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Life Lesson Quote for April 9, 2012

FRAME EVERY SO-CALLED DISASTER WITH THESE WORDS: "IN FIVE YEARS, WILL THIS MATTER?"

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Eye Strain Prevention


When we are with other people talking face to face we increase our blink rate.  When we are by ourselves we may only blink 20 times per minute. We stare at our computer, IPhone and other tech screens. Our eyes are so important. I just received this eye strain prevention link given by fellow speaker Teresa Duncan at SpeakerNetNews and wanted to share it with you.

“To reduce eyestrain I’ve started using the program Eyeleo (eyeleo.com) that prompts you to perform simple eye exercises throughout the day. After using it for a week I no longer have tired, burning eyes at the end of the day.”


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for April 8, 2012

NO ONE IS IN CHARGE OF YOUR HAPPINESS EXCEPT YOU.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Flash Mob Performance in Seattle


Here is a video of a flash mob performance in Seattle. I love the energy. Personally I would love to be part of one. It would have been great if suddenly after my speech at Johnson and Wales this past week a flash mob of dancers practiced their isopraxism.

Look at this video now and anytime you need a lift.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g5PyIVVKoWU
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

How to Get Glee through Isopraxism


Last summer on Sunday night I would stand up in the living room and dance around singing. On various nights I was moving and vocalizing like a Lady Gaga, Tina Turner or Kate Perry wanna be. I was pulled into the energy of the kids performances on a TV show. Isopraxism at work. All this to the amusement of everyone around including Bo the wonder dog who thinks my singing is mesmerizing and who is always willing to dance with me. After all his name is Bojangels Robinson.  

Why was I singing and dancing so jubilantly? Because Sunday night the Glee Project was on.  It’s a reality show with real teenagers trying out for a spot on the TV show Glee. It was a positive show. One with truly talented singers. If you haven’t seen it there are clips on the internet. My favorite was a sweet rendition of Blackbird in a final competition.  Check the link in my next post for the flash mob dance to promote the next season of Glee that shows Isopraxism, the pull towards the same energy. For more on the science of Isopraxism go to: http://www.pattiwood.net/article.asp?PageID=10080 or http://www.pattiwood.net/uploads/YourTopFive1.pdf


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

What His Sleep Habits Can Tell You

Patti shared her insights on the sleep habits of men with Cosmopolitan recently.  Check the link below to see her comments.

http://www.scribd.com/doc/88395592/Cos-030112-Body-Language

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for April 7, 2012

Overprepare, then go with the flow.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

We can accurately predict in a first impression that someone is wealthy from their body language


We can accurately predict in a first impression that someone is wealthy from their body language. New research:
How we unknowingly reveal our socioeconomic status using nonverbal behaviors
Later, the authors coded the get-acquainted interaction for signs of engagement cues (e.g., head nods, eyebrow raises, laughter and gazes at the partner) and disengagement cues (e.g., self-grooming, fidgeting with objects and doodling). As predicted, higher SES significantly predicted disengagement cues. The students from wealthier backgrounds were more likely than their poorer cohorts to exhibit these “rude” displays of relative indifference. (Indeed, this SES effect occurred even after controlling for participants’ gender, since women are generally more engaged listeners than men.)

What’s more, the authors asked a group of other undergraduate students to watch the tape and to make their best guess about the SES of the people shown on the video. Based only on the participants’ nonverbal behaviors in these brief videotaped exchanges, the observers were able to make better-than-chance estimates of the participants’ family income and even their mother’s level of education, an indirect measure of SES (though they were not as accurate in judging paternal education). Kraus and Keltner conclude their report by stating that, “SES imbues the briefest interactions, influencing both what people signal nonverbally and how they are perceived.”

