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List of Top 50 Women to Admire

When I was a little girl, I loved to read. I still do. In fifth grade I discovered a children’s book series of biographies. I think it was called the “Famous American’s Biography series. I read every one in the library. Even at that young age I was disappointed there were not more women heroes to emulate. When I was 29, I spent a year reading biographies of famous women. Sadly, many of the women I read about had horrible childhoods and or disastrous romantic relationships and marriages. When I got cable, I watched the biography of every single woman they featured. I was looking at their body language and listening to their voices searching for clues to being a powerful woman. I still look for feisty brave women to look up to and admire. While working on my first impressions book today. I wanted to give examples in the book of powerful feisty women. That task inspired me to create a list of the top 50 women who I admire. I would love your suggestions. What women do you think show any or all of the four first impression factors of credibility, likeability, attractiveness and power?

List of top 50 Women to Admire
This list includes some of my personal heroes since I was a little girl. My list has lots of feisty women. I especially love women who have overcome adversity, physical pain and who have been the first woman to do something in their field.
1. Helen Keller - “Life is a daring adventure or nothing.’” That quote was on the wall of my teenage bedroom and later my college dorm room. She also said, “The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision.” The story of Helen Keller has inspired millions: though she was deaf and blind after a childhood illness, with the support of her teacher, Anne Sullivan, she learned signing and Braille, graduated from Radcliffe, and helped change the world's perception of the disabled. I played Helen Keller in a play in Junior High. I studied all of the amazing work she did and watched tapes of her speeches. She had this amazing smile and energy and was so enthusiastic about life.
2. Laura Hillenbrand - she is the author of two non-fiction books, "Seabiscuit"and "Unbroken". If you haven’t read Seabiscut, go get it right now and when you're finished reading the book read about her life. For over twenty years, she has suffered from Chronic Fatigue Syndrome which at times interrupts her writing. She wrote much of Seabiscut lying flat on her back, as her illness often meant she couldn’t sit up at a desk.
3. Marie Curie - scientist
4. Jane Austen - extremely talented, Victorian author of "Pride and Prejudice" and other marvoulous books. She was also brave enough not to marry in a time when women had extreme pressure to do so.
5. Dr. Ruth Westheimer “Our way is not soft grass; it’s a mountain path with lots of rocks. but it goes upwards, forward, toward the sun.” I saw Dr. Ruth speak when I was in college. She sat on a small chair and hundreds of college kids sat on the floor at her feet. The audience was transfixed. She is wise, funny, warm and very very smart. I want to be like her when I grow up.
6. Annie Oakley - sharp shooter, feisty lady, part of Wild Bill Hickok's Wild West show.
7. Elizabeth Kulber-Ross - gave us great insights into Death, Dying, Grief and Care Giving. “People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in; their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.”
8. Charlotte Brontë - was one of three brilliant sisters, writers of the 19th century, each of whom died early. Charlotte's best known work is the novel, "Jane Eyre", which drew from her own experience as a student in an inhumane school and as a governess
9. Temple Grandin - Animal Behaviorist. She was described as "An Anthropologist on Mars" by Oliver Sacks in the title of his book (1995). The title is derived from Grandin’s description of how she feels around neurotypical people. She first spoke in public about autism in the mid-1980s at the request of Ruth C. Sullivan, one of the founders of the Autism Society of America. Grandin is considered a philosophical leader of both the animal welfare and autism advocacy movements. Both movements commonly cite her work regarding animal welfare, neurology, and philosophy. In 2004 she won a “Proggy” award, in the “visionary” category, from People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals. One of her most important essays about animal welfare is “Animals are not Things”, in which she posits that animals are technically property in our society, but the law ultimately gives them ethical protections or rights.
10. Florence Nightingale - practically invented the profession of nursing, and also brought sanitary conditions to soldiers in wars -- at a time when more soldiers typically died of disease than of injuries in battle.
11. Erma Bombeck - columnist and humorist of wit and warmth “If you can’t make it better, you can laugh at it.” I use to read her column every day in the newspaper. My mom even sent her columns to me when I went off to college. If you are aware of the physical pain and suffering she lived and worked through in her last years, all the while still writing and being a wonderful wife and mom you would admire her even more. Erma Bombeck's humor helped document the life of women in the 20th century as wives and mothers in suburban homes.
12. Clara Barton - nurse and founder of the Red Cross. I read her biography in fifth grade and I have admired her ever since.
13. Eleanor Roosevelt- not just the wife of the former president. Wife of President Franklin D. Roosevelt, was his "eyes and ears" when he could not travel freely due to his disability. Her positions on issues like civil rights were often ahead of her husband and the rest of the country. She helped establish the U.N. Declaration of Human Rights. If you have not read it look it up and read it right now. Powerful feisty woman. You must look on Net flicks for her autobiographical movie starring “Edith” from the Archie Bunker series. “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
14. Julia Childs - she is known as the author of Mastering the Art of French Cooking. Her popular books, television cooking shows and videos kept her in the public eye. Less well known: her brief spy career. If you have read her cook book, or any of her biographies and can remember her TV series you know this woman has spunk. I love her as a model for lust for life. She was an excellent chef, and a pioneer of the TV cooking show. She shows us that you don’t have to have your life all figured out the second you leave high school. Julia didn’t meet her husband until she was 35. She was always a hard worker and did some amazing work during World War II. She kept working on her book, believing in its importance for so many years and yet she was not recognized for her accomplishment until she was in her 50’s. She succeeded in a male dominated industry, and is definitely one of my heroes.
15. Pearl S. Buck - “To find joy in work is to discover the fountain of youth.” Read all her books.
16. Rachel Carson - Pioneer environmentalist wrote the book, “Silent Spring” that helped create the environmentalist movement in the late 20th century.
17. Margaret Sanger - After seeing the suffering caused by unwanted and unplanned pregnancies among the poor women she served as a nurse, Margaret Sanger took up a lifetime cause: the availability of birth control information and devices.
18. Jane Addams - a pioneer in social work founded Hull-House in the 19th century and led it well into the 20th. She was also active in peace and feminist work.
19. Elizabeth Blackwell - was the first woman in the world to graduate from medical school. Blackwell was also a pioneer in the education of women in medicine.
20. Maria Montessori - was the first woman to earn a medical degree from the University of Rome; she applied learning methods she developed for mentally retarded children to children with intelligence in the normal range. The Montessori method, still popular today, is child-centered and experience-centered
21. Ida Tarbell - muckraking journalist Ida Tarbell was one of the few women to succeed in that circle. She exposed the predatory pricing practices of John D. Rockefeller and her articles about his company helped bring the downfall of Standard Oil of New Jersey.
22. Barbara Walters - first female evening news caster
23. Ellen DeGeneres - comedian, actress, talk show host. “You have to have funny faces and words, you can’t just have words. It is a powerful thing, and I think that’s why it’s hard for people to imagine that women can do that, be that powerful.”
24. Betty Friedan - “When she stopped conforming to the conventional picture of femininity she finally began to enjoy being a woman”
25. Martha Graham - “There is vitality, a life-force, energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and be lost.”
26. Gertrude Stein - was a writer and associate of many of the 20th century's writers and artists. Her salon in Paris was a center of modern culture. She's known for her stream-of-consciousness style.
27. Audrey Hepburn - “For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.”
28. Nina Simone -an extraordinary singer with a unique vocal quality. Buy her music and be blown away. “I had spent many years pursuing excellence, because that is what classical music is all about… Now it was dedicated to freedom, and that was far more important.”
29. Katharine Hepburn - “As for me, prizes are nothing. My prize is my work.” a twentieth century film actress, often played strong women at a time when conventional wisdom said that traditional roles were all that would sell movie tickets.
30. Margaret Thatcher - “I’ve got a woman’s ability to stick to a job and get on with it when everyone else walks off and leaves it.”
31. Annie Leibowitz - “I didn’t want to let women down. One of the stereotypes I see breaking is the idea of aging and older women not being beautiful.”
32. Ayn Rand - “The question isn’t who is going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me.”
33. Alice Waters - “Every change ultimately is one for the better. You don’t know how it is going to be. It is just shuffling the cards, and people who haven’t revealed themselves might reveal themselves.”
34. Emily Dickinson - “Find ecstasy in life; the mere sense of living is joy enough.”
35. Anne Sexton - “Put your ear down close to your soul and listen hard.”
36. Gilda Radner - “I wanted a perfect ending. Now I’ve learned, the hard way, that some poems don’t rhyme, and some stories don’t have a clear beginning, middle and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next.”
37. Tina Fey - “I like to crack the jokes now and again, but it’s only because I struggle with math.”
38. Elizabeth Cady Stanton – American abolitionist and women’s rights pioneer http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elizabeth_Cady_Stanton
39. Mary Shelley - author of "Frankenstein" - feminist.
40. Emelia Earhardt - pioneering aviator.
41. Jane Goodall - she observed and documented the life of chimps in the wild from 1970 into the 1990s, and has tirelessly worked for the better treatment of chimpanzees.
42. Maya Angelou - autobiographical author and poet
43. Simone de Beauvoir - Philosopher and feminist. “I tore myself away from the safe comfort of certainties through my love for truth – and truth rewarded me.”
44. Anne Frank - autobiographer a young Jewish girl in the Netherlands, kept a diary during the time she and her family were hiding from the Nazis. She did not survive her time in a concentration camp, but her diary still speaks of hope in the midst of war and persecution.
45. Ursula K. LeGuin - science fiction author.
46. Susan B. Anthony - women’s rights pioneer.
47. J.K. Rowling - author.
48. Candice Bergen - Years ago I spent a year reading biographies of famous women. Candice Bergen was the only woman who was very aware in her life. She dated Doris Day’s son and stayed with him through some hellish times in his life. She has had healthy relationships with friends. And she has married kind and in many other ways remarkable men. If you look at Bergen's early life, she was an unlikely candidate for this list. Homecoming Queen, Beauty Queen, Model. She also chose groundbreaking roles when she was younger. I personally love that she is an accomplished dramatic actress who also has brilliant comedic timing. I also love women who were “firsts” Bergan was the first woman to host Saturday Night Live, and also the first host to be invited back again.
49. Dr. Frances Oldham Kelsey - a pharmacologist who had just been hired by the FDA as a drug reviewer. (1960), The drug Thalidomide was marketed to pregnant women in several countries. It was never approved in the United States thanks to her efforts. This was her very first file. The drug company put enormous pressure on her, but she was extremely concerned about side effects on the unborn babies. Many babies were later born severely deformed because of Thalidomide, though none in the US, thanks to the work of Dr. Kelsey. The full story can be found here: http://www.chemistryexplained.com/Hy-Kr/Kelsey-Frances-Kathleen-Oldham.htmll article:http://www.nlm.nih.gov/changingthefaceofmedicine/physicians/biography_182.html
50. Arundhati Roy - (born November 24, 1961) is an Indian novelist, activist and a world citizen. She won the Booker Prize in 1997 for her first novel, "The God of Small Things" and has since devoted her life to helping the people of India. Really an amazing woman. Roy was born in Shillong, Meghalaya to a Keralite Syrian Christian mother and a Bengali Hindu father, a tea planter by profession. She spent her childhood in Aymanam, in Kerala, schooling in Corpus Christi. She left Kerala for Delhi at age 16, and embarked on a homeless lifestyle, staying in a small hut with a tin roof within the walls of Delhi’s Feroz Shah Kotla and making a living selling empty bottles. She then proceeded to study architecture at the Delhi School of Architecture, where she met her first husband, the architect Gerard Da Cunha. "The God of Small Things" is the only novel written by Roy. Since winning the Booker Prize, she has concentrated her writing on political issues. These include the Narmada Dam project, India’s Nuclear Weapons, corrupt power company Enron’s activities in India. She is a figure-head of the anti-globalization/alter-globalization movement and a vehement critic of neo-imperialism. In response to India’s testing of nuclear weapons in Pokhran, Rajasthan, Roy wrote,"The End of Imagination" a critique of the Indian government’s nuclear policies. It was published in her collection, "The Cost of Living" in which she also crusaded against India’s massive hydroelectric dam projects in the central and western states of Maharashtra, Madhya Pradesh and Gujarat. She has since devoted herself solely to nonfiction and politics, publishing two more collections of essays as well as working for social causes. Roy was awarded the Sydney Peace Prize in May 2004 for her work in social campaigns and advocacy of non-violence. In June 2005 she took part in the World Tribunal on Iraq. In January 2006 she was awarded the Sahitya Akademi award for her collection of essays, ‘The Algebra of Infinite Justice’, but declined to accept it. To love. To be loved. To never forget your own insignificance. To never get use to the unspeakable violence and the vulgar disparity of life around you. To seek joy in the saddest places. To pursue beauty to its lair. To never simplify what is complicated or complicate what is simple. To respect strength, never power. Above all, to watch. To try and understand. To never look away. And never, never, to forget. (Arundhati Roy)

