Confusion, Cognitive Dissonance, Deceit and Malignant Narcissist’ Abuse. Tactics Malignant Narcissist Use to Abuse Their Targets

Confusion, not knowing what is truth or fiction, real or imagined can destabilize you an make you more susceptible to future deceit and abuse.  That’s why Malignant narcissists love to confuse you with mixed messages. It destabilizes you and makes you a great target for their abuse. 

In psychology, this tactic is called cognitive dissonance. An example, an abuser acts compliments and showers someone with compliments at work, gives them great projects and or jobs with perks then attacks them and comes back and says, but your a great guy and I would never fire you, then goes then attacks them again. The romantic narcissists acts lovingly, love bombs, then abuses, then comes back and acts more loving, this confuses the target. What is real. When someone makes promises you something, makes a commitment then pulls it back it affects your ability to trust. You don’t know how to act.  You can clearly see in the article that the Republican representatives are being abused by Trump’s use of cognitive dissonance.

 https://www.vox.com/policy-and-politics/2018/6/26/17505224/trump-rally-mock-mark-sanford-house-freedom-caucus)  

This is a dangerous situation as confused abuse victims will let their abuser do awful things in hopes of getting the sweet love they got before.

One of the key methods of emotional abuse employed by people with narcissistic tendencies is the generalized concept called cognitive dissonance. What this abuse tactic does is create in the target a sense of unreality, confusion, and a mind-set of not trusting his or her own perception of the situation. Leon Festinger (1957) was one researcher who studied the theory of cognitive dissonance. Essentially, cognitive dissonance occurs when humans experience a state of holding two or more contradictory thoughts or beliefs in their cognition at one time. The result is a state of anxious confusion and a desire to reduce the resultant overwhelm and unbalanced perception.

A simplistic, condensed example in a toxic relationship: an abuser professes love and divines a marriage date with his or her partner. The partner is courted, romanced, and ultimately falls in love with the abuser, not knowing that the abuser has ulterior motives (i.e., not staying in the relationship). The partner envisions wedding details and enjoys the courtship, flowers, and being placed on a pedestal. The abuser then suddenly makes a comment denying that he or she said anything about getting married. He or she goes on to say that the partner is “crazy” for thinking that. Blame is then projected upon the partner, and the partner is dizzy with confusion, recalling that, indeed, his or her significant other did discuss wedding bells and a future together.

The partner then experiences a state of cognitive dissonance—a hazy unreality of confusion. Such emotional abuse renders the target confused and reeling with heartache that the pace of the relationship has slammed to an abrupt halt, in addition to feelings of betrayal and being blamed.

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Character Assassination And Smear Campaigns, What Is Character Assassination? How Character Assassination Is Being Used Against The Parkland

The NRA is powerful. We know that it is being funded in part by gun and military weaponry manufacturers.
Far be it for the NRA to have any sense of moral decency the children from the Parkland School Shooting were victims of a terrible tragedy. They took off the mask of the NRA and the NRA chose to attempt to assassinate the character of children so they wouldn't be able to criticize them. 
and evil way to destroy someone who sees you for who you really are, who want to unmask you and show the truth is to attempt to destroy their character through vicious lies.

It works. In persuasion theory the first message sticks, any defense to clear your name is difficult if someone heard something bad about you and accepted it any information including the fact that the lie they believed was a lie will be difficult to "Unthink" as it caused cognitive dissonance, You have to admit not only that the information was false, but that you believed it and that might make you look stupid or foolish or gullible and your brain fights against that, often by holding on and defending the lie!!

And if the lie is perpetrated by a member of your tribe, be it religious tribe, political tribe or friendship tribe the resistance is stronger, as you might fear that changing your mind and believing the truth would get you kicked out of the tribe, or simply that you would have to believe something bad about a fellow tribesman. The fear of being abandoned  by your tribe is strong so people tend to stick

Wikipedia says that Character assassination is a deliberate and sustained process that destroys the credibility and reputation of a person, institution, organization, social group, or nation.^[1] Agents of character assassinations employ a mix of open and covert methods to achieve their goals, such as raising false accusations, planting and fostering rumors, and manipulating information.

Character assassination is an attempt to tarnish a person's reputation. It may involve exaggeration, misleading half-truths, or manipulation of facts to present an untrue picture of the targeted person. It is a form of defamation and can be a form of ad hominem argument.

For living individuals targeted by character assassination attempts, this may result in being rejected by their community, family, or members of their living or work environment. Such acts are often difficult to reverse or rectify, and the process is likened to a literal assassination of a human life. The damage sustained can last a lifetime or, for historical figures, for many centuries after their death.

“To assassinate someone means to kill, to take life in an underhanded way. To assassinate someone’s character means to kill or damage their character by any means possible.

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Weinstein's Smear Campaign

There is a specific deception technique Weinstein uses in his smear campaign of his accusers. If you look at his smears in the article below notice he compliments them before or as he says they are lying. This creates the illusion that Weinstein likes his accusers and is a nice guy therefore we should trust his other comments about them. When we hear good comments mixed with bad the cognitive dissonance created in the message, especially without nonverbal cues to check for honesty, tends to make our brains believe the smear. Freaky, but true. If we could hear and watch him, we might detect his smarminess. No, we can read it too.

https://splinternews.com/harvey-weinstein-is-saving-his-nastiest-smear-attempts-1821293136/amp


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