As for me, I think I may have inherited that same mildly disingenuous blue-collar smile as my father. Having said that, unlike my dad I’m also a pecuniary numbskull, and I have a hunch these types of engagement cues might flare up in my social behaviors every time I burn a new hole in my pocket.
In this new column presented by Scientific American Mind magazine, research psychologist Jesse Bering of Queen's University Belfast ponders some of the more obscure aspects of everyday human behavior. Ever wonder why yawning is contagious, why we point with our index fingers instead of our thumbs or whether being breastfed as an infant influences your sexual preferences as an adult? Get a closer look at the latest data as “Bering in Mind” tackles these and other quirky questions about human nature. Sign up for the RSS feed and or friend Dr. Bering on Facebook and never miss an installment again.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Are First Impressions Useful? Do They Keep Us Safe?


“On August 4, 2001, Mohamed al Kahtani was denied U.S. entry at Orlando International Airport. On September 11, 2001, while three planes carried five hijackers, United Flight 93 carried only four. These four were overpowered by passengers, sparing a potential target in Washington. Federal investigators believe that al Kahtani was meant to be Flight 93's fifth hijacker.
Why did Immigration and Naturalization Service inspector Jose Melendez-Perez turn away al Kahtani on August 4? The inspector said there was something "chilling" about Kahtani. Melendez-Perez was quoted in the 9/11 Commission Report as saying, "My first question to the subject [through the interpreter] was why he was not in possession of a return airline ticket. The subject became visibly upset... in an arrogant and threatening manner, which included pointing his finger at my face." Thus, though the two didn't share a spoken language, Melendez-Perez used nonverbal cues to help make his decision.
Melendez-Perez, like many professionals, relied on his intuition to understand nonverbal behavior. Can we formalize our understanding of nonverbal behavior, so that it can be used by the many, instead of the intuitive few? This is the goal of the MITRE-Sponsored Research (MSR) project "Understanding (Arabic) Nonverbal Behavior." Our objective is to make information from nonverbal behavior interpretable and usable for a broad range of work tasks, including field-based activities, video analysis interpreting behavior and intent, airport screening, and immigration, customs, and border patrols.”

Whether Obvious or Subtle, Nonverbals Are Useful
What kinds of nonverbal behavior might be of use? We can consider three types, along a continuum from obvious to subtle.
 
