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Safety Tips for Concert and Festival Attendees, How to Deal With Crowds, Recommendations for Crowd Safety From Body Language Expert, Patti Wood

 

These are tips that I not only recommend as a body language expert but also as 5 foot one petite blonde concert, and music festival attendee use. 

Tips

  1. Know your territory. That may involve getting a map and studying it carefully before the event begins so you know where the stage or stages, exits are. If you can rather than just knowing that there’s a map somewhere on your phone if you can print out the map too. 
  2. Get there early. That way you can see the space and again study your territory the stages in the exits. 
  3. Introduce yourself and your friends to security. Make sure you feel safe and comfortable with them and ask them how things are going how they’re reading the crowd. I use to train law enforcement officers so I go a bit above and beyond and ask if they need a soft drink or a snack. 
  4. Make plans with your friends for what you would do and where would you meet should someone get lost or some emergency happen. Have a backup to that plan. 
  5. When you get to your seat or to the stage look around again. Note the different exits from your seat or your standing position. Note any barriers that may be in your way. Always look for exits to your side in front of you and behind you. 
  6. Read the crowd. Your central nervous system is your best friend in potentially dangerous situations. Check-in with how you were feeling in your body to note whether there is danger. If you see agitated or angry people move away from the space as quickly and calmly as possible to somewhere safe, knowing that may be the exit. Aggressive behavior usually involves people not only raising their energy level but forming nonverbal cue gesture cues that are sharp-edged elbows out weapon-like hands in our motions and fast unpredictable motions. Your primitive limbic brain picks up on these cues before your neocortex. You may not be able to formulate words as to why you’re feeling uncomfortable but your body knows. Move away from danger. Every crowd has energy and crowds that are dangerous or recognizable if you’re paying attention. There’s a difference between excitement and being pulled into that wonderful uplifting excited dancing singing together crowd energy and dangerous energy. If you feel it flip and you feel scared move away and out of the crowd. 
  7. Know that the response to danger is not just flight or flight it’s also freezing in place faint or fall. If you find your body wanting to freeze in place that’s a sign you’re in danger move away from the danger. Override whatever social norms there are about having to be “cool” or not look afraid or be nice to dangerous aggressive or rude people. Move away from them. 
  8. If you are small or if you stumble in a loving mob, tell those around you I need help shout, "Lift me up" "I need help lift me up." 
  9. In preparation, if you can bring a clear plastic case for your phone in some sort of lanyard that you can wear around your neck it can be helpful. In a dangerous crowd,      situation trying to hold your phone as you move through the crowd can be dangerous you may need both hands. 


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Song in Honor of My Dad - Morning Breaks


Years ago, shortly after my father died, I carried the groceries into the kitchen from the car and as my mother watched me, she broke down and started crying. I asked her what was the matter and she said, "The whole time we were married your dad did that for me" "We shopped on the military base and I never pushed a grocery cart or brought in a bag of groceries." I wrote the original draft of this song over a year ago in honor of my dad. I wasn't satisfied with it and shelved it, but the chorus haunted me, So on Memorial Day, when I was missing my dad, I tweaked it and wrote two new verses to see if it would work on my new album.
Morning Breaks
I take a deep breath in when people ask me how I am.
I nod and smile, say I’m fine, and ain’t the weather grand.
At the Piggly Wiggly I push the cart all by myself,
Can’t reach the can of peaches up on the top shelf.
At the corner store, I get nails to fix the fence.
I shore up what’s falling down, paint on pleasantness.
I sew new curtains for the windows, cut coupons, and make lists.
I dust and sweep and scrub away, a pretend perfectionist.
Chorus
And every day is a waiting game
Brave face for my brave guy
You’re doing your duty I know
But when morning breaks, so do I.
At night, when it gets dark, I turn the porch light on.
I cook dinner, eat just half, then I call your mom.
In bed, a romance novel is the only company I keep.
I can hold it, till I drift off, shut my eyes and sleep
And every day is a waiting game
Brave face for my brave guy
You’re doing your duty I know
But when morning breaks, so do I.
Bridge
I can keep it all together for you, in the perfect picture frame.
Till dawn comes, and you’re not here again
When Morning Breaks I cry, I cry, I cry!
When Morning breaks so do I




Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Body Language of Bradley Cooper and Lady Gaga's Steamy "Shallow" Performance Body Language Insights, Patti Wood

