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Babies' Babbles

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My 11 month old niece Ava recently got a little Karaoke machine with a plastic microphone. Ava has enjoyed singing – well sort of singing – well let’s say she enjoys putting the entire microphone into her mouth and babbling. This new research study shows a relationship between which side of a baby’s mouth moves first when babbling (the right) and the link to the language centers of the left hemisphere.

Babies' Babbles Linked to Brain's Language Center

BySarah Graham

Just a few minutes around a newborn is enough to get anyone babbling like, well, a baby. But just what drives an infant's babbles remains a matter of much debate. Some scientists posit that the sounds result from a baby's attempts to gain control over his mouth, tongue and lips and, therefore, are not related to language. A second hypothesis holds that babbling instead represents a key step on the way to speaking real words. New research published today in the journal Science further supports the latter theory--scientists say they have linked baby babbling to the brain's language-center.

By studying videotapes of 10 babies between the ages of five and 12 months, Laura Ann Petitto of Dartmouth College and Siobhan Holowka of McGill University examined the degree of symmetry between the right and left sides of each baby's mouth. The brain's language center is located in the left side of the brain, which controls the right side of the body. As a result, in adults, the right side of a speaker's mouth tends to open slightly wider than the left (although the difference is imperceptible in everyday conversation). The scientists found that when babies babbled, their mouths opened more on the right-hand side. A nonbabble noise (such as the sound "ahh") resulted in a symmetrical open mouth and a smile caused the left-hand side to open wider. "This discovery is the first to demonstrate left hemisphere cerebral specialization for babies' production of language, just like we see in adults," Petitto says. "This suggests that language functions specialize in the brain at a very early age." She is currently investigating whether the findings could help develop diagnostic tools to determine--even before a baby has uttered his first 'real' word--if he may encounter linguistic problems in the future. "The sooner parents and pediatricians recognize these problems," she says, "the sooner they can begin to treat them."

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After you kiss your sweetie this Valentine's Day, you may want to share with him or her how the ritual of kissing, (also known by it's scientific term Osculation) improves your health and the quality of your relationship. You can read about the "Secret Benefits of Kissing" in this month's first article.

This month I was in Chicago to do a segment on Kissing Secrets with comedian and talk show host Steve Harvey and traveled to Miami, Savannah and beautiful Cancun Mexico to speak on body language, selling and dynamic presentation skills. I hope to be in your city soon.

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10 Different Kisses and What They Mean

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This Valentine's Day you may want to catch my interview on Kissing with comedian and author, Steve Harvey on his show about kissing. It airs on NBC on Thursday at 1 pm EST.

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Comfort - When someone needs comforting, comfort him or her. A few years ago someone broke into my mother's retirement condominium. She got up in the morning to make her tea and toast and there was a drunken man, passed out cold on her couch. My mom was frightened and upset. Two days later, after the break-in was mentioned in the paper and was the talk of the retirement home, one of my mother's friends who she had not talked to since the break-in, called my mother and asked her out to dinner. My mother was hurt, her friend didn't talk about the break-in, nor did she mention why she hadn't checked in with my mother for two days. My mother got very upset and told her friend she did not want to have dinner with her and why which led to an argument between the two friends. What caused the argument and the rejected invitation? An unmet need. What need did the friend not meet? Comfort. My mother wanted her friend to say, "I am sorry this frightening event happened." And along with that, to visit her and give her a hug. However, her friend for whatever reason had not called her in two days and when she did she didn't mention the break-in. My mother simply wanted to be comforted and given attention and her friend did not meet that basic need.

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Patti Decodes Kissing Styles on the Steve Harvey Show

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Patti will be on the Steve Harvey Show for his annual "LOVE WEEK" sharing her insights on Kissing on February 13th at 1 pm, EST. You can view the show on NBC. If you miss the show, watch Patti's blog for a future post in which we will have the entire segment for your viewing.

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10 Different Kisses and What They Mean

Different Types of Kisses to Try

Cheek Kiss
A peck on the cheek for a first date is also a friendly way of greeting someone. A woman can signal she wants a cheek kiss by leaning in. To kiss your date or partner on the cheek put your hands on the man’s arms lightly and offer your cheek. For the man reach out and rest your hands lightly on the shoulders and gently move in to kiss the cheek.

Forehead or Top of the Head Kiss- If it is the only kind of kiss you get it signal I am your big brother or big sister kiss. Or if you have kissed before it signals I feel protectiveness and nurturing as well as lust for you.

Earlobe Kiss
This kiss is more sensuous. The earlobes are a sensitive area and kissing or nibbling or sucking on them can be very arousing.

