A Nonverbal Trick to Fall Asleep


I just read about this nonverbal trick to fall asleep.

Isn’t it frustrating when you can’t run off those racing thoughts and get to sleep?

You probably have experienced it, haven’t you?

You get in bed, pull up the blanket, flip off the light, take a deep breath…

And everything you’ve thought about, worried about during the day, worked on during the day, comes flooding back.

You can’t stop thinking about the things that you need to do tomorrow.

Your mind is overwhelmed with stresses, anxieties, the pandemic, and all the issues that are out of control.

Most people will tell you just to “Shut your mind off” and “Just stop thinking.”

But…

How do you do that?!

Well, this is how to flip the switch off on your racing brain.

Now, this technique might sound weird and unconventional but try and you’ll see how well it works.

Next time you get in bed, close your eyes and imagine as you are feeling different objects -- NOT see them, but feel without moving your hands.

Remember: The objects are moving - NOT your hands!

Feel their shapes.

Feel their textures.

Feel whether they are soft or hard on touch.

At first, it might take up to 15 minutes to concentrate your mind on this activity. Although, once you practice it daily you’ll be able to fall asleep in minutes!

Why does it work?

Basically, instead of trying to shut off all those racing thoughts in your mind, you simply refocus and concentrate on something that neither bores you nor interests you too much.


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Tips for Performance Appraisals and Giving Effective Feedback to Employees.



I speak and write about performance appraisals and giving effective feedback tied to specific examples of behavior.

What do you find has been the best way to
conduct employee reviews and/or mid-year reviews while working
Remote? Don't wait for the employee review to give feedback. Tell employees as soon as you see the good and or bad behavior that you like or don't like and discuss how they can continue good behavior for specific rewards and stop bad behavior to avoid specific consequences. A performance review should be a Review of information they have already heard. It's in the description of the task that it is a review. Don't SAVE your feedback for when you have time or avoid sharing feedback because it's bad. A review shouldn't have any surprises.

What kinds of conversations should both parties prioritize discussing
together and why is it important to have these conversations?

They should have prep conversations answering questions like

Do you look forward to your performance evaluation?

Can you give me your job description and is it clear what your job description is?

Have you ever been given a performance review and been surprised with new information?

Have you ever been reviewed on something you didn't know was part of your job description.

Do you see the performance evaluation as an opportunity to to grow as an employee?

 How can you set goals together

that allow strong performers to continue the great work? And if
someone is underperforming, how can you help get them back up to
speed?

 Ask them arere you comfortable being told to go to a workshop or work with a coach or me as your manager to achieve a goal  or change something  rated low on performance evaluation and/or being rewarded and grow by getting coaching or training?

 Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.

     

Why I think men are more comfortable than women offering personal data to brands. Expert in Gender Differences Patti Wood




A survey was to find out how comfortable people are sharing
their personal data to improve their customer experience in
various sectors. Across the board, we found men were more likely
than women to say they are 'extremely comfortable' sharing
personal data. For example, 36% of men said they're extremely
comfortable sharing personal data with a takeaway service,
compared to 19% of women, and 36% were extremely comfortable
sharing personal data with hotels, compared to just 18% of women.

As  an expert in gender behavior to provide a

This is why I think men are more
comfortable than women offering personal data to brands.

As someone who has spoken and written about gender differences for decades, I believe one of the most basic differences is that males, starting when they are small boys tend to play move and express outwards. Think of boys running with toy airplanes and rocket ships and cars moving through space with the bodies, making loud noises. And females stereotypically as girls starting at about age 5 move less, take up less space as they play and make less noise as they play.

 

We know that people that have power of expand take up more space have more open body language while people with less power and status tend to contract, close off the entrances to their body with their limbs and overall take up less space. Less powerful people, historically woman would there for share less information/ make less noise/ close off more of themselves with strangers. 



Called the “Gold Standard” of Body Language by the Washington Post and credited in the New York Times for bringing the topic to national attention Patti Wood, is a true expert. She creates high energy interactive programs, filled with humor, cutting edge information and valuable “Take Aways.” She is the author of nine books and she speaks and consults to Fortune 500 companies and associations. You see her on National TV shows like Good Morning America, CNN and FOX news, The History Channel and the Today Show. She is quoted every week in publications such as The Wall Street Journal, Psychology Today, Bloomberg Business Week, Fortune, Good Housekeeping, and USA Today.




Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

How to Improve Your Ability To Read People and Form Accurate First Impressions.





I teach my clients to improve their intuitive ability by noting body language and first impressions. For example, I share my “What is the first thing you notice when you meet somebody?” They partner with each other and share their answers. Remarkably, class after class, year after year, they say, : trustworthy, credible, authentic, honest, integrity.  Our primitive limbic brain picks up on nonverbal cues that help us “read” people. We can improve that intuitive read by consciously noting what are read of someone is and attaching words to our read, “Safe” “Not sage” “Be careful” “Doesn’t seem authentic” and then when we finish interacting with them in a single interaction even writing down our read and checking back later to see if we were accurate. Research shows that Judges tend to be more accurate at telling someone is lying because they have an intuitive first impression and at the conclusion of the court case they have a check/finding on their read.  I tell my audiences in my body language classes and my DiSC and Myers Briggs Communication Style training to implement a new step in entering their contacts into their phones and or other contact software. After the first meeting, phone or zoom call to put their own personal code words and or specific cues they noticed to state their first impression read and type of the person and then go back and see how accurate they are. 



Called the “Gold Standard” of Body Language by the Washington Post and credited in the New York Times for bringing the topic to national attention Patti Wood, is a true expert. She creates high energy interactive programs, filled with humor, cutting edge information and valuable “Take Aways.” She is the author of nine books and she speaks and consults to Fortune 500 companies and associations. You see her on National TV shows like Good Morning America, CNN and FOX news, The History Channel and the Today Show. She is quoted every week in publications such as The Wall Street Journal, Psychology Today, Bloomberg Business Week, Fortune, Good Housekeeping, and USA Today.












Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

New Soft Skills To Consider When Hiring in the Post Covid 19 Employment World

I am an expert on Nonverbal Communication/First Impressions and Interviewing.

  1. The transferrable soft
    Skill in 5 words or less.

Make a Great First Impression "Above the Mask"

2. Why this skill is especially
Important & attractive during these turbulent times Being able to present as safe and friendly is essential to front line workers who serve customers.

  1. An example of how a candidate demonstrated this to you during the
    Job application process. I have my clients put on a mask even when they do Zoom/video platform job interviews if they are hiring front-line workers and asking the applicant to do the same.   I have observed an applicant who did a great job at leaning forward, smiling above the mask, and matching and mirroring body language and paralanguage cues. (voice tone tempo etc.)

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  1. First impression/Zoom Box Impression.
  2. This is often the way that they will be communicating now. Do they have a Zoom Box impression that looks professional? Does it show they took time and care about their environments, such as not having a messy kitchen or distractions and noise in the background? Do they have the camera aimed correctly? Are they dressed and sitting professionally, and do they score possibility on the Four First Impression Factors of Credibility LIkeablity, Attractiveness, and Power. I have a chart of the factors that they should look for in a Zoom box impression so they can rate them on three point scale.  If they like the candidate but they didn’t like their Zoom box impression the chart gives them a way to approach a conversation with them before they hire them to see if they can improve their impression.

 

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.

Take Care,





Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.