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Detroit, City in Ruins, Territorial Markers and Nonverbal Communication of a City

Detroit in Ruins, Territorial Markers and Nonverbal Communication of a City
incredible photography of the ruins of Detroit. We communicate what we think of ourselves, and our culture by what we leave behind and in what condition we leave our cities buildings. Last year I spoke several times in Detroit. In many locations it seemed like a ghost town, the lost ruins of an ancient civilization.

http://www.spreadartculture.com/2011/01/15/marchand-and-meffre/

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Trip to San Francisco and Snow and First Impression Story

Love to hear your snow adventure.
Two weeks ago Atlanta had 30 year record snow and ice.
For me, what could have been a stressful trip to speak in California turned into a wonderful adventure. I live on a hill in Decatur Georgia. When it is icy you can't get out of my house and back down the driveway to the street. In fact, because of the hill you can't easily walk down. So I had paid three cute little boys to clean my big icy hill of a driveway. The boys rang my doorbell and I opened the door to see two ten year olds and a six year old holding a shovel, a rake and brown respecitively. What a first impression! Who could resist their request to clean my driveway.
My city Decatur had no snow plows or snow emergency procedures, so they had police barricades on the worst main roads in the city. Unfortunately two of the roads are the only way in and out of my neighborhood!
My friend Charlie got in his Four by Four, snuck through police barricades, yes copys with multiple cars blocking the roads in and out of my nieghborhool.(Reminding me of the old Goldie Hawn Movie Sugurland Express or any of the Smokey and the Bandid Movies.) Charlie drove up and down icey hills and through blocked roads to pick me up early Thursday morning for my trip.
Once I was in the car, Charlie, who owns two car insurance businesses, said, "I thought you were crazy not to be able to drive yourself, but Decatur hasn't done any clearing its a iced over mess." Charlie managed to get through two more police barricades on iced over North Druid Hills ignoring the fact that other cars were stopping and turning back from the barricades so we could get on to our highway I285The highway had two lanes out of six open and guess what? There wasn’t any traffic!!! We should have taken pictures.

I got a flight out and stayed at a fantastic hotel called The Palace in San Francisco.

I had a wonderful meal at the Pied Piper restaurant at the Palace hotel last Thursday evening and met an interesting guy who does training internationally and owns a coffee house in San Francisco. He was leaving for China this week. (I just read a very insightful article on China in “The Week” It discussed the coming storm as the country pollutes its water, has more elderly people in need of support than people working, and because of its large popluation, an increased need to purchase goods for all it people.for goods throughout the world. )

Later I spoke to a gentleman from Malaysia. He shared with me that he is part Indian part Chinese and was raised in a big house with floor to ceiling books in the library that sounded like the library at the Biltmore. At 14 he left Malaysia for London and was accepted immediately into college. He went on from there to law school at Cambridge and then worked in international banking. He rides his bike or the bus everyday to his current job as a house council for a Bank. That fact alone impressed me! He talked about the chain of restaurants in China he just opened with his partners. The Chinese love cheese and California wine. Who knew! We also all shared favorite books. I told them about the novel I was reading by humorous British author David Nicholls “A Question of Attraction.” (He reminds me of the author of “About a Boy” Nick Hornsby.)

For the main course I had the vegetarian pasta with spiral macaroni pasta, mushrooms, parsley with truffle oil and a dollop of sour cream on top. It was wonderful. I have tasted a lot of pasta. This was a truly unique dish!

Then I had the dessert of chocolate peppermint cake. It was served on a beautiful long clear glass rectangle plate with pink ice-cream and raspberry sauce. It was so lovely, I even took a picture of the plating that I will send.

The next day I had breakfast in the hotel court. Check out the link for Photos it is a extremely impressive hotel. Make sure you click to the court photos. It has this enormous glass ceiling like a garden conservatory in a Victorian home. In fact, the restaurants and lobby were gorgeous!

Http://www.sfpalacerestaurants.com/pied-piper

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Pack Up Your Troubles

Video of Eliza Dolittle singing my new favorite song, "Pack Up Your Troubles"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dzY0-I4Gq5w

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

24 Quick Ways to Lose Weight, Weight Loss and Diet Tps

A new year inspired you to do things, to set goals, to start on new paths.
Each year I create a mission statement for the year as well as several intentions or new years resolutions. My missions statement for past years have included to: Be in the moment, Be of service, Be creative, Be strong (to not be a victim), Have fun and wear cute shoes, Listen first, Be adventurous, Do it differently, Take care of you health first, Value and Be grateful for every good relationship, Be in the world. Last year it was to enjoy each moment.
I plan to be a speaker for a long time. My career keeps getting richer, my speaking and training experiences even more fun and successful.
This year, having spent so much time with my vibrant, smart and funny 90 year old mother I am thinking about my future. My mission statement Plan your positive future (the next 50 years) and take actions that create a positive fulfilling future.

