Recent pics from my Body Language Sales and Leadership program for Hubbell Power Systems in Atlanta, GA.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
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Patti meets James Dean Hicks at Hubbell program
Patti with famous singer songwriter James Dean Hicks at recent program for Hubbell Power Systems in Atlanta, GA.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Republican Presidential Candidates' Body Language by Patti Wood on CNN Today
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_7qEBIVK4B8
Power is communicated by the amount of space you take, whether
your body is open rather than closed and relaxed rather than tense.
Donald Trump finger points and chops in
weapon like gestures, scowls and grimaces and yells a lot. This combined with
his BIG hair, big head and jaw and height make his imprint as the aggressive
alpha male candidate. In addition, he has a low, growly voice. In
the analysis of the Debates from the past hundred years the candidate with the
lowest voice won. Lower tones in the voice are formed by a larger larynx. Trump
is the lion roaring and that can win over a “nice” candidate. Anger can “trump”
nice.
Other candidates
in the first Republican debates:
Jeb Bush kept his shoulders down and
his arms tight to his body. He looked scared. In many speaking situations
he gives an unfortunate puppy head tilt at the beginning of his answers to
questions. In the last debate he also did an “I give up shrugs” and spoke at a
low volume and gave halting, and half-finished utterance. His body
swayed to give himself comfort rocking motion and head tilts. He needs to be
stronger and more forceful and gesture more broadly.
Ben Carson has beautiful words but
he was not forceful enough in this first debate! Several times he held his
arms out with his palms facing upwards in a gesture cluster I call Holy
supplication. This makes him look submissive rather than presidential. He
should gesture more forcefully and forward. He is open and likable and
when he smiles he is charming but so far he is not quite alpha enough in debate
mode. Open and likable are admirable characteristics but he needs to look more
in control to win viewer’s confidence. The biggest issue in the first
debate is that he holds his head back in and down so he looked like a turtle
fearfully hiding his head. He also gulped down his words, and let his voice
trail off at the end of sentences. He also held his own hands. He
has a great sense of humor and he can be spontaneous so he has a chance to win
viewers over if he works on his power.
Carly Florina has the chance to have a fresh
new image. She has a nice, low voice. Slow and deliberate. Margaret Thatcher
trained her voice to go low when she gave serious messages. Carly has a great deliberate
and low presidential voice. Even if you don't agree with her message her delivery
is that of a leader. When she speaks and says things like. “This is a great
nation” her gestures are small, but lady like. The best thing about her
gestures is that they are in sync. They are authentically given in
what body language and credibility detection reads call a “feel show
say” order. She feels something and gestures from her limbic brain and then
says the words from her neocortex. That feel show say delivery indicates she
truly believes what she says. We hear and see that and we believe her. In fact,
her head even moves in sync. She communicates anger well and rehearsed messages
well. We need to see her being spontaneous and giving inspiring messages.
Chris Christie is folksy and relaxed but gets
defensive easily. Anger does not look good on him.
How to Dress for Women Entrepreneurs
How to Dress for
Women Entrepreneurs
By Patti Wood Body
Language Expert, MA, CSP
If you want to insure that your “brand” is current. Here are the fall fashion trends.
1. A little black leather or leather look jacket or top. My
highest recommendation is that you always wear clothes that are on trend. You
want your company brand to be current not fuddy duddy or dowdy. The Little
Black Jacket: this season the little black jacket is being hailed as, "The
answer to every fashion question." The little black jacket can dress you
up and make you look youthful if you pair it with a little dress or slender
black pants and a high quality little white shirt! Make sure it fits. Leather
is hot you just keep the design simple and tailored.
2. Pants: Ankles are this season's bare-skin. Store any pants that don’t match this seasons. Pick up a magazine. Skinny pants, lots of ankle, gauchos that look good on only a few women.
3. Skirts: Classic cuts, short, but not too short. If it is age appropriate you can try a fitted skirt with a small flounce. They are very in. Make sure you pair it with a fitted top.