One category of easily recognizable gestures, called "emblems," has codified culture-specific meanings. Examples include the American "thumbs-up" and "OK" signs (which are both offensive in some Arabic cultures). Knowledge of such pre-defined signals is useful to anyone working in multicultural settings.
Other types of nonverbal behavior are less consciously recognized, but easily identified once pointed out. For example, use of interpersonal space (proxemics) varies in distance and meaning among cultures. Many Arabs prefer a closer distance when talking to others than do Americans. This leads some Arabs to feel Americans are aloof because they stand too far away, while Americans may feel Arabs are pushy because they stand too close. Knowledge of these behaviors is beneficial to anyone engaging in face-to-face interactions with others (such as soldiers or airport screeners).
Finally, some nonverbals are revealed only by careful analysis. For instance, some analysts believe that reviewing video for clusters of behaviors (such as shifting of arms and legs to and from "rest positions") may signal evasion. Knowledge of subtle cues, how they are used, and what they mean in different contexts can be beneficial in both real-time screening as well as forensic video analysts.
Two Objectives
While the MSR's overall goal is to enable and facilitate greater recognition and interpretation of nonverbal information (beyond intuition), the project's title—Understanding (Arabic) Nonverbal Behavior—hints at its two supporting objectives. The first objective is to provide new methods and enabling technology for analyzing nonverbal behavior in general. The second objective is to use those methods and technology to understand nonverbal behavior in specific cultures, starting with the Iraqi Arabic culture.
What do we mean by "enabling technology"? We are first refining a methodology for nonverbal analysis. For example, in analyzing videos of humans in conversation, what kinds of phenomena should be analyzed or annotated? Gaze? Posture shifts? Eyeblinks? It's impossible to focus on everything, and choices must be made from a complex array of body movement. Second, we're investigating tools for such analysis. A sample analysis tool is ANVIL (Annotation of Video and Language). This software contains a digital video player at the top, with time-aligned annotation tracks below; as the video is played forwards or backwards, the annotation tracks scroll right or left, and vice versa.
In addition to tools for analysis, we are creating further tools for sharing analyses between research groups, and, finally, devising an accessible knowledge base for storing, sharing, and retrieving results of nonverbal analysis. These latter two activities focus on promoting intracommunity information exchange and are especially important, as relevant academic data are largely confined to islands of specialized research. There is currently no easy way to bridge between research groups or between the laboratory and our sponsors' real-world needs. We plan to leverage MITRE's information-sharing success in another field: neuroimaging. MITRE is already helping the brain-mapping community share brain-scan images and metadata; we envision a similar infrastructure for nonverbal data (videos) and metadata.
The research project's second supporting objective is to use the above enabling technology to analyze and understand nonverbal behavior from a particular culture, starting with Iraqi Arabs, whose nonverbals have rarely been studied. Volunteer native Iraqis have been filmed in a variety of scenarios, including free conversation and interactive storytelling. The tools described above will be used to analyze the videos, and the findings will be entered into the knowledge base for dissemination across research and other potential communities of interest (COIs).
Real-world Relevance
How will these findings help MITRE's sponsors? There are several possibilities. The online knowledge base of nonverbal behaviors and their meanings will be useful to those who need insight into interactions with Iraqis. Articles and white papers describing these behaviors, and the methods used to analyze and interpret them, will be published for the use of researchers and other COIs. These findings will be particularly useful for training materials designed for government personnel who interact with other cultures. For example, many government personnel going to Iraq are equipped with an illustrated laminated pocket card that contains basic tips and phrases to aid intercultural communication. We also envision collaborating with immersive simulated training environments to provide better bodymovement realism in the synthetic actors with which soldiers practice communicating. Each of these training media is already making use of easily recognizable emblematic gestures. We are collaborating with the video-gaming group in MITRE's Command and Control Center to ensure our nonverbal findings can be integrated into immersive training environments.
Impact
Our sponsors go to great expense to understand a variety of human communication channels. Yet the ubiquitous channel of nonverbal behavior is under-exploited. Our goal is to increase the safety and effectiveness of U.S. personnel by providing a clearly-documented understanding of Iraqi Arabic nonverbal behavior that will also serve as a prototype for how to provide comparable insights into other cultures. We will also create the first instance of enabling technology infrastructure to allow this knowledge to be used more broadly outside research laboratory settings.
MITRE's sponsors are realizing the need for cultural knowledge such as this and have begun coming to us for help. Few entities in the research community have the understanding of technology, social sciences, and sponsor requirements to tackle the significant challenges here. Thus, MITRE is well positioned to move this field forward and empower our sponsors with important and underutilized data on human communication.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

10 Hand Gestures You Should Know When Traveling

http://www.zencollegelife.com/10-hand-gestures-you-should-know-when-traveling/

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for April 6, 2012

When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for April 5, 2012

A writer writes.  If you want to be a writer, write.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for April 4, 2012

You can get through anything if you stay put in today.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for April 3, 2012

If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for April 2, 2012

Don't compare your life to others'.  You have no idea what their journey is all about.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for April 1, 2012

Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for March 31, 2012

When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for March 30, 2012

Cry with someone.  It's more healing than crying alone.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for March 29, 2012

You don't have to win every argument.  Agree to Disagree.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for March 28, 2012

 Pay off your credit cards every month.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Book Cover Suggestion for My New Book SNAP



A fellow speaker just sent me this book cover Idea for my new book SNAP. I have a cover chosen but, this is such a fun cover idea.




Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for March 27, 2012

Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for March 26, 2012

Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

What Makes Someone Look Powerful?

What makes someone look powerful? A distinctive pattern of nonverbal behaviors characterizes high-status persons. A recent meta-analysis ( a study of many research studies) shows these three factors.

