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Top Six Classic Christmas Movies

The Best Christmas Movies in Black and White that are Undiscovered Gems

I am a purest when it comes to Christmas tree lights.  Though every Christmas of my young life, my dad spent hours stringing the big green, yellow and blue colored bulbs on our tree. My first little tree when I was in grad school and all the tree lights since have been white.
Maybe it relates to my favorite Christmas movies, which are all black and white. I am a huge classic movie fan.  I love how well written and well-acted they are. I love how funny and innocent they are. Children don’t talk back to their parents. Couples are kind to one another and there is no horror, seldom nastiness and the good guy or gal always wins.  I had a black and white TV well into the 90s because my main TV viewing was classic black and white movies. So, it makes sense that at Christmas my favorite films, except for White Christmas are in black and white. (And even White Christmas is a remake of the black and white film Holiday Inn.) In classic Christmas movies the stories are simple and heartwarming, but unlike many current Hallmark and Lifetime holiday movies the dialogue is clever and the acting is fabulous.  Several of these movies have had modern remakes, but stick with the originals.

Here are the six classic films that I watch every year!



Christmas in Connecticut (1945)
One of my absolute favorites!
Barbara Stanwyck as a big-city food writer, who, it turns out, can’t cook and doesn’t have the country farm she claims to own. Unfortunately, those facts are not known to the magazine’s owner (the incomparable Sydney Greenstreet of “Casablanca” and “The Maltese Falcon” fame), who believes his writer is a married homemaker. He not only directs her to provide a Christmas meal for a recovering war veteran, he decides to join them. Hilarity, as they say, ensues. The war hero, Jefferson Jones, is played by one of the sweetest actors Dennis Morgan.


Holiday Affair (1949)
It is a romantic comedy from 1949. Robert Mitchum, Janet Leigh (from Pyscho), Wendell Corey and Harry Morgan star in the film. Set during the holiday season in New York City, this story centers on a war widow, who is a secret shopper for a large department store. She brings home a big toy train that she has to return as part of her work, and her little boy finds it.  She runs into a war veteran and a complicated romance with hilarity ensues.


The Shop Around the Corner (1940)
Most people have heard about or seen Jimmy Stewart in “It’s a Wonderful Life,” but this movie is not so famous little gem. Stewart is working in a shop, only to find that the pen pal he has fallen in love with is a co-worker named Klara (Margaret Sullavan) who he can’t stand. Frank Morgan of “Wizard of Oz” fame is store owner Hugo Matuschek, and Joseph Schildkraut turns in a fine performance as Stewart’s nemesis, Ferencz Vadas. This, of course, was remade as “You’ve Got Mail.” “Shop” is infinitely better.


The Man Who Came to Dinner  (1942)
The wittiest of the Christmas movies starts Monty Woolley stars as acerbic theater critic Sheridan Whiteside, the man who came to dinner, broke his leg on an icy patch and seemingly never plans to leave. There is slapstick comedy and very funny dialogue.  The cast includes Bette Davis, Ann Sheridan, Billie Burke and Jimmy Durante.


The Thin Man (1934)
This is one of my favorite movies, period! I love the whole Thin Man series. It’s, not a traditional Christmas movie, but this murder whodunit starring William Powell and Myrna Loy as married sleuths Nick and Nora Charles is set at Christmastime. The chemistry between the leads is a delight to watch and the dialogue is as snappy as it gets a Christmas gift in itself. By the way, the title doesn’t refer to Powell’s character, but to the missing professor he’s trying to track down. 


Holiday (1938)
It is a 1938 film directed by George Cukor, a remake of the 1930 film of the same name.
I love love love this film. It is actually up in my top five films of all time right after Shashank Redemption.  It’s a very playful and funny romantic comedy which tells the story of a man who has worked hard since he was a young boy to achieve great success and now plans to enjoy life to its fullest.  He meets a girl and plans to get married. His wealthy finance makes him choose between his free-thinking lifestyle or her and the big wedding gift of a house, with attached the tradition (and drudgery), of her wealthy family. The movie was adapted by Donald Ogden Stewart and Sidney Buchman from the play by Philip Barry and stars Katharine Hepburn, Cary Grant and features Doris Nolan, Lew Ayres, and Edward Everett Horton, who played the same role he had played in the 1930 version.


