Great Version of Boom Clap That I am Obsessed With Today!
Just saw Lennon & Maisy on the View and I am obsessed with their cover of "Boom Clap." Notice the way they sweetly look at each other, as it shows true, kind and loving body language.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
The 5 Best Dating Tips for Short Guys
Patti was interviewed by Men's Health Magazine on dating tips
for short guys. Please see Patti's tips highlighted in yellow below. At the end of the article is the link to the actual article in
Men's Health.
The 5 Best Dating Tips for Short Guys
Don’t let your height hold you back. Use these simple strategies
to impress every woman you meet
IMAGES BY THINKSTOCK
Coming up short in the dating world? Ladies prefer men who
are a whopping 8 inches taller than they are, according to a recent Dutch
study. With the average American female standing at 5’5”, that puts the bar at
6’1”.
Why does she prefer a Blake Griffin over a Tom Cruise? Blame evolution—not her, says Tracy Thomas, Ph.D., a San Francisco-based relationship therapist. Taller men would have made better protectors back in caveman days, so women evolved a taste for them, Thomas says. (Primal attraction works both ways: It’s Why You’re an Ass Man, too.)
But don’t fret: Not only are there some major Scientific, but you also can get a leg up with these smart dating tips.
Why does she prefer a Blake Griffin over a Tom Cruise? Blame evolution—not her, says Tracy Thomas, Ph.D., a San Francisco-based relationship therapist. Taller men would have made better protectors back in caveman days, so women evolved a taste for them, Thomas says. (Primal attraction works both ways: It’s Why You’re an Ass Man, too.)
But don’t fret: Not only are there some major Scientific, but you also can get a leg up with these smart dating tips.
Add inches—in the right
places—with your wardrobe.
The wrong clothing can
make you look pint-sized, but the right rags can lengthen your look, says Brock
McGoff of short-guy style blog The Modest Man. The first rule: Get your
pants hemmed and your sleeves shortened, McGoff says. Bunched fabric around
your wrists and ankles will only draw attention to your smaller stature.
Next, avoid wearing anything that breaks up your frame visually. A streamlined look from top to bottom can help elongate your body, says McGoff. If your pants will stay put, lose the belt—or wear a slim one that’s the same color as your pants. Go for monochromatic color schemes like dark jeans and a dark shirt instead of dark jeans and a white shirt.
Next, avoid wearing anything that breaks up your frame visually. A streamlined look from top to bottom can help elongate your body, says McGoff. If your pants will stay put, lose the belt—or wear a slim one that’s the same color as your pants. Go for monochromatic color schemes like dark jeans and a dark shirt instead of dark jeans and a white shirt.
Don’t let your insecurity
get the best of you.
Confidence is key to
making a good first impression, says Beverly Hills-based psychiatrist Carole
Lieberman, M.D. If you assume right off the bat that she won’t like you because
of your height, she probably will be turned
off—by your insecurity, Dr. Lieberman says. To feel more confident,
remember the qualities that make you a catch and draw her focus to them,
advises Dr. Lieberman. Are you a graphic artist who designs his own T-shirts?
Wear your creation. Caring family man? Tie on that friendship bracelet your
niece made you. MVP of your softball league? Don your team cap.
Flirt without saying a
word.
Too much eye contact can scare off women—it’s usually a
menacing gesture, says Patti Wood, author of SNAP: Making the Most of First
Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma. But shorter guys can get
away with it because their height makes them less threatening, Wood says.
Holding her gaze for longer than 3 seconds—without towering over her—reads as pure attraction, Wood says. “She’ll think, ‘Wow, this guy is really into me,’” she says. It can be intense to stare right into someone’s eyes, so you may want to practice in non-romantic situations like with waiters or cashiers, Wood suggests. But remember: The goal is to show your interest—not creep her out. Don’t pry your eyes open wide like an owl. Keep it natural.