One action is to take more steps to stay healthy and lose weight. Here are my tips as well as 24 tips from top diet experts.
24 quick ways to lose weight. To lose a healthy pound a week, you need to cut 500 calories a day.
http://fitbie.msn.com/lose-weight/tips/simple-ways-cut-500-calories/tip/0

Six easy tips for losing weight and keeping it off. Things I do personally.

1. I drink a tall 8 ounce glass of water when I first wake up and when you first walk through the door when I get home.

2. I use little measuring cups to measure portions. I use a small measuring cup, ½ cup to scoop my cereal, and ice cream and my meat portions a full cup to measure cooked pasta.

3. At home I serve my dinner on small square salad plates so I feel like I am eating a lot, but my portions are automatically controlled. At home I eat dessert or snacks on very small hors d'oeuvre plates. When I am out I try to eat half my food and leave half on the plate.

4. I walk every day for 35 to 45 minutes no matter where I am.

5. I walk, stand, or if I am home do housework when I am on the phone.

6. I stand rather than sit when I am waiting at the airport before a flight, at the hairdressers, the doctors etc. I am amazed how often I am the only one standing.


"You probably already know the math: You have to cut 3,500 calories to drop one pound. To lose a healthy pound a week, that’s 500 calories a day! But you don’t have to deprive yourself or add an hour to your exercise routine to reach your weight loss goals. Here are 24 no-sweat tips for torching calories anytime, anyplace.


At Breakfast
Make a trade. Swap your bagel for an English muffin to slash 220 calories,
A glass of whole milk for skim to save 70 calories,
and a three-egg omelet for one egg and two egg whites
Or pork sausage for turkey sausage to cut about 125 calories each.

Measure portions. Use a small measuring cup, even a 1/2cup measuring cup to scoop cereal (and ice cream)

“It’s so easy to eat a whole cup of cereal rather than a half-cup serving,” says Susan Kleiner, RD, PhD, co-author of The Good Mood Diet and The Power Food Nutrition Plan. “Simply measuring out one serving can save you up to 200 calories.” Keep in mind that a cup of granola can have up to 600 calories, while a cup of high-fiber cereal has only about 120.

Move on your lunch hour. “A brisk 15-minute walk burns about 100 calories, and it gives you less time to eat,” says Marjorie Nolan, RD, CND, CPT and national spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association. Walk during your lunch for five days and burn 500 extra calories. Or try wearing a pedometer to measure out 10,000 steps a day, or about 5 miles—you’ll automatically burn 500 calories without even hitting the gym.

Order wisely. Use hummus or mustard instead of mayo, and a roll for sliced bread on your sandwich, and cut about 200 calories. Opt for a salad instead of fries to save another 300 calories for a total of 500 saved.

Chew your food. An easy way to slash calories is to slow down when you eat. Women who chewed at least 20 times before swallowing ate up to 70 calories less at mealtime, according to the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition. Since it takes 20 to 30 minutes for your body to register that you are full, researchers believe eating more slowly allows you to get to the point where you feel satiated on fewer calories than if you’re shoveling it in.

At Dinner
Downsize your plates. Rather than depriving yourself of food to drop pounds, simply use smaller plates. “People eat as much as is on their dish rather than the amount that their body actually needs,” says Jacob Teitelbaum, MD, author of Beat Sugar Addiction Now! “If you shrink the size of your dishes by a quarter, such as going from a 12-inch plate to a 9-inch plate, you’ll cut 500 calories without feeling deprived.” The research backs it up: People serving themselves ice cream in larger bowls ate 31 percent more than their counterparts eating from smaller bowls—and both groups reported feeling full, according to the American Journal of Preventative Medicine.

Wait to have seconds. Once you’ve downsized to smaller plates, Dr. Teitelbaum recommends giving yourself permission to eat as much as you want, but waiting 20 to 30 minutes to have a second helping. “You almost never go back because you’ve given your body time to register that you’re feeling full, so you easily save hundreds of calories.” Even if you do opt for seconds, you’re likely to get a smaller helping because hunger hormones won’t be driving your appetite.

Slim your sides. Instead of dipping chips in fat-packed sour cream or high calorie and mayonnaise filled ranch dressing, try serving baked tortilla chips or whole wheat pita wedges with low-fat re fried beans and chunky salsa. It’s a tasty way to sneak in an extra serving of veggies and cut 109 calories. Or trade a side of traditional potato salad for sliced tomatoes, cucumbers, and onions tossed with fat-free Italian dressing to cut 258 calories.

Eating Dessert
Make over your sweets. You won’t miss belt-busting peach cobbler or banana splits if you have other good-for-you options to choose from. Save up to 400 calories by making grilled fruit kebabs: Slice one peach and one small banana into quarters, thread four pieces fruit each onto two skewers, and brush with one tbsp honey each. Grill each side for about 4 minutes, or until flesh is tender but still firm. Sprinkle on cinnamon. Or, if you want to have your cake, cut a thin slice of pound cake, layer on berries and top with light whipped cream for a decadent-tasting dessert for less than 150 calories.

Skip the oil. Replace oil with applesauce when baking to slim down. “Two tablespoons of oil is about 200 calories, while 4 tablespoons of applesauce is only 40—you have to double the applesauce to oil ratio in recipes,” says Marjorie Nolan, RD, CND, CPT and national spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association. Make the switch and save 160 calories without sacrificing flavor, and top your treat with a dollop of light whipped cream instead of premium vanilla ice cream to save another 220 calories.
Leave something on your plate. Restaurant dishes are up to 250 percent larger than a normal portion size, so simply leaving a quarter of the meal on your plate can save up to 500 calories. Leaving a few bites of any potato or noodle dish cuts up to 100 calories alone because they almost always have added butter, oils or other fats, says Susan Kleiner, RD, PhD, co-author of The Good Mood Diet. And skip the extras, such as the bread basket, to keep from breaking your calorie bank. Or, if you’re at a Mexican restaurant, forgo the tortilla chips—they can equal more calories than your entire meal.

Know before you go. Before you head to a chain restaurant, check out the nutrition information on its web site – diners who saw nutrition information before selecting their meals ate an average of 52 fewer calories, according to the American Journal of Public Health. Moreover, you’ll be able to make smarter meal choices. Instead of having Chili’s Steak and Portobello Fajitas for 1130 calories, you can choose Chili’s Classic Chicken Fajitas for just 360 calories—a savings of almost 800!
Take a stand. “You can burn up to an extra 500 calories a day without doing a lot of activity simply by standing rather than sitting,” says John Timmerman, a certified personal trainer at Trillium Fitness in Syracuse, New York. “It can make the difference between burning 120 calories an hour versus 60 calories.” If you can’t get away from your desk, try standing to make a phone call or read a report. Even shutting your office door to squeeze in 5 minutes of push ups or jumping jacks can burn another 50 calories.

Have a ball. “Trading your desk chair for a stability ball helps you burn extra calories because you’re forced to use your core muscles to stay stable,” says Marjorie Nolan, RD, CND, CPT and national spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association. “You could burn up to 350 extra calories over an eight-hour workday while helping to tone your stomach and boost circulation.”

Drink up. It’s no secret that swapping water for soda can save you hundreds of calories—about 300 a day if you drink two cans. But drinking 20 to 60 ounces of water daily might also help boost your metabolism so you burn even more calories, says Greta Blackburn, founder of FitCamps and co-author of the new book, The Immortality Edge. “If you’re not getting enough water, your kidneys turn to your liver for help, which takes away from your fat-burning ability and slows metabolism.” To make water more appealing, try adding sliced cucumbers, or low-calorie flavor packets that offer fizz and a shot of vitamins, such as the new orange-flavored eBoost.


Watching TV
Don’t eat and watch. “People who snack in front of the television consume an average of 288 extra calories a day because they’re eating mindlessly,” says Dr. Teitelbaum. If you want to snack, turn off the TV, serve yourself on a dish, and really pay attention to what you’re putting in your mouth to slash calories.

Try commercial cardio. “Doing some kind of cardio, such as jumping rope or jogging in place, burns about 10 calories a minute,” says says Marjorie Nolan, RD, CND, CPT and national spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association. “If you watch an hour of TV a night and add cardio moves during the 10 commercial breaks that typically air, you could blast up to 300 extra calories without missing your favorite shows.” Adding “commercial cardio” and nixing mindless snacking cuts more than 500 calories.
Sleep in. “Studies show people who get less than 6 hours of sleep eat up to 300 calories more during the day because a lack of sleep triggers the production of the hunger hormone, grehlin,” says Marjorie Nolan, RD, CND, CPT and national spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association. Each extra hour of sleep could save you 100 calories. So don’t set your alarm on Saturday, and if you snooze, you lose.

