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How Can You Get Follow Through From Someone.

How Can You Get Follow Through From Someone. Vocal and Nonverbal methods for getting what you want.

The Law of Consistency- People have an inherent need to perform in a manner consistent with how they see themselves and how they think others perceive them.

If you believe in the person's ability and success tell them. When you make a request, let him know you believe he is the kind of person who follows through. As you make a request, make sure your posture, eye contact, facial expressions and the tone of your voice are consistent with the positive statements you are making.

“You are the kind of person who follows through.”

”You’ve always impressed me with the ability to…”

“I’ve always liked the fact that you…”

Do not say,

“I have some doubts you will be able to get this done on time.”

“I am anxious about you getting this done.”

“I know this will be a problem.”

This only provides and opportunity for them to make an excuse or back out.

Try instead

“You know, Sara, I really appreciate you helping me out.”

“I respect the fact that you’re the kind of person who follows through on things.”

“Thank you in advance for doing what I know will be a great job.”
This is an effective way to make requests.
These persuasion techniques work with friends, your family, your co-workers, and your employees.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

The Way You Pucker Up Reveals A Lot About Your Relationship


From a perfunctory peck to a passionate embrace, the way you and your man pucker up reveals a lot about your relationship. And it's not just the lip action that counts - how you hold onto your honey also tells a secret or two about your bond, says Atlanta -based body language expert, Patti Wood. She has analyzed a few star smooches for First For Women to figure out the true feelings behind their camera kisses. To get a reading on your relationship, grab a photo of you and your man locking lips and match it to one of the kissing couples. Next, go to the link to find out what Patti reveals about the smooch!
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Facial Expressions Tell The Story


Chucky may look "happy and confident" in the first pic at the left according to Patti Wood, body language expert and author of People Savvy, but she goes on to tell ESPN that the feeling didn't last. Patti analyzes Gruden's facial expressions on the day Tampa was eliminated from playoff contention. Check out what's revealed in pics 1 - 5 at the link below!
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

How Do You Get Someone to Be Honest and Not Lie to You?

The Law of Honest Feedback

Make requests throughout your delivery and ask for agreement with each point and sub point.

Getting honest feedback is inherently difficult. The next few posts will give you different methods to get honest feedback. The following techniques and exercises are in my book and in my workshops.

The Law of Honest Feedback-

Make requests throughout your delivery and ask for agreement with each point and sub point

“It sounds good to me.” “How does it sound to you?”

“It seems reasonable to me.” “How does it seem to you?”

“It feels like a good choice to me.” “How it feels to you?”

Be ready to seem surprised, but not upset if they do not agree. Also, make sure you listen to their doubts carefully without interruption



Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Bishop Eddie Long's Body Language after Sexual Molestation Allegations

More on my interview on CNN reading Bishop Eddie Long's body language,
Bishop Eddie Long's Body Language in his sermon after Sexual Molestation Allegations
When you are doing a body language analysis of someone suspected of wrong doing you go through a multistage process. One of the first steps is to compare the person's behavior with a baseline of what a normal innocent person's body language would be in the circumstances. You also take into consideration what the normal behavior would be for a power person (celebrity, politician, sports figure or in this case popular minister of a large congregations' behavior would be in these circumstances. Innocent people who are accused and the in the grip of media attention want to speak, they want to speak about their innocence, they want to speak as soon as possible and they want to speak continually until they know you believe in their innocence. Even if Bishop long was advised by his lawyers to "..not try the case in the media." I believe if he was totally and completely innocent of the molestation charges he would have said he was innocent of those charges. Instead he used the confusing phrase that, "I am not the man portrayed in the media.' Even someone guilty of the charges, could believe he was not a "bad" guy. Believing yourself to be "portrayed" differently than you see yourself is not the same thing as not having committed a crime. Recently, I watched a murderer's testimony of killing two of his ex girlfriends. He said, "I am not a bad guy." "I was angry." "I regret the killing ----(the second) girlfriend." "I wished I hadn't done that." He regretted killing the second girlfriend, because that led to his arrest! . But he believed himself to be a good guy.
In the Bishop Long sermon he also nodded his head counter to his statements several times a clear cue of deceit, he also did tongue thrusts of passive aggressiveness. More later. Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.