Holding her gaze for longer than 3 seconds—without towering over her—reads as pure attraction, Wood says. “She’ll think, ‘Wow, this guy is really into me,’” she says. It can be intense to stare right into someone’s eyes, so you may want to practice in non-romantic situations like with waiters or cashiers, Wood suggests. But remember: The goal is to show your interest—not creep her out. Don’t pry your eyes open wide like an owl. Keep it natural.
You get an extra
half-inch, but that’s it.
As tempting as it may
be, don’t fudge your height in your online dating profile, says Julie Spira,
author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a
Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Think about it: You
wouldn’t want her to blatantly lie about her weight, would you? It’s okay
to ditch decimals and round up to the nearest inch, Spira says, but don’t fib
more than that. Your ultimate mission is to meet your match in person, and you
don’t want her looking for the 5’9” guy you claimed to be on your profile if
you’re only 5’5”. She’ll notice. And your dishonesty will make you seem
insecure, Spira says.
Speak her body language.
Men tend to stand side by side when getting to know each
other. That’s because when a guy faces you head-on, it’s intimidating, Wood
says. But women bond face to face because they don’t have to worry about
seeming like a threat. Here’s where your less imposing stature comes in
handy: Wood says shorter guys can get away with addressing women head-on and
not intimidate them like taller men would. Next time you flirt, stand
face to face. It’s a subtle change, but it’ll make her more comfortable opening
up because that’s how she’s used to bonding, Wood says.
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Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Testimonials From Patti Wood's Clients
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National Alliance for Grieving Children
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Director, Optimum Business Sales Operations
Cablevision
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Cablevision
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and Funny…highly recommend Patti...
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Operations
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Vanessa Arrieta,
NM CCR, RPR Past President NMCRA
Vanessa Arrieta,
NM CCR, RPR Past President NMCRA
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Deloitte Consulting LLP
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Jeff Justice Seminars
Awesome Job…
You did an awesome job! An entire day of you giving keynotes in a studio for us. I think we have enough information captured to truly give us what we need for your videos. Now begins the edit process. We have so much great information from you that it will be difficult to decide what stays and what goes. We reported out to Richard and Ashley yesterday, and everyone felt that you showed up great on camera and delivered (as usual). I’m looking forward to April as well (When you are live with us again). Take care Patti, and rest easy knowing you did a great job for us!
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Emersonhc.com
You did an awesome job! An entire day of you giving keynotes in a studio for us. I think we have enough information captured to truly give us what we need for your videos. Now begins the edit process. We have so much great information from you that it will be difficult to decide what stays and what goes. We reported out to Richard and Ashley yesterday, and everyone felt that you showed up great on camera and delivered (as usual). I’m looking forward to April as well (When you are live with us again). Take care Patti, and rest easy knowing you did a great job for us!
Kenny Simon
Emersonhc.com
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Executive Director of
Advancement & Foundation South
Wiregrass Georgia
Technical College
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think but, I'm not ADD." You really made a lasting impression. People came up to me and said they wanted more of you and
“we could listen to Patti all day. “ I really appreciate you motivating our group. We are hoping we
can have you back some time in the future so check your calendar.”
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Credit Insurers
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masterfully and sincerely.”.
Kate Carpenter
Stowe Kitchen Bath and Linens
Kate Carpenter
Stowe Kitchen Bath and Linens
We Could Have Listened to You For Several Hours More!
On behalf of my entire Builder 20 group I would like to thank you for a wonderful presentation Friday morning. It was very informative and we could have easily listened to you for several more hours.
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Group
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sessions I have ever seen. I learned a lot about body language and the funny
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Florida Web Presence, LLC
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Florida Web Presence, LLC
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and Insightful…
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I have never been to a more delightful or interesting
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already started reading it. It really reinforces your presentation and makes a
great reference manual too! Good luck and thank you.”
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San Antonio Program
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About her Body Language Keynotes and Deception
Detection Training
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Detecting Deception
Class
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COHN-S
AAOHN Program
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Excellent! Has boosted my self-confidence 100 %.
