Strange but True Facts About Dating, Men, Women and Relationships

1.       40% of women would consider dumping a boyfriend if her friends didn’t like him.

2.      Wednesday is the best day for a first date according to a survey of singles.

3.      The most common time for breakups is around three to five months.

4.      50% of men claim they would feel comfortable if their girlfriend had a lesbian lover.

5.      In an argument with your partner, when your heart rate goes over 100 beats per minute, you are incapable of hearing what your partner is trying to tell you.

6.      On average, it takes between 12 to 14 dates before couples will trade house keys.

7.     Only 16% of single Americans say they are hunting for a partner. That group represents 7% of the entire adult population.  

8.     Few of today’s seeking singles describe themselves as active on the dating scene.  Asked how many dates they had been on in the past three months, singles who said they were in the dating market reported the following: 36% said they had been on no dates in the previous three months. 13% had been one date.22% had been on 2-4 dates25% had been on 5 or more dates.

9.      Of People who use the internet who are in marriages and long term relationships

§  38% met at work or school.

• 34% met through family or friends.
• 13% met at a nightclub, bar, café, or other social gathering
• 3% met through the internet.
• 2% met at church.
• 1% met by chance, such as on the street.
• 1% met because they lived in the same neighborhood.
• 1% met at a recreational facility like a gym.
• 1% met on a blind date or through a dating service.
• The remainder cited a variety of other ways they met, such as growing up together.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

10 Strange but True Facts About Attraction, Men, and Women. Plus Body Language Signals of aAttraction

1.       It takes 1 hour for a woman to determine whether or not she wants to date a man again. A man decides in 15 minutes

2.      It may surprise you to know that women typically exhibit about 52 ways to signal attraction, where men use only about 10! - See more at: http://www.omharmonics.com/blog/body-language-of-attraction/#sthash.bXgeigcB.dpuf

3.      Flushing - Blood likes to hover in our cheeks when we’re attracted to someone (the exact reason women wear blush, but men can’t hide behind that). A man with a lot of color in his face is a good sign. Interestingly, the lips and eyes are even better indicators: red lips and exceptionally white eyes mean a man is completely locked in.

4.      Feet point where the heart wants to go. Feet are like the needles on a compass, but in this case they always point towards the object of attraction. Feet that point towards you or feet that move up and down or bounce towards you (especially to the point of bumping) is a strong indicator of interest.

5.      Couples usually wait until six to eight dates before they are willing to enter into an exclusive relationship.

6.      Studies show that women are attracted to men in blue.

7.      The average man sees five women a day with whom he would like to sleep with.

8.     Only 10% of people who leave their marriage end up marrying the person with whom they had an affair.

9.      Women who post a photo on Internet dating sites receive twice as many email messages as women who don’t.

10.  On internet dating sites, men who reported incomes higher than $250,000 received 156% more email than those with $50,000.

11.   Leaning in is a researched attraction signal. Leaning your body towards another person says 'I would like to be closer to you'. It also tests to see whether they lean towards you or away from you. It can start with the head with a simple tilt or may use the entire torso. This may be coupled with listening intently to what they say, again showing particular interest in them.

12.  Men tend to “Peacock” when they are attracted.  Men peacock by standing up straight, inhaling deeply to expand his chest, positioning his shoulders and feet squarely, and showcasing his hands, especially the palms. A peacocking man may arch his spine, lean too far back in a chair and rest an ankle on a knee so that his lap appears bigger.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

What's Behind the "Selfie" Explosion?

Recently I have had journalists talk to me about the explosion of selfies and what I think it means about our culture.  At a core level I believe it indicates our desire to be seen, to have proof that we exist, that we have value, that we are not invisible, proof we our lacking in our face to face interactions.  I think that if we take a moment to be present with one another, to really be with each person we wouldn't need selfies, we would be seen in each other’s eyes.

It’s something to think about the next time you want to check your cell phone when someone is talking to you.

If you still want to take a great selfie here is another article with my tips on how to pose.

http://bodylanguagelady.blogspot.com/2014/09/how-to-take-great-selfie-photo-body.html

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Why is it Fun to Meet and Date Someone When Traveling?