• facial expressiveness,
• greater bodily openness (what I refer to as open body windows)
• smaller interpersonal distances (that is high status people approach others at closer distances.) Think about it this way - a boss, by virtue of their status can come into your cubical and interact closely. A lower status person might stand outside the cubical and ask to enter and stand further away. Powerful people come in and interact closely as behaviors that are characteristic of higher status persons (Hall, Coats, & LeBeau, 2005)

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Business Etiquette - Here To Stay So Take Note with Quotes from Patti Wood



http://www.gsu.edu/magazine/2012spring/770.html

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for March 25, 2012

When in doubt, just take the next small step.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for March 24, 2012

Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for March 23, 2012

All that truly matters in the end is that you loved

Look forward to fun one line life lessons on my twitters and blogs. The first ones are from Regina Brett's Life Lessons article in the Cleveland Plain Dealer.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

3 Tips for Team Presentations to High Level Executives

3 Secrets to Successful Team Presentations to High Level Executives

Yesterday, I was coaching a group of fantastically motivated, hardworking, immerging leaders at one of my pharmaceutical clients. They where preparing to give team presentations to the big wigs of their organization. If you follow my blog, you know that the beginnings and endings of presentations can make or break your presentation. It is often the smallest behaviors that have the biggest impact on the outcome of your presentation. The team had already worked many hours on their own portion of the presentation. They each had great content for a single speech.  They each new what they wanted to say and they each wanted to impress the big wigs.  But they didn't know how it would look as one seamless presentation.
One of the things I  suggested to the group is that they get together after their presentation to celebrate their success. They just contacted me from their celebration. What worked for them at the beginning and close?  They sent me a email with what they did in the meeting. These  are three things they used from our work that worked to improve their team presentation.


• So that the team could bond with the audience and look professional and not computer with each other for a power position we formed a greeting line at the entrance of the meeting room . so that each executive shook our hands with all four members as they  came in, we even had the executives that tried to come in the side door come in the main door to greet us. The executives loved it.
• We wowed them with our “Imagine” attention getter that allowed each of us to speak and express our passion for a high performance team.
• We were prepared for the tough questions. The practice with you yesterday creating and answering the questions helped. We know how to answer the “We hope the audience doesn’t ask questions."  The practice responding and tossing questions to fellow team members prepared us for the tough questions. During the presentation we were able to toss them easily to each other.

One of the things I also suggested is that they get together after their presentation to celebrate their success. They just called me from their celebration. What worked for them at the beginning and close? Here is what they said:

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Do They Look In Love? What Does Their Body Language Reveal?



Patti weighed in on Bachelor Ben and his "fiance" Courtney's body language as they were eating dinner with Ben's sister and her boyfriend for Hollywoodlife.com. Read her insights below! Also, read the full article in Hollywoodlife.com at the link below.

Patti's insights:
Courtney is “sheltering” with her head tilted toward and shoulder closest too him down toward him. That shows she feels he can protect her. The fingers on his hand that’s around her shoulder are nicely relaxed and spread and his thumb is actually resting up and her shoulder in a protective hold. I see loving care between them.

http://yfrog.com/oe6ixnzhj

Link to article:
http://www.hollywoodlife.com/2012/03/21/ben-flajnik-courtney-robertson-relationship-bachelor/

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

What Does Nick Gordon's Body Language Reveal About His Relationship With Bobbi Kristina?

Hollywoodlife asked Patti to weigh in on the body language of Nick Gordon with regard to his relationship with Bobbi Kristina. Read her insights below and check the link to view the video.

http://www.hollywoodlife.com/2012/03/15/nicholas-gordon-bobbi-kristina-brown-relationship-marriage/

He actually stood up very well to that aggressive attempt at an interview. I was impressed with him today. I specifically liked it when he was asked a question about how Bobbi was doing his entire demeanor changed. He looked back and connected with the reporter, his body language was relaxed and his paralanguage (voice) slowed down and became real and warm as he said, “She is doing very well she is standing strong.” He also authentically emphasized the word VERY. His nonverbal response to that statement indicates he truly cares about Bobbi and he is willing to stand up to the media who might question how stable and well she is doing. That was genuine.

