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Gavin is Gwen's Rock and Foundation according to Body Language Expert

 
An expectant Gwen Stefani, 44, and Gavin Rossdale, 47, shared a tender moment after a recent movie date in LA.  "Gwen's giving him the look of love," observed Patti.  "She's saying, He's mine! even in the way she orients her body toward him."  That sentiment's fine by Gavin: "He's anchored himself toward her and the baby.  He's saying "I'm your rock and your foundation."  True Love Rating a #5.
 
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Cell phone use, etiquette, email etiquette, Research on who thinks cell phone and emailing is OK in Meeting


Are you reading this in a meeting?  76 percent of people surveyed think it is unacceptable behavior in a meeting though men are more likely to think it’s ok in a power lunch. I give specific etiquette rules in my book SNAP. Here is more of the latest research on who thinks it’s ok to text and check emails during a meeting.                                                                                                                            

Women are twice as likely as Men to be offended by Smartphone Use

October 25, 2013 • by News at Marshall




First empirical study of business etiquette and smartphones shows how mobile manners vary by gender, age and region - with important implications for hiring, career advancement and business efficiency

The world may be increasingly uncivil, and the workplace is no exception. With the rise of smartphones, you've probably even been a perpetrator of bad behavior yourself, checking text messages or taking a call during a meeting or business lunch.

But unlike rudeness among friends, discourteous behavior in the workplace can have real implications for careers, hiring and even workplace efficiency, with tension among coworkers harming productivity. A timely new study co-authored by Peter W. Cardon of the USC Marshall School of Business and colleagues at Howard University is the first to provide an empirical baseline for how attitudes towards mobile phone use actually break down across gender, age and region.

With a national sample of more than 550 full-time working professionals, the study reveals what business professionals perceive as acceptable, courteous or rude use of mobile phones in the workplace. Published today in the journal Business Communication Quarterly, the research offers a critical baseline for how attitudes toward technology may change over time and serves as a guide to navigating social expectations around polite smartphone use.

"Hiring managers often cite courtesy as among the most important soft skills they notice. By focusing on civility, young people entering the workforce may be able to set themselves apart," said Cardon, associate professor of clinical management communication at the USC Marshall School of Business Center for Management Communication.

The researchers first identified the most common grievances people had about smartphone use among their colleagues, including browsing the Internet and checking text messages. They then asked working professionals earning at least $30,000 a year to identify which of these behaviors they considered acceptable - and which ones are flat-out rude. Among their findings:

·         Three out of four people – 76 percent – said checking texts or emails was unacceptable behavior in business meetings;

·         87 percent of people said answering a call was rarely or never acceptable in business meetings;

·         Even at more informal business lunches, the majority of people thought writing a text message is rude - 66 percent said writing or sending a text message is inappropriate;

·         Men were nearly twice as likely as women to consider mobile phone use at a business lunch acceptable. More than 59 percent of men said it was okay to check text messages at a power lunch, compared to 34 percent of women who thought checking texts was appropriate.

·         Similarly, 50 percent of men said it was acceptable to answer a call at a power lunch, compared to 26 percent of women.

·         Despite the casual reputation, professionals from the West Coast were less accepting of mobile phone use in meetings than people from the East Coast;

·         Higher-income professionals had less tolerance for smartphone use in business meetings;

·         Dramatic age gap: Younger professionals were nearly three times as likely as older professionals to think tapping out a message over a business lunch is appropriate – 66 percent of people under 30 said texting or emailing was okay, compared to just 20 percent of those aged 51-65;

·         At a working lunch with five other people? Chances are, just having your phone out is offending somebody: A full 20 percent of professionals said simply having your phone out at a business lunch is rude.

·         Saying "Excuse me" to take a call didn't cut it, over 30 percent still found it to be rarely/never appropriate during informal/offsite lunch meetings.

"Not surprisingly, millennials and younger professionals were more likely to be accepting of smartphone use, but they might be doing themselves a disservice," Cardon said. "In many situations, they rely on those older than them for their career advancement."

