In
what circumstances might it be okay to send a breakup
Text? n what circumstances might it be okay to send a
breakup text?
If your relationship has taken place exclusively
in the "virtual world" via texts, phone calls, and or social media,"
then that is your established form of communication, and it makes sense that's
what you would use to end the relationship. If you are concerned or even afraid
or your partner's response to a breakout that you think would occur in face to
face or a phone call, then, by all means, stay safe and text your desire to end
the relationship. If you have only been dating a brief time and don't
feel there is a connection texting your wishes to stop, dating can work. In all
other instances, I don't recommend it as it can make ending things far too easy
for the texter, and they don't have to deal with the repercussions of their
choice. Using a text to stop a serious relationship doesn't give you the full
experience of a breakup. Texting goodbye doesn't teach you how to deal with
your emotions or how to communicate your feelings nonverbally in an open way,
nor does it help you read and deal with the sentiments conveyed nonverbally by
the other person. People need to feel what it means to make that choice, so
they learn to choose partners more carefully, communicate behaviors that are
making them uncomfortable as they occur in relationships, and invest in fixing
problems because they know the cost of ending a relationship.
A sample text you could send someone.
I am deeply sorry, but I am not feeling what I should be feeling in my heart to
continue the relationship. Its nothing you did, its how I think and there is no
way to change that. I am grateful for our time together, but I don't wish to
continue seeing you or communicating with you. Again, I am
sorry. Bye