French Kiss
This is the most popular and widely known kiss. It involves closeness along with a hint of sexual excitement. It is a beautiful experience. But it is definitely not a first or second date kind of a kiss. You have to start with a normal lip to lip kiss and then slowly bring your tongue into play. Let your tongues brush against each other but don't go too deep.

Don't rush take it slow. Recognize body cues that show your kissing partner wants to kiss or is closed to the kiss open vs. closed windows, blocking gestures, retreat.

Butterfly Kiss
This is a simple and sweet type of kiss that signals a sweet and tender trusting relationship. Because it would indicate that your partner loves only you. To perform the butterfly kiss, bring your face very close to your partner's face so that your eyelashes are touching. Now flutter your eyelashes like the fluttering of a butterfly's wings.

Single-Lip Kiss
This is again a very sensual kind of a kiss. To do it just take your partners lip and suck it with two of your lips. Do it very gently as doing it hard will make their lip go numb and it might even be painful. It is a nice change from the usual types of kisses.

Eskimo Kiss
In the Eskimo kiss you have to get your face close to your partner's and rub your nose against theirs. Do it gently to enjoy it. Based on Greeting followed by the Eskimos.

Angel Kiss
In this kiss you lightly touch your partner's eyes with your lips. It is a very caring and loving gesture. This is a very sweet gentle type of kiss. Men just to let you know a woman feels especially cherished when you gently and loving give an angel kiss.

Arabian Nights Kiss -
Seal me with kisses or open kisses that go all over the body all over kisses.
The name of this kiss says it all. There were 101 stories in the Arabian nights. Kiss from the top of the head to the waist and or from the toes to the thigh. You can start this kiss from the top of the head or forehead and slowly move down on the face and further kissing gently everywhere.

Surprise Kiss
Kiss your partner when they don’t expect it for example: in the middle of cooking dinner together, across the dinner table, just after you have gotten in the car, or just after you brush your teeth.

Secret Benefits of Kissing

“A kiss is the contraction of mouth due to the expansion of the heart.”

Secret Benefits of Kissing

When you kiss your sweetie this Valentine's Day, you are practicing a nonverbal interaction that takes place in over 90 percent of human cultures.

Research shows that kissing or if you prefer the scientific term Osculation, is often the deciding factor in selecting a sexual partner as well as first “kiss or miss” determiner of selecting a life partner, especially for women.

Kissing evolved to stimulate all three distinct brain systems involved in mating and reproduction those that involve sex drive, romantic love, and attachment. In fact more of your brain lights up during kissing than it does for other later romantic activity. Sex drive compels us to seek partners, romantic love tells us to commit to one, and attachment helps us tolerate this person (at least long enough to have a child).

· Kissing is a stress reliever. Researchers found that in long term relationships the more the couple kissed the more their stress hormone cortisol levels declined.

· Kissing is good for your health. According to the Kinsey Institute New Report on Sex; a passionate kiss burns 6.4 calories per minute. (And it is a lot more fun than jogging on a treadmill that burns not much more: 11.2 calories per minute.)

· Why women kiss before they say, “I do.” Studies reveal many women use information they gain through kissing to decide on a mate. Because a woman tends to be attracted to male partners with a different immune system makeup from her own and she detects this information through smell when they kiss.

· Have a great first kiss or else. A bad first kiss can kill a would-be romance faster than a woman can reapply her lipstick. In a S.U.N.Y. of Albany survey, a higher number of women than men said they would not have sex with a poor kisser and more than 69 percent of women say they would end the relationship if the first kiss with their partner was bad.

· A kiss is the best “On” button. Women are stimulated faster by kissing than any other physical activity to prompt them to want to engage in sex. Yes you read that right.

· Kissing can improve your immune system by building anti-bodies to foreign bacteria. Don't worry; about 95% of your partner's bacteria is probably friendly and familiar to your own body already.

· Women like kissing before, during, and after sex. Men use it to get sex then they are more likely to go to sleep.

· French kiss for workout - A simple pucker kiss takes only two muscles, but all 34 of your facial muscles get a workout during a deep French kiss.

· Men like French kissing for a reason - Research shows that men show a preference for French kissing. Scientist explains this preference. Wet, open-mouthed kisses allow men to dose women with small amounts of libido-raising testosterone via their saliva. Over time, weeks or months of this dosing increase her testosterone which can enhance her libido.

· More Kissing More Fun- Testosterone doping can explain why if you stop kissing before you make love a woman’s libido may go down. This should be great motivation to kiss and kiss again.