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The seminar was excellent!
I noticed a big change in everyone's presentation skills between the
first and second day.
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The best seminar I have ever attended. The class exceeded my expectations, gave me
effective and valuable tools to use, and increased my confidence in handling
future presentations.
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Outstanding course! I've
never had so much fun while learning so much.
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Everyone no matter how experienced needs this class!
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It was great
to hear you speak today, and you made a fantastic first impression on all of
us!
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I feel like I will definitely be a better speaker following this
class.
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This course was very beneficial.
It helped to give me great confidence in doing future presentations. I will greatly recommend this class to all my
peers. I especially enjoyed the body
language section.
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The Easy Speaking class has given me hot tips for future
presentations. Please note that this
class was very beneficial. Going
forward--I have gained more confidence by coming to this class.
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I expected to be bored and scared instead the
course was interesting, well presented, informative and fun. I will use the ideas for years to come.
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What an enjoyable
experience! Even though I came to the class both days “under the weather” (I
have the flu), you made the days exciting and kept my energy level up. I
learned things about presenting I never realized – I always thought “Power
Point – less” presentations would be dry.
In fact, I know now the exact opposite is true! I am certain that I will
surprise the people I present to from now on (especially those who have heard
me before!)
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After years
of feeling my presentations were boring, I feel that I can now make my
executive presentations dynamic!
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Great
program. I liked your use of various
activities to keep the audience stimulated and focused.
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Patti's
enthusiasm for her subject matter is contagious! Her memory will be etched in me based on her
memorable stories and speaking experience.
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I never saw
a speech presented in so novel and unique a way – which met me in my primitive
brain and it lodged in the hemispheres.
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Fantastic
enthusiasm and knowledge of subject. I
would highly recommend your seminar to other groups.
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It was the
best “two days” of training I’ve seen – in fact, I got more out of it than
other longer classes.
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I cannot
possibly make any suggestions for improvement! My head is still spinning from
all of the great information I learned in two days. More importantly, you proved that it is not a
very difficult task to do a good speech.
This was the best training class I’ve ever attended – regardless of the
discipline! Thanks a million!!!
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I am looking
forward to my next opportunity to speak in front of a group, so I can try out all
of these great lessons! Two days ago, I
wouldn’t believe I’d ever say that!
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This was the
best instructional class I’ve ever had.
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I have to be
honest and tell you when I got the email to be in class from 8:30-6:00, my
first thought was OH MY GOD, what a long day.
But you do a great job of making learning fun, easy, energetic and the
time just flew.
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You are
really good at what you do and you enjoy it and it shows! Thank you very much
for the useful tips and tricks. I’ll use
them in my future training classes.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
9 Ways to Be an Incredibly Likable Interviewee
Patti was interviewed by US News and World Report for body language tips on how to be an incredible likable interviewee. See her tips highlighted in yellow below.
Actual article link: http://money.usnews.com/money/careers/articles/2015/03/11/9-ways-to-be-an-incredibly-likable-interviewee
Actual article link: http://money.usnews.com/money/careers/articles/2015/03/11/9-ways-to-be-an-incredibly-likable-interviewee
9
Ways to Be an Incredibly Likable Interviewee
Show you're more than
qualified – you're a pleasure to work with, too.
Be the person everyone
wants on their team.
By Laura McMullenMarch 11, 2015 | 10:36 a.m. EDT+ More
If hired, will you say "hi"
and "bye" most days and be friendly to both your manager and the
person fixing your computer?
Will you show up to team happy hours and respectfully
contribute in brainstorming meetings?
Will you humor us – but not smother
us – with pleasant small talk about weekend plans?
Will I actually like you, regardless
of how well you do the job, or will I have to strategically time my coffee
breaks so I don't run into you?
These questions, while unspoken, can
be as relevant to interviewers as your previous job experience. Here's how to
answer them by showing you'll be a pleasure to work with.