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Christmas Rituals for the Family


Christmas Tree Treasure Hunt

On Christmas day in the evening when I was growing up our family had a special holiday ritual. Santa and his smallest elves do something just for us little kids so we would stay excited all day even after the big presents under the tree were unwrapped.  I was the youngest so a little after the Christmas turkey and mashed potatoes had been eaten at dinner I would swing my little legs at the table with impatience waiting for the grownups to finish talking so my sisters and I could rush to the Christmas tree. Hidden deep in the branches I would find the special little presents Santa and his elves hid for my sisters and me. We always knew which presents were for who.  One Christmas I found little miniature cooking utensils for my dolls and another Christmas I found five little golden rings.  Funny I don’t remember all my big presents but I remember the joy of the little ones.  The hidden presents were always something unique, a true surprise never something we asked for.  Goodness the tree treasure hunt was fun.


No More Monkeys Jumping on the Bed

My favorite Christmas ritual has nothing to do with presents. On Christmas morning my sisters and I would always pile into bed with my parents and wake them up. We would snuggle in bed as a family and giggle and talk about what we thought Santa had brought us. One Christmas morning my sisters and I were a little too grown up for the bed, when the three of us jumped on it to join our parents it broke! We all ended up on the bed flat on the floor laughing like crazy.


Whatever your faith, whatever your holiday or special meaningful events, your life is full of warm, fun loving stories to add to your speeches. My body language website has 7 Plus Great Tips for Holiday Parties.  Find out about Santa’s true message by searching on the site for Santa's Body Language.


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Why Men Brag




The other night a girlfriend and I met for dinner and because the restaurant was crowded we sat at the bar. We struck up a conversation with an older gentleman at the bar and we asked him about his life. He was obviously smitten with my friend. Looking over me to lock eyes with her and talk to her. He shared his many fascinating jobs, a list of accomplishments in the community, powerful people he worked with and places he has lived and traveled to throughout the world. We were impressed. He has had an extremely interesting life, and I know why he was “bragging”, but his long list struck me as particularly interesting as I am currently writing an article on bragging. Why do you think that men brag? Here are some of the reasons for men bragging found in the newest research.

It's official - men are BIG-HEADED: Males are more likely to brag about their talents - and lie about their shortcomings.

New study revealed 70 per cent of British men have boasted about a talent and half have claimed to be skilled in areas that they are not. This is compared to only 54 percent of women who brag.

  • Boasting may be used by men to impress women. (This is not a big surprise.)
  • Experts think men do this to boost their own confidence, plus impress women and colleagues at work.
  • Research shows that men are also more likely to cover up their short comings. With just 22 percent of men admitting to things they are bad at.
  • A psychologist from Lancaster University said men are conditioned to be more competitive than women and exaggerate their skill set
  • All people are more likely to be boastful when they are younger with 56 percent of 18 to 24 year olds exaggerating their skills, compared to just 26 percent of voer 55 year olds.




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Why 'I'm So Happy I Could Cry Makes Sense


Why We Cry When We are Happy and May smile When We Are Very Sad.

