They are also part of
our “uniform’ to communicate status, and wealth as well as an “artifact” that
communicated our style and personality.
When we take our shoes off we feel safe physically and psychology
and can shed our need to communicate are artifices like status and style.
For years as a body language expert, I have noticed how most people
become more comfortable and relaxed when they take off their shoes in a house
and interact.
The shedding seems to help us become kids again, unpretentious
and more vulnerable and playful.
Now shoe bottoms have been proven to carry germs, bacteria
and other pathogens so taking them off as we enter our home actually has a new
meaning.
I first noticed a shoe shelf at the door of my Physician nieces
family house years ago and it made me realize how serious
And that is my home and or your home is sacred and I want to
help you keep it safe so I shed the dangers I am carrying on my shoes when I
enter your home.
So now the act of taking off shoes by friends and home
service personal like plumbers and appliance personal seems an act of consideration
and honoring of
of your home.
I encourage shedding shoes at my house by having a special pretty
carpet and stand by the door where they see two pairs of shoes already there
and place for theirs
I don’t even have to say anything the “shoe station” communicated
the ritual for me.
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