Before the
Interview
1. Consider what
you want to convey. You shouldn't have to fake being likable. You're not forcing a
toothy grin or trying to show the interviewer how similar the two of you are.
You're simply showing you, authentically, at your best.
Patti
Wood, body language and communication expert, suggests this pre-interview
exercise: Write out what qualities the prospective company is looking for –
some of which will likely be in the job description – and think about the
specific behaviors that illustrate them. For example, in the interview, how can
you show you work well with others, rather than just saying you do? Similarly,
consider your best qualities and how you show, rather than tell, them.
"You're looking at those abstract concepts and words and then translating
them into specific behaviors," says Wood, author of "Snap: Making the
Most of First Impressions, Body Language & Charisma."
Consider
the "works well with others" example. During the interview,
"that might mean you show extremely good listening [skills]," Wood
says, adding that you may also ask specific questions about the interviewer,
such as his or her favorite project or aspect of the job. "And then listen
to that empathetically, so you're actually behaving as someone who works and
communicates effectively with others," she adds.
2. Stay in
character during your mock interview. Which means, yes, you should rehearse the interview with a
friend, family member, mentor or career counselor. This exercise is helpful for
many reasons, one of which is the more you practice describing your biggest weakness, for example,
the more comfortable you'll be while doing so on interview day. And the more
comfortable you are, the easier it is to be yourself – not some stiff, scripted
interview robot that spits out algorithmic answers and malfunctions when it
can't compute a question. Speaking of which ...
During the mock interview,
"don't step in and out of character," says Michelle Tillis Lederman,
author of “The 11 Laws of Likability” and CEO of the professional development
firm Executive Essentials. "Stay in character the whole time as you
recover from those mistakes." This is more practice for the real
interview, when do-overs won't be an option.
3. Bust nerves, and boost excitement. It's
hard to hit it off with someone who is frozen in nervousness or solemn under
the weight of this potentially life-changing, probably doomed, super scary
meeting. A comfortable, happy you is a likable you, so loosen up. When you're
feeling nervous the day before or on the way to the interview, listen to a song
that makes you feel "comfortable and confident," Wood says.
"What song, when you hear it, you can't help but feel good?" she
asks. That's the one to listen to. (Wood's go-to song before giving a big
speech is Pink's "Raise Your Glass.")
In
the days leading up to the interview, also practice positive visualization.
"Create a recording in your head of the interview going well," Wood
says. "Under stress, you go to what you've rehearsed the most," she
explains, which means you'll likely jump to those premeditated, successful actions come interview day. This U.S. News
Careers article about how to spend the hour before your interviewexpands
on positive visualizations and other nerve-neutralizing steps.
During the
Interview
4. Be kind from the
get-go. "The interview
starts the minute you walk through those circular doors and into the
building," Tillis Lederman says. Be friendly to
the security guard, receptionist and whomever else you encounter. Companies
sometimes ask receptionists what they thought of the candidates to get a sense
of how they act without the rehearsed niceties that come with talking to a
hiring manager, and Tillis Lederman warns: "Some receptionists have
basically eliminated candidates' possibilities."
5. Embrace the
small talk. It's not as small as you may think. Naturally engaging in a
little chitchat is one way to build rapport with the interviewer, Tillis
Lederman says. Remember: The interviewer is not only looking at your
qualifications and experience; she's also trying to picture you as a future
employee, possibly sharing a cubicle wall and discussing weekend plans.
Plus, "you have to think about
the fact that the interviewer might be nervous, too," she says. And that
interviewer will remember how you made her feel at ease with some breezy
weather talk before having to launch into more serious questioning.
Just like you can prepare for common interview questions, you can prepare
for interview small talk. "As you're coming into the interview, think
about what's been in the news lately, think about the weather, think about the
general vicinity of the office and what's around it," Tillis Lederman
says. "It doesn't have to be brilliant small talk. We're just talking
about chatting and being real with someone."