Clean house. Spend 2 hours getting organized by cleaning your garage or vacuuming and dusting the house to slash about 408 calories. Wear extra layers and switch the hands you use to sweat even more.

Get foot loose. Go out with your friend and move to some live music, or just blast your favorite tunes and dance around your house. Rocking out like this for an hour torches 445 calories—and you’ll be having fun so it won’t feel like exercise.

Go for a ride. Biking is great impact-free cardio—plus you have to engage your core muscles to stay balanced. One hour of biking at an easy pace blasts 272 calories—pedal just twice a week, and that’s more than 6 pounds dropped in a year. To find a bike trail near you, check out traillink.com.

Run some errands. Spend an afternoon food shopping and unloading groceries to burn close to 500 calories. Cook dinner to burn 136 more.
Switch it up. You can burn up to an additional 250 calories in a half-hour, or 500 in an hour, by incorporating intervals versus exercising at the same pace, says Nolan. Whether you’re swimming laps, running, riding a stationary bike, or using the treadmill, you can increase the calorie burn by picking up the pace to the point where you are so out of breath that you can’t even talk for 30 seconds, then slow down for one and half minutes to recover. “You know you’re doing the 30-second pushes right when you’re grunting or you want to scream,” says Blackburn. Start with a 5-minute warm up, repeat these 30-second intervals eight times, and then recover for 10 minutes.

Take 15. “Even if you’re really pressed for time, you can usually find 15 minutes in your day to exercise,” says Nolan. For the days when you don’t have time to spare, try doing three 5-minute circuits using free weights. “The key is to get your heart rate up while using as many muscle groups as possible to torch up to 250 calories in just 15 minutes.” If you can find two 15-minute chunks in your day to do these moves, you can blast up to 500 calories. Do three sets of this circuit:

90 Seconds: Squat with a bicep curl, and stand to go straight into an overhead shoulder press. Repeat. 90 Seconds: Lunge forward with right leg while raising weights out to side to shoulder level, hold for one second, bring leg back and arms down to return to starting position. Alternate legs and repeat. 120 Seconds: Do a row while standing on right leg to engage your core muscles, repeat for one minute then switch to left leg."



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Body Language of Fashion Designer Michael Kors


























The Daily Front Row asked Patti to read the body language of fashion designer, Michael Kors, for their Chic Report. Viewing Michael as he posed on the red carpet, Patti commented, "he's amazingly comfortable in his own skin" Check the link below to find out more of Patti's insights!

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Hamish Bowles' Body Language, an Editor for Vogue
























Patti read the body language of Hamish Bowles, an editor for Vogue Magazine, for the Daily Front Row in the Chic Report recently. According to Patti, men give certain cues to show they are sexually available. Check the link below to discover those cues!

http://www.dailyfrontrow.com/chic-report/article/a-chic-report-investigation-hamishs-body-language

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Elevator Body Language


How we behave in those seconds of entrapment says alot about us. Bloomberg Businessweek asked Patti to share her insights on the behaviors of elevator riders from 10 of Manhattan office buildings. Check the link below to find out which catagory you're in!


http://www.scribd.com/doc/46012966/ElevatorBehaviors


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Starbucks Waiting-Line Stances......What Do They Reveal?


"Waiting for coffee isn't merely a hassle: It's a revealing pasttime," Patti tells Bloomberg Businessweek. Patti analyzed the 10 most common "Starbucks waiting-line stances" for Bloomberg recently. Check the link below to get her insights and discover what your waiting-line stance means!

http://www.scribd.com/doc/46012916/CoffeeKinesiology

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Top Ten Books of 2010, Patti's Favorite Books

For the articles in my December Newsletter scroll below this article.my top ten gifts please connect to my blog and go to the articles page for the article.

Top Ten Books of 2010Patti’s Top Ten Books of 2010 and a few more of Patti’s favorite Books.
While all these books didn’t come out in 2010 I read them in 2010.

1. Picara- by Pat MacEnulty- A coming of age story set in the sixties. The writing is clean and beautiful. This novel was written by my dear friend Pat. It so deserved to be best seller.
2. The Help - by Kathryn Stockett. The novel is set in 1960’s Mississippi. It shows how a female college graduate learns to care about the plight of the black maids who work for many white families.
3. Poetry- Anything written by Poet Laureate Billy Collin. Some of you know I started as a poetry major in college. (Link to How I became a body language expert on website.) My friends and I heard Collins read his work at the book conference Southern Voices. He is an amazing poet. Collins has earned a rare spot between critical respect and wide appeal. His last three collections of poems have broken sales records for poetry. His readings are usually standing room only, and his audience – enhanced tremendously by his appearances on Garrison Keillor's A Prairie Home Companion on National Public Radio – includes people of all backgrounds and age groups. He has also published eight collections of his poetry, including Ballistics, The Art of Drowning, Taking off Emily Dickinson’s Clothes and The Trouble with Poetry. If you fly Delta, check out the poetry on the audio channel. Collins helped create the audio poetry channel for Delta Airlines. Collins sees his poetry as “a form of travel writing,” Collins considers humor “a door into the serious.” It is a door that many thousands of readers have opened with amazement and delight. You must read the poem about his dog. At the bottom of this list.
4. A Happy Marriage by Rafael Yglesias (He also wrote, "Fearless" a novel that was made in the motion picture starring Jeff Bridges.
5. American Wife- by Curtis Sittenfeld. I really enjoyed this book a fictionalized a real wife of a president. I found the bookish, naïve Alice Lindgren interesting though shallow. She seems separated from her real life by glass. . Charlie Blackwell, her boyishly charming rake and lush of a husband, whose background of Ivy League privilege, penchant for booze and partying, contempt for the news and habit of making flubs when speaking off the cuff, bears more than a passing resemblance to the current president (though the Blackwells hail from Wisconsin, not Texas). Sittenfeld shines early in her portrayal of Alice's coming-of-age in Riley, Wis., living with her parents and her mildly eccentric grandmother. A car accident in her teens results in the death of her first crush, which haunts Alice even as she later falls for Charlie and becomes overwhelmed by his family's private summer compound and exclusive country club membership. Once the author leaves the realm of pure fiction, however, and has the first couple deal with his being ostracized as a president who favors an increasingly unpopular war, the book quickly loses its panache and sputters to a weak conclusion that doesn't live up to the fine storytelling that precedes it.
6. Lady Audley's Secret, Mary Elizabeth Braddon written in 1862, it was hugely popular and the prime example of sensation fiction. I read it originally many years ago when I was reading Wilke Collins sensation/murder mystery fiction written in the same era.
7. The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo by Stieg Larsen. A true page turner. I love the complexity of the female investigator Harriot Vangner. Her next two books were very well written, but for me so violent. In fact, I felt manipulated by the violence and tried to skip the violence in the second book and ended up skimming through over a hundred pages or what I felt was pornographic violence.
8. Olive Kitteridge by ElizabethStrout (Abide with Me, etc.) Thirteen short stories give a heart-wrenching, penetrating portrait of ordinary coastal Mainers living lives of quiet grief intermingled with flashes of human connection. The opening story gives us one of my favorite characters of 2010. A terse, judgmental junior high-school teacher Olive Kitteridge and her sweet gregarious pharmacist husband, Henry, both of whom have survived the loss of a psychologically damaged parent, and both of whom suffer painful attractions to co-workers. Their son, Christopher, takes center stage in A Little Burst, which describes his wedding in humorous, somewhat disturbing detail, and in Security, where Olive, in her 70s, visits Christopher and his family in New York. I love Olive.
9. Into Temptation. I love the entire trilogy -Penny Vinenzie –Definitely a guilty pleasure. The novels are about the Lytton family past. The main character Lady Celia knows leads an interesting life full of secrets. Then there's her daughter Adele's difficult, dark past; the dreadful cruelty of a truth her son Kit had to confront; even the shadows of Celia's own life, and that of Barty Miller, whom she rescued from the slums in babyhood and who now owns more than half of the Lytton publishing house. Some secrets are more dangerous than others, some shared with Celia's family, some entirely her own. And all absolutely safe in her keeping. Until something happens that threatens to reveal them all ...INTO TEMPTATION is a magnificent drama that captures the spirit of an age and tells the gripping story of the Lytton family
10. Prayers for Sale- Dallas (Author of the sweet book The Persian Pickle Club.) offers up the unconventional friendship between Hennie Comfort, a natural storyteller entering the twilight of her life, and Nit Spindle, a naïve young newlywed, forged in the isolated mining town of Middle Swan, Colo., in 1936. When the two meet, Hennie recognizes her younger self in Nit, and she's immediately struck with a desire to nurture and guide Nit, who is lonely and adrift in her new hometown and her brand-new marriage. As Hennie regales Nit with stories and advice, the two become inseparable and pass several seasons huddled around their quilting with the other women of Middle Swan. Even though Hennie maintains an air of c'est la vie as she unravels her life story, Nit and the reader soon realize there are tragedies and secrets hidden behind Hennie's tranquil demeanor. This satisfying novel will immediately draw readers into Hennie and Nit's lives, and the unexpected twists will keep them hooked through to the bittersweet denouement. (Apr.)
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11. Home Safe –Elizabeth Berg. I have read all her novels and I love every one. In this new novel, beloved bestselling author Elizabeth Berg weaves a beautifully written and richly resonant story of a mother and daughter in emotional transit. Helen Ames–recently widowed, coping with loss and grief, unable to do the work that has always sustained her–is beginning to depend far too much on her twenty-seven-year-old daughter, Tessa, and is meddling in he...more


Where is a great great book like “Seabiscuit: An American Legend by Laura Hillenbrand. Published: 2002. I read the Vanity excerpted chapter from her new novel. The writing is extraordinary but you can only stay so long in shark infested waters and a Japanese prison camp.

