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Boehner, Reid and Pelosi, What Their Body Language Says About Government Shutdowns




Glasses and purple blue tie -
Look at his hand, he is covering his Ventral Front, that is his vulnerable belly and look how he is symbolically reaching in to rip his heart out showing how he feels he is being dealt with. Also watch how he says, “we are not there yet” and does a tongue thrust showing his dislike of the deal and the deal makers. Reid ends the evening interview with a telling “MISSpeak” His body language and voice go down and flat and he says of the outlook for resolution, ”Hope lies Eternal” indicating the outlook is lifeless and not moving rather than his head body and gestures coming up and his voice filled up with energy with the accurate quote, “ hope springs eternal.”

The segment with Reid and Boehner that night with Boehner in lime green tie -
First thing Boehner says, “We did have a productive conversation this evening,” But just as he finished the sentence he sucks in his lips - the translation, the vocal emphasis on the word did, indicated he felt that they started to be productive and then it wasn’t productive. The sucking in of the lips say he felt badly enough about the rest of the meeting to want to hold his negativity in. Later Boehner says, “We do have some honest differences” then he immediately presses his lips tightly together then flicks out his tongue showing he is really angry – Not a good sign for resolution.

Also listen to his voice paralanguage, “we are going to continue to work tonight and tomorrow” his voice fades out and he turns away on tomorrow, not an indication of him feeling confident that things will go well. Boehner also does a tongue flick after the word resolve, “work together to resolve this“shows more anger.

Pelosi, Former Speaker of the House footage – No sound….. I would love to know what she was asked or what she said before each of those comfort cues to her face. I can give names to each of the cues and say how they show she is highly stressed and the one where she touches her tongue picking something off the tip of it and flicking it is really interesting it shows she wants to get the taste of what she said out of her mouth, could be she is lying, or that she does not like the person she is talking about or the words she is saying.




Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

New Research Shows That Hugs Reduce Stress


Stress Study: Hugs warm the heart, and may protect it

By Marilyn Elias, USA TODAY


PHOENIX — Cuddling may be good medicine for the heart. Loving contact before a tough day at work "could carry over and protect you throughout the day." By Rick Rycroft, AP


A brief hug and 10 minutes of handholding with a romantic partner greatly reduce the harmful physical effects of stress, according to a study reported over the weekend at the American Psychosomatic Society meeting here. (Related item: Worry, inactivity impede sleep's health benefits)


While I was teaching body language and nonverbal communication at Florida State University, students coming up to me before and after class or running into me on campus would inevitably open their arms to receive a big hug. In fact, though I didn’t have my PHD my students called me Dr. Hugs. Year after year, the student’s favorite lectures were the two touch lectures where I shared the research on the benefits of touch. But now that I think of it, professional people who attended my speeches and training would recognize me in a restaurant or the grocery store checkout line and also typically meet me with a warm and friendly hug.


A hug fully breaks the intimate zone boundaries of the body while other greetings, from the handshake to the bow to the upheld palms high-five are designed to keep people apart outside the intimate zero to fourteen-inch zone. A hug is a greeting of friend-to-friend.


The Origin of the Hug You may think of the hug as only a touchy-feely greeting. It may surprise you to learn that the hug actually originated in Egypt as a way for men meeting strangers to check for swords hidden under their long robes. It continues in modern day as a “Let me pat you down” weapons check in many Arab greetings.


It is only in the last century that the full frontal hug has morphed into the embrace showing warmth and affection. This full face-to-face hug shows others that we trust them and are willing to give them ready and full access to our vulnerable heart.


While people are avoiding handshakes, hugging seems to be increasing in popularity. Some researchers say the increase came after the tragedy of 9/11 as the need for comfort and bonding increased. Others say the change to casual dress in corporate America has brought a desire for a more casual greeting ritual. My high school and college audiences shared with me that hugging makes them feel accepted and loved by their friends in a way they don’t feel with their parents. My principal and schoolteacher audiences shared they believe the increase is due to the two-parent working families. Kids hug each other so they can get the healthy touch they are missing out on at home. Perhaps it is that there is not a real increase in hugs, but a decrease in hugs in the general population that make us NOTICE hugs more.


I remember fondly the warm, full heart-to-heart hugs shared with my fellow church group members when I was in high school. Even then, we wanted and were open to more love.


As the handshake seems to be lessening as the greeting ritual in corporate offices in the US, hugging seems to be increasing in use in social situations. At the end of 2009, Michelle Obama gave Queen Elizabeth a hug at Buckingham Palace. This lack of formality broke royal protocol. The Guardian (UK) newspaper, reporting on the incident, noted that “…. (There have been) only four other people who haven’t gone to the tower for ... (this breach) of protocol.” Queen Elizabeth was a bit surprised and it was a bit awkward. At first, she showed delayed acceptance of this change by also breaking protocol and reaching her arm around Mrs. Obama’s back to return the favor.



Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Curb Appeal “Mail Box Magic” Contest

Curb Appeal “Mail Box Magic” Contest My contact - Patti@PattiWood.net Cell phone 678-358-6160
I love my neighborhood. I am proposing a Curb Appeal Magic Mailbox Contest in my neighborhood that you may want to try in yours. The contest will inspire your neighborhood.

The Curb Appeal Mail Box Magic Contest

You ask your local hardware store to help you and or get a paid summer intern to organize the project. The intern could be majoring in Marketing/PR Agriculture/Architecture/Botany. As part of the project you could have a website/blog or Face book component. Here are the tasks. • Get Names, emails and addresses of home owners within a five mile radius of the store. • Create an email and or flyer advertising the contest email and or put on all the mailboxes. • Get the hardware store to give out a coupon, say, $20 dollars off a purchase of $100.00 dollars or more in the nursery of your store and or on items needed to upgrade a mailbox such as mailbox, mailbox stand, shovel, post hole digger, border stones or bricks, and mailbox numbers. You could have a sale for two weekends. Price could also be a gift certificate. You could go bigger and get a sponsor that is a contractor or builder and offer a new driveway, new stone siding, new roof or new windows or some other curb appeal home improvement. The store may want to qualify the use of the coupon by saying you need to bring in a “before” photo or drawing of your mailbox. You could also offer a workshop of sprucing up your mail box and have after photos in the store or online to inspire us. • Contest prizes $1,500 dollars for best all around curb appeal mailbox, $1,000 second prize 1,000 for most change (before and after) with photos to show the change. • Contact the media and or DeKalb County and see if they would help sponsor and promote the event. • Judges and or sponsors- Manager of the store, head of the nursery, Media personality, City or County official, professors from local colleges in Marketing/PR Agriculture/Architecture/Botany. If there are real estate agencies that work in the neighborhood perhaps they could be co-sponsors or the judges could find sponsor The Garden Club or Neighborhood Association. You could also create a garden tour of homes, but make the “tour” the neighborhood, the mailboxes. An alternative contest could be a make over of front doors.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

What His Walk Says About Him, First Impresssions

What his walk says about him will appear in the May Cosmo on the newsstands in April.

1. The Power Walker talks long, confident strides and leans his body forward to move more quickly. He is ambitious and motivated, making him the kind of boyfriend who would pull his weight in a relationship. However, he can be so focused on his goal that he might tune everything else out including his mate.

2. The Thruster has a wide stance. His walk leads with his pelvis and juts out his elbows to make his body appear bigger. This is a person who is secure, but a bit vain. However, the way he holds his arms out shows he’s the protector in a relationship.

3. The Huncher slumps his shoulders, looks down, and takes shorter steps. He’s subconsciously protecting his heart, is guarded, and needs reassurance to feel at ease in new situations.

4. The Drifter doesn’t stay in his “walking lane” and his quick, on-the-go conversations are usually accompanied by wild hand gestures. He’s outgoing and passionate. He opens up easily, but he doesn’t offer up too much information.



Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Testimonials from Audience Members

I would also like to share some of the comments I have received from those who have attended my programs. What a pleasure to hear how they have been inspired and have gained new knowledge that they can use in their work and also in their personal lives.