6. Match the interviewer's pace. There's
a range in how quickly people talk. On the two extremes, there are
"rabbits," Wood says, who talk really really fast and LOUD
without taking breaks, like they're attached to an IV of coffee. And there are
turtles, who ... talk ... more ... slowly ... and ... think ... before ...
speaking.
Those two paces don't initially jibe. (Think of the contempt
you feel when an overly enthusiastic telemarketer calls you at 8 p.m., as
you're relaxed on the couch. The mismatched pace and demeanor
is
jarring, Wood points out.)
"We
tend to like somebody who is our same pace, especially in the beginning and end
of the interview," Wood says. So be aware of the pace you typically speak
at, and then try to match the pace of the interviewer for the for a minute or
so. "Think of it like a handshake you're doing to establish rapport and
have people feel comfortable and at ease with you," she says.
By
matching the interviewer's pace, "you're showing 'I've listened to you;
I've paid attention to you; and I know where you are, and I'm meeting you
there," Wood adds. "It also puts you in the right place, because you're
not self-focused – you're other-focused."
7. Lean in. Wood points to a common scenario in interviews: You're asked a
question, and as you give your prepared answer, stress causes your body to
freeze in the chair, "like a squirrel in the headlights," she says.
"A trick is to, as you start to answer, lean forward slightly," she
says. The effect of pulling your head, torso and gestures just an inch or two
closer is two-fold, Wood says: Your brain unfreezes that stiff body language,
and the interviewer perceives the leaning as a sign that you like him or her,
therefore making you more likable.
8. Don't sweat
mistakes. Staying in
character during the rough patches of your mock interview will pay off now,
when you – sorry – likely make at least a minor goof during the actual
interview. "When we are ourselves, we're not perfect," Tillis
Lederman says. "Interviewers want you to know it's OK to be a little
flawed." If you can handle a mistake "and still appear confident and
comfortable," she says, you show the interviewers you're not easily
frazzled in high-stress situations.
After the Interview
9. Follow up like
you mean it. In this
article about following up after interviews, career experts
say you should send thank-you emails soon – as in, within a day of the
interview. And no generic blanket email to everyone you met with. Individualize
the letters to reference a specific topic or two that you and the interviewer
discussed. "It's not about you; it's about them," Tillis Lederman
says. "It's about how do you add value for them, and how do you create an
ongoing rapport with them."
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Body Language Read of Model Gigi Hadid and Singer Cody Simpson
Body Language Read of Model Gigi Hadid and Singer Cody Simpson, by Patti Wood, Body Language Expert for Life & Style Magazine.
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The body language of Model
Gigi Hadid and singer Cody Simpson in the photo of her in that fabulous black
dress is very stiff and awkward. It almost looks like they are on a Hollywood
set up date rather than two people who like each other. Look how Cody leans away
like she is a tree and he is a cute koala bear leaning out and away from her.
His weight is out and away from her, his hand around her is held cupped away
from her body and he leaves a big space between them at the hips and waist not
wanting to show they are sexually connected. She is standing straight (like a
tree) focused on the camera and her hand on his shoulder is also cupped out and
away. Even though there are a few positive cues the negative override them so I
give this couple a 1 on Life & Style’s True Love Rating Scale.
She is doing a Sports Illustrated pose in the bathing suit photo.
Seems she has difficultly letting her model mentally go. He is showing “Ownership”
cues. His right hand wrapped on top of her hand, his left hand wrapped around
her pulled away arm with his thumb up showing his desire to have boyfriend
power over her. His kiss gently placed on her cheek which softens the ownership
cues. She is so posed she could be a big doll he is holding and kissing. She is
not giving him very much just allowing him to kiss her and letting her fingers
interlace with his. But notice the left shoulder blocking, her arm pulled away
from him and even her hip jutted away from him. I can’t read her smile as
sincere she is showing happiness, but she is a professional poser. He is giving
a 4 photo rating but she, being so posed is a 2 so I give this couple a 2 on
Life & Style’s True Love Rating Scale.
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Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
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