12. Hawaii- By Catherine E. Toth After her mother passed away 15 years ago, Margaret Dilloway found a copy of a book stashed in a drawer at the family's San Diego home."The American Way of Housekeeping" was, essentially, a handbook created by the wives of American officers for their Japanese housekeepers soon after World War II ended. Written in both English and Japanese, it provided a guide for how to do everything from cooking proper American food and using household appliances to cleaning room to room in a precise sequence.Dilloway's mom, Suiko, who was from Kumamoto, Japan, had received the book from her father after they wed. The couple met in Iwakuni when her dad, who grew up in Pennsylvania, was stationed there with the Navy."My dad thought the book was for housewives," said Dilloway, 36, a stay-at-home mom who lives in Hawaii Kai with her husband, Keith, and three children.It turned out that many American men thought that way, too, and bought the handbook for their Japanese war brides.
13. Saving CeeCee Honeycutt: A Novel by Beth Hoffman. Hoffman attempts to cross Steel Magnolias with The Help but doesn’t not offer enough spice, in this Southern debut novel sparkling with humor, heart, and feminine wisdom. Pat MacEnulty’s novel was so much better. This was a feel good book with some nice quotes about ways to lead your life.

14. A Reliable Wife by Robert Goolrick – I read it. I liked the writing. I really liked the setting. I learned so much about Wisconsin. I love the time period and the specific period details. I did like the twisted murder mystery and I thought the bodice ripping scenes were amazing. But, with all that, I didn’t really like the book. . I have a hard time connecting to a novel with three despicable main characters, actually if you include the younger sister I would day four people I didn’t care to read about for an entire novel.
15. Sarah’s Key by De Rosnay's. Many book store employees pushed this book to me over the year. I read it, but I felt manipulated by the story. It was not as good as other novels in its depiction of World War two and its atrocities. Such as 2006’s “The Book Thief” I did appreciate learning more about the Jewish round up in Paris. This novel explore the life of family after the 1942 Paris roundups and deportations, in which thousands of Jewish families were arrested, held at the Vélodrome d'Hiver outside the city, then transported to Auschwitz. Forty-five-year-old Julia Jarmond, American by birth, moved to Paris when she was 20 and is married to the arrogant, unfaithful Bertrand Tézac, with whom she has an 11-year-old daughter. Julia writes for an American magazine and her editor assigns her to cover the 60th anniversary of the Vél' d'Hiv' roundups. Julia soon learns that the apartment she and Bertrand plan to move into was acquired by Bertrand's family when its Jewish occupants were dispossessed and deported 60 years before. She resolves to find out what happened to the former occupants: Wladyslaw and Rywka Starzynski, parents of 10-year-old Sarah and four-year-old Michel. The more Julia discovers—especially about Sarah, the only member of the Starzynski family to survive—the more she uncovers about Bertrand's family, about France and, finally, herself. Already translated into 15 languages, the novel is De Rosnay's 10th (but her first written in English, her first language). It beautifully conveys Julia's conflicting loyalties, and makes Sarah's trials so riveting, her innocence so absorbing, that the book is hard to put down. (July)
16. The Forgotten Garden: A Novel by Kate Morton. Morton wrote one of my favorite books of 2009 The House at Riverton. I did like the setting and the historical details. I loved the portion of the novel that started in the back alleys of poverty of pre-World War I London and the shores of colonial Australia. I wish the novel had kept with that story line and those characters. This novel started with a compelling set of characters but killed them off. The characters that remain, seem tired and beaten down by life and the story that unfolds of a sordid childhood sexual abuse may have seemed to the author a device to elevate the fiction to great art, but just it made the novel unpleasant to read. I don’t like to feel sorry for characters through an entire novel. I could have loved and followed the story of character and actually enjoyed the novel, but instead I knew slogging through the story that she was abused all those years and DIED.
17. Valera’s Last Stand. Read it didn’t like it. Marc Fitten was born in Brooklyn, raised in the Bronx and later moved to Atlanta for high school. Following graduation, he spent nearly a decade traveling in Europe, living primarily in Hungary. He is currently the editor of The Chattahoochee Review, Atlanta’s oldest journal. Fitten has been published in several American publications and was included in Esquire magazine’s Cocktail Napkin Project. Valeria’s Last Stand is his debut novel.
18. Carry Me Home- It was an interesting book by Diane McWhorter. The book Carry Me Home: Birmingham, Alabama: The Climactic Battle of the Civil Rights Revolution, garnered the Pulitzer Prize for Nonfiction, the Southern Book Award and was named one of Time Magazine’s Top 10 Books of 2001. She is also the author of the award-winning A Dream of Freedom, a young adult history of the Civil Rights Movement. Raised in Birmingham, McWhorter is a graduate of Wellesley College and was a long-time contributor to The New York Times and former editor of Boston Magazine. She is presently on the USA Today Board of Contributors and is currently researching her next book, which focuses on Wernher von Braun and the Third Reich missile pioneers. She and her family live in New York City.


The Revenant - Billy Collins
I am the dog you put to sleep,
as you like to call the needle of oblivion,
come back to tell you this simple thing:
I never liked you--not one bit.
When I licked your face,
I thought of biting off your nose.
When I watched you toweling yourself dry,
I wanted to leap and unman you with a snap.
I resented the way you moved,
your lack of animal grace,
the way you would sit in a chair to eat,
a napkin on your lap, knife in your hand.
I would have run away,
but I was too weak, a trick you taught me
while I was learning to sit and heel,
and--greatest of insults--shake hands without a hand.
I admit the sight of the leash
would excite me
but only because it meant I was about
to smell things you had never touched.
You do not want to believe this,
but I have no reason to lie.
I hated the car, the rubber toys,
disliked your friends and, worse, your relatives.
The jingling of my tags drove me mad.
You always scratched me in the wrong place.
All I ever wanted from you
was food and fresh water in my metal bowls.
While you slept, I watched you breathe
as the moon rose in the sky.
It took all of my strength
not to raise my head and howl.
Now I am free of the collar,
the yellow raincoat, monogrammed sweater,
the absurdity of your lawn,
and that is all you need to know about this place
except what you already supposed
and are glad it did not happen sooner--
that everyone here can read and write,
the dogs in poetry, the cats and the others in prose.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Body Language and Deception Read of Ronni Chasen Murder Mystery

FOX news asked me to give a body language and deception read of Ronni Chasen murder mystery.

The question is, "Does the latest police theory, which suggests Harold Smith acted alone on a bicycle in a "robbery gone wrong" ring true as officals discuss i? Some feel that the Beverly Hills Police is bluffing with this story in an effort to make the real suspect feel safe. Here are the three peoples' statements followed by my read or the paralanguage and body language during the press conference this week.

http://www.radaronline.com/exclusives/2010/12/suicide-gun-matches-weapon-ronni-chasen-murder

I would love to get your expert analysis on the body language of the police chief, detective and Beverly Hills Mayor. It is all bizarre.