As a family we often watch an emotional TV recording of my brother-in-law coming home from the Gulf War. As he gets off the plane, my sister and the children are running towards him crying, not looking happy at all. Have you ever seen someone cry when they are happy or have a smile on their face when they are sad?  New research shows people use “negative” emotion to stabilize their feeling. The research study is below. I am fascinated by this nonverbal behavior. I love to see happy crying. It is such a sincere, amazing behavior to witness. On the other hand, I find it deeply disturbing when I analyze interrogation videos or courtroom footage of suspected murders for the media and I see them give what I call a “cover smile” when they relay some of the most hideous aspects of the crime. In this case the suspect is trying to regulate the emotions of guilt by smiling to look innocent and it feels disturbing to us to watch. http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/11/141111124047.htm
November 11, 2014
Yale University
The phrase 'tears of joy' never made much sense to one American psychologist. But after conducting a series of studies of such seemingly incongruous expressions, she now understands better why people cry when they are happy.
he phrase "tears of joy" never made much sense to Yale psychologist Oriana Aragon. But after conducting a series of studies of such seemingly incongruous expressions, she now understands better why people cry when they are happy.
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"People may be restoring emotional equilibrium with these expressions," said Aragon, lead author of work to be published in the journal Psychological Science. "They seem to take place when people are overwhelmed with strong positive emotions, and people who do this seem to recover better from those strong emotions."
There are many examples of responding to a positive experience with a negative emotion. A crying spouse is reunited with a soldier returning from war. Teen girls scream at a Justin Bieber concert and so do soccer players as they score a winning goal. The baseball player who hits a winning home run is pounded at home plate by teammates. And when introduced to babies "too cute for words," some can't resist pinching their cheeks.
"I was surprised no one ever asked why that is," she said.
Aragon and her colleagues at Yale ran subjects through some of these scenarios and measured their responses to cute babies or happy reunions. They found that individuals who express negative reactions to positive news were able to moderate intense emotions more quickly. They also found people who are most likely to cry at their child's graduation are most likely to want to pinch a cute baby's cheeks.
There is also some evidence that strong negative feelings may provoke positive expressions; for example nervous laughter appears when people are confronted with a difficult or frightening situations, and smiles have been found by other psychologists to occur during extreme sadness.
These new discoveries begin to explain common things that many people do but don't even understand themselves, Aragon said.
"These insights advance our understanding of how people express and control their emotions, which is importantly related to mental and physical health, the quality of relationships with others, and even how well people work together," she said.


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1.     E. J. Boothby, M. S. Clark, J. A. Bargh. Shared Experiences Are Amplified. Psychological Science, 2014; DOI: 10.1177/0956797614551162


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Research on How Cell Phone Use Effects Happiness, Anxiety and GPA

Though we know that people who use their cell phones are able to make quick “shallow decisions” such as I want this text or I don’t want to take this call, what is worrisome to me is cell phone use is preventing people from having healthy social interactions, and in fact is making social interactions more stressful. I keep up with the social psychology and neurobiology research on cell phone and computer use and I think this article is particularly interesting. Read it below and email me with your thoughts.
Link to article http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0747563213003993

Computers in Human Behavior
Volume 31, February 2014 Pages 343-350.
The relationship between cell phone use, academic performance, anxiety, and Satisfaction with Life in college students


Highlights

  Measured cell phone use (CPUse) to include the device’s complete range of functions.

  CPUse was negatively related to students’ actual Grade Point Average (GPA).

  CPUse was positively related to anxiety (as measured by Beck’s Anxiety Inventory).

  GPA was positively and anxiety was negatively related to Satisfaction with Life (SWL).

  Path analysis showed CPUse is related to SWL as mediated by GPA and anxiety.

Abstract
While functional differences between today’s cell phones and traditional computers are becoming less clear, one difference remains plain – cell phones are almost always on-hand and allow users to connect with an array of services and networks at almost any time and any place. The Pew Center’s Internet and American Life Project suggests that college students are the most rapid adopters of cell phone technology and research is emerging which suggests high frequency cell phone use may be influencing their health and behavior. Thus, we investigated the relationships between total cell phone use (N = 496) and texting (N = 490) on Satisfaction with Life (SWL) in a large sample of college students. It was hypothesized that the relationship would be mediated by Academic Performance (GPA) and anxiety. Two separate path models indicated that the cell phone use and texting models had good overall fit. Cell phone use/texting was negatively related to GPA and positively related to anxiety; in turn, GPA was positively related to SWL while anxiety was negatively related to SWL. These findings add to the debate about student cell phone use, and how increased use may negatively impact academic performance, mental health, and subjective well-being or happiness.


