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Can Our Nonverbal Communication Be More Telling Than Verbal Communication?


Yes, because nonverbal cues are sent primarily from the “emotional brain” rather than the neo cortex.  They create more honest and revealing messages.  In a face-to-face interaction with just one person you can exchange up to 10,000 nonverbal cues in less than one minute. You cannot consciously control all that communication so it can be much more telling than the few words you could exchange in the same amount of time.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Tips for Creating a Great First Impression and Making New Friends Your First Week on Campus


    Know a rebuff is seldom about you
      If not every single person says hi back or takes you up on your offers for plans remember college is stressful, most freshmen feel a bit insecure at times and if they seem distant, don't take it personally. Most body language rebuffs such as lack of eye contact and scowls are motivated by what is going on inside the person and not really about you.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Why Are Your Nonverbal Cues So Important At Work/In Business?


Because nonverbal cues are sent primarily from the “emotional brain” rather than the neo cortex they create more honest and revealing messages. Nonverbal cues can help business people determine others’ motivations and analyze business interactions with much more richness; depth and insight than can come from simply relying on spoken or printed words.

Professionals who understand nonverbal cues can evaluate what their clients, customers and co-workers are really telling them in order to know how to better meet their needs—to give a better price, offer more (or fewer) details, or wrap it up and go for the close. 

For instance, in a sales setting, a prospect may be saying, “Yes, go on,” but if her arms and legs are crossed with one foot bouncing towards the door, her nonverbal signals are sending a different—and much more reliable—message than her words. Her body language may be saying, “I’m not pleased with this” or “I’m not too sure about the way it’s being presented” or “Speed it up, I’m ready to get out of here.”

Employers can evaluate the messages their employees are sending to customers, clients or fellow workers and know whether that employee is hurting or helping business. And employees can learn to read the subtle signals a boss is sending in order to adjust their behavior accordingly.

 In power-differential relationships, such as with superiors and subordinates, successful interactions depend on both parties being able to use and read body language. Superiors need to know how to make their subordinates comfortable while communicating their desires in order to get results. Subordinates need to know how to read the boss’s subtle signals to discern the best way to approach professional situations.
 
Read the words below and notice how notice the meaning can change dramatically depending on your nonverbal cues such as vocal delivery and your facial expressions and gestures.

“I’m so sorry.” 

“It’s no big deal. “  

“You did it.” 

“No.” 

“Please let’s forget all about it.”  

“Whatever you want is fine with me.”   

“The deadline is Sept 26th.”

Did you notice a difference? Did you see how you communicate your message with more than your words? The true meaning of a message comes from the timing, the situation or environment, the facial expression, gestures, posture, space and voice – not the words.  Many times people use the right positive words with a negative delivery and hide behind the words.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

What was Jodi Arias' Relationship with Travis Alexander Like?



Patti shares with Jane Velez of HLN what the body language of Jodi Arias reveals about her relationship with Travis Alexander during some videos showing Jodi and Travis together as a couple.  Check the link below!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VwHftezZyCU

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Tips for Creating a Great First Impression and Making New Friends Your First Week on Campus


     Start new habits
      If you always texted your friends in high school to see what they were doing because they lived far away, now you can initiate face-to-face.  Knock on a dorm room door or catch people at the student union and invite them to do something with you. You be the one that says, “Hey you want to go get a coffee after class, hang together to study tonight or meet at the cafeteria for dinner?” If you use to study in your room with the door closed try studying in the college library or outside. If you watched a lot of TV downloads of videos before, don’t bring your TV with you or spend hours watching Hulu or Netflix when you get to campus. People make lifelong friends in their first week of college.  Put yourself out there to meet as many people as possible as soon as you step on campus.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Patti on Jane Velez of HLN, Monday, March 11th at 7 pm - 8 pm

Watch Patti tonight on the Jane Velez show on HLN between 7 pm and 8 pm as she shares her insights on the body language of Jodi Arias. 

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

10 Nonverbal Cues That Convey Confidence At Work



Patti Wood, a body language expert and author of Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma, says in a face-to-face interaction with just one person you can exchange up to 10,000 nonverbal cues in less than one minute. “You cannot consciously control all that communication so it can be much more telling than the few words you could exchange in the same amount of time.”

Click the link below to view the full Forbes article in which Patti explains what a Nonverbal Cue is and much, much more!

http://www.forbes.com/sites/jacquelynsmith/2013/03/11/10-nonverbal-cues-that-convey-confidence-at-work/


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Jodi Arias' Body Language Becoming Very Stressful Under Questioning

Patti on Nancy Grace from Miami, FL sharing her insights on Jodi Arias' stressful body language.  Check the link below!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9mbMAHnBuQc

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Jodi Arias' Disturbing Body Language

Patti shares her insights on Jodi Arias' disturbing body langauge with Jane Velez on HLN.  Click the link below to hear Patti's insights!

http://www.youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

What is a Nonverbal Cue?