Good morning Patti! THANK YOU! Everyone was majorly impressed. Thank you again for your generosity of information and stories, we have all been so excited about the new knowledge we gained.
Best,
Lauren Jarvis
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Dear Patti, I am Gina (the woman you met before the program in the car)...listed as Giovanna on the class roster. I would like to thank you and let you know that yours was the best program I have ever taken! on any subject! You inspired me in many areas and I especially appreciated your consciousness, and a "no blame" position of observation. As a professional and spiritual coach, I plan to use much of your teaching.
Warm Regards,
Gina DeKorff Ullmann Renavatio
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Dear Ms. Wood, I thoroughly enjoyed Deception Detection at the Jeff Justice seminar this past Saturday. I will never sit with my feet under a chair again.
Thanks.
Eric Schwab
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Patti, Thanks so much for your session yesterday at the Cape Coral Association of REALTORS. I really enjoyed it and learned a lot. Superb!
Mel King President,
The King Group
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Hi Patti, I have noticed a lot - particularly the way men always try to shake my hand! Your technique of slanting the hand works miracles!
Regards,
Cindy Williams
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Hi Patti, I wanted to write to tell you how much I enjoyed your program yesterday. The topic is always interesting, and you brought out some points that I never realized previously. Wow was I lucky to hear you! Thank you for your tip of placing, "tongue-to-roof-of-mouth," for the occasions where I wish to utter, right ... right ... right... ;-) This tip could be a job saver...! I hope to hear you speak again in the future. You were informative in a most delightful way.
Kind regards,
Denise
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Hello Patti, It was great to hear your keynote at the Cablevision event this morning. I found your insights into human body language very interesting. You are an excellent speaker who easily holds the audience attention. We were spellbound at 7am in the morning! I loved what you had to say and look forward to your new book. Be Well.
Regards,
Howard Fullenbaum,
CFP® Vice President
SYNERGY WEALTH STRATEGIES
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Hi Patti, It was great to hear you speak today, and you made a FANTASTIC first impression on all of us! I also enjoyed talking to you afterwards and am really looking forward to reading your book.
Cheers,
Brent
Account Director AlterSeekers
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Patti, It was a real pleasure to meet you and have the opportunity to enjoy your presentation to our Vistage group over the weekend.
Best,
Eric Seidel
Eric M. Seidel,
CEO The Media Trainers, LLC
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Patti, Thanks for taking the time to share your knowledge with our team last week! Everyone really enjoyed your program and they took away clear tools to use with their business leaders & teams.
Kind Regards,
Rich
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Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Client Testimonials

I would like to share some of my client testimonial letters that I have received during 2010 and thus far this year. It is such a joy to see the impact that my programs are having in the lives of my clients. It is also exciting to hear back from them as they begin to use their new found knowledge of body language.

Dearest Ms. Patti:
On behalf of the New Mexico Court Reporters Association, I would like to sincerely thank you for a wonderfully entertaining and engaging show! Everyone truly enjoyed your spirited presentation on body language. As a matter of fact, I don't think I've ever seen our group laugh so much! Thank you so much for sharing your expertise with us! I hope you enjoyed yourself half as much as we enjoyed you.
Sincerely,
Vanessa Arrieta,
NM CCR, RPR Past President NMCRA

Hi Patti,
Thank you so much for bringing your incredible energy and wonderful knowledge to us. I’ve been sharing some of your stories all week with co-workers! I will definitely be interested in getting more insights from your book.
Thanks again!
Susan
Susan Y. Shen Deloitte Consulting LLP P

"I have hired Patti Wood over forty times to kick-off my seminars around the country and plan to use her six more times this year. She gets my audiences energized, focused and she teaches them skills that they can incorporate in their work life immediately. The first thing my audience members ask me when they're deciding on whether to register is, 'Is Patti going to be there?'" Yes she is!
Jeff Justice Seminars

Hi Patti!
You did an awesome job! An entire day of you giving keynotes in a studio for us. I think we have enough information captured to truly give us what we need for your videos. Now begins the edit process. We have so much great information from you that it will be difficult to decide what stays and what goes. We reported out to Richard and Ashley yesterday, and everyone felt that you showed up great on camera and delivered (as usual). I’m looking forward to April as well (When you are live with us again).
Take care Patti, and rest easy knowing you did a great job for us!
Kenny Simon
Emersonhc.com

Good Afternoon Patti,
Great to listen to you and soak up so many great and valuable pointers on people and interactions. It was incredibly interesting. I thank you for presenting so masterfully and sincerely. I trust you had a safe journey back to Atlanta.
Best
Kate Carpenter
Stowe Kitchen Bath and Linens

Hi Patti,
I wanted to take a minute to tell you how much I enjoyed your presentation to our TEC group today. I look forward to receiving you book and communicating with you as I experiment with what you shared with us today. It was such a refreshing augmentation to the work I did with Bandler & Grinder so many years ago that worked so well for me back then.
Best regards,
Michael Novick
CMI Enterprises.com

Hi Patti,
On behalf of my entire Builder 20 group I would like to thank you for a wonderful presentation Friday morning. It was very informative and we could have easily listened to you for several more hours. Thanks for the book you gave me and I have already started reading it.
Take care,
Brian

Hi Patti,
Didn't want this day to end without telling you how much I enjoyed listening to you, learning from you and watching that body language! You have a wonderful way about you --- a special addition to my trip to IHG. Look forward to seeing you again ---- perhaps at NSA. Until then, continue to bring out the best in people. You do it well!
My best to you always,
Mary Jo

Patti,
I just wanted to say thank you for an excellent presentation at last week's entrepreneur expo. I almost didn't go to the event, but I am so glad that I did. It was easily one of the best presentations and information sessions I have ever attended. I learned a lot about body language and the funny thing was that you start to see examples of it everywhere. From being at a bar talking with some friends to working with potential clients, it was just eye-opening to see how accurate your information was.
Thanks so much,
Billy Gallagher
Florida Web Presence, LLC

Patti,
Thank you so much for such an engaging program last night. I had expected something so different and instead was treated to an intimate, captivating gathering. I wish I'd taken your program years ago and over and above anything else paid attention to my own 'gut'. Thank you for your enthusiasm and insights about so much. I would love to take another program to hear what you have to say on dating or first impressions. Lynn Cromer
Executive Assistant

Thank you Patti!
I thought your training was awesome! I will pass your information on to our Top Directors and Nationals at our next meeting and suggest they schedule an event for you to come in and talk to our girls. Thanks again and I'll look forward to seeing you again.
Linda
Linda Morris Beauty Consultant and
Future Director Mary Kay Cosmetics



Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Britney Spears. Lack of Confidence Effects Your Impression During a Media Interview

Britney Spears Interview. My rough notes Britney ran the emotional gamut during the interview, which makes sense as I am sure her hormones are creating a wild ride. Overall her body language showed her to be emotional, all over the place with her answers and sad and uncertain about most of the specific things she was questioned about except for her love for her child and her husband.

However in responding to six questions she responded with an extreme pulling down of the corners of the mouth that you would think meant pure sadness but the movement is too strong to be a sign of mealy sadness , in some case for her it was actually showing uncertainty like a shrug. And when she pressed her lips it became a sign of determination to grin and bear it. She used it so often that Matt even commented on it called it a face like a little puppy. Again she was trying to put on a happy face. When asked about people calling her a name her upper face showed true sadness that combined with this inverted smile showed she was trying to mask her true sadness.

There were times when her body language showed she did not believe what she was saying for example when she said she had “no regret with anything that I have ever done. Then a quick sharp downward smile that actually showed uncertainty. When asked about the timing of the beginning of her relationship with her husband she scratched her leg showing that the question irritated her and she was irritated with herself. As he went further with that line of questioning emphasizing that her now husband had left a pregnant girlfriend and another child to be with her. As the question was being asked Britney responded by making a soar expression to show how distasteful the question was.