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Mobile phones; GPA; Anxiety; Satisfaction with Life; Technology; Post-secondary education

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Research Study Shows Women Don’t Like to Brag about Themselves, It Makes Them Feel Anxious

This study indicates that a woman doesn't mind bragging about others and they feel better about bragging when the environment is different.  Here is the study.


Bragging rights: Study shows that interventions help women's reluctance to discuss accomplishments

Date - January 13, 2014
Source - Montana State University
Summary:
Research found that women dislike promoting their own accomplishments, but it is possible for negative effects to be offset and to improve self-promotion.

A study published by Jessi L. Smith, professor of psychology at Montana State University, and Meghan Huntoon, who was Smith's student at MSU when research was conducted, has found that gender norms about modesty help explain why women don't feel comfortable bragging about their own accomplishments. However, intervention techniques can help women to communicate more effectively about their successes.
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"Women's Bragging Rights: Overcoming Modesty Norms to Facilitate Women's Self-Promotion" was published in the Dec. 20 issue of Psychology of Women Quarterly.
The research, which sampled nearly 80 MSU undergraduate women, confirmed that women downplay their own accomplishments but have no trouble promoting a friend, Smith said. Past research had already shown than men are not affected by modesty norms like women are. However, this was among the first studies to test ways to intervene to help women write about themselves effectively.
"We also showed that we can intervene positively, and women can absolutely write about their accomplishments effectively," Smith said.
Smith said she and Huntoon, now a doctoral student in psychology at Northern Illinois University, launched the study when Smith observed an interesting response to a request for submissions to an MSU Women's Faculty Caucus newsletter.
"Nobody responded about themselves. Not one," Smith recalled. However, many women told Smith about really great things happening with their friends and colleagues.
"We wondered what was going on, so we began looking at the research," Smith said.
Smith said they found that American women are reluctant to talk about their own accomplishments because cultural norms promote modesty. And, society disapproves of women who are perceived to be bragging about themselves. However, Smith said, American men who brag about their accomplishments are perceived as confident and capable.
"We live in a society where cultural gender norms are powerful and imbedded in our history," she said. "This is no way, shape or form to be blamed on women. It's just part of our culture, and it is our job to find ways to change these cultural norms."
Smith and Huntoon wondered if this could be reversed, so they devised a study in which four groups of about 20 mostly freshmen female students at MSU each were asked to write essays for a scholarship based on merit that ranged in value up to $5,000. The subjects were told that the essays would be used as samples to help other students improve their essay skills.
One group was asked to write essays about their own accomplishments; another group was asked to write about the accomplishments of someone else. A group of impartial judges evaluated the essays, awarding an average of $1,500 less to those essays in which people wrote about their own accomplishments rather than about someone else's.
In order to study whether the female modesty effect could be overcome, Smith and Huntoon had another two groups write essays about themselves and introduced a distraction. A black box of about 3x3 feet square was placed in the room where the students wrote the essays. The researchers told one of the groups of subjects that the box was a "subliminal noise generator" that produced ultra-high frequency noise that couldn't be heard, but could cause them discomfort.
"There is no such thing as a subliminal noise generator," Smith said. "It was total fiction. But, we had given them an explanation for any anxiety they felt while writing their essay."
The other control group wasn't told what the box in the room was. The group that had the black box as justification to explain their discomfort wrote essays that were awarded up to $1,000 more than the group that had no explanation. And they enjoyed the experience of writing more, too.
"The key here is that when women had an alternative explanation for why they might be feeling uncomfortable -- the supposed noise generator- the awkwardness they felt from violating the modesty norm by writing about themselves was diverted, and they did just fine," Smith said.
The research has broad practical implications, Smith said.
"Basically, people in authority positions need to put in place practices that make it feel normal for women to promote their accomplishments," she said. "Cultural shifts take time, so while we wait, our results also suggest that people should be proactive and promote the accomplishments of their female friends and colleagues to their bosses. Women were very good at promoting the accomplishments of friends."
Smith said she has already used the results of the study while she talks to search groups and pay equity task forces and others in a position to review applications from women.
"This sheds light on an important issue and brings into question how we look at self-nomination for awards, cover letters for job applications and even pay raises," Smith said.
"I tell them that the woman that you are reading about on paper is likely really more outstanding than she appears."