Regarding all the strong “No comment” responses to the questions about the relationship his avoidance turning away continuing what he was doing, the strident tone and the quick grimace indicate there is perhaps a romantic relationship. If you are innocent of a claim or if you agree with a question, you are likely to make a strong statement. The “no comment” rather than “We are family and I love and support her as a brother.”

Their body language together today shows only a bit more commitment on his part. Specifically notice how he doesn’t OPEN UP his hand and take her hand in his and lift it up. She again is the initiator and wants to be seen as a couple.

You use to be able to hold hands with friends and siblings, but in the last 10 years we identify hand holding as a signal of romantic and sexual interest.

http://www.tmz.com/2012/03/16/whitney-houston-nick-gordon-bobbi-kristina-brown/

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Burnt Bread Recipe

After months of friends having me over for dinner as I finished up my book, I am now back to hosting dinner parties again.
The other night my friends looked forward to the bread accompanying the mushroom ravioli with green peas and pearl onions and salad I had fixed for dinner. Later that evening while we were up in my office checking out possible book covers my friend Richard asked, “What’s that smell?” and we discovered the burnt pesto bread in the oven. Another friend asked for the recipe so here it is.

Burnt Bread Recipe

• Take several friends seat them in chairs
• Place buttered pesto bread in the oven at 350 degrees
• Do NOT set the timer
• Add fun stimulating conversation
• Pour a glass of wine for each person ( two or three glasses if you want the
charcoal to be extra crispy)
• Serve a yummy dinner with cherry pie for dessert
• Enjoy the smoky aroma of burnt bread as it fills the house.

WA lah!


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Bobbi Kristina and Nick Gordon’s Body Language. Are They a Couple?



Are they a couple? Patti shared her insights on their body language with Hollywoodlife recently. Read Patti's insights below, watch the video and see if you agree!

She wants them to be a couple and wants his support. She reaches out quickly and with neediness three times in those few movements to hold hands with him. If she felt secure with him she would be more likely to reach out her hand slowly knowing that he would meet her hand half way. Instead she quickly grasps. In the one instance when they are crossing the street he briefly rebuffs her attempt to hold hands then gives in. The neediness is also shown in both videos and she has to move quickly, in a scuttle motion in one case, to keep up with him. And he is not slowing down for her. Though I like that he reaches out briefly to put his arm around her, he doesn’t fully comfort by wrapping the arm around her and leaving it there. He instead gives a reach to hold but doesn’t follow through removes his arm quickly.

http://www.tmz.com/2012/03/14/whitney-houston-bobbi-kristina-pda-kissing-nick-gordon-video/#.T2HqEJd2gap

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Bobbi Kristina's Body Language During the Oprah Interview


Listen at the link below as Patti analyzes for ShowBiz Tonight the body language of Bobbi Kristina during the recent interview by Oprah and Ray J's body language when being interviewed about Whitney Houston's death.

Patti on ShowBiz Tonight:
http://www.youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert?feature=mhee

Oprah's Interview:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=84x0EsBRqsE

Ray J's Emotional Interview:
http://www.eonline.com/news/ray_j_whitney_houston_i_miss_you/295171

Patti's Notes:
Bobbi Kristina, (Whitney Houston's Daughter) body language insights during Oprah Winfrey interview March 11, 2012

Repeating statements in effort to believe the positive things she is saying and make them true.
Bobbi shows a lot of self-comfort cues at the end of the statements showing that many of the positive things are not true yet but she is using them to reassure herself.
When we are little our moms touch and hold us rub our head and comfort us.
Self-comfort cues are a way to reassure ourselves when Mom’s not there.
Often sweeps her hands away from her body when talking about hearing her mother’s voice or music, showing she wants that painful voice to get away from her and out of her head.

When Oprah asks Bobbi if she can listen to her Mother’s music, she brushes her hair back three times and as she says, “I can hear her music” and as she brushes it back the third time she puts her hand into holding it in knuckles up fist. Distinct comfort cues that show she not only doesn’t want to hear her mother’s music but that she is fighting against the thought of hearing it.

“I can hear her voice,” she is striking with open hands away from her head as if she wants her Mother’s voice out of her head.