When Matt asked her about the rumors of divorce she replied, " That’s silly” while scratching her head, while scratching the head can mean your head itches nonverbally it indicates that the thought in your head is very irritating. This leg itch became a self comforting leg rub to make her self feel more at ease the way you would rub a teddy bear for confort. As the discussion went onto her belief in Karma and whether or not she believed her husband would leave her. In direct response to the question she replied immediately with rapid blinking to cut herself off from the thought of the relationship ending and showing her anxiety at the thought. Then she replied “ no we are very happy together’’ and eyes scanned straight over to the left ( this showed she was remembering the sounds of happy relationship and as she finished the sentence her voice faded out indicating a lack of confidence and she added ‘right now” These signs showed her doubts.

When asked about the tabloid press statements that the marriage would end she did her smile through the tears grimace again said no and followed that statement by twisting her mouth which means she had to really twist her thoughts to say that No and was not confident about it at all. The first big smile and true happy demeanor we saw Britney give was when she was asked about her love for her husband it was also the first time she really made significant lingering eye contact with Matt. Her facial expressions and lifted up posture and high energy all showed she truly loves her husband. When asked about why she loved him she repeated words like simple, boy and good big hearted and looked down and to the left. When asked again about the certainly of the marriage with the question something to the effect “…would you say there is not an end in sight for this marriage" she again showed the downward grimace with a very sad face and voice trying to hold in her sadness.

She said that as a mother she has to speak out yet she chose a very low cut blouse and short skirt to appear sexual and to chew gum.




Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Patti's TV Interviews

Patti is interviewed an average of twice a week by media around the world including CNN, PBS, National FOX News Network, BBC, History Channel, Discovery Channel, CBS, TruTV, MSMBC, Regis and Kelly, The Soup, E! Entertainment, In Session, Nancy Grace, Inside Edition, Good Morning America and many, many more. Above are just a few worth checking out! Patti shares her insights on anything from the body language of Obama to what your sleep position says about your relationship. Check the link below!


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Top Ten Musicals. Patti's Top Ten Favorite Musicals.

Top 10 Favorite Musicals.
The list of Top Ten Musicals is Below. I am a classic movie buff. I love old musicals. I have been singing and dancing to musicals since I was a kid. In fact, my mother said I came out of the womb smiling, singing, and dancing. My parents went to New York every year and brought back the music from the Broadway musicals they saw.
Our house was filled with wonderful show tunes. I know that singing and dancing was a way that I expressed so much of my joy and sadness growing up. I realize that the synchronous body language and vocal messages informed my body language ability. To this day studying the matching and mirroring in musicals and in my work fascinate me. Many people don’t know that my original dream was to be a Broadway musical lyricist. I started writing songs and poetry in the fourth grade. To that end, I originally majored in Poetry writing in college, I was president of the music dorm and little sister to the music fraternity and my first college boyfriend was a guitar major. (To see how that path led me to degrees in nonverbal communication go to link (how I became a body language expert.) For this list, I only include musicals from the 1950’s forward. I love Lerner and Lowe, Richard Rodgers, and  Oscar Hammerstein musicals. If you are a TCM fan like me we can talk musicals from way back. I would pick every Fred Astaire Ginger Rodgers Musical, along with Easter Parade, Showboat, South Pacific and Judy Garlands Meet Me in St Louis. Here are what I think are the Top Ten Musicals of All Time.

1. West Side Story The movie is good but the live theater production is tremendous. It is a true American Masterpiece. I remember my high school drama teacher telling us that it was one of the first musicals (Oklahoma deemed the first) to have songs that and dance numbers further the plot and established characters. My favorite song is, “Somewhere.” I sang it just about every day in high school, and I also constantly sang "Where Is Love?" from OLIVER!  I still have the West Side Story on  CD form and play it when I need a pick me up.
My high school Drama teacher was in the Original Broadway show South Pacific and worked backstage on other great Musicals like Gypsy. The script is by Arthur Laurents, music by Leonard Bernstein, lyrics by Stephen Sondheim, and choreography by Jerome Robbins. The musical's plot and story are based on William Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet. Set in New York City in the mid-1950s, the musical explores the rivalry between the Jets and the Sharks, two teenage street gangs of different ethnic backgrounds. If you have seen Greece and remember the dance where the cool kids and the nerdy kid's face-off, you witnessed an "homage" to the dance scene between the Jets and Sharks. 
The dark theme, sophisticated music, extended dance scenes, and focus on social problems marked a turning point in American musical theatre. Bernstein's score for the musical has become extremely popular; it includes "Something's Coming", "Maria", "America", "Somewhere", "Tonight", "Jet Song", "I Feel Pretty", "Gee, Officer Krupke" and "Cool". The original 1957 Broadway production, directed and choreographed by Jerome Robbins and produced by Robert E. Griffith and Harold Prince, marked Stephen Sondheim's Broadway debut. The production received a Tony Award nomination for Best Musical in 1957, but the award went to Meredith Willson's The Music Man. It won a Tony Award in 1957 for Robbins' choreography. The award-winning 1961 musical film of the same name, directed by Robert Wise and Robbins, starring Natalie Wood,. It won ten Academy Awards. 

2. Singing in the Rain (1952) I have seen this movie over a dozen times. Gene Kelly starred and helped Direct this 1952 classic that has made many lists of the top 100 films of all time. One of the greatest moments in the film is where Kelly having just realized he is in love, dances down the street, happily singing and dancing in the pouring rain. I think everyone has at some time their life sung, “Singing in the Rain” as they walked in the rain. My favorite scene is the scene where are three dancers dance over the sofa. My favorite song is “Good Morning.” This movie has so many examples of "Up!" body language. 
1927, the story takes place in a transition point 1927 when movies were transitioning from silent films to talkies. One of the reasons I find it fascinating is actors and audiences relied so much on body language for their movie experiences and people were riveted to movies with no voices! The plot of Singing in the Rain is a silent movie being made into a musical. Kelly plays one of the leads, and the other lead is an actress who has a horrible annoying nasal voice who can't sing.  So of course, someone who can sing is brought in to do have her voice dubbed in. The 19-year-old Debbie Reynolds plays Kelly's love interest. She says in interviews about Gene Kelly that he made her do their dance scenes over and over and over till her feet bled. ( I read Ginger Rodger's Autobiography and she said Fred Astair made her practice till her feet bled.) Singing in the Rain, ended up being nominated for a couple of Oscars. 

3. Chicago (2002) Chicago was a Broadway play long before it became a motion picture musical. The choreography was amazing. I saw it on Broadway many years ago with Sandy Duncan in the lead. It was incredible. When it hit the movie theaters it brought the magic to a larger audience. Rob Marshall directed the story wonderfully weaving reality scenes and dreamy dance sequences together beautifully. When you leave the play or movie signing the songs it is surprising to remember that the story is about two Murderers! Velma Kelly and Roxie Hart aspire to be famous and will stop at nothing to accomplish their wish. Aided by a lawyer played by Richard Gere, they may get to do just that. Starring in the film are Rene Zellweger and Catherine Zeta-Jones as the two main characters. In other roles are Gere, Queen Latifah, Taye Diggs, and John C. Rielly. Using the press, and their grandstand lawyer theatrics the two women to get what they want. It ended up winning 6 academy awards including best picture and well deserves its spot on my list. My favorite song is, “He had it coming.”

4. Oliver! (1968) Everyone knows the story of Oliver Twist. If you have ever heard someone take on a funny little boys voice and say, “Please sir could I have some more?” this is the musical where the line originated and occurs near the beginning of the film when Oliver asks the head of the orphanage for an unheard-of second bowl of gruel. The book written by Charles Dickens is the story of an orphan who longs to be loved. He runs away from the horrible funeral home where he is sent after the gruel incident and joins up with a gang of street kids who make a living by pick-pocketing people of the city. Jack Wild who later starred in the Saturday Morning kids shows, “HR Puffing Stuff” was one of the gang members. I saw the stage musical as a little girl. I was on the third balcony and unaware that I needed glasses so I couldn’t actually see the actors but I remember that I loved the music and had the album on my turntable for years. It certainly has many songs that you will find yourself singing along after the movie has ended. Oliver! it ended up winning 5 Academy Awards including Best Picture and Best Score. The story has been redone a thousand times, but the 1968 movie version stands out as the best to date. I love every single song. If I had to pick it would be two songs, “Who will buy this wonderful morning?” and “Where is Love?”


