Patti Wood Body Language Expert Blog : Feb 15, 2020

Malignant Narcissism and the "Collapse of Time" That Makes their Pain Never Ending

Many of you know I write about malignant narcissism. This article explains “ The collapse of time phenomenon” that explains among other things, why malignant narcissists lie with such conviction! They have to need to stay in the present moment. And why they bring up past events in a never-ending fashion and seek revenge!

Most of us have a sense of time that is liner like we are traveling on a train.

With a “collapse of time” events that occurred years ago carry the same emotional power (and impact upon decision making and behavior) as events occurring at the moment.

So a Malignant Narccissts lies to protect himself/herself at that moment.

Past hurts, hurt, just as much as they did when they first occurred so the MN’s pain is never-ending.

Since time is not linear, They need to save themselves now at this moment at any cost to anyone and don’t think about how their actions affect the future. Consequences don’t matter. There is no possibility of redemption.

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/eternal-emperor-in-his-own-mind-the-distorted-reality_b_5929abfee4b07d848fdc0429?fbclid=IwAR2dr7RyZS_wftBNUGnHDd5pr3lMFJ_XmjK6ns0A3otNfo0J0H1aa3qNPro

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.

Hitler and a child Body Language Read by Body Language Expert Patti Wood

I am an expert on Hitler’s body language and have watched 100’s of hours of videos of him as well as over 1,000 still photos of him. He was none for planning meticulously and rehearsing for not just his speeches but also his one on one meetings. He would find out about his "audience" and create a character and script to create whatever result he wanted.
But I noticed that Hitler when caught not being "on", seemed incredibly uncomfortable and awkward in his interactions. He had to have his "Mask" on.

I saw this in Photo "OPs" with Children. See the photo below.
He never seems to really connect, instead, he seems like an outsider looking on. This photo shows exactly that. The child with a sun-in-her eyes unhappy squint is focused and facing the photographer confidently posed and right elbow back and her right elbow out and back in a “power block” to Hitler from getting closer while Hitler sits behind her slightly hunched forward and left hand awkwardly and passively placed between his legs.
This photo reveals something that I see in Hitler his lack of full confident self-esteem when he is not fully “on” and in Character as well as his awkwardness with Children who have the ability, because their reliance on nonverbal cues rather than fancy words, can have the ability to see to a person’s true soul.

In high school, I was in a special summer program for gifted kids in German language and history. I spoke German before I spoke English because we lived in Germany when I was a child and I was fascinated with l all aspects of World War II from Toddler age when our German housekeeper/nanny would dangle the bangles of gold on her wrist that held her wealth. In the summer program, I began to study Hitler’s body language and overall communication and persuasion style. I continued to read everything I could get my hands on about World War II and Hitler. I had to figure out how someone so evil had risen so high in the power and been adored by the masses.
In my master's program I did research on Hitler’s body language and persuasion style. In the following years as I begin in earnest to analyze politicians and world leaders and as I consulted with the media I looked for similarities and differences in their styles to my knowledge of Hitler's behavior. I discussed them in my credibility deception detection intensive one to three-day workshops. I’ve also discussed him in several documentaries.
This photo was taken after a 10-hour shoot I did for a six-part documentary on Hitler called “Hitler, the rise and fall” it was on the history channel for a while and on Amazon. With a six-part documentary I did three months of intense research analyzing photos and videos some of the films had never been released to the public and was only accessible with special permission for my use for the documentary.

https://www.gettyimages.com/…/german-dictator-adol…/333182

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.

Bruce Jenner Olympic Wind, Victory Body Language By Body Language Expert Patti Wood, Kaytlan Jenner

See how his arms rise in victory! Arms rise above his head, to show victory. His arms are stretched out wide exposing his heart and chest which shows bravery and fierceness He also has his hands raised in fists to show us he feels that he has won the battle through his strength and determination. We also see his face eyes raised mouth open in what I label an open-mouthed “victory roar” we can’t hear it but the expression and sound are other signals of fierceness.

Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth Body Language Expert Patti Wood

This took me to many photos so I attached the one I read. Overall, in "couple photos", I look to see if they have a mutual site line/focus for their eyes and how their torso and limbs isolate or intertwine. Though Here they just look like paper dolls cut out and pasted together in their photos. Though the sides of their body are slightly overlapping here which should be a good sign their outer limbs and hands are close to their sides and with his hand in his pocket pushing down and in tensely. Their facial expressions both are wistful and sad. Note both have lowered upper lids and their mouths pull-down and how his eyebrows are asymmetrical showing mixed emotions as he tries to look happy, but can’t

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.