There's absolutely no question that Bradley Cooper and Lady Gaga have on-screen chemistry. Their Oscar-nominated A Star Is Born performances are testaments to that. And thanks to their clear, err, comfort levels with each other, everyone who has an internet connection has speculated that there's been an off-screen relationship brewing as well—regardless of how unfair those rumors are to Cooper's girlfriend, Irina Shayk.
There's absolutely no question that Bradley Cooper and Lady Gaga have on-screen chemistry. Their Oscar-nominated A Star Is Born performances are testaments to that. And thanks to their clear, err, comfort levels with each other, everyone who has an internet connection has speculated that there's been an off-screen relationship brewing as well—regardless of how unfair those rumors are to Cooper's girlfriend, Irina Shayk.
What struck body language expert Patti Wood, author of Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma(and, frankly, everyone else watching) was their extended, atypical, unbroken eye contact.
91st Annual Academy Awards - Show
Sure, it was a carefully choreographed performance, but Wood says this mutual gaze was a “longing to touch” or a "pre-coitus" stare. "That’s why everybody went crazy watching it!" Yep. Felt that.
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Patti Wood, MA, Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Body Language of Emma Roberts & Evan Peters for Life & Style Magazine, By Body Language Expert, Patti Wood

Body Language Read of Emma Roberts & Evan Peters for Life Style Magazine by Expert Patti Wood







Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Being a Body Language Expert, Article on Patti Wood in the AJC



Feature article on Patti Wood today in the Atlanta Journal Constitution.
Expert reads signs in gestures
Nonverbal cues can speak volumes.
Electronic interaction has hidden messages, Decatur woman says.
BYLINE: Chandra R. Thomas
For the AJC
DATE: December 30, 2009
PUBLICATION: Atlanta Journal-Constitution, The (GA)
EDITION: Main; The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
SECTION: Living
PAGE: D1

It seems there aren't many downsides to being a body language expert, but if Patti Wood had to choose one, what she'd say sounds a lot like a quote from the flick "The Sixth Sense." Instead of dead people, though, she laments, "I see everything!"

Decatur-based Wood doesn't have visions of corpses dancing in her head but, known in media circles as one of the world's top nonverbal communication experts, she does live in a space where every smile, gesture, handshake and even the way one stands speaks volumes about who people are and how they're feeling. It can be challenging sometimes tuning out the subconscious messages that most of us overlook every day.

"I believe everybody has the ability to read body language and nonverbal communication, but it takes time to learn how to pick it up," she says. "My friends always joke with me about 'revving up my superpowers."

The rest of the article can be found in today's Atlanta Journal Constitution. the link to AJC.com is here. http://www.blogger.com/post-create.g?blogID=19741562
If you have any difficulty getting the article please feel free to email Patti
Patti@PattiWood.net If you like the article or want more info you can send and email to the AJC if you are in the web version of the article scroll down and put a note in the box.


Patti Wood
The Body Language Expert
Web- http://www.PattiWood.net
I have a new quiz on my YouTubestation. Check it out!
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How did you play as a child?

I have a question that I love to ask people at whenever I whenever I am with a small group say at a dinner party. I ask each person what was their favorite thing to do as a child between the ages of 6 and 10 and then I ask them what they do for living. I love how often people share how their childhood play became their adult work. A friend who took apart every electric thing in the house became and engineer, a friend that painted and drew became and artist, a friend who liked to figure out how things where made and how they could be made better became a six sigma process engineer, a friend who loved to read and write became and editor and writer for NASA.

I would love to know how you played and if your childhood play effected what you choose to do as an adult.

I am one of the luckiest people on the planet. I use to do “shows” as a kid. I would be Herman of the Hermits and sing and dance with my friends on the porch of our house. I was Queen of the Cooties on the playground and the leader of all the games, whether it was who can make the biggest bubble with the bubble maker, built the best fort, or who can make the snowman that last the longest on the lawn. From forth grade on I also loved to watch people and I would write little poems and songs about what I saw, I carried a little notebook with me all the time from forth grade till college and filled it with my fun observations. And even learned to play the guitar so I could sing them. I loved playing and I loved the game of watching people and trying to figure out their secret story. Now I get to do it all my favorite play as living. I am a body language expert and I am a professional speaker and trainer and get to play with my audiences. (See my website for videos of how much fun we have.)

Obama's Inauguration and Body Language

Here are my first thoughts of Obama's Body Language today... I think that the 13 minutes late to the church communicates his sense of importance. His smile was large and genuine. More body language reads to come...

Embracing Femininity at Work As Featured in GlassHammer.com

Do you think women should embrace their feminity at work?

Read this article where Patti is Quoted: http://www.pattiwood.net/article.asp?PageID=8244

And I invite you to come back and post your thoughts, questions and comments here!
Do you think women should embrace their feminity at work?


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And I invite you to post your thoughts, questions and comments here!

That’s so rude!

