I am a body language expert who speaks and writes on charisma, narcissism and other dark triad behaviors. Malignant Narcissist, may use nonverbal behaviors as tactics to manipulate their targets in the different stages of their abusive romantic relationships. They seem to follow a playbook as their pattern of behavior in their relationship is always, follow the same three stages, Idolize, Devalue and Discard. And typically they cycle through the stages again and again in what is called, “Rinse and Repeat” Confusing their targets as they go from incredibly attentive and loving to mean and cruel. Eerily the first stage they act out, “Idolization” can last for a weeks, months or even the first 20 years of a marriage. What stage they are in and what nonverbal behaviors they select depend on what is happening in their game. Narcissists use their target as a source of narcissistic supply. They feed on the targets emotions like a vampire. That supply may be gained from the attention love and adoration of their target and or the pain and anguish of their target and or the narcissistic rush from seeing the confusion of the target as they “dupe” them. Without “supply” Narcissists feel they will metaphorically or physically die) The Narcissists will cycle through being sweet and or mean toward their targets in order to get the most supply. So what may seem like loving, affectionate, ideal lover behaviors of a healthy person are “acted out” by the narcissists to gain supply? If someone is not sure if they are n healthy relationship or not. They should check in with their feeling, emotions and limbic system’s stress responses when they are with their partner and note if they feel drastic shifts in emotions in short periods of time, from high to low, and or they feel drained tired, confused, scared or other negative emotions in excess as those are that are not normal feeling if you are with a healthy romantic partner
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