5. Godspell is a 1970 musical by Stephen Schwartz and John-Michael Tebelak. It opened off-Broadway on May 17, 1971, and has played in various touring companies and revivals many times since. Several cast albums have been released over the years and one of its songs, "Day by Day" from the original cast album, reached #13 on the Billboard pop singles chart in the summer of 1972. I saw the play at Ford’s Theater in DC when I was sixteen and said, “Someday I will be in that musical? I finally was in a community theater production when I was 29!!! I was the oldest female in the cast and in my doctoral program. Most of the cast was in High School or college! The structure of the musical is that of a series of parables, based on the Gospel of Matthew (though three of the parables featured are only recorded in the Gospel of Luke). These are then interspersed with a variety of modern music set primarily to lyrics from traditional hymns, with the passion of Christ treated briefly near the end of the performance. It started as a college project performed by students at Carnegie Mellon University and moved to La MaMa Experimental Theatre Club in Greenwich Village. It was then re-scored for an off-Broadway production which became a long-running success. • Opening • Prologue: Towers of Babble • Prepare ye The Way of the Lord • Save the People • Day By Day • Learn Your Lessons Well (my solo) • O Bless the Lord • All for the Best • All Good Gifts • Light of the World Act II • Learn Your Lessons Well (Reprise) • Turn Back, O Man • Alas for You • By My Side • Beautiful City † • We Beseech Thee • On The Willows • Finale • Day By Day (Reprise) My favorite song is a tough choice. The song “On the Willows” Is so beautiful but. I think I would choose By My Side as my favorite. That was not my solo when I was in the play, and I remember every night I wanted to sing it!!!

6. Jesus Christ Superstar is a rock opera by Andrew Lloyd Webber, with lyrics by Tim Rice. First staged on Broadway in 1971, it highlights political and interpersonal struggles between Judas Iscariot and Jesus. The opera is based very loosely on the Gospels' account of the last week of Jesus' life, beginning with the preparation for the arrival of Jesus and his disciples in Jerusalem, and ending with the Crucifixion. The three-album set was on my turntable for three years. Long before the movie came out. We studied every song in a 12 week Sunday school class at my church. I still think that the lyric song by King Herod, “Jesus prove to me that your so cool, walk across my swimming pool.” is one of the most clever lines in musical history. The work's depiction offers a free interpretation of the psychology of Jesus and the other characters. A large part of the plot focuses on the character of Judas, who is depicted as a tragic figure who is dissatisfied with the direction Jesus steers his disciples. Twentieth-century attitudes and sensibilities as well as contemporary slang pervade the lyrics, and ironic allusions to modern life are scattered throughout the depiction of political events. My favorite song is “Everything is Alright.”

7. The Producers I was going to see this musical on Broadway on the famous September 11th. I made a trip back to New York City a month later and got a third-row center seat. The people in the seats around me came from all over the world to support New York City and Broadway. The energy was so fantastic. It is my favorite live musical memory. Nathan Lane's sweat showered on me I was so close to the stage. I loved it. We gave a three-minute standing ovation at the end of the show. The musical was adapted by Mel Brooks and Thomas Meehan from Brooks' 1968 film of the same name, with lyrics by Brooks and music by Brooks and Glen Kelly. As in the film, the story concerns two theatrical producers who scheme to get rich by overselling interests in a Broadway flop. Complications arise when the show unexpectedly turns out to be successful. The humor of the show is accessible to a wide range of audiences and draws on ridiculous accents, caricatures of homosexuals and Nazis, and many show business in-jokes. The original production opened on Broadway on April 19, 2001, starring Nathan Lane and Matthew Broderick, and ran for 2,502 performances, winning a record-breaking 12 Tony Awards. It spawned a successful London production running for three years, national tours, and many productions internationally, and a 2005 film version. My favorite song is “Spring Time for Hitler. “ The song is odd, disturbing, and very hummable.

8. The Wizard of Oz (1939) The old movie used to be only shown once a year on television. It was a big event each year akin to Halloween or Easter in its "specialness" We had the first color TV on the street. So, everyone in the neighborhood came to our house to see this movie in color the night it first came on Television. It was so fun to have all the kids at my house. Color film was created after the filming for the movie started. They had already shot the Kansas scenes in black and white. So they created one of the most magical moments in film history. The movie starts out in black and white in Kansas where Dorothy, played by Judy Garland lives. After a tornado strikes her farm, Dorothy wakes up to the full technicolor land of Oz. A true film magic moment. I can't express how powerful that scene was to watch as a child. Dorothy, with the help of a tin-man, a scare-crow, and a lion must find the only man who can get her home to Kansas, The Wizard of Oz.. The movie gave us "Somewhere Over The Rainbow" and "We're Off to See the Wizard", which have become great classic children's songs over the years. My favorite song is the famous, “Over the Rainbow.”

9. The Sound of Music (1959) The musical with music by Richard Rodgers, lyrics by Oscar Hammerstein II, and a book by Howard Lindsay and Russel Crouse. It is based on the memoir of Maria von Trapp, The Story of the Trapp Family Singers. Many songs from the musical have become standards, including the title song "The Sound of Music", "Edelweiss", "My Favorite Things", "Climb Ev'ry Mountain", and "Do-Re-Mi". The original Broadway production,[1] starring Mary Martin and Theodore Bikel, opened on November 16, 1959; the show has enjoyed numerous productions and revivals since then. It was adapted as a 1965 film musical starring Julie Andrews and Christopher Plummer, which won Academy Awards. The Sound of Music was the final musical written by Rodgers and Hammerstein; Hammerstein died of cancer nine months after the Broadway premiere. There used to be a restaurant in Atlanta called Agnes and Murials that played the soundtrack of musicals as its background music and this soundtrack was a favorite. I have the recipe book from the restaurant and I sing the Sound of Music when I make Agnes and Murials famous fried chicken. 

10. Grease (1978) This musical has strong childhood memories for me. It is full of hit songs. I saw the movie multiple times the summer it came out. The song Summer Nights actually hit it big in the '90s as well, long after the movie was out of theaters. It starred John Travolta and Olivia Newton-John as Danny and Sandy, a very unlikely couple. Sandy was your typical good-girl, while Danny belonged to a gang of leather-jacketed bad boy and bad girls. They hit it off in the summer, and the movie takes place as both have gone their own ways, and are back in high school that following semester. The movie shows the progression through the year as they each deal with teen issues, and their hidden love for each other. I Love the gym dancing scene. I still do the little dance when I hear the song on the radio. I don’t really have a favorite song from this. I think it is the memory of the summer I first saw that puts it on the musical on my top ten list.

Honorable mentions for Top 20 Musicals. Fame. The Michael Jackson music video Thriller, Peter Pan and The King and I (1956) Rodgers and Hammerstein brought this musical in 1956, about a British governess and her son that travel to Siam, and meets up with the ruler of the land. Her old ways clash with the King and it seems like nothing is going to work out between them. The reason for this is that women are seen as second class in this far land, and she is not going to sit by while this happens. She puts herself into dramatic situations by not being silent, and it actually gains her the admiration of the King. Starring in the two main roles as Anna Leonowens and King Mongkut of Siam, are Deborah Kerr and Yul Brynner. Both are very good in the film and sing quite well. So, as you are watching the movie, you aren't distracted by the singing, but rather taken along for the in-depth story. The two have a great chemistry on screen. Nominated for 9 academy awards in 1957, it ended up winning 5 of them, including best actor. There is no other choice, my favorite song is “Can We Dance.”