· What he thinks and she thinks about during kissing – Because of the chemical and brain differences in genders research suggests that when a woman kisses a man he thinks, “Oh boy we are going to get more physically close.” And when a man kisses a women she thinks, “Oh boy, we are getting more emotionally close.”

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Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Why Kissing is Important to Sex

Why kissing is so important. The limbic system, what some researchers call the primitive brain is where our bodily functions, such as heart rate, breathing, and perspiration our controlled automatically. The limbic system is the center for controlling our actions that insure our survival and having sex ( to insure the survival or our species.)

Kissing is important because it actually excites the limbic brain center so that that it “command central” can send the cascade of hormones that increase the libido and prepare the body to have sex. It is up to the cerebral cortex, also called the new brain, where logic and conscious thought occurs to put the brakes on or stop us from having sex with the wrong partner or at the wrong time or to monitor the process enough to ensure we have safe sex.

Philematology The Science of Kissing

When your lips gently touch the mouth of your sweetie this Valentine's Day, you are practicing a nonverbal interaction that takes place in over 90 percent of human cultures and a ritual that has been shown to improve your physical health and portend a happier romantic relationship. .

The science of kissing even has a name: philematology. Researchers are investigating the mechanisms involved. Here is an article from CNN that shares the newest research on kissing.

By Elizabeth Landau
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Scientists are investigating the biological factors underlying that ubiquitous expression of love.

The science of kissing even has a name: philematology. Research on the subject was presented at the annual meeting of the American Association for the Advancement of Science in Chicago on Friday.

"Kissing is not just kissing. It is a major escalation or de-escalation point in a powerful process of mate choice," said Helen Fisher, professor at Rutgers University and author of the book "Why Him, Why Her: Finding Real Love by Understanding Your Personality Type." Visit CNNhealth, your connection for better living

A study by Gordon Gallup Jr., professor of psychology at the University of Albany, showed that 59 percent of men and 66 percent of women reported that after feeling attracted to another person initially, the attraction ended after the first kiss, Fisher said.

Looking at a sample of more than 1,000 college students, Gallup and colleagues found that women also tend to emphasize kissing more than men, and are much more likely to insist on kissing before a sexual encounter.

A person receives information about the person he or she is smooching by locking lips, Fisher said. A kiss transmits smells, tastes, sound and tactile signals that all affect how the individuals perceive each other and, ultimately, whether they will want to kiss again.

Women tend to be attracted to male partners with a different immune system makeup from their own, Fisher said. They subconsciously detect information about a partner's immune system through smell during kissing, she said.

Research led by Wendy Hill, professor of neuroscience at Lafayette College, looked at how kissing affects the hormones oxytocin, sometimes called the "love hormone," which is associated with social bonding, and cortisol, a measure of stress.

The first experiment, which took place in a student health center, looked at college students age 18 to 22, and examined hormone levels in 15 heterosexual couples. In the control group, participants held hands and talked with their partner while music played. In the experimental group, participants were told to open-mouth kiss their partner for the length of the music -- 16 minutes.

The results showed that oxytocin levels in the women decreased after the session, but increased in the men. Researchers had expected those levels to go up in both genders; the decrease for women may have resulted from the artificial setting of the student health center, researchers theorize.

A second experiment in a more romantic setting -- a secluded room with jazz music, flowers and electric candles -- looked at nine heterosexual couples and three lesbian couples.

Researchers found that the longer the relationship of a couple, the more the cortisol levels declined in both partners. The heterosexual women, moreover, said they felt greater intimacy with their partners than the heterosexual men or the homosexual women did, while all groups expressed equal satisfaction in kissing their partners. The researchers are in the process of analyzing oxytocin levels in this experiment.

On the basis of brain imaging, Fisher proposes that there are three distinct brain systems involved in mating and reproduction: sex drive, romantic love, and attachment. Sex drive compels us to seek partners, romantic love tells us to commit to one, and attachment helps us "tolerate this person at least long enough" to have a child, she said. Kissing evolved to stimulate all three of these systems, she said.

Kissing "can really either escalate a relationship or really kill it," Fisher said.

We feel such sensitivity to kissing partially because of the way our brain is structured, Fisher said. The somatosensory cortex, which extends from one side of the brain to the other, has a large portion devoted to picking up signals from the lips, tongue, nose and cheek areas around the mouth.

"You can really get poked in the back and not feel it very much, but just a feather around your lips and you really do feel it," she said.

As for the origins of kissing, one theory is that kissing evolved as an extension of the way mothers used to feed their children. Early humans, who lacked jars of manufactured baby

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