Patti Wood Dating Coach
Patti Wood is called the “Gold Standard” of Body
Language by the Washington Post and credited in the New York Times for
bringing the science of body language to national attention Patti Wood, is a
true expert. She is the author of ten books including, “Success Signals Understanding
Body Language and SNAP Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma.”
She is the body language expert who first analyzed Celebrity couple's body language
for the media, having a weekly article in US Weekly, Yes, and Ok magazines for
three years. She continues to be the go-to expert on celebrity couple’s body
language. Just google her name and a famous couple like the Royals, the
Kardashians, or Ben and Jen, as well are her name and the word Dating, Couples,
Signs He or She is Into You, Toxic behavior, and more.
She speaks to Fortune 500 clients,
and you may have seen her on Good Morning America, The Today show, ABC, NBC,
National Geographic, The History Channel, and National News Channels.
She is quoted every week in publications such as Business
Week, Psychology Today, The Wall Street Journal, Readers Digest, The Sun, Elite
Daily, and Fortune. She coaches business
owners and C-Suite level executives on Dating, Yes, that’s a niche because extremely
smart successful, and wealthy people can find dating challenging.
Patti doesn’t advertise or market
herself as a dating coach instead her clients find her. They may have been in an
audience in one of her speeches, read an article where she is quoted as an
expert, or may research and google the top body language expert. Often they
come to her for executive or public speaking coaching and then hire Patti for
dating coaching.
Patt’s Approach.
1. What do you think about dating apps?
I work with my clients to find alternatives to dating apps as they often have a
recognizable face and or name.
2. What are some tips you would give to
someone who has to go on a first date?
First I would help them reframe it not as “..
have to go…’ to a gets to go on an adventure.
We work on their first impression going over the four first impression factors Credibility
Likeability Attractiveness and Power to see how they come across to a potential
date. We practice, sometimes in front of a mirror and videotape on their phone
and review and I give coaching and feedback.
Instead of
saying “Do this because I said so.” We have conversations about what they think
of dating behaviors such as small talk. For example, I ask my clients what they
think about small talk. Many of my clients are Drivers and Correctors and or a
combination of the two on the DISC personality inventory. Drivers think small
talk is a waste of time and they want to rush through it and get to the good
stuff Correctors can perceive small talk as shallow, fake, and insincere. I
help them see the value in small talk so they look forward to it rather than approaching
it like a bite of bitter broccoli. We go over fun easy and interesting
conversation starters, questions to discover more about your date and follow-up
questions. I also give LOTS of coaching on how to listen.
3. What do you think of friends-with-benefits relationships? My opinion is not
important, helping my client discover if it's right and healthy for them and their
benefits partner is critical. We go over what they need to say out loud to make
it clear what they want and don’t want and how to ask their benefits partner
for their boundaries and expectations. I suggest they do “Updates and Check In’s”
to make sure they are both on the same page. I ask my clients a lot of questions
to see If they feel honored and respected and watch and observe their nonverbal
behavior. If I see signs that they don’t then I suggest they have a conversation,
change things or get out!
If they find themselves being unkind or unthoughtful or unhealthy in how they deal
with the other person, we talk about how that affects both people and creates a
pattern of communication that leads to an unhealthy romantic relationship with
a long-term partner. Once you allow yourself to be mistreated or become abusive
you begin to set down neural pathways in your brain that you will go down
automatically in your dating and romantic relationships.
4. What would you tell a client who needs
help getting out of the friend zone with the person they like? I suggest
testing the waters. Sometimes it's just a simple change in touch such as
putting their hand on the back of a friend to guide them into a restaurant or
touching the top of their hand to emphasize a point or as they laugh together at
a joke and being observant of their friend's response. We practice having open
honest conversations to test the waters. It is funny how simply saying, “ I
really like you.” And seeing how your friend responds Can be a relationship
changer.
5. In your opinion, what are some personality
traits men find irresistible in women?
Warmth, Confidence, Curiosity, Sexiness, Affectionate,
and my clients tend to be attracted to what they describe as a very feminine
woman. Some of my clients like Women who are shy in public, soft-spoken women
and I believe it’s because it’s a contrast to their personality and it makes a
good match for them.
6. In your opinion, what are some personality
traits women find irresistible in men? Confident, Funny, Warm, Affectionate,
Sexy, Easygoing.
7. How can people find you? Patti@PattiWood.net Thebodylanguagelady@blogspot.com
8. Two of Patti’s Books. “Success Signals Understanding Body Language and SNAP Making
the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma.”