Melvin C. Washington and Ephraim A. Okoro of Howard University were co-authors of the study.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

I love the Novel SEVEN LOCKS. As a body language expert, I was particularly fascinated with the communities shunning of the main character and how it effected her.
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The writing was wonderful. I wanted to savor every sentence. Recently I have been reading novels based in the old west and the Heroine has the same Moxie as the frontier women in the wonderful book, "These Is My Words." That I just lent to my friend Pat MacEnulty. Pat is a Novelist and has strong female leads in her work so I know she will love that book as well as SEVEN LOCKS.'
Goodness, I sound like an advertisement, but they are both good books. Here is the description of SEVEN LOCKS.
The Hudson River Valley, 1769: A man mysteriously disappears without a trace, abandoning his wife and children on their farm at the foot of the Catskill Mountains. At first many believe that his wife, who has the reputation of being a scold, has driven her husband away, but as the strange circumstances of his disappearance circulate, a darker story unfolds. And as the lines between myth and reality fade in the wilderness, and an American nation struggles to emerge, the lost man’s wife embarks on a desperate journey to find the means to ensure her family’s survival


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Cell Phone Behavior from Body Language Expert


I work with Fortune 500 companies, consulting on their communication. I recommend several cultures norms for cell phone behavior. One is to try turning off and putting away the cell phone when sitting down and beginning a meeting.  So, for example, for Deloitte I recommended that all consultants begin the meeting with a statement such as, “This meeting with you is so important I am turning off my phone and putting it away.” And then actually putting the phone away off the table and out of reach, so they were not tempted to do what I call “hip checks” where they might rest the phone on their hip and gaze at it.  You can get more information about etiquette and research on cell phone use from my book SNAP Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma. The last piece is how cell phone use affects the brain by laying down neural pathways to the ego centers of the brain so that we act and feel superior to those around us.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Top Ten Things Not to do at a Business Social Event or Job Search Mixer


Top ten things not to do at a business social event or job search mixer.
Here are some things you know and some you may not know are rude.
                         

1.       Arrive late.

2.      Not offer to shake hands with someone who wants to shake yours. (My clients are saying they even have candidates refuse to shake hands in formal job interviews.)

3.      It seems obvious not to wear clothing that is inappropriate such as too revealing or too casual, but you may need to be reminded to think about your footwear.  Flip flops to a corporate headhunter cocktail hour are not appropriate.

4.      Walk up to two people who are engaged in deep conversation and interrupt without an apology. It is old school etiquette, but job candidates can be overly aggressive in their attempts to meet and greet. Assertive behavior is fine, rude behavior is not. An, “Excuse me am I interrupting?” at least.

5.      Cut in the line at the buffet or bar.

6.      Put too much food on your plate or take the last remaining favorite items such as the last three shrimp or last piece of cake if there are people in line behind you.

7.      Drink more than three glasses of anything alcoholic. I would prefer you not drink at all.

8.      Start eating before the host without being given permission.

9.       Wipe your face without a napkin or eat without a napkin.

10.   Leave without thanking the host, or at the very least, if it is a large event and the host is busy, waving at the host and mouthing the words thank you.

And a few more

11.     Make a loud intrusive entrance.  If you arrive late you should be especially unobtrusive and if you’re late arrival is obvious to all, apologize.

12.   Talk about your health problems, diet, your recent dates or your cat’s funny habits.  If someone else starts the conversation you can make one quick comment.

13.   Monopolize the conversation. If you are only hearing your voice. You are talking too much.

14.   If you are standing or sitting talking with someone or a group and leaving without a goodbye or excuse me such as, “ I enjoyed speaking with you can you excuse me I haven’t eaten and I would like to try that delicious looking  shrimp before they are all gone. This is old school etiquette again, but manners still mean something.  Do I need to say, don’t look at your smart phone?
 
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.