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Are You Two Compatible When You Sleep?

In an article for the "Sun Journal," Patti reveals some interesting insights about a couple's sleep position and what can be learned about their relationship. Check the link below to discover your sleep position and what it says about your relationship. Are you compatible?



http://www.sunjournal.com/node/79699



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What Your Street Style Pose Says About You

I was featured in "Refinery 29" today, which is a global fashion news magazine. I gave body language reads and descriptions of several different poses of people attending Fashion Week in New York. What's your street pose? What does it say about you?

To Cool to Stand, or Lean on Me
This stance shows a desire to look “Cool, relaxed and chill.”
The crossed feet are a unique cue, typically crossing means shyness or closure, but crossing the feet in a relaxed stance says “I am so comfortable that I don’t have to have my feet in position to flee or fight.” “I am not scared or threatened” The lean to the side also shows an ease and comfort. Only the subtle cues, sunglasses, one hand in the pocket and the other hand slightly covering the belly show her need to keep her privacy.

The walk away or Run Away, or “caught on tape” pose
“I don’t look good enough for a photo”
The feet move first under pressure and this stance, with the toes pointing away from the camera, the bowed head, and the slouched shoulders protecting the heart. The purse covering her stomach show I don’t think I look good enough, I am embarrassed.

The sassy model or look at me, or happy hoofer, Cheerleader leap
This pose shows you are super confident, joyful and love to be in the limelight.
I call this “up” body language. Upward body cues, up in the air foot, raised arms, upward facing palms, chest up and out, chin and head up are cues or happiness, joy and excitement. She loves herself from her head to her shoes!!! She knows she looks hot.

Red carpet, or the slimmer, or spanx my body, Am I ready for the red carpet?
The hand on the hip is a model technique. It lifts the chest up and up and elongates the upper torso making you look slimmer but because of the elbow out also making the viewer excited. (The elbow out creates a danger silhouette alerting the primitive brain sending it the message I am dangerous. The foot cross in this pose one foot protecting the other in a foot hug, show she knows how to pose the upper half of her body but behind the pose she is really not as confident.
She is not quite ready for the red carpet.

The prim and proper, “I know I am good, but you can’t have me.”
She knows how to take care of herself. She is confident but she doesn’t give it away for free.
The head tilted to the side shows her coyness, It says, “Aren’t I cute.” This is a woman who on one hand says, “come and get me and on the other says, but it won’t be easy.”
Notice how this poser is facing straight on to the photographer, the only poser to do so. She is protecting herself by crossing her feet and using her bag to shield her stomach or say shield herself, but the overall pose says I like myself. She is confident in every clothing and accessory choice. See how the belt is given attention and the bag is held at just the right placement to show it off, not to high and not sagging to low or too far in front to protect her pelvis.

http://www.refinery29.com/what-your-street-style-pose-says-about-you/slideshow?page=2#slide-1


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Nurses Are Aware of Body Language, Yet They are so Open to Training.

Nurses spend so much time with patients. In my master's program my boyfriend was shot in a hunting accident and lost 47 pints of blood in less than 24 hours. He was not supposed to live. He lost his kidney and his spleen and when they found the bullet in his heart his valve was replaced. All those months in the hospital the nurses cared for him. Years ago, When my best friend Roy was dying of AIDS nurses helped him. In fact, on the very last day of his life, the nurse helping him had a small accident and the needle with his blood nicked her finger, the staff was very concerned about her exposure. This was back when getting AIDS mint you had a year or two to live. She asked to speak to me and as I held Roy's had she asked me to tell her all about him. Her heart was so open she wanted to know all the good about the Man who may have inadvertently effected her health. When my friend Dominic had a stroke, the nurses in the brain trauma ICU when out their way not only to help him, put to talk to me and make sure I was OK. Yes I have a great respect for caring nurses. They are so open to learning more about body language so they can read the pain of their patients, and understand their needs.

My friend Michael's mother was a Nurse. Upon her death he formed a foundation to insure that nurses at her hospital would have excellent training and be recognized for their great work. Here is a link to the nurse caring website.

http://nursescaring.com/your-stories/


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Emily and the Bachelor Fight? The Body Language of the Bachelor and Emily

I was on Good Morning America today! Good Morning America was interested in a body language experts reads of the Bachelor. I had the crew in my house shooting the segment till late last night. The crew from ABC were real troopers.
To prepare for the interview. I watched the tape of the bachelor responding to Emily's questions concerning his ability and readiness to be a good father for her child and Monday night's show of them interacting.

Check the link to the segment on my YouTube station below. Today it is also on the GMA website if you go to the show you can just watch the bachelor segment. Here is my body language expert appearance on Good Morning America
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cjqwVKGfsEg
Episode of the bachelor and comment on the chosen girl - Emily's body language

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The Bachelor and Emily Fight, What was their body language on the last few episodes.

Emily & the bachelor fight? The body language of the bachelor and Emily. I was on Good Morning America Today as a body language expert. I had the crew in my house shooting the segment till late last night. The crew where real troopers. last Emily & the bachelor fight. On episode of the bachelor. episode of the bachelor and comment on the chosen girl’s body language. Link to the interview to follow
One of the most telling cues occurs at the end of the interview with the shows host. They hug, but in that last little frame you can see Emily's elbow go up and almost wack him in the head. She elbows him out of her life!!
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What Does Your Body Shape Say About You?

When I was teaching body language at Florida State
I talked about Sheldon's Body Shapes and Personality.
In one of the first attempts to do psychological profiling of criminals Sheldon
discovered that muscular men committed more crimes. It seems logical, but we can't assume all muscular men will commit crimes. Though it was content from the Kaplin Textbook for the actual research on the correlation between body shape and personality as stated by Sheldon is not seen as credible.
The idea that body shape means something about you,is interesting.

Personality based on Sheldon's Body Shapes

Sheldon Says there are three main body shapes,

"Endomorph | Ectomorph | Mesomorph | So what?



Sheldon noted three personalities based on their physical make-up.

Endomorph
The Endomorph is physically quite 'round', and is typified as the 'barrel of fun' person. They tend to have:

Wide hips and narrow shoulders, which makes them rather pear-shaped.
Quite a lot of fat spread across the body, including upper arms and thighs.
They have quite slim ankles and wrists, which only serves to accentuate the fatter other parts.
Psychologically, the endomorph is:

Sociable
Fun-loving
Love of food
Tolerant
Even-tempered
Good humored
Relaxed
With a love of comfort
And has a need for affection
Ectomorph
The Ectomorph is a form of opposite of the Endomorph. Physically, they tend to have:

Narrow shoulders and hips
A thin and narrow face, with a high forehead
A thin and narrow chest and abdomen
Thin legs and arms
Very little body fat
Even though they may eat as much as the endomorph, they never seem to put on weight (much to the endomorph's chagrin). Psychologically they are:

Self-conscious
Private
Introverted
Inhibited
Socially anxious
Artistic
Intense
Emotionally restrained
Thoughtful
Mesomorph
The mesomorph is somewhere between the round endomorph and the thin ectomorph. Physically, they have the more 'desirable' body, and have:

Large head, broad shoulders and narrow waist (wedge-shaped).
Muscular body, with strong forearms and and thighs
Very little body fat
They are generally considered as 'well-proportioned'. Psychologically, they are:

Adventurous
Courageous
Indifferent to what others think or want
Assertive/bold
Zest for physical activity
Competitive
With a desire for power/dominance
And a love of risk/chance
So what?
Psychological profiling based on anatomical features is generally not considered to be reliable these days. Nevertheless, such patterns do have some level of interest, and old theories are often ingrained in society, as well as being based on some form of observation.

The best approach is to use this as a test. When you meet a person who seems to fit in with the physical characteristics above, be curious to see if they also fit into the psychological profile. If it all works as predicted, then well and good (it may be that they are actually in a self-fulfilling prophesy, where they fit themselves to the appropriate model). Otherwise, look elsewhere for ways to understand the person.