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1.     J. L. Smith, M. Huntoon. Women's Bragging Rights: Overcoming Modesty Norms to Facilitate Women's Self-Promotion. Psychology of Women Quarterly, 2013; DOI: 10.1177/0361684313515840




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Why You Should Bragg. The Benifits and How Too's of Bragging.



                                                          Why You Should Bragg
                                                                        By Patti Wood MA, CSP
                                                Patti is a Body Language Expert and Professional Speaker
My friend Sue and I have known each other since grad school and have always supported each other’s success. She is a wonderful and talented author and beloved English professor and I am a body language expert and professional speaker. Sue arranged for me to speak to the student body of her university. 

On the day of my speech, we went over my intro and I showed Sue how to turn on my 40 sec video that had snippets of newscasters and TV show hosts introducing me on their show.   Then as students and professors came into the auditorium I introduced myself, “Hello my name is Patti and I am your speaker today." "How are you?" Then I gave my speech. After the speech, Pat and I went out and we had a long talk.

My friend said, “Patti, watching you how you set and introduced your self and talked about your work in your speech changed everything I thought about my career.”  She said, “At first I thought, Goodness, Patti is going over the top with all this bragging about herself the intros and introducing herself as the speaker then I noticed how people responded to you even before you started speaking. I have watched 100’s of speakers in that same Venue but they were treating you with a feeling of honor and respect that I have never seen given before."
Sue continued, "l learned something about good self-promotion during your speech too."  She said, "As you spoke, you gave brief specific examples of how you used your body language expertise to solve a client’s problems and I saw how it gave you increased level of credibility with the audience. " Each was just a few line story about a challenge and change that was made, but they were memorable. " Sue finished by saying, "But here is the funny thing Patti, I have had the opportunity my entire career to promote myself the way you did and I have never done it because I thought I would be bragging!

I told her she was a remarkable author and speaker and should own it and start self-promoting because men do so all the time!  I shared that for years I wanted to be a successful speaker but I never bragged telling myself I was shy. I worked hard, but I was not in the big leagues.   Then I looked around and realized that the male speakers would self promote. I know that you may be reading this and thinking, "Patti that's bragging!", but here is why I think it can work for you.

Think about the epistemology of bragging.  (That is whether something you say about yourself can be verified or not. ) Can you self How do I know you’re telling the truth when you claim to have achieved some great outcome?

I recommend   I said, I try to self- promote only with specific hard evidence.  In epistemology, if I do that that it makes it believable.  If there is a second of doubt in the listener's mind, if they think you are lying or inflating what you say is perceived negatively and it works against you. My friend Su
e quickly started using specific detailed self-promotion techniques. Doing this, and her hard work, led her to earn a tenured position and the raise she had long wanted and deserved.  

Research supports the notion that you should brag. Recent experiments conducted by Haifa University researcher Nurit Tal-Or examining the impact of bragging about those close to you (i.e. a family member or a colleague) vs. bragging about yourself suggest that people view people who brag about themselves as more competent than those who brag about others. "Bragging" (with specific and quantifiable examples of how you have achieved success) can actually be good for your career brand.

In fact, a 2011 Catalyst study found that the most powerful tactic for women in advancing their career was to make their achievements known. Calling attention to accomplishments led to more career satisfaction and was actually the only reliable factor associated with bigger raises. As much as we believe, or want to believe, that our achievements speak for themselves, that alone isn’t enough. We have to speak about them too.

— Janet Choi, CCO of iDoneThis

A great short article on the proper way to brag actually shows that bragging to strangers is more acceptable that bragging to friends. (Http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/insight/201009/the-proper-way-brag)

So help your career and brag a little.





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What are Tie Signs and How Can You Read Nonverbal Cues to See How Your Relationship is Going.

