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What Do We Look for on a First Date? Top Two Things We Look for on a First Date



According to research that I discuss in my book, SNAP Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma are Credibility Likeability Attractiveness, and Power on a first date we often prioritize attractiveness. The top two things we look for on a first date are. I think they are attractive

and humor. 

Attractiveness

We are attracted to bilateral symmetry – when the body or face is perfectly balanced – has a subliminal effect on first impressions Researchers have also found correlations between symmetry and health, which lends itself to the theory that in looking for a mate, humans and other animals look for those who will be most healthy and free of disease Research has shown that women are more attracted to men with more symmetrical features. One study even found that women have more orgasms during sex with men who are more symmetrical, regardless of their level of romantic attachment or the guy’s sexual experience. How about that?

 

Men are more likely to have their own personal physical ideal so on a first date they are looking for the qualities in the date to see how they rate with their ideal woman, as in short blonde, talk skinny with long dark hair etc,

Both genders look at the eyes first and are attracted to large pupils and find someone that gives healthy conversational eye contact more likable.

Appearing more dominant effectively draws the attraction of women. To attract women, stand with your feet 6-10 inches apart, and toes pointing outward

Research shows that women are attracted to men wearing the color blue. Blue is the color of approachability, stability, constancy, reliability and calmness

Humor is sexy.

 The research shows women like men who make them laugh, and men like women who laugh at their jokes.

Recent research suggests that while both men and women say they like a "good sense of humor" in a potential mate, they differ in what they mean by this phrase. Women tend to prefer men who make them laugh, whereas men tend to prefer women who laugh at their jokes. Gil Greengross and Geoffrey Miller found in a sample of 400 university students that general intelligence and verbal intelligence both predicted humor production ability (writing captions for cartoons), which in turn predicted lifetime number of sexual partners (a proxy of reproductive success).

 


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.