Sheldon's original work included attempts to characterize criminals (in the style of Lombroso's original work in this area). Unsurprisingly, he found that a number were muscular mesomorphs, as violent crimes are likely to be carried out by strong men. The trap beyond this is to assume that all mesomorphs are criminal in nature. This is not unlike the work that 'proved' women to be less intelligent than men because they have smaller brains! "



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How The Monopoly Game Helped British POWs Escape.

The game Monopoly was used to free British POWS during World War II.
Many of you know that I have a great interest, a real passion for people stories as they struggled on all home fronts during World War II.I have read well over 100 books about what was going on in the US, the UK, France, Italy, Greece, Australia, Hungary, Budapest, Germany, Japan, and more. I have read about Internment camps for the Japanese in the US, Jewish Internment camps all over Europe, Internment camps in Japan for mostly British POWs, the work camps in Hungary for the worker soldier (Jews) the holding camps in Israel for the Jews during and after the war. The list of camps goes on and on. The story of how the Monopoly game is new to me. I think you will be surprised. You'll never look at the game the same way again!

Starting in 1941, an increasing number of British Airmen found themselves as the involuntary guests of the Third Reich, and the Crown was casting about for ways and means to facilitate their escape...

Now obviously, one of the most helpful aids to that end is a useful and accurate map, one showing not only where stuff was, but also showing the locations of 'safe houses' where a POW on-the-lam could go for food and shelter.

Paper maps had some real drawbacks -- they make a lot of noise when you open and fold them, they wear out rapidly, and if they get wet, they turn into mush.

Someone in MI-5 (similar to America 's OSS ) got the idea of printing escape maps on silk. It's durable, can be scrunched-up into tiny wads, and unfolded as many times as needed, and makes no noise whatsoever.

At that time, there was only one manufacturer in Great Britain that had perfected the technology of printing on silk, and that was John Waddington, Ltd. When approached by the government, the firm was only too happy to do its bit for the war effort.

By pure coincidence, Waddington was also the U. K. Licensee for the popular American board game, Monopoly. As it happened, 'games and pastimes' was a category an item qualified for insertion into 'CARE packages', dispatched by the International Red Cross to prisoners of war.

Under the strictest of secrecy, in a securely guarded and inaccessible old workshop on the grounds of Waddington's, a group of "sworn-to-secrecy"employees began mass-producing escape maps, keyed to each region of Germany or Italy where Allied POW camps were. When processed, these maps could be folded into such tiny dots that they would actually fit inside a Monopoly playing piece.

As long as they were at it, the clever workmen at Waddington's also managed to add:
1. A playing token, containing a small magnetic compass
2. A two-part metal file that could easily be screwed together
3. Useful amounts of genuine high-denomination German, Italian, and French currency, hidden within the piles of Monopoly money!

British and American air crews were advised, before taking off on their first mission, how to identify a 'rigged' Monopoly set -- by means of a tiny red dot, one cleverly rigged to look like an ordinary printing glitch, located in the corner of the Free Parking square.

Of the estimated 35,000 Allied POWS who successfully escaped, an estimated one-third were aided in their flight by the rigged Monopoly sets.. Everyone who did so was sworn to secrecy indefinitely, since the British Government might want to use this highly successful ruse in still another, future war.

The story wasn't declassified until 2007, when the surviving craftsmen from Waddington's , as well as the firm itself, were finally honored in a public ceremony.

It's always nice when you can play that 'Get Out of Jail' Free' card!
I realize most of you are (probably) too young to have any personal connection to WWII
(Dec. '41 to Aug. '45), but this is still interesting.

Story verification: http://www.snopes.com/military/monopoly.asp http://blogs.wsj.com/informedreader/2007/11/19/wwii-pows-perk-monopoly-with-real-money/


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Most Important Skill for Getting a Job, Skills Listed as Number One

Patti was quoted in Fox Business News on the "Importance of Strong Verbal Skills in Relation to Getting a Job." Verbal skills is listed as number one on a survey by the National Association of College and Employment.

Check the link below for Patti's insights!

http://www.foxbusiness.com/personal-finance/2011/03/03/um-like-college-grads-lack-verbal-skills/



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Charlie Sheen's Body Language, Melt Down or is He Winning, Kids

Here are my rough, unedited notes on Charlie Sheen's body language and paralanguage in various recent interviews. I used these notes as a guide for my interview this morning with AOL online. Please go to the link below for the full interview. Charlie Sheen, body language of latest interviews. One clip shows him before the interview officially begins. He thinks he is off camera. In ths "off stage" clip Charlie Sheen is rubbing the back of his neck. In fact rubbing it quite dramatically. This is a comfort cue typically done by men, the touch is to create comfort. Tactile stimulation effects the nerve endings in the skin and does comfort us. Rubbing the back of the neck is is actaully a cluster of cues. The rubbing is self touch a comfort cue. Rubbing the back of the neck, where the hair stands on end when we are frightened also shows clear fear, but the hard rubbing and or grasping at the back of the neck rather than a touch shows that the person wants to action and defend themselves, perhaps wishing the strike out at what or whoever is upsetting them. In another clip with his goodesses, notice how he is standing bent over the kitchen counter hiding his Pelvis (the sexual portion of the body) and leaning over awkwardly so his elbows rest on the counter, protecting his ventral front (the belly) from whatever media scrutiny he could get from living with two “goddesses” in his house to take care of his children. Also note that his hands are out in front placed in prayer position (prayer that this will go well) Then when the goddesses don't listen to Sheen's request to "Not go there" he uses a displacement behavior for his stress by odly getting up and going to eat an OREO cookie, taking it apart and licking it. Eating is also a displacement behavior used to deal with the stress of the day. Then same tape different interview Nothing “Broken” here “but the paralanguage delivery he actually broke the words. He shakes hands but then crosses his arms placing his hands in a fig leaf. This again protects him from sexual attack. You don’t see this fig leaf in celeb interviews (occasionally when speaking about sex scenes.) As Charlie Sheen says, "My assistant Regan (he does a tongue thrust) was putting the children to bed." The tongue thrust defies your judgment that the assistant is a former model and or porn star . When Charlie says, "I do not know where my children are." He looks suddenly frightened and lost, notice his unfocused eyes. He continues talking giving tongue erasing cues then rubbing his lips bouncing in his chair. The chair moves are odd as there are nice arms on the chairs. In the interviews where Charlie is wearing a brown shirt his face is white and drawn and he looks deschelved, his body language and voice are manic and to top it off he uses extreemly bizarre referances such War lock,tigers blood In the interivews with the blue shirt notice the manic moves and odd gesturing. Blue shirt sitting on the sidewalk drinking water As he says, "Drug tests don’t lie." " I don’t know don’t care." Charlie is choosing not to answer the question he was asked. His hand over his mouth as he talks about his dads concern for him show Charlie is blocking what he really wants to say. More rough notes. Holding a piece of paper.III and and and I I will not let you down. Agressively taking the paper with the negative comments from viewers who had seen his brown shirt interview. Charlie Sheen looks how he is sitting at the beginning.... feet out in a big..... feet pointing out. Brown shirt interview When was the last time you did drugs. “Look at me DUHHHH” pointing at himself, “ More about his goddesses, more on children. http://www.aolnews.com/2011/03/03/experts-evaluate-charlie-sheens-body-language-is-he-lying/ Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Recent Trip to Austin, Texas

Recently I had the pleasure of speaking to a group of Judges in the Austin, TX area on "Establishing the Credibility of a Witness." Their interest and enthusiasm for the topic of body language and deception detection was such a tremendous joy for me. One of the participants shared with my assistant today his appreciation for the program and told her that he had put photos from our meeting on his blog. He was also kind enough to put a link to my website on it too. On his blog, he covers all the political news in the San Antonio area. Below is a link to his blog which is called the "WalkerReport" covering the pulse of San Antonio.......check it out!

http://www.walkerreport.net/

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Body Language of the Young Royal Couple, William and Kate


I was asked to read the Young Royal Couple, William and Kate, for several Canadian Publications. As the wedding approaches, you see the "look of love." They look at each other often and there is lots of mutual gazing but not for approval as Diane often did when she was first engaged to Charles but with respect and affection.

