I am an expert in body language, and I speak on dealing with
grief loss and trauma.
I remember the Day John Denver died I had an overwhelming urge to call my childhood friend Robin Wilkinson and share my grief with her. So I called her and we did, one of the best things you can do to deal with a celebrity death that affects you, we told each other stories about John and his music. We had so many memories! Times we had enjoyed listening to his songs together. Times we sang his songs in the car on the way to football games. Years that our friends at church gathered in a big circle and played Denver's songs on our guitars. I thanked Robin for giving me a John Denver album for a birthday present when I was recovering from getting my tonsils out. And she remembered I had played that album with her and cheered up immediately. It helped.
Here are 7 Techniques to Deal with a Celebrity Death that affects you. By Patti Wood.
- Find some of their "artistry" to relive
and enjoy the pleasure of what made them special. Play their music, watch
videos of their interviews, find their stand-up routines. Watch your
favorite movie.
- Share Stories about what you loved most
about their talent and memories you have of enjoying them. Reach out to
people in your life that you share memories attached to the celebrity's
artistry. Sharing positive stories about someone softens your grief and
honors them.
- Write down in your journal or online in
social media a positive memory or even more than one positive memory of
their artistry. Writing is a great form of healing. It gets thoughts out
of your body and releases them to the universe.
- Be ok with your grief. It is ok to be sad.
And even be sad and you think about different times in your life that have
passed.
- Reach out to that artist's community to
share your condolences and memories.
- If you're an artist of any kind, create some form
of art to honor them. Paint a picture, write a song, a joke.
- If you want
to move out of sadness, move your body. Do something to give yourself a
physical release. Grief operates in the right hemisphere, the limbic brain
so you can shift out of grief by moving. Take a brisk walk, turn on some
music and sing or dance. Go hear live music. Get in the car and take a
meandering drive somewhere pretty. Take a shower. You can breathe in
slowly and deeply. Play with your pet. Bounce a ball.
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.