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Gwyneth Paltrow ski accident trial body language. Does Blinking a Lot Mean Your Lying? By Body Language Expert Patti Wood


In the footage from her testimony during the ski accident trial, there are some interesting insights about Gwyneth Paltrow. 

 In the video below Gweneth describes what happened her upward hand motions as she speaks are in synch with what she is saying which would indicate she is telling the truth. Her voice baseline is calm, and slow so blips from her baseline are revealing.  As she replies to the “assault” line of questioning. She blinks rapidly over her baseline and does what I call an “Eye Shade” holding her eyes shut for a moment longer than normal when she talks about, “this very strange grunting noise.” And she accentuates and elongates the word grunting in a way that doesn’t seem to match or align with the rest of her testimony. It would make more sense if the skies coming between her legs and her legs spreading upset her more, than the grunting noise. Yet she is emphasizing the grunting that would make it fit her narrative of him sexually assaulting her.

She did not appear likable during the trial.  Likeability is one of the four first impression factors I discuss.  It has been shown to affect the juror's opinions no matter what the evidence in the jury trial.  For example, she huffed and rolled her eyes and looked like a petulant teenager at certain points in the testimony. She looked like, "I don't have time for this nonsense."  I found that interesting as she is an actress and could have chosen to act differently. Her immaturity was so over the top and unlikeable. That is counter to her GOOP Branding that says, "I take care of my health and exercise, and if you follow me and buy my products you will have a calm serene healthy life."  Did she do that because she couldn't help herself? Was she coached to look indignant so the jury would disrespect the defendant? 

 In general, would you say blinking a lot while speaking is a sign that someone is lying? This is something many of us have heard, but is it actually true?

There are many reasons why someone could have rapid blinking. When doing a nonverbal assessment you consider the context of the situation the person is the circumstances what’s going on with a person. Then you analyze the baseline for that particular behavior for example normal blinking rate come ordinary circumstances is about 40 blinks per minute and as stress increases blank rate goes up to 70 blinks per minute or higher.  Ideally, you also want a baseline of what the normal blinking rate is, so it’s easier to rule out things like that person has allergies or allergies for other issues like that. Then you look at what I have named in the literature the timing of the tell. So, for example, if you look at what a person's blank rate is in a Courtroom setting how are they blinking most of the time what is their baseline in that situation. Then you look at how their baseline Great changes due to certain factors. For example when they ask a question and they’re stating their response, or when someone on the stand is saying something about them. (I analyzed OJ in the O.J. Simpson trial in the beginning of the trial he would do a full micro facial Q of a snarled with bare teeth when anyone on Stand said something negative about him, at a certain point in the trial he got a new lawyer and that lawyer got approval from the judge to give him an intense sedative and OJ lost all facial affect for the rest of the trial. 

-- Are there other reasons someone may be blinking a lot that has nothing to do with lying? Yes, allergies dry eyes pollen in the air like there is right now in Atlanta, or general nervousness. The first week I began doing  Nightly TV interviews for CNN and I noticed that I had a high blink rate because I both not nervous about being on TV the bright white lights in my eyes made me blink. I also noticed that I blink for the first 30 seconds or so of the interview but once I calm down I didn’t blink 
-- Do you have any thoughts about Gwyneth Paltrow's body language during her testimony in the videos that have been shared online? Is there anything you take away from her body language? If you send me some videos I’d be happy to do an analysis for you just quick videos would be all I need as I’ve watched some of the testimony but I’d rather look at the videos you sent to make that analysis. 
-- Anything else you'd like to add on the topic of blinking and lying?

And Various programs such as my establishing credibility and deception detection program, my risk assessment program, and my interview program teach questioning techniques to affirm you’ve made an accurate assessment. For example, if you ask someone a question and they do rapid blinking over 70 blinks per minute as they respond and that’s a blip from their baseline behavior you don’t say to yourself I know they’re lying. Instead, you change the topic to something totally different, and easy for them to answer to see if they stop blinking. And if they do you go back later and ask the same question and see if they begin to blink again. If it’s a critical issue that you need them to be honest about you can even do the same process a few more times. Then say for example in a job interview situation you would ask them what’s making them uncomfortable about answering the question. Nonverbal assessments should never be a “hey I gotcha” situation. Instead, you should come from a place of integrity and curiosity. The goal should be to create connections and establish a relationship with people so they feel comfortable telling you the truth,  rather than have to fear everyone is lying and expend energy trying to catch them. Research shows that people who are in the presence of an honest person with integrity are more likely to feel comfortable telling the truth 

Also once you start knowing noticing rapid blink rate is different from somebody’s normal blink rate you will notice it. You’ll begin to watch politicians and celebrities are interviewed on TV and your friends and family. Give your friends and family grace! Never say hey you’re rapidly blinking I know you’re lying! 

Does Blinking a Lot Mean Your Lying? 

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Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

The Five Steps to Deal with Negative Self-Talk By Keynote Speaker Patti Wood



1. Tune in to your body.
2. Breath and send you self-love
3. Use self-talk to see things differently.
4. Consider and choose the best behavior options.
5. Congratulate yourself.

Step 1. Tune in to your body.
When you're critical of yourself, you are the critical-thinking brain in your neocortex. You want to release the critic, turn it off so move to your emotional brain, where body language and feeling are processed. So the first step is to be inside your body. Be aware of how criticism may be negatively affecting your body, then shift or change that aspect of your body language. Next, you want to be aware of the physical signs of tension, so you can release it before it develops any further. Body signals indicate increasing negatively and what to do if you feel them.  

  • Tensing of muscles –move and let go and relax your body moving from the feet up.
  • Lowering your head - bring your head up. Let it lift as if a balloon holds it.
  • Your hands and arms and legs are pulling in to make yourself smaller – bring your limbs out. Spread your feet apart. Get big.
  • A change in your breathing. Perhaps your breath is shallower. -Breath deep.
  • A change in voice tone or volume, perhaps not talking at all, or a lowering of your volume and the strength of your voice. ---- shout or sing and yell out something positive.

Step 2. Take note of the message that you are sending yourself.

Realize you are in control. Say to yourself, "I am feeling negative about ____   right now. I chose not to let it get bigger, or I chose to let that thought go. Or I decided to change that thought. 

Step 3. Switch your negative message to positive self-talk to see things differently.

Learn to use a different kind of self-talk. The exact same situation will produce different emotions if you change your interpretation

Write out your negative message, then flip it and write the opposite positive message.
Write out the negative message, then write anything that you like about yourself and or are proud of.

  • Say, "Hey, I can deal with this.
  • I'm a creative person, and I may be stuck at this moment, but this moment will pass, and I will be in flow again.
  • I can stop this task for now and shift to some task that brings me pleasure and confidence.
  • True, things aren't going how I planned, but being negative won't help. How shifts my thinking? Or how can I still get something good/fun out of this?

 

Step 4. Consider and choose the best behavior options.
Do something to give yourself a physical release. Again, critical talk comes from the hemisphere so do things that activate your Take a brisk walk, Turn on some music and sing or dance. Go hear live music. Get in the car and take a meandering drive somewhere pretty. Take a shower. You can breathe in slowly and deeply. Play with your pet. You can imagine you are at the beach or in a meadow or looking at a stream or mountain. Bounce a ball.

Focus on any improvement of your abilities. One step at a time is fine.

  • Hey, I did that well. I am really proud of me! YES!

Interviewed several times a week by national media outlets for her expertise on nonverbal communication. Patti Wood. She is an Atlanta-based consultant, speaker, and author. And speaks to Fortune 500 companies and  associations on communication including "

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Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.