The "look of confidence" as Kate watches him closely when he is talking, she stands back slightly to show her place, but she doesn’t bow down her head in submission or lack of confidence as Diana would do in Charles' presence. Kate keeps her head and chin on what I call the mid-line for the throat window, showing her confidence and ease in the high stress media moments.

They are "in sync." You often see William and Kate in photos taking on mirrored body language poses of each other. That frequent matching and mirroring shows they are in sync. In a recent interview they did "tit for tat" matching. This is another kind of isopraixism in synchronous relationships. It's a dance of tit for tat movement. For example, one would move their upper body forward while the other would move an arm forward, one would move their head up and down, the other would move an arm up and down. Their body language shows synchronicity.

A "love story" - If you watch and listen as William tells the story of their proposal, you will notice that he is truly happy. His smile is large and his voice is animated and playful. He enjoys telling the story of the proposal. The words flow out smoothly and enthusiastically. When I am with couples, I often ask about their first date, when they fell in love and or their proposal. You can tell so much about a couple by how they tell and or listen and chime in as they tell their “love stories.” Kate didn’t chime in, which is appropriate to her role, but she certainly beamed and he wasn’t tired of the tale! When Kate speaks, her voice is happy and she too has a nice smooth flow in her speaking which shows ease and a true positive feeling.

Royal couple to wed April 29 at Westminster Abbey
Patrick Jephson, longtime private secretary to the late Princess Diana, say the austerity argument "doesn't cut it." "This is a future king and a future queen, this is the most famous young royal couple in the world, and it will indubitably be compared to his mother's wedding, so for all these reasons, the palace won't want to be seen as downgrading it," Jephson said.
William and Kate are making moves to put their own stamp on their big day. The couple, who Lowther-Pinkerton described as being "over the moon," are taking an active role in planning all the details — including the guest list. "I've never seen two happier people," he said.


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Contest for "Best First Impression Story"

I am currently running a contest for the Best First Impression Story. Just email me a one or two paragraph story about a first impression you had about someone that illustrates credibility or the lack of credibility. Your story can be from your work experiences or your personal life. It doesn't need to be in fancy language, just a story from your great wealth of experience.

The prize for the best story is $100 dollars and a 30 minute phone coaching session with me.
The stories will be judged by three writers. Email your story to: Patti@pattiwood.net by Friday March 15, 2011. Or if it is easier, just give me a call and tell me the brief story over the phone. My cell number is 678-358-6160.

Story Example
As a circuit judge, I read first impressions in traffic court. One day in my traffic court I had some one ticketed for running a stop sign. I tend to asses someone immediately if the person appears 1. -Guilty, 2. - Guilty, but he or she won't tell a bold lie, they feel bad or 3. - Innocent. My gut tells me this guy is a 2 - Guilty but willing to learn a lesson. Sure enough, during testimony he said, "I don't FEEL I ran the stop sign." I interpreted the use of the word FEEL and his body language to mean he knew he might have run the stop sign. So I had him take a video camera and tape 10 to 15 cars going through that intersection with the stop sign then come back to court. He came back in after viewing the video and with his face and voice expressed a mixture of wonder at the facts and embarrassment at his mistake and said, " I watched those other cars run that stop sign, and I realized I had run it too." I feel it is my job not to merely punish people but ultimately to make them better citizens in the future. In his case, I was glad he learned something and admitted his guilt and I let him off with a warning.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Techniques to Meet People, Conversation Starters

I love to talk to strangers. Typically, I initiate conversations. But, not everyone feels comfortable doing that. In fact, my clients often ask me, "When I go out, be it on business, or just out by myself, how do I get people to initiate a conversation with me? On a business trip to California I ate at the wonderful Pied Piper Restaurant. Because it had been a long day of speaking I wasn't in an initiating mood. That evening at the restaurant, without even realizing it, I used three of the methods I teach to nonverbally invite strangers to initiate conversation and as a result met two interesting people.
In my advice to people who want to meet new people, network, form business alliances, or find someone to date I suggest to invite conversation by engaging in an interesting and or unusual positive activity that can illicit a positive comment or question.

The First Technique I used was to sit at the bar not at a table. Sitting at the bar you get side by side conversation, it is less threatening than face to face initial interactions so the seating makes it easier for men to initiate conversation with each other and with women. (See my blogs on side by side vs face to face)


The Second Technique I used was to carry an interesting book or other interesting reading material such as an electronic book. That night I was reading a hardback by humorous British author David Nicholls “A Question of Attraction.” The young man siting next to me asked me what I thought of the book and we were off on a fun conversation immediately. A funny coincidence is that it was easy for me to converse right away with him because he had a book on the bar in front of him on Franklin Roosevelt.

During our conversation I learned he does training internationally and owns a coffee house in San Francisco. He was leaving for China that week and I had just read a very insightful article on China in “The Week” so we were able to discuss some of the points discussed in the article: the coming storm as China continues to pollute its water and runs out of drinking water, It's problems, similar to ours as more elderly people are in need of support than people working and finally because of its large population, China's increased need to purchase goods from other countries, thus increasing trade throughout the world.

The Third Technique I used was to order interesting food. For the main course, I ordered something I saw someone eating as I came in that looked marvelously unique. A big bowl with spiral pasta pasta, mushrooms, parsley and a dollop of sour cream on top. It also had truffel oil and was wonderful.

As I ate I noticed a gentlemen sitting next to me eyeing the big bowl of pasta.

Then I had dessert, chocolate peppermint cake. It was served on a beautiful long clear glass rectangle plate with pink ice-cream and raspberry sauce. It was so lovely, I even took a picture of the plating. That did it. The combination of the unusual maincourse, dessert and my IPhone photo session motivated the gentleman to initiate a conversation by saying, "I noticed that the dessert looked beautiful, obviously you did too!" He then asked, "What was it?" and the conversation was started. I discovered that the gentleman was from Malaysia. He shared with me that he is part Indian part Chinese and was raised in a big house with floor to ceiling books in the library that sounded like the library at the Biltmore. At 14 he left Malaysia for London and was accepted immediately into college. He went on from there to law school at Cambridge and then worked in international banking. He rides his bike or the bus everyday to his current job as a house council for a Bank. That fact alone impressed me! He talked about the chain of restaurants in China he just opened with his partners. The Chinese love cheese and California wine. Who knew! We also all shared favorite books. I told them about the novel I was reading. The same novel by humorous British author David Nicholls “A Question of Attraction.” (He reminds me of the author of “About a Boy” Nick Hornsby.)

The Law of Association (with good experiences)–By pairing yourself with pleasurable stimuli another person will begin to associate you with pleasurable things.


The next day I had breakfast in the hotel court. Check out the link for Photos. It is an extremely impressive hotel. Make sure you click to the court photos. It has an enormous glass ceiling like a garden conservatory in a Victorian home. In fact, the restaurants and lobby were gorgeous!

Http://www.sfpalacerestaurants.com/pied-piper


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Southern Voices- Authors Body Language






















Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Image and Attractiveness, A Make Over Story

A 56 year old CEO had taken her company from 2 million dollars to a 200 million dollar business in 15 years. She was very successful, but as her clients got younger she didn’t feel successful. Her clothes were dowdy, blacks and browns, her hair hung lank over her face. Parker Geiger, an image consultant colleague of mine. (Check out his website) worked with her to see what fit. We are typically drawn to certain first impression factors. Power had been her motivator, esthetics attractiveness, how she looked to others, had meant nothing to her. But now she wanted to look like her new client base.