I got you, scratching her hair away.

Bobbi says to her Mother’s spirit “I will always need you. “Pushing her hair away and scratching the back of her head. “I can hear her voice talking to me.”

Bobbi says “Her spirit is strong” she puts her hands in her pockets, “It is a strong spirit,” she shakes her head no.

“I wake up at night all the time. At 5:00 in the morning.
“I just start praying,” Again her hands flow out and away.

Bobbi says, “I remember what she told me, what she taught me. “ “That’s what I take in that’s all that I take in.” She does another scratch this time scratching the hair away from her head one, two, three, four, and then five times. The intensity of this scratching motion on her right side of her head show some of what Whitney taught her daughter is what Bobbi would like to scrape away.

“I can still sit there and laugh with her” her hands and arms scoop that in “I can still sit there and talk with her” she takes her finger and scratches behind her ear.

“The first night I couldn’t stay there… the next morning...” she does a clear the throat cough that indicates the pain that morning after her mother died is tough going down.

“I thought it was ok to stay in the house” she holds her hand palm out to brush back her hair and shutters her eyes. “Still have all the things she has given me” she repeats it again.

Time code 5: 00 Bobbi says, “No one knows she was an amazing spirit”
Oprah says “That’s why we are doing this so people can hear…” Bobbi interrupts, “and that’s what I want.” Bobbi says that with more conviction than anything else in the interview.
Oprah finishes her thought, “The truth.” Hearing those words the truth, Bobbi says the words “that is exactly what I want,” but she for the first time in the interview scratches her nose, showing she doesn’t like the smell of what the truth may reveal. She then speaks of what she does want the public to know.
“She was my mother, she was a best friend” “We were one unit.”
Asked about dealing with the Paparazzi “Is it harder for you without her, she clears her throat, “At first it was.” “Did you ever feel she would leave?
“Last day,” coughs it out.
10:00 all these negative thoughts


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

When is it Time to STOP Selling the Dress?

Patti is featured in the Jan/Feb issue of VOWS magazine which recently hit the stands. Check the link below for her insights on knowing when to STOP selling!

http://www.scribd.com/doc/84575364/Time-to-Stop-Selling

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Baby Body Language - Ava Maria




Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

What Your Body Language Says About You

Some people always do well during job interviews, seem to have more fun at cocktail parties and generally get along better with other people. Wouldn't you like to know their secret? The answer may be no secret at all. They could simply have more awareness of body language -- both their own and that of others.

Patti shared her insights on what your body language says about you with Healthy Life. Click the link below to find out!

http://www.healthylifect.com/home/article/Talk-This-Way-3377426.php


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Patti Reveals What is Behind Their "Cry Cover" Smiles


This is an expression I call the cry cover smile. Yes, most people who give this expression believe they are covering their true emotions with a smile.
This expression is typically found in men and I think comes from the need to keep a “stiff upper lip.” Many times this expression is an attempt to hide many intense emotions of sadness, fear and anger. I see it in men who typically have very strong egos and power and are caught and brought down. There are several photos of this expression in former Governor Blagojevich.

Congressman Wiener’s expression is a suppressed fear, disgust and anger (If you cover up his mouth and look at just his eyes you will see the whites around his eyes and his sideways glance, and disgust. Notice the wrinkled nose that is a unique movement of the face given in disgust.)
If I knew exactly when he gave that expression I could tell you whether he was disgusted with himself for what he did or disgusted with the media at a particular question or bringing his behavior to light. The wrinkled, upraised chin and tight lips show the suppression of fear and also of anger.

Spitzer also has a cry cover smile. His chin is more raised and more defiant and proud and more of the bottom lip is raised and held inside the mouth. The corners of the mouth come down significantly in a way that is more common to this expression showing his need to smile through the pain. Cover his mouth and you see his eyes are more hooded downwards at the corners and sad. This combination reminds me of the classic sad clown painted face.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

My Favorite Books of 2011 - Top 10 Favorite Books of 2011 Plus More!