So far it seems like he is just being cautious in order to say the correct thing legally and politically rather to do any bluffing. I do note his awkward delivery seems to hesitate on complexity of the word "Preliminary" in Preliminary Ballistics, and Preliminarily."We do believe that Mr. Smith acted alone." Look at his face. He goes back to a closed smile that goes up to his eyes and holds it without stress. His voice does go up at the end of the sentence, but the voice is strong at the beginning and I think it is a true statement. He is a little more nervous as he delivers the statement, "We don't believe it was a professional hit." His head does what I call a facial retreat. But I think it was more due to fearing the Media's response to that statement. His head also goes down to find some security in referring to his notes. But I still think he is speaking the truth, just stressed. In the next set of sentences, he has an odd delivery, first says, "That conclusion, but follows with, "That inclusion very well may be... His response to a journalist's question I couldn't hear was, ”No we don't, we are still investigating it. This is interesting as here his smile DOES get tense and he gulps. That statement doesn't "go down well" for him. What was that question? He does get a bit irritated on the edge of anger as he discusses erroneous statements from people outside the investigation. I am a media coach. I actually think the anger there was OK. There are times when anger can work if you are in a position of power and you are in uniform in a press conference and of course if YOU are not suspect. In this case it made him look strong and confident. But "Only a Man in Uniform" could get away with it. I would have coached him to deliver all the content with strength and a little bit faster without all the vocal pauses to seem more assured.

The middle speaker gave a gracious politically correct set of statements. He prepared the compliment statements, but his manner and delivery became fearful and cautious as he stumbled through answering the questions. At that time he looked ill prepared. He chose to make all his statements come from someone else.

The third speaker was fairly confident and believed everything he said. When he talks about various stories made to form one story... that’s not accurate." He sticks out his tongue at the journalist who is asking him about the ten thousand dollar hit theory. The rest of his body is not overly defensive, I think he is just upset about that statement from the media. He does start doing some swaying back and forth to comfort himself as he talks about this. "...being a robbery gone bad..." But his voice gets strong as he hits the words CRUCICAL. In the sentence, "America's most wanted .was CRUCIAL." He really honors that help. He does begin to get nervous and have trouble responding to further questioning as he makes comments about the shooter, "Being under desperate measures." and the speaker’s swaying becomes more pronounced."


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

http://www.finanzen.net/nachricht/Americans-Confess-Wags-Speak-Louder-Than-Words-

Just found this article tonight quoting me on the Pup-peroni campaign.


http://www.finanzen.net/nachricht/Americans-Confess-Wags-Speak-Louder-Than-Words-759322
Americans Confess — Wags Speak Louder Than Words

A recent survey by Pup-Peroni® dog snacks reveals that, despite the obvious language barrier, the majority of American canine pet parents believe they can communicate with their dogs. Nearly three in four (74 percent) pet parents surveyed report that their dog’s body language or facial expressions let them know how their pet is feeling, while seven in ten (70 percent) believe they have "shared a look” with their pooch on at least one occasion. In fact, American dog parents are so confident about the bond they share with their pups, nearly half (49 percent) believe they know exactly what their pet is thinking and more than a third (34 percent) report that they’ve had an entire "conversation” with their dogs without saying a word — highlighting that when it comes to the human-canine relationship, wags speak louder than words.
Pup-Peroni’s new Wags, Not Words Survey, conducted by Kelton Research, reveals that the deep connection shared between pet parents and their dogs doesn’t rely solely on words. Almost half (41 percent) of pet parents surveyed say that their canine friend is more likely to "notice” they’ve had a bad day than their best human friend and 69 percent believe their pooches know when they are feeling happy.

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"Dogs are more than just a pet; they are confidants, therapists and best friends,” said Christie Fleming, Vice President Marketing Pet Snacks, Del Monte Foods. "Our survey shows that even though pet parents and their dogs don’t speak the same language, they share a very special and unique relationship, which allows them to communicate through wags, not words. So, when you think your dog is asking for a treat – it’s likely that he is.”
PERCEPTIVE PUPS

Most canine pet parents find solace in knowing that their dogs are able to pick up on their emotions, such as happiness (69 percent), anger (67 percent) and even sadness (58 percent) without having to say a word. Whether they are happy, hungry or tired, their dogs "just know”, and can often comfort and support them when they need it most. To add to the compelling statistics on a pup’s perceptiveness, the survey revealed that an overwhelming 89 percent of dog parents believe there have been moments when their dogs tried to comfort them in times of need.
"When compared with other animals, dogs’ ability to "read” humans is highly accurate. Dogs pick up information from the subtlest hand gestures and even understand the meaning of a human glance,” said Patti Wood, body language expert. "Researchers believe that over centuries there’s been direct selection for dogs with the ability to read social cues in humans, highlighting its importance.”
A TRUE COMPAWNION

The unique communication shared between canines and their pet parents lends itself to a rewarding relationship for both. Some would even say their bond with their dog is stronger than the one they share with their closest comrades, as nearly two thirds (62 percent) of those surveyed believe that their dogs are more dependable than their human best friends. Furthermore, 67 percent of canine pet parents confess that when they’re out of town, they’re more likely to feel guilty about leaving their dogs behind than their own family and friends. Dogs are also the preferred company when it comes to unwinding. Nearly three in four (72 percent) prefer to blow off steam by taking a walk with their dogs than a close human companion. Additionally, the vast majority (89 percent) also admit that their pooches are typically more excited to greet them when they come home than their significant others.
For more information about Pup-Peroni dog snacks, visit www.Pup-Peroni.com.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Kathy Griffin at the VH1 "Divas Salute The Troops" Event In Which She Mocked Bristol Palin's Weight

I was asked by AOL.com to give my thoughts on Kathy Griffin at the VH1 "Divas Salute The Troops" event in which she mocked Bristol Palin's weight, claiming she's the only "DWTS" contestant to actually ever gain weight, and also referred to her as "The White Precious."

Are these remarks hurtful to not only Bristol, also the plentiful amount of young ladies who tuned into this program? The audience was booing anything Kathy had to say about the Palin family. They hadn’t even heard the joke when they started booing. I watched and listened to the tape several times. Those were really loud aggressive hateful boos. And startling, as I have seen military audiences absolutely love on Kathy and laugh buoyantly. She was working hard to get through that moment. I have never seen her that unloved on stage. Her voice was already blown going into that joke and I can tell you that can happen to you as a comic or speaker when you have to yell over the audience. That tells me that the audience was already going wild.

I think this was actually a pretty tame joke. The hard news media feels a politician's kid is off limits for criticism until the parent or the child chooses to put the child or themselves in the limelight. She chose to be on a show that loves to celebrate the underdog and the winner, but also a show that EVERYONE makes fun of the contestants. Maria Osmond calls the show "dancing with the starved" because of how the media made fun of her weight on the show.

I can tell you the only time I have received death threats from an audience is when I was on a National News show and was asked to say three pieces of praise for Palin’s media interviewing skills and to make three suggestions for ways Sarah Palin could improve her interviewing skills. ( This was at the beginning of her Vice Presidential debate.)

Is Kathy sending the wrong message? I think she was making a fat joke against a young woman who chose to be in the lime light. Kathy didn’t deliver it with the acidic dig and face that she uses when she really dislikes someone. Are her words damaging? I think it might be damaging for her, but she thrives on it. She was bringing it on.
I also think Palin knew that digs like this might happen if she went on the show and she still wanted to do it. Even my 90 year old mother commented weeks ago that Palin was gaining weight, but she was impressed that she drove herself from Alaska to do the show. My mother wanted to see Sara Palin’s TV show on Alaska because she was impressed with her daughter. The Palin family draws attention.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Body Language Read of Fed Chair, Bernanke 60 Minutes Interview

Body Language Read of Fed Chair, Bernanke 60 Minutes Interview by Scott Pernelli. was by MSMBC to analyze Bernanke's body language and I also talked to AOL.com and NBC.com. I am a body language expert and a media coach. I was interested in how confident Bernanke appeared during the interview. If his goal was to instill confidence, he really didn’t give a good interview. He looked scared, close to tears at times and defensive when he was asked the tough questions.
The editing of the interview was interesting. They always ended with his response to a tough question both in the first segment break then at the very end. You really see the primacy and resencey persuasion theory effects I talk about with my media clients and public speaking workshop attendees.
If you saw the interview edited to just his statement of the Feds plans he is confident.

I will put up a link to the video and links to any press quotes of my read.


In The first segment in the darkened room chair to chair with the 60 minutes interviewer, Scott Pernelli, Bernanke often appears to lack confidence in his responses, his voice cracks, he retreats and head tilts. He confidently responds to his plans, but not to our future. Also it was clear he was very tired in this first segment. It looks like Bernanke didn’t sleep the night before; in fact I had written that in my notes then in the second segment Pernelli asks, “What keeps you up at night?”
Bernanke responds to the first question from Pernelli, “When is this going to end” by smacking his lips together. This indicates that his mouth is dry, a sign of nervousness and in this case his facial expression and smack indicate he wants to be careful and thoughtful in his response. Sure enough he gives a slowly delivered prepared answer rather than a fast confident, spontaneous answer.
I wish there was a two shot. If you look at his head placement his head is “off center” and pulled slightly back. That indicates his fear and defensiveness. The off center placement may be due to where the interviewer is seated or matching and mirroring of Pernelli, but a confident person who has one clear vision typically holds their head in center position. Head tilts back and forth like he does throughout the interview read as if he was flip flopping on his beliefs. I advise my media coaching clients to be careful of head flopping because it can be read so negatively. Also the way Bernanke is pulling back his head slightly as he begins each statement shows a lack of confidence in the answer. What we want to see is someone who moves his head and body forward with confidence. His head is also slightly tilted to the side, though again this may be a response to how the interview or camera is set up. But to the public a tilted head held throughout statement shows deference, uncertainity and in this case makes us feel like he is afraid of our negative response to him and what he is saying. Frightened children tilt their head when they are telling their parents they did something wrong and fear punishment. It is not the normal head placement for a power government employee.