There are times when someone’s nonverbal communication is so unbelievably rude you wonder if the person is clueless or just visiting from another planet. I rarely rant in my blog but after being interviewed recently for my nonverbal stories on techie rudeness I wanted to share some stories.

I was sitting in a packed plane that was delayed on the ground for an hour. The guy sitting next to me was talking on his cell phone, quite loudly with his one night stand from the night before; about all the things they did...everything...in detail for over and hour. No request from me could make him stop he just got louder. Everyone around him was squirming as he kept talking using very explicit language and repeating the phrase, “You where so drunk last night.”

I am a professional speaker and set ground rules in my programs so people respect everyone in the audience and don't use their cell phones, type, twitter or do "hip checks" on the blackberry’s. I do that because I know how frustrating it feels to be an audience member when a fellow participant is being rude. At one convention a few years ago I stayed to here the next speaker. A guy in one of the front rows cell phone rang and he took the call and started talking got up walked down the center isle to the last row and paced the back of the room talking loudly on his cell phone. It’s as if the other 100 audience members where not there. AHHGGGG!
What are your “That’s so rude!” stories?

The History Channel Presents "The Secrets of Body Language" - See Patti's Feature in This Compelling Program!

Patti Wood is on a History Channel special this month entitled, “The Secrets of Body Language”
She is one of the leading experts in Nonverbal Communication in the world who were interviewed about how to read body language and paralanguage (voice.)

The next airing of the History Channel body language special will be this Saturday, October 18, 2008 at 5:00 EST.

If you would like to contact Patti about speaking or coaching please go to her website for contact information at http://www.pattiwood.net/

Vice Presidential Debates--Palin and Biden’s Body Language

My Ramblings on Body Language:

The non interaction rule set by McCain’s team worked to Biden’s benefit. His usual over the top anger and ranting was much more restrained. Yes, Biden was angry. Yes, he pointed and used one handed and two handed chopping motions to make his points, but this time his anger made Biden appear earnest and sincere.

Yes, he got angry at Palin very early in the debate and he occasionally pointed his finger at her and many times he jumped in to say she was wrong before he was called on. Still, he could have been more attacking and he would have looked far worse.

Palin started with a smile and kept a smile on for most of the debate. Click here to hear my comments on the O'reilly Factor: http://www.pattiwood.net or read the interview below.

Palin walks the “B line” well.
What is the B line?
Well, women have to walk a line between being too feminine and being perceived as weak or going too far to the other side of the line and being perceived as a B***ch. Powerful women have the hardest time with it. Hilary Clinton didn’t have a problem choosing. She stayed strong and in doing so came across too far on the “B side”.

Palin wants to be more feminine so she uses her beautiful beauty queen smile to mask her anger. At times, especially near the end of the debate, the smile became a “snarl” and made her look condescending. We don’t like “masking smiles” on powerful people.

Palin did a little blinking when she started but not the highly nervous 50 to 60 blinks per minute or the 80 blinks per minute often called the “Nixon effect”. She went to her strength, her down home folksy manner of delivery. Her little "betcha’s" and other contractions were a little much when she talked about the big issues, but overall they evoked a “ Reaganistic” warmth and the approval ratings soared. Tune in for more as I talk about Palin’s winks and Biden's head tilts later...


To view my ABC News article and more on this subject visit my site.

Media Frenzy....

In the last month I have done a weekly “Will they last?” piece for OK! Magazine, Three Cosomo interviews, As well as interviews for Men’s Health, Esquire, Glamour, AOL, Fox News, ABC news, Womens world, Sugur (UK publication), Life and Style weekly, The Sun (Canadian publication), America’s Best, and many more TV, print and online publications and radio interviews. Do to my busy speaking schedule I have also had to turn down requests for Larry King Live, The Big Idea, Fox News, and Access Hollywood. I look forward to reading the candidates more as the election draws closer.

Mens Health - Great Eye Contact Question...

I recently helped to answer a question on Mens Health - Maybe you can benefit from my answer...

Question: I struggle to maintain eye contact. Can you help? Matt, Boston, MA

Answer: First, understand why you're loathe to lock eyes. "When you feel dominated, anxious, or shy, you look away as an attempt to regain control, disengage, and limit how much information you take in," says John Dovidio, Ph.D., a psychology professor at Yale University. So before any important conversation, make a conscious effort to rein in your addled emotions. If you're still struggling with eye contact, take the advice of body-language expert Patti Wood, M.A., and "split your attention among the person's mouth, eyes, and cheeks." This makes wandering eyes less obvious. And don't stop trying: University of Colorado researchers found that meeting a person's gaze makes you seem powerful and credible.

Mortgage Banker's Association

I recently spoke to the wonderful people of the Mortgage Bankers Association.

Here is a picture from the day...