I remember my first favorite book, the one I first read over and over again at the age of 9 “Little Men” by Louisa May Alcott. Yes, I preferred the adventures of boys rather than the mild, and to me hum drum lives of the “Little Women” written about by the same author.

Though I had been a reader before the age of 9 at that particular age I found that my Barbie dolls were boring and my pogo stick and tether ball no longer seemed engaging. Reading became my play, and more than that, it became my way to seek adventures, to travel through time and space, to feast on life. For me books are as essential as air, and food and sometimes more essential than sleep. I would love to know your favorite books.

In 2011, I wrote more, spoke more, and traveled more than in any year of my career. To balance my wonderful real life with my creative life that meant I also read a lot of wonderful books.

Here are my favorite books from 2011 in order of “wonderfulness.”

1. Little Bee by Chris Cleave
2. Leeway Cottage by Beth Gutcheon
3. Fifth Avenue 5 A.M. by Sam Wasson
4. Eureka Street by Robert McLiam Wilson
5. The Invisible Bridge by Julie Orringer
6. La’s Orchestra Saves the World by Alexander McCall Smith
7. The Lake Shore Limited by Sue Miller
8. Broken for You by Stephanie Kallos
9. Bittersweet by Leslie Li
10. Major Pettigrew’s Last Stand by Helen Simonson
11. The Season of Second Chances by Diane Meier
12. How to Be an American Housewife by Margaret Dilloway
13. Paris to the Moon by Adam Gopnik
14. The Cookbook Collector by Allegra Goodman
15. The Man in the Wooden Hat by Jane Gardam
16. Goodbye Without Leaving by Laurie Colwin
17. Heart of Deception by M.L. Malcom
18. A Question of Attraction by David Nicholls
19. Stardust by Joseph Kanon
20. The Doctor and The Diva by Adrienne McDonnell
21. Remarkable Creatures by Tracy Chevalier
22. My Name is Mary Sutter by Robin Oliveira
23. That Old Cape Magic by Richard Russo
24. The Empress of One by Faith Sullivan
25. The Man of My Dreams by Curtis Sittenfeld
26. Clara Callan by Richard B. Wright
27. Saving CeeCee Honeycutt by Beth Hoffman
28. The Imperfectionist by Tom Rachman
29. The Particular Sadness of Lemon Cake by Aimee Bender

My two favorite Autobiographies this year

30. Bossypants by Tina Fey
31. Seriously… I’m Kidding by Ellen DeGeneres

Favorite nonfiction book

32. Paid to Speak with one little chapter by me

More Wonderful Books by Authors I Love

There are some authors whose books you read simply because you love their writing and other authors you read simply because you love the characters and want to see what happens next. I have read all the books published by the following authors. This list is of books of theirs that I read in 2010.

33. The Innocent Man by John Grisham(Excellent,but read it when you can stay up all night)
34. The Man From Beijing by Henning Mankell
35. The Red Door by Charles Todd An Inspector Ian Rutledge Mystery by Charles Todd
36. Careless in Red by Elizabeth George
37. The Cooper Beach by Maeve Binchy
38. Juliet Naked by Nick Hornby
39. New England White by Stephan L Carter ( Author of the Emperor of Ocean Park)
40. Murder on the Leviathan by Boris Akunin
41. The Water Room- A Peculiar Crimes Unit Mystery by Christopher Fowler
42. The Double Comfort Safari Club by Alexander McCall Smith
43. Fatally Flaky by Diane Mott Davidson
44. The Last Dickens by Matthew Pearl
45. The Sweetness at the Bottom of the Pie by Alan Bradley
46. Mary Ann In Autumn by Armistead Maupin
47. Both of Betty White’s Biographies

The following books I read and later gave to friends who liked them more than I did

48. One Day by David Nicholls
49. Elements of Style by Wendy Wasserstein
50. Grange House by Sarah Blake
51. Rescue by Anita Shreve
52. The Ghost of Greenwhich Village by Lorna Graham
53. The Colour by Rose Tremain

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.