“We do have a plan and we are working on it but I do think we will get it stabilized. Again his head tilts. He does hit the right words strongly the do and the will showing the correct paralanguage emphasis to instill confidence. But then he hesitates in the middle and stumbles verbally and uses a BUT that seems to cut one half of the sentence from the other. That can happen subconsciously when you’re sure about one thing you're saying but not the other. Also look how he pulls his head back. Specifically how the right side of his face pulls back and “retreats as he goes into the next sentence and he changes his vocal delivery and says, now I am seeing the interviewer model the head tilt
The interviewer steeples (think of him holding a king's crown out in front of himself when asking him about the end of the recession that is an aggressive way of asking.) And Bernanke does get vocally defensive and picks up the pace saying the begining of the next answer very quickly.
We will see an end of this decline, stop “I hope”

You seem to be saying we are not heading into a depression,
“I think we have averted that, pause that risk. I think we have gotten past, that risk. This delivery makes me feel that he has compartmentalized his statement. He thinks we have averted THAT risk, but to me obviously feels there are other risks. (I listened to the rest of the video and just found out his research specialty was the great depression. He really does define it differently. )

Listen to his voice as he is asked if he made a mistake letting Lehman brothers fail. His voice is actually cracking, you can hear the stress, and the voice sounds like he is on the edge of tears.
…people said let em fail...and he shakes his head no. Showing he really didn’t believe we should let them fail. Then he says, “… and I think (again that word) I knew BETTER than that.

There have been four rescues of AIG of over a….why is that necessary,
Watch Bernanke carefully- again you can see him get chocked up. Let me first say, (By the way this is a common bridge statement I teach my clients who are going to be interviewed by the media. It allows you to go to a planned statement you as the interviewee have written or practiced ahead of time. I think he did a good job of holding back his anger, but gracefully using the words causes me the most anger... angst. His voice gets strong for a bit here.

Later I thought we were close to a global financial meltdown.
How close
It was very close.

It’s not tax money… talks about printing money his voice stresses again.

When asked about the multiple bailouts. He slumps back in his chair and again his voice falters in mid sentence showing a lack of confidence. “Part of the issue is well, pause; you know the economy has gotten….. That has meant again he stutters out.
The interviewer gets usually aggressive and brings his entire body towards Bernanke and stays in Bernanke’s space that is not creating a neutral response. He is really trying to get Bernanke back up …really pushy and says, “There are so many people across this country that say, to hell with them.”
Bernanke is doing some odd partial head nods that go from side to side disagreement to up and down agreement. Then he gives another prepped response, “Let me give you an analogy…pause stutter... if I might. As a media coach. I would have had him just strongly go into the analogy that is a really weak bridge statement to use in response to a question that strongly delivered.
He voice gets much stronger as he talks about the stress tests they are giving to the bank. He feels really good and confident with this plan. I wish he had said this earlier as I think by this time the viewing public would be disgusted and tuned out the significance of the stress test plan.

Next he sounds really scared. Wow this was not a strong way to end this segment. The last thing you say and do effects your personal credibility and a show like this can choose the segment that airs before a long commercial break.
Keep you up at night... Here Bernanke blinks and pulls back his head as he says, “The biggest risk is that we pause you know, that we don’t have the political will he shakes his head no, we don’t have the …
In which case, we can’t (he pauses and shakes his head no,) we can’t count on recovery. (His voice breaking.


The read of the Job segment
Bernanke asked, “How long before we get those jobs back?”
Freeze at 14:50 He does a head sadness bow and a head back retreat and gives a window shade blink you are obviously right.
If you freeze there you can see his sadness
Four or five years for jobs to come back. His voice cracks.
Bernanke is sitting in a very guarded protected position. His legs are crossed away and he has his arms and hands in a defensive arm and hand position protecting his ventral front (His belly.)

Some people think that the six hundred billion is a terrible idea,
Bernanke moves forward and actually sounds agitated and angry… his voice speaks up and he energetically says “I know that some people think that ...ahhh pause ahhhh... What I think there.
His hand goes gently forward as he says the word policy. (He believes the policy is sound)
This fear of inflation is much overstated. He shakes his head in strong, quick up and down motions; He moves his head in a strong and angry manner.
Now he says myth we are printing money, we are not printing money what we are doing is….
He gets riled up here as he continues. He is good at saying what the Fed is doing.
He is really talking fast as he talks about how they can halt inflation… really fast compared to his baseline.


It looks like Beranke didn’t sleep the night before.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

How You Say Things Matters, Exercise for Nonverbal Communication.

Job recommendations for the poor employee. I just read this in Nigel Risners wonderful newsletter. Go through the recommendations and read them out loud using different inflections to emphasize certain words. Paralanguage can make a really big difference to meaning of a message.

I thought your students might enjoy this. I think I will use it as a nonverbal exercise and have people say the recommendations out loud with different vocal inflections.


Ever have to write a letter of recommendation for a less-
than-adequate employee? Or, make a decision about hiring
someone you aren't sure of? In his never-ending desire to be
helpful, my friend Bill Barrows forwarded these key phrases.
You never know when they might come in handy--or serve as
fair warning!

Regarding an employee who is chronically absent:
"A man like him is hard to find."
"It seemed her career was just taking off."

For the office drunk:
"I feel his real talent is wasted here."
"We generally found him loaded with work to do."
"Every hour with him was a happy hour."

For an employee with no ambition:
"He could not care less about the number of hours he had to
put in."
"You would indeed be fortunate to get this person to work
for you."

For an employee who is so unproductive that
the job is better left unfilled:
"I can assure you that no person would be better for the job."

For an employee who is not worth further consideration
as a job candidate:
"I would urge you to waste no time in making this candidate
an offer of employment."
"All in all, I cannot say enough good things about this
candidate or recommend him too highly."

For a stupid employee:
"There is really nothing you can teach a man like him."
"I most enthusiastically recommend this candidate with no
qualifications whatsoever."

For a dishonest employee:
"Her true ability was deceiving."
"He's an unbelievable worker."


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Patti Speaking on Body Language at Turner Broadcasting

I will be speaking today at Turner Broadcasting Studios.
Here are two links to the releases they put out about the event.
http://exm.nr/fh3Qfd

http://pitch.pe/105335

There will be live twitters of the event as well.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Airport Security, The Body Language of New Pat Downs and Scanning

I love my country. I wanted to make sure I said that first as I am about to analyze the nonverbal factors that may be causing passengers to have trouble with the new scanning and pat down procedures at the airport.

In the last two weeks I have gone through the new screening procedures eight times in five different cities, Atlanta, Cincinnati, San Antonio, Ft. Lauderdale, and Tyler Texas. I went through the scanner each time and oddly, each time I was patted down, extensively. Apparently, little blonds with glasses fit the terrorist profile. The new security checks are more than a little intrusive. In fact, if they did it any better they would have to buy me dinner first. However, I am certainly willing to do it, to insure we are secure while flying. There are nonverbal issues with the procedure. We can talk about “personal freedoms and profiling but truly we just don't like our personal space invaded. Americans sense of self, their personal space, is external rather than internal. In the US and most of North America we feel that our body, our space, does not end at the external body. It does not stop at skin and hair, but extends out from the body a good sixteen inches or more. When we are in any crowd, and especially long lines like the security at Airports like Atlanta Hartsfield or Chicago O'Hara we already have to be inside the body bubble wall of dozens of people so we may be fearful, or defensive before we even get to the main check point. Our intimate body bubble is bigger in front than it is in back and smaller around our feet. So people can stand closer to us when they are behind us queuing in line than when they are facing us. This kind of queuing is unique because we know we may already be stressed about traveling, we know we are going to be evaluated and go through the stress of mini checks and handing over our personal artifacts to the conveyor belt where it may be lost or evaluated and taking off our shoes and feeling quite vulnerable as bare or sock footed we gingerly step toward strangers in uniforms.

