The broader your stance typically
the more powerful you feel or want to feel. There’s physics to it the more
space you take up the less of a pushover you are as well as a message of the
power you send to others. A standard stance for women is feet four to six
inches apart. So, you can slightly widen your stance, even an inch would help
you feel more grounded and powerful. Again you don’t need to make it a lot
bigger to have an effect on you. Even the choice to widen your stance shifts
your emotions and gives you a feeling of control over the situation.
So note, our feet communicate
exactly what we think and feel more honestly than another part of our bodies.
(Morris, 1985, 244) Generally, people are focused on controlling their facial
expressions and torsos and upper body while communicating, the feet are vital
to us responding to danger and stress we need them to freeze, flee, fight,
fall. By broadening your stance you look
like you stronger but don’t widen so much that the other person or people
think you have gone into full fight mode.
When you monitoring your self
check out your own feet how you feel about your self the topic or situation and
the other person or people you are with.
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
Patti Wood, another body language expert and author of SNAP: Making The Most Of First Impressions, Body Language, And Charisma, also commented on the exchange, noting that Trump appears to be most comfortable when engaging with the children. She notes that while Trump appears to "go in and out of a mask" with her smile, her actions and expressions to Grace are genuine. She turns "to talk to [Grace] with warmth and sweetness," Wood tells Elite Daily by email.
Wood also notes that there are a few moments where Trump isn't smiling or her face looks a little tense, which she interpreted as Trump appearing as if she was "told to act nice." But in the end, she "does a very nice job interacting with real warmth to the little girl," Wood opines.
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
Nonverbal communication is very powerful and
as I say in my book SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language
and Charisma, first impressions can affect your entire feeling about a person
or an event.
Last week I read the body language of trump
and Kim at the summit that trump claims led to a denuclearization agreement.
Even several of the eight journalist I worked with across the world on the
story thought that Trump won a concession due to his confident smiling body
language prior to off-camera Meeting.
Again in the handshake prior to the meeting and sitting at the conference table
at beginning of the meeting that he was confident and cocky and winner.
The problem is he didn’t get a real
concession in the agreement as you can read below. Many people I have talked to
including since that event think he won.
When we are presented with mismatches between nonverbal communication and a
verbal message our brain tends to rely on the nonverbal message to indicate the
truth. Once we form a first impression it is very difficult for us to change
it. But we do have the written agreement. Remember this is about nuclear war.
It’s important that we all take the time to read the actual agreement.
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
I was asked by The Independent to share my insights on the body language of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle during their engagement interview. Below are my insights and at the end is a link to the actual article. Harry and Meghan are openly warm, and affectionate and close
with one another. It is very sweet how
they hold hands through the interview. He shows his deep affection and desire
to be close to her by reaching out his hand in the handhold and lifting her hand
up to support her and resting it on her leg. We see he is willing to give love
to her, he doesn’t need to show more dominance by pulling her hand onto his leg. She is confident in his love and doesn’t need
to reach over submissively to his. The
actual hand hold is loose and open, allowing each of them some freedom and
showing how relaxed they are being connected to one another.
Note the turn taking and length of turn times in the couple.
Meghan quickly answers most of the questions from the interviewer, before Harry,
and takes significantly longer turns. This reflects her comfort in media
interviews and shows she is lead taker in this kind of situation. But, the way
she does it shows she loves him. Notice the low volume, softness timbre and
warmth of her voice. Those paralanguage qualities show she is both smitten and
softened in his presence from her louder, stronger baseline in media interviews
about her before this relationship. Very sweet. She also shows her love and
connection by turning to him to check in on her answers from the first
question, where she checks in on what they were cooking the night of the
proposal, “What were we cooking? … roasted chicken.” And they both laugh.
As they talk about the proposal, I just love the lift and
softness and femininity of her voice with rounded softly vocalized T’s, C’s and
D’s rather than clipped consonants and a lifting up of the voice at the end of
her sentences as if she is asking a question. (Even on responses where she is
not checking in with him, that is what submissive females do.) Significantly, throughout the interview, she
keeps turning her full head towards him to gaze at him. She makes a point to
state he got down on one knee, and shares that more to the journalist than to
him, in a way that indicated the prince got down on one knee to her. She has
power that she knows Harry recognizes. She didn’t deliver that information in a
purely gushy romantic way. But she IS smitten. She loves to look at him! Harry
is wonderfully animated with his free hand gesturing and smiling as they talk
about the ring.
As he finished the proposal story, notice how his head tilts
toward her to show his desire to connect and be seen as a couple answering the
question not just have it be his story. The very next question she jumps in and
answers, but again turns to check in with him. I just love how they each have
power and how they each check in with each other in a very nice dance. If they
keep doing this, two such confident people, they will make a very good couple.
I can see them finishing each other’s sentences in an interview 40 year from
now if they keep this up.
Note how she got very strong as Harry describes how they
first met and as he talks about their mutual friend. She turns to him and speaks loudly and
strongly over his turn, ‘’We... need to protect her privacy.” And how he softly
demure and repeats, “protect her privacy.” She is comfortable being strong with
him and setting boundaries about what they will share publicly, and he
nonverbally acquiesced without looking his significant as he continues smoothly
with the story and gestures strongly with a movement across both their bodies.
As she talks about the blind date, she also
gestures with her free hand as well. Nice balance for both. I loved how he is
talking about wanting a big background on her, see her head dip down in humble
embarrassment then as he says she walked and there she was, at time code 3:50
see how they both turn their heads and go into a long mutual gaze they recall
the moment they met together. They relive it right in front of us. Lovely. Next, he huffs, in a take a breath and, “I am
really going to have to up my game.” And she keeps looking on and smiling and
laughing.
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
