Carol King
and her husband wrote “You’re Beautiful
as you feel.” It’s a great song lyric, and a great thought. There are gender differences in how we feel
about our looks. Teenage boys and men tend to look in the mirror and think, “I
look great!” Teenage girls and women tend to look in the mirror or phone camera
and see what they don’t like and think they are not attractive. In the age of
selfies, we make faces in the mirror or change the angle of the camera and
tweak the photos to make ourselves more attractive rather than accept our true
selves.
I suggest
that for ourselves and our children every time you look in the mirror smile and
say something positive out loud like, “You Rock!” What a concept. Accept yourself and think you
Rock! You can also use other methods to build self-esteem in your children here.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
