others. A standard stance for women is feet four to six
inches apart. So, you can slightly widen your stance, even an inch would help
you feel more grounded and powerful. Again you don’t need to make it a lot
bigger to have an effect on you. Even the choice to widen your stance shifts
your emotions and gives you a feeling of control over the situation.
So note, our feet communicate
exactly what we think and feel more honestly than another part of our bodies.
(Morris, 1985, 244) Generally, people are focused on controlling their facial
expressions and torsos and upper body while communicating, the feet are vital
to us responding to danger and stress we need them to freeze, flee, fight,
fall. By broadening your stance you look
like you stronger but don’t widen so much that the other person or people
think you have gone into full fight mode.
When you monitoring your self
check out your own feet how you feel about your self the topic or situation and
the other person or people you are with.
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