What are Tie Signs and How Can You Read Nonverbal Cues to See How Your Relationship is Going. Reading Couple Body Language.

For many years I have been reading the nonverbal cues of celebrity couples to see what is going on in their relationships. One set of cues that you can use to read your relationship are Tie signs.
Tie signs are Nonverbal cues that communicate intimacy and signal the connection between two people. Tie signs can be objects such as wedding rings or tattoos like a I love Sarah heart,  that are symbolic of another person or the relationship, actions such as sharing the same drinking glass, or touch behaviors such as hand-holding. My most visited article on this blog and on my website is what playing with a wedding ring means. Guess what, playing with a wedding ring is a low tie sign!

Walid A. Afifi and Michelle L. Johnson, “The Nature and Function of Tie-Signs,” in The Sourcebook of Nonverbal Measures: Going beyond Words, ed. Valerie Manusov (Mahwah, NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum, 2005): 190. Talk about touch behaviors Tie signs. They are what I look at the most frequently as they can communicate much about a relationship based on the area being touched, the length of time, and the intensity of the touch.  I often look for mutual touch in couple photos. Kisses and hugs, for example, are considered tie signs, but there are so many kinds of kisses and hugs. a kiss on the cheek is different from a kiss on the mouth and a full embrace is different from a half embrace. (Look at my blog posts on Hugs and their definition and what different Kisses mean.)
If you consider yourself a “people watcher,” start noticing the various tie signs you see couples people use and what they might say about the relationship.

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How Long Does It Take For You To Assess If Someone Is Trustworthy?


How Long Does It Take For You To Assess If Someone Is Trustworthy?

Trusting Faces:
How long does it take us to judge the trustworthiness of a person we just met? According to the research with brain scans apparently not long. In fact,  within 33 milliseconds , we have already decided if we initially trust a person just by judging their face

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If you give a mouse an iphone and "GOOD NIGHT IPAD"

If you Give a Mouse an IPhone – Shows Kids are Missing Out on Life by Spending Too Much Time on their Phones

Thursday night a member of our discussion group shared that he thought if we had had iPhones as teenagers we would not have been on them all the time because of the post Vietnam continuing love and peace movement and creative vibe of the time period we would have continued to play guitars, sing and have deep philosophical conversations.  Most of us disagreed and said the cocaine like hit we get from being on our cell phones is addictive and that peer pressure would have pulled us into the habit and the hit would have kept us there.  We continued with a discussion about how most kids and adults are so caught up on their iPhone they are not experiencing real life. This inspired me to find the video of the little children’s book spoof, “If you Give a Mouse an iPhone. The links are below you may want to follow that up with Good Night ipad parody of Good Night Moon.  I am particularly fascinated with the mouse child being so distracted by the iPhone that he misses out on all the adventures in life. You may want to read the excerpt from my book SNAP Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma Tech Impressions chapter where I talk about the neuroscience of checking your phone messages and goggling for information. 



Here are the links to the cartoons





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What You Wear Shows How You Feel. Research on Clothing and Mood

What You Wear Shows How You Feel.

The other night I was watching a funky documentary called "Advanced Style" about older women in New York City that where over the top fun clothes. There was lots of women wearing hot pink and leopard skin prints!  Though the women in the documentary were more than a little eccentric it was an inspiring look into a way to enthusiastically move into your elder years.

A recent study suggests a strong correlation between wearing certain clothes and emotional states. For example, it revealed that women who are depressed or sad are more likely to wear baggy tops, sweatshirts, or jeans. Women who had more positive emotions were more likely to wear a favorite dress or jewelry and generally look nicer.h


You may know that what color you were effects your mood, but here are some specifics. Colors can profoundly affect emotional responses. While not everyone experiences the same emotion in response to a particular color, most people find reds and oranges stimulating and blues and purples restful. In contrast, gray, brown, black, or white tend to be emotionally dulling.
 
Get out your favorite bright colored clothes and your rhinestones. Guys you really do look great in that colored oxford shirt.

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