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Relationship Tips for Empaths by Human Relationship Expert Patti Wood.


What are the biggest challenges female empaths face in
Relationships?

Being taken advantage of by selfish, immature people or people who are unhealthy on the "path" range.

People with narcissistic tendencies are drawn to empaths, and deeply feeling people and narcs know that, on some level, they personally are lacking in emotional depth and substance. By being in a relationship with a nurturing, loving, empathetic person, the person with narcissism is able to consume that person's authentic love and extract narcissistic supply. Once fed over the course of days, weeks, or months, the person with narcissism is satiated and may grow bored with their partner. They must secure the supply of another target and or need so much narcissistic supply they create drama/trauma to extract it.

How can female empaths protect themselves in relationships?

The number one red flag for you to notice or point out to friends is, do you feel uncomfortable? Next, notice what is going on in your body. Are you feeling; overwhelmed, stressed, hot, cold, nauseous, headachy, tired, or overstimulated with behavior in a conversation or overall when you are with them? That's a sign that your central nervous system is alerting to danger with a FREEZE FLIGHT FIGHT FALL FAINT or Friend (play passively nice cause you are scared) response. 

Of course, we all want our relationships to be happy, but if your friend's or partner's happiness comes at the expense of yours, it is not healthy. If you are in a relationship needs constant attention and emotional validation, be wary. Empaths may define themselves as good, kind, caring people who forget to care for their own needs or expect loved ones to take care of them occasionally. Beware of

someone who monopolizes the relationship and who never compromises, just demands. narcissists tend to want someone "who is low in 'harm avoidance' and high in 'cooperation.'" If you tend to give in easily to the wishes or demands of others at work or in your personal life to avoid conflict, you might fit the ideal profile of a potential partner for a narcissist.

Suppose you often put your needs and opinions aside for the sake of avoiding conflict in the relationship. In that case, you'll more easily fall prey to a narcissist who thrives when others provide the empathy and attention they crave. Yes, being willing to compromise in a relationship is important but being a doormat isn't compromising.


What are the best traits female empaths bring to Relationships?

Empaths have the ability to understand the experiences and feelings of others outside your own perspective. You sense and feel what others are feeling. Their pain becomes yours their happiness becomes yours.

Empaths have an incredible ability to read nonverbal communication. Empaths pick up on cues, and you "Know" when someone is not themselves or feels down or depressed or off and have the desire to comfort them.

 Empaths want to help. It makes you feel good to be of help and service to others.

 Empaths show their emotions and are easy to "read" It's tough for them to lie as it makes you extremely uncomfortable to feel one thing and say another.

 Empaths tend to be great listeners, and because they internalize and feel what others are feeling, empaths can easily put themselves in someone else's shoes and give excellent advice.



Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.