What happens when love and travel are paired? What happens when we only see our date when we are both someplace new and exciting?

Part of the fascination with the idea of only seeing your love comes from the memories of dating someone I met on a plane many years ago.

I am a professional speaker and travel every week and he also traveled every week  and was separated with small children so when he was home he had his children.

So when we started dating we often met not only in our home cities but in cites we happened to be traveling to at the same time.  We wanted to spend much more time with each other once we fell in love!

What I know about nonverbal behavior, specifically how intense short bursts of time to interact and various new environment effect interspersion interactions is that this kind of dating can be very fun, heady and exciting. For example, there is research that shows

in dating there is a significant positive correlation between adrenaline and attraction, which means as levels of adrenaline increased, so did level of attraction. 

1.       Choosing exciting places for a first date increases the chances of the other person falling for you. There is a definitive link between danger and physical/romantic attraction.

2.      There is also a classic experiment conducted by Arthur Aron and his colleagues, researchers gave upper-middle-class middle-aged couples a list of activities that both parties agreed were “pleasant” (like creative cooking, visiting friends or seeing a movie) or “exciting” (skiing, dancing or attending concerts) but that they had enjoyed only infrequently. Researchers instructed each couple to select one of these activities each week and spend 90 minutes doing it together. At the end of 10 weeks, the couples who engaged in the “exciting” activities reported greater satisfaction in their marriage than those who engaged in “pleasant” or enjoyable activities together.

3.      Surprise and novelty is also a potent force for attraction and liking. When something novel occurs, we tend to pay attention, to appreciate the experience or circumstance, and to remember it. 

4.      Travel can make people feel free for worries and cares and we like those who are associated with rewarding events and whose behavior is intrinsically rewarding. We dislike those whose behaviors are a burden to us. At the level of motivation, conscious or unconscious, we seek to maximize our rewards and minimize costs. We seek relationships and continue in these if the rewards exceed the costs and therefore yield a profit (Kelley, 1979; Kelley & Thibaut, 1978; Rusbult, 1980).

I also know that if you love someone you want to be with them as often and for as long as possible and you want them to be a part of every day. My cell phone is 678-358-6160

Called, “The Gold Standard of body language experts” by the Washington Post, credited in the New York Times with bringing body language to the national consciousness, Patti does several national media interviews a week.

She is the author of eight books she speaks to and consults with Fortune 500 companies, law enforcement organizations, Hospitals and groups like ours.

You can see her regularly on The Today Show, CNN, Good Morning America, Fox News, PBS, The Discovery Channel, and The History Channel as well as in publications such as Psychology Today, Bloomberg Business Week, Fortune, Esquire, Oprah, USA Today, the Wall Street Journal, and many more. She has been the National Spokesperson for many products such as Wrigley’s gum and Pup-Peroni Dog Treats.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Should you tip hotel housekeeping staff and if so how much should you tip and how. Nonverbal Communication Expert tips!

I am an expert in nonverbal speaking and consulting in the hotel industry and train hotel staff on nonverbal communication and guest interaction.

I know how hard the housekeeping staff works. It is really backbreaking work all day long.

Though modestly priced motels and hotels staff don’t expect you to tip, you can.

If you are staying at mid-range and or higher priced properties and you are pleased with how nice the room looks and or if you receive turn down service or extra service such as more towels leave a tip.

Calculate a percentage of your bill before the tax.  Tip 5 percent  for everyday customer service and going higher for exceptional service. Or simply tip them what you would your bellman.

You can fold the tip into the hotel stationary where you can say thank you and or leave it folded or placed nicely near the glasses or bottled water so they know you left it for them. 

Also I know the staff appreciates it when you say hello and make eye contact in the halls with them. Often we pretend the housekeeping staff is invisible. Your day and their day can be nicer by saying hello.Don’t hesitate just because you are not sure if they speak English. Everyone can see your kind nonverbal behavior even if they don’t understand the words. 

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Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.