A journalist at Forbes asked me today to define what a nonverbal cue is.  Please read my answer below.
 
What’s a nonverbal cue?

Nonverbal cues include all the communication between people that do not have a direct verbal translation.  Nonverbal cues are all body movements, body orientation, nuances of the voice (called Paralanguage) facial expressions, details of dress, and choice and movement of objects that communicate.

Time and space can also be perceived as having nonverbal cues.  If you send a text on a Saturday night requesting your team work on a project the fact that it is a text is a cue, the day of the week and the time of day the text is sent all are nonverbal cues. Conveying things about you as the sender and what the receiver feels about them and about the subject of the request.

To clarify the statement that nonverbal cues include all the communication between people that do not have a direct verbal translation. So for example the OK sign you make with your hands is considered verbal communication while an upward movement you may make with your hands as you say ok is nonverbal communication.

 How do you define Nonverbal Communication? Here is the list of cues and behaviors under each separate category of nonverbal communication.

Kinesics – body movement and placement, including gesture, leaning, facial expressions.  kinesics: see body language.  

Paralanguage - voice quality, rate, pitch, volume, and speaking style

Prosodics - features such as rhythm, intonation, stress

Vocalics  par·a·lan·guage
n.
The set of nonphonemic properties of speech, such as speaking tempo, vocal pitch, and intonational contours, that can be used to communicate attitudes or other shades of meaning.

Noun 1.
- vocalizations other than words, such as sighs and moans

Haptics - touch

Proxemics  prox·e·mics
n. (used with a sing. verb)
The study of the cultural, behavioral, and sociological aspects of spatial distances between individuals.
- spatial distances

Chronemics -time

Olfactics - smell, pheromones 

Artifacts  artifacts

see specimen artifacts.
- use of objects such as cell phones, purses, cigarettes

Technics - A label I have given to the nonverbal aspects of written texts, and electronic communication font choice, handwriting style, spatial arrangement of words, length of text, physical layout of a page and the timing of messages.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Tips to Improve Your Own Reaction to Body Language

In an interview in Prevention Magazine Patti stated that women are more inclined than men to rely on body language during interactions.  Check the link below for the full interview!

http://www.prevention.com/health/emotional-health/mens-smiles-make-women-subordinate-study

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Poor Communication Skills, Lack of Face-to-Face Time, My Childhood Was Wonderful - A Body Language Expert's Perspective


When I was growing up, the neighborhood kids all knew each other and whose mom made the best cookies.  We played outside all day and we didn’t have to come home till the streetlights came on.  Our moms would leave a big pitcher of “Kool Aid” and yummy snacks on the kitchen table if we wanted to swing by and grab lunch.  We would have adventures, minnow fishing, tree house building, secret forts, and hikes up the creek. We would play games in the street. red light green light, softball and Simon says. We would pretend we were the Beatles and the Partridge family and give concerts. We would get on our bikes together and ride miles to the shopping center. We had enormous freedom. We felt powerful and creative and limitless.  

Now so many kids seem to stay glued to the TV from all day and late into the night or they are on their other electronic devices. I see the effect of the lack of face-to-face in my work training those kids as they go into the workplace. They don’t know how to communicate with each other. If you don’t grow up modeling your parents communication over and over again, for example at the family dinner table or with your gang of friends, you don’t learn the complexities or body language and paralanguage so you cannot read another person’s emotions and you don’t know simple interaction skills like “Turn Taking” or how to ask a question, and listening.
 
In my book “SNAP Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma” I discuss what you can do about this to improve your own skills and some of the scientific that explain the problems with using technology too much.  For example:  “When you talk to other people face-to-face you lay down neural pathways to the social centers of your brain.  The more you interact interpersonally human to human the stronger the pathways become. Meeting people and talking to them becomes easier and you become more skilled and confident and make a great first impression

When you interact with a technological device you make quick shallow decisions, such as, “I want this text. I don't want this text. ““I want this website it’s interesting. I don't want this one it’s boring” “I want to take this call.” “I don’t want to take this call.” These quick shallow decisions lay down pathways to the ego centers of your brain. In fact, doing so gives you a bit of a high and makes you feel superior to those around you. You can now understand the techno jerk that seems irritated and uncomfortable to have to talk to you. Unfortunately, to successfully make quick shallow decisions you have to weaken pathways to the social centers of your brain. You’re laying your tracks down to the ego center that produces that nice addictive high but interpersonal communication becomes more difficult and may even feel like an inferior means of interacting. Something you are "above" having to do. “

 
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.