Parker says, wearing the right colors, saying the right thing, eating with the right utensil is not going to make you successful. It’s knowing you are doing all the right things that builds confidence and it’s that confidence that translates into success. For Sandra, we did just that. Her clothing style is Dramatic/Natural; dramatic in terms of wearing larger scale accessories but natural in the sense of dressing in comfort. We built a wardrobe of natural fibered clothing and unusual jewelry. Things she felt confident in. Although Sandra has been speaking to large groups around the world, after her coaching she told me that she walked out to a crowd of 1000 people and felt more confident than she ever had before. And it felt good. Now Sandra can focus back on what she does best and that is selling!


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Image and Attractiveness, making changes.

56 year old female CEO had taken her company from 2 million dollars to a 200 million dollar business in 15 years. She was very successful, but as her client’s got younger she didn’t feel successful. Her clothes were dowdy, blacks and brown her hair hung lank over her face. Parker a Geiger an image consultant colleague of mine, worked with her to see what fit. We are typically drawn to certain first impressions factors power had been her motivator, esthetics attractiveness how she looked to others had meant nothing to her. But now she wanted to look like her new client base.

Parker says, wearing the right colors, saying the right thing, eating with the right utensil is not going to make you successful. It’s knowing you are doing all the right things that builds confidence and it’s that confidence that translates into success. For Sandra, we did just that. Her clothing style is Dramatic/Natural; dramatic in terms of wearing larger scale accessories but natural in the sense of having dressing in comfort. We built a wardrobe of natural fibered clothing and unusual jewelry. Things she felt confident it. Although Sandra has been speaking to large groups around the world after her coaching she told me that she walked out to a crowd of 1000 people and felt more confident then she ever had before. And it felt good. Now Sandra can focus back on what she does best and that is selling!



Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

How seating effects the audience and the speaker

Have you ever noticed an audience “check out” on a speaker?
There are times when seating profoundly effects and audiences response.
Recently I was the last speaker of a four day event. All day, for four days the attendees sat at tables set for 12 people in the same large banquet room at the Hotel.
By the time I was introduced in the afternoon of the last day they had set up their seats to create an easy way to “check out” of any presentation.
Out of 150 people the majority of the people were sitting in the back of the room. In fact, there were five tables in the front that were absolutely empty and the others up front have two or three people at a table meant for 12. This seating creates what I call the castle wall effect. The participants can tune out and talk to each other because they feel they are protected and hidden behind the castle wall.
It also makes it much more difficult to connect with the group and to get them to laugh. It is hard to move and audience to laugh over empty seats. You may have heard comics like Jay Leno talk about the advantage of having the front seats filled and a packed house for the comedy to work. The same principal applies to any speaking, training or meeting situation. Laughter and energy move easily in a crowd. With all those issues in mind, you can see were this could have made for a “tough audience.” I had to move out into the audience throughout the speech to bridge the empty gab. Now in the ideal circumstances you as the speaker can get the room arranged more effectively. Here is what you might ask.

Could you ask the banquet manager to change the room slightly before the last day’s presentation? Could the hotel staff please move out at least the back three tables and all those chairs at the back? And get rid of any extra chairs in the room that people may have pulled away from the tables and brought to sit in against the back wall. Those are what I call the, “too good for the room seats.” and are typically filled with participants who may have high assigned status, or those who most want to check out. Please get rid of those chairs.

If you can get the change the groups they will fill up the room at not have empty tables or three at the tables in front. You will have a packed house and a much happier audience!!





Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Body Language Clues From Zahra Baker's Father

Greensboro, NC -- In a case that seems to get more bizarre by the day, we're finding out what Zahra Baker's father is and isn't telling us about his daughter's death.

Patti was asked by WBTV News this week to view the interview of Adam Baker just after he received the news that his wife, Elisa Baker, had been charged with second degree murder of their daughter. Patti revealed some interesting facts regarding his body language during the interview. Check the link below to hear her comments as she watched his interview.
http://www.digtriad.com/news/local/article.aspx?storyid=162510&catid=57

http://www.wbtv.com/Global/category.asp?C=197806

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Body Language, Lying to the Federal Reserve

Look at the body language and paralanguage in this Video

It's a testimony of the Inspector General of the Federal Reserve before a congressional panel, trying to pin down the woman who SHOULD know what happened to TRILLIONS of $ that was provided as bailout money, and she evades, dodges and prevaricates. What do you see.

http://dailybail.com/home/there-are-no-words-to-describe-the-following-part-ii.html

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Wondering How Your Honey Really Feels About You? Check the Links Below

http://www.torontosun.com/life/2011/02/10/17227806.html

http://lifewise.canoe.ca/SexRomance/2011/02/10/17242121.html

http://www.edmontonsun.com/life

http://www.ottawasun.com/life

http://www.calgarysun.com/life

http://www.winnipegsun.com/life

http://www.lfpress.com/life/2011/02/10/17227981.html


2. Say no more Wondering how your honey really feels about you? Here's a hint: Stop paying attention to the words
The Ottawa Sun, Saturday, February 12, 2011 , Edition: Final , Section: Lifestyle , Page: 26 , Matches: , Word Count: 000746 Byline: JOANNE RICHARD

3. Say no more Wondering how your honey really feels about you? Here's a hint: Stop paying attention to the words
The Calgary Sun, Saturday, February 12, 2011 , Edition: Final , Section: Lifestyle , Page: 39 , Matches: , Word Count: 000746 Byline: JOANNE RICHARD

4. Say no more LIFE: Wondering how your honey really feels about you? Here's a hint: Stop paying attention to the words
The Brantford Expositor, Saturday, February 12, 2011 , Edition: Final , Section: Lifestyle , Page: C6 , Matches: , Word Count: 000827 Byline: JOANNE RICHARD

5. Say no more
The Kingston Whig-Standard, Saturday, February 12, 2011 , Edition: Final , Section: Lifestyle , Page: 32 , Matches: , Word Count: 000974 Byline: JOANNE RICHARD

6. Flower power for your Valentine VALENTINE'S DAY
The Sarnia Observer, Saturday, February 12, 2011 , Edition: Final , Section: Lifestyle , Page: D10 , Matches: , Word Count: 001053 Byline: JOANNE RICHARD, SPECIAL TO QMI AGENCY

7. Stop paying attention to the words LIFE: Wondering how your honey really feels about you? Here's a hint: Stop paying attention to the words
The Sarnia Observer, Saturday, February 12, 2011 , Edition: Final , Section: Lifestyle , Page: C6 , Matches: , Word Count: 000827 Byline: JOANNE RICHARD

8. Say no more Wondering how your honey really feels about you? Here's a hint: Stop paying attention to the words
The Edmonton Sun, Saturday, February 12, 2011 , Edition: Final , Section: Lifestyle , Page: 68 , Matches: , Word Count: 000746 Byline: JOANNE RICHARD


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Memory Sung With New Different Funny Lyrics.....Some Call Them Senior Moments

Some call the times you forget why you came down the stairs senior moments.
My gang at Meeting of the Minds have a different name for forgetting things. Because we are all still young, still sharp, we feel like there is just too much out there now to have to remember. We are so busy taking in information, we own businesses and work so hard, read so much, and love to know everything so if we are in the middle of a discussion and we can’t remember a movie star’s name, all ten of the Ten Commandments or the name of the former King of Egypt we say we are having a “Google it” moment.

http://www.youtube.com:80/watch?v=HzSaoN2LdfU&feature=youtube_gdata_player

or alternate URL> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HzSaoN2LdfU&feature=youtube_gdata_player


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Games to Solve Problems

Last night at Meeting of the Minds we talked about games to solve problems. I shared an article I had read about gaming. People logged into War of Warcraft (World of Warcraft, often referred to as WoW, is a massively multi player online role-playing game) spend over 30 million hours a year solving problems as part of the game. A gamer created a game called, "World without Oil." to challenge gamers to solve real world problems. I asked our group what game they would create to solve what they feel is a big problem in the world. What would your game be?

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.