To be scanned, you lift up your arms above your head and hold them with palms flat out. This again makes you feel extremely vulnerable to attack. All your body windows are exposed. Anyone can hurt your very easily when you're in this position. In that same vulnerable moment you know there is someone looking at your body on a screen even more exposed. Then there is a pat down where you stand in similar position and have someone not just invade your space but touch you. It is all very stressful. The word stress that evolved from Latin word "districtia" means "to draw or pull apart." The Romans even used the term to describe "a being torn asunder." Most of us who have been through a busy airport's security check can probably relate to this description.

0—18 inches. The "Intimate Zone" we normally reserve for friends and family. It’s what I call “kissy face” distance. We also allow others to encroach this zone in a few other situations; contact sports, dancing and in greeting and goodbyes. In North American culture this space is almost like an extension of your body. Standing 18 inches from someone you can only see their face their hands and feet are out of vision range. If you get closer than 18 inches everything blurs. This makes you vulnerable to attack. At this distance. you will be able to smell and touch the other person and they can smell and touch you. So at this distance you want to make sure you have used your deodorant and brushed your teeth. This distance is used for sexual contact,comforting someone or attack. Whenever you perceive a threat, imminent or imagined, your limbic system immediately responds via your autonomic nervous system. Your adrenal glands release adrenaline (also known as epinephrine) and other hormones that increase breathing, heart rate, and blood pressure. This moves more oxygen-rich blood faster to the brain and to the muscles needed for fighting or fleeing. Adrenaline causes a rapid release of glucose and fatty acids into your bloodstream. Also,your senses become keener and your memory sharper. So the event of going through security is heightening your perception. Other hormones shut down functions unnecessary during the emergency. For example, the immune system goes on hold. That's why chronic stress increases your chances of getting sick. With your mind and body in this temporary state of metabolic overdrive, you are now prepared to respond to a life-threatening situation and or a security check. No wonder we resent it. After you go through a perceived danger your body would typically try to return to normal, but once your stress response is activated the system wisely keeps you in a state of readiness for the next saber tooth tiger, or gets you ready to get to your gate, get on the plane and sit next to a stranger for several hours.

http://www.myfoxatlanta.com/dpp/news/newsmaker-body-language-and-pat-downs-112310

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at Patti@PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

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OchoCinco and Owens Making Comments About Darrelle Revis and Antonio Cromarti and Body Language Read - Cocky or Ready to Play?

This is a body language read of OchoCinco and Owens on a show on the Versus Network.
I usually just report on the body language and don't editorialize but in this case these players were putting other players down and thinking they were cool. I was not impressed. I actually like the rowdy, loud team members who shout and jump up with raised arms and high fives saying, “We are going to win!” “We are going to pulverize them!” Athletes do that to get their limbic brain pumped with adrenaline and other hormones so blood goes to their brain and limbs so they can move and “fight.” Glucose gives them intense focus. That is fun! That energy is contagious and gets the fans fired up.


OchoCinco and Owens will be facing the New York Jets on Thursday night in a nationally televised game and they will be going up against Darrelle Revis and Antonio Cromartie, two of the best quarterbacks in the game. Revis and Cromartie will be charged with the responsibility of shutting down OchoCinco and Owens, which leads to this exchange in the video.

http://www.versus.com/tocho-show/videos/tocho-jet-promo/


Questions about the overall exchange and demeanor of the two:

Are they dismissive? Is it in fun? What is the overall tone and tenor? What can you tell us about their delivery that would give some insight into their intentions throughout their delivery? Are they uncomfortable? Cocky? Joking? Self-assured?

The guys were reading their pre-written lines off a teleprompter with a delivery that was stiff and awkward rather than alpha cool dude energetic. Even when OchoCinco used the bullhorn, his body (head, shoulders posture) didn’t go up with enthusiasm nor did his paralanguage, (voice tone, volume, speaking rate) show he was energized. They appeared so cool with the relaxed shoulders, torsos/stomachs, relaxed back and low energy, slow vocal delivery by both guys they didn’t even have to work hard or give it their all in this piece.

Why do they choose to call Revis and Cromartie “Ren & Stimpy?" Does that make it obviously a humorous statement or is that a slight?

The nonverbal delivery, I'm sure, was planned as a comic put down. If they wanted it to be a powerful put down it would have been given spontaneously with a strong stare and vocal emphasis.


How would an athlete who has these statements directed at him react?

As a media coach I would tell Revis and Cromartie not to be worried. Chad OchoCinco (Johnson) and Terrelle Owens are over confident. If Revis and Cromartie are questioned directly by the media about the "Ren & Stimpy," I might suggest a comment such as “Let’s let go of thoughts of cartoon cats and dogs. Let's be great sportsmen and play great football for all our great fans.”


How about carrying over onto the field, what is the impact? If they are joking in their comments, would that mean that they are taking them lightly? If they’re serious and putting them down, does that mean that they might be prone to be too cocky?

It is clear from all this planned buffoonery and their poor delivery of it that they think they are too cool for school.

Final question, number six I know. Can you give me a three sentence intro about you? I’d like to give you a solid plug and while my editor is anti-plugs, we need to do our best here to get you out there, right? Patti Wood MA, CSP in a media couch, who has been researching, reading and speaking on body language since 1982. Author of “Success Signals –Understanding Body Language.


Okay, and here is a bit of background on OchoCinco from a story I did on him a few weeks ago:
http://fifthdown.blogs.nytimes.com/2010/10/31/how-ochocinco-embraces-fans-of-the-enemy/?src=twrhp


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Capri Anderson's Interview About Charlie Sheen on Good Morning America

Is Capri lying or being deceptive? Is Capri telling the truth about what Charlie Sheen did?
I read Capri's body language in the video for AOL PopEater to answer those questions.
Her choice to go to Charlie Sheen’s room, then sue him for attacking her may have questionable motivations. I think she is telling the truth about what Sheen did, but not being honest when she infers how horrible it was to her.
Her posture is extremely demure. Her hands are clasped in her lap, she tilts her head in a submissive way, her upper body is pulled back and down slouched slightly in the chair. Her legs are bent to the side and pressed together protecting her lower torso. Because she stays in this posture it seems a bit staged.
She shrugged in a show of dissonance and uncertainty as she said “It was hard to say, being that it was the first time I was with him, if that was normal of his behavior.” Her voice on the word “Normal” went up with uncertainty and she smirked after she said the word normal. We smirk when we say one thing but feel something else. She clearly didn’t think his behavior was normal but if the behavior was extremely offensive to her she should have not been conflicted. She as a victim is likely shy though her porn star status would indicate a lack of confidence, but she shouldn’t be conflicted.
As she said, “He seemed like a very egotistical guy her mouth went into a pursed sour taste cue that showed her sincere distaste for him.
When she said she didn’t want to share the racial slurs, “…because they were that vulgar” she oddly looked up to the right. If she is right handed and I think she is, as she sweeps her bangs with her right hand a moment later, this would mean she was constructing that thought rather than remembering that the racial slurs were vulgar. I think she is telling the truth that he made the comments but she is pretending that the slurs were that vulgar to her.
We then get to most interesting part of the interview. As she says,
“He put his hands around my neck. “Her voice really does break on the word, “Hands.”
She does a tongue thrust, sucks in her lips then thrusts her tongue again as she recalls this. Looking down to the right (NLP) are to right handed peoples kinesthetic, tactile l feelings. This shows she is recalling true events but the tongue thrusts show her passive aggressiveness. She is telling the truth about what he did, but I think she was angry and much feistier when it happened than she is saying with her words.



Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Patti is a Coach for Media Interviews

Last week I spoke on body language and establishing credibility when scrutinized by the media and detecting deception in others. The program was sponsored by NASDAQ. The members of the organization give announcements about their company's fiscal health directly to prospective investors and Wall Street contacts. They also give media interviews concerning their company and or they coach the person in the organization that will be speaking or be interviewed.

The client was interested in the fact that I, as a body language expert, give several media interviews each week and have been a corporate spokesperson for many products. Those experiences coupled with my research and background in nonverbal communication and long history of consulting with large corporations, give me the experience to speak on how to give an effective presentation and coach on media interviews. I also coach one on one.
Check out my Media Bio at the link below.



Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Obama Runs the Show According to Patti




WASHINGTON - President Obama was a cool customer Thursday during a high-stakes powwow with Chinese Premier Hu Jintao in South Korea.

The leaders' 1-hour-and-20-minute summit focused on currency rifts, human rights and the rogue regime in North Korea. More so than the words, however, it was the body language that showed Obama running the showdown with the Red leader.Here's how Patti Wood, author of "Success Signals: Body Language in Business," saw it:Obama: "President Obama is in a very relaxed body position and a less defensive body posture. That's the best indication that this can be a positive communication for the President."I'd say overall he has the upper hand."Hu: "Hu Jintao is defensive. That's the defensive posture with his arms clutched and his legs spread."His arm over the side is protecting himself from Obama."



Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://www.blogger.com/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.