I was reading Guy’s Kawasaki’s latest book, “Enchantment” on the plane back from a speech to Judges in Texas the other day. The book was filled with wonderful little tidbits. He says early in the book, in fact on page nine that “you need four things for a great first impression: your smile, your dress, your handshake and your vocabulary.” Yippee! for recognizing that handshakes are still important. You know how I feel about them. I just did a speech last week for a Financial Association. We discussed how important it was for them to shake hands to create rapport. They have to have the rapport or people are not going to share their financial information.
Here is a quote from my new book on first impressions
“The choices of where, when and with whom to give a handshake have changed over the last few years due to differences in culture and religious background, a more casual business culture and the maturing of the Purell germaphobic generation. Yet, handshaking remains an important ritual for you to understand, use with ease and use as a source of information as you work on your first impression and reading others. Recent studies in North America indicate that a firm handshake that shows strength and vigor with appropriate eye contact length and completeness of grip creates a favorable first impression. In fact, the handshake is the quickest, most effective way to establish rapport with another person.”
In the book “Enchantment” like many recent business books he mentions Paul Eckman’s facial expression research and on page 10 of the “Enchantment” is research that I quoted many years ago in my “Success Signals” book on smiling that I also mention under likability in my new book. It is nice to know that great minds think alike.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
May 4th - Make A Promise Day
May 4th is Make A Promise Day. Recently I did an interview about my friend Roy and promises we made to each other many years ago. Today, on Make a Promise Day, think about the times in your life when you made a promise and what it meant. When you use the two Magic Words (I Promise) they invoke a powerful force to make things happen. When you make a promise and can Keep Your Word you can Change Your Life.
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Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Royal Couple.... "Picture Perfect Romance"
I was quoted in the Brantford Expositor and the Belleville Intelligencer on the body language of the Royal Couple, William and Kate.
BAD ROMANCE? No way! Pictures speak louder than words, and when it comes to the royal couple, it's a picture-perfect romance with relationship success signals loud and clear. Prince William and his bride-to-be Kate Middleton are a tight twosome who'll be living happily ever after -well, at least they're off to a great start, according to body language expert Patti Wood. Visual hints show their love is deep -William and Kate share a deep respect and admiration for one another, says Wood. "They look at each other often -and not for approval as Diana often did when she first was engaged to Charles, but with respect and affection," says Wood. There's also the look of confidence, says Wood, of http://www.pattiwood.net/."Kate watches him closely when he is talking; she does stand back slightly to show her place but she doesn't bow down her head in submission or lack of confidence as you used to see Diana do in Charles' presence." It's a relationship of equals. According to Wood, Kate keeps her head and chin on "the midline for the throat window, which shows once again her confidence and ease in the high stress media moments." Wood often analyzes celebrity body language and provides fun feedback, including the lies and telltale truths, for major celebrity and women's publications. "One single moment can be very revealing and can predict so many things going on in the relationship at that time," says Wood. "It's the little things couples do that reveal how they really feel because we can't consciously control those actions." Optics don't lie! William and Kate are in sync and the connection is mutual, says Wood. "In photos you often see them taking on mirrored body language poses of each other. That frequent matching and mirroring shows they are in sync."
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
BAD ROMANCE? No way! Pictures speak louder than words, and when it comes to the royal couple, it's a picture-perfect romance with relationship success signals loud and clear. Prince William and his bride-to-be Kate Middleton are a tight twosome who'll be living happily ever after -well, at least they're off to a great start, according to body language expert Patti Wood. Visual hints show their love is deep -William and Kate share a deep respect and admiration for one another, says Wood. "They look at each other often -and not for approval as Diana often did when she first was engaged to Charles, but with respect and affection," says Wood. There's also the look of confidence, says Wood, of http://www.pattiwood.net/."Kate watches him closely when he is talking; she does stand back slightly to show her place but she doesn't bow down her head in submission or lack of confidence as you used to see Diana do in Charles' presence." It's a relationship of equals. According to Wood, Kate keeps her head and chin on "the midline for the throat window, which shows once again her confidence and ease in the high stress media moments." Wood often analyzes celebrity body language and provides fun feedback, including the lies and telltale truths, for major celebrity and women's publications. "One single moment can be very revealing and can predict so many things going on in the relationship at that time," says Wood. "It's the little things couples do that reveal how they really feel because we can't consciously control those actions." Optics don't lie! William and Kate are in sync and the connection is mutual, says Wood. "In photos you often see them taking on mirrored body language poses of each other. That frequent matching and mirroring shows they are in sync."
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Protective Mother Bear Mode
Patti weighed in on the body language of Kourtney for InTouch Weekly. She says that Kourtney looks very tense and is going into protective mother bear mode. Perhaps some of Scott's actions have given Kourtney cause for concern. Her main focus is the welfare of their young son, Mason.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Royal Wedding - Body Language of the Royal Couple, Past and Present
I was interview by Gulf News recently on the body language of the Royal Couple, William and Kate as the date for the Royal Wedding approaches. Below are some of my insights on the Royal Couple's relationship and a look back at Charles and Diana's nonverbal cues.
Blue Dress
Look how casually she links her arm through his. Her body and bearing is upright. This shows her desire to be prim and proper. His hands are folded over his pelvis in what is called the “fig leaf” position and she is standing with her feet pressed together these are the male and female signals of sexual protection. I read this as an indication that they want to keep that part of their relationship private and protected from public scrutiny.
Diana has her arms folded over her heart and her mouth is tense and flattened showing her unhappiness and need to cover her heart and protect it from Charles. His hand is pushing her down symbolically putting her in her place.
I love the photo where William is cradling Kate to him with the front of her body moving into him. I like that his arms bring her close but do so gently. I love how relaxed and rounded their bodies are. Their smiles are very tender. Notice the pouching under their eyes. There is even a very healthy glow on their skin that shows their attraction to each other. Wonderful warm and real connection and affection in this mutual hold.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
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