Trump Rebuffing Pelosi's Offer of a Handshake at the Beginning of Debate Where She Ripped, Body Language Expert Iconic Photo

Much has been said of House Speaker Pelosi ripping up her copy of Trump’s State Of the Union Address but not everyone saw this moment where Pelosi put out her hand at the beginning of the State of the Union as she takes the address he offers with her left hand and Trump who just handed it to her and should have initiated the shake at that time see her hand out and the moment later, not photographed where he rebuffed her outward stretched hand. This is iconic because of the controversy including those who said he didn’t see her hand, when clearly in this photo he sees it. What’s also interesting are the facial expressions and other cues Pelosi is leaning forward actually giving Trump a soft smile and her full eye contact as she extends her hand with the fingers tightly and tensely held together, one finger even bent and folded over the others and hand-stretched out and downward. She is showing she wants to fully engage with Trump and shake hands, but it’s not a passive shake offer, nor are the fingers curved in friendship. Trump is looking right at her outstretched hand and leaves his arm down at his side and fingers curved down and towards himself. You see his hand in the curved position your hand typically takes to shake hands and he even has the hand at the ready at the waist position. But his shoulder points to her in slight “cold shoulder” position instead. Notice his downward turned “bad taste in my mouth” and chin and jaw withdraw facial expression.

Sailor's Kiss in Times Square at the End of the War

Not everyone knows the background of this famous kiss so let me give you the nonverbal cues that give you insight. This is our iconic image of a passionate kiss, but the kiss is really only the man being very intense in passionate. Notice how his large right hand is holding her in close to him and how awkwardly his left arm crook holds her head and how the fingers of his left hand are not caressing but tensely held together. And see how his kiss pressed down on her face and she doesn’t move up and towards him. ( Fingers gently curved and touching indicate tenderness and intimacy and I don’t see that here. )Notice her left arm how its pulled back rather than wrapped around him and look closely at the modified fist her curved fingers tense fingers are formed in. This is suppressed resistance and that is also seen in her twisted posture. See how her upper body is being pushed backward and

her head is not pressing towards the kiss. If you look from the legs to oddly hanging arm and body you can see she looks like a soft mannequin or doll limp and passive rather than actively and willingly participating in the kiss. When you under stress one response is to go limp and that’s what she is doing.

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.

The famous kiss in Times Square in 1945 Sailor's Kiss Body Lanaguage Expert Patti Wood

Not everyone knows the background of this famous kiss so let me give you the nonverbal cues that give you insight into what really happened. This is our iconic image of a passionate kiss, but the kiss is really only the man being very intense in passionate. Notice how his large right hand is holding her in close to him and how awkwardly his left arm crook holds her head and how the fingers of his left hand are not caressing but tensely held together. And see how his kiss pressed down on her face and she doesn’t move up and towards him. ( Fingers gently curved and touching indicate tenderness and intimacy and I don’t see that here. )Notice her left arm how its pulled back rather than wrapped around him and look closely at the modified fist her curved fingers tense fingers are formed in. This is suppressed resistance and that also seems in her twisted posture. See how her upper body is being pushed back and her head is not pressing towards the kiss. If you look from the legs to oddly hanging arm and body you can see she looks like a soft mannequin or doll limp and passive rather than actively and willingly participating in the kiss. When you under stress one response is to go limp and that’s what she is doing.

Michelle and Barrack Obama Dancing Analyzed by Body Language Expert Patti Wood

I love the softly intertwined fingers in this photo. I always look at the hands of couples to see how relaxed the fingers are and how they wrap, rest and intertwine and here we see relaxation and intertwining and note how the fingers on both hands go up at the ends. That shows strength in both partners. His eyes are focused on her with desire and his pursed lips are mimicking the kiss he is imagining giving her and you see her look down and mouth pull up and in crumbled pout of tender “happy tears.”

Nixon Resignation Photo Body Language Expert Patti Wood

Nixon shows a mixture of emotions The downward gaze and eyebrow and upper eyelid droop of sadness while his nose wrinkles up in disgust and his raised upper lips with the left side of the lip raised higher and the downward turn of his mouth shows suppressed contempt. What is so interesting is that he hold his iconic thumbs-up gesture at slightly below his shoulder level, in the last effort to show he is a winner and that all is well. It's quite the juxtaposition as it doesn’t align with his facial expressions and it effects how we now view all photos of him with his thumbs up before this one.

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