4. Tops: While jackets and blazers that don’t look dowdy are sometimes hard to find they can give you a crisp pulled together look. You can wear a short jacket with the new style of long blouse if you wear it with narrow pants. You can also wear a jacket with a shorter fitted skirt.
5. Dresses: Still very on trend. Some of the new dresses have a skirt that swishes slightly rather than pencil thin all the way down.
6. Colors: black, bluish or brownish red, sage to sage tinges gray, pink (not fuchsia not pale), teal, and orchid purple are the front-runner colors of this season's pallet. Black and white block patterns on fabric, are popular.
7. Legs with attitude. Hose with pattern. Subtle not fishnets!
8. Bow with a blouse. They are narrow and you don’t actually tie
the bow, it is more to create a color contrast and act like a necklace.
9. Victorian blouses lace and leather details are hot. But just
use one in an outfit.
10. Rhinestone statement broaches are in again. But in different
shapes, stars, bows and flour de lease. If you wear a broach just make sure the
rest of your outfit is hip. So you may want to wear the latest narrow pants
with the ankle showing, or a shorter skirt.
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When it
comes to work clothes, we are in a new era — the era of Mark Zuckerberg's
hoody, and Mary Barra's "jeans allowed" policy. Where 20 years ago,
dark power suits with sculpted shoulders emanated prosperity and productivity,
now people seem to think henleys do the trick.
Even in
corporate environments that have not adopted the casual, start-up ethos,
business casual is the new business formal; weekend wear is the new business
casual; and pajamas are legitimate uniforms for the growing ranks of
telecommuters and freelancers who work from the privacy of their bedrooms.
Suits are gross.
Given
the changing fads, you may not want to start showing up at work in a
three-piece suit and a tight half-Windsor, especially if you work at a
flip-flop office. But there's some evidence that for most of us, a return to
slightly more formal work attire may be a good thing. Even if you work at home.
Clothes
can make you smarter
The new
phrase is “enclothed cognition" — an offshoot of "embodied
cognition," the idea that aspects of your thoughts are shaped by your body
— entered the b-school vocabulary. The term came from Adam D. Galinsky, a
professor at Northwestern's Kellogg School of Management, who found that when
people don a white lab coat they believe belongs to a doctor, they become more
focused and careful — effectively a little smarter when performing cognitive
tasks.
For the
study, Galinsky assigned 58 under grads to either wear a white, doctor's lab
coat, or simply the street clothes already on their backs. He then used
incongruent trials that tested their focus and mental acuity. He found that
those who wore the lab coat made about half as many errors as those who wore
street clothes.
In his next test, he assigned 74 students three sartorial
options. Some would wear a white coat, and were told it was a doctor's coat.
Others wore an identical coat, but were told it was a painter's coat. And a
third group merely looked at a white "doctor's" coat. The subject
then took an attention test where they were asked to point out differences between
two images and speedily write them down. Those who wore the
"doctor's" coat performed significantly better than the other two
groups.
Though
the results were white, doctor's coat-specific, Galinsky's work implies that
merely wearing an item associated with intelligence can improve your cognitive
abilities. "Clothes invade the body and brain, putting the wearer into a
different psychological state," said the New York Times about Galinky's
findings.
It is
up to you whether you want your PJs invading your mind while you work, or
something a little more smart and attractive.
Clothes
can also make others think you're smarter
Of course, we're not implying you should show up at the office tomorrow in a white coat with a name tag that says "doctor, not artist." But it's worth thinking about what symbolizes smart and effective in your own office.
Tracy
Morris, a professor of psychology at West Virginia University, for years
studied how attire impacts perception. For one test, Morris asked a group of
professors to dress in three types of garb — formal professional (full dark
suits), business casual (slacks or skirts and nice shirts), or casual (jeans, a
plaid flannel, sneakers). I should mention here that she conducted her study in
the mid-90s.
The
professors then gave lectures. Controlling for content, as well as non-verbal
behavior like eye contact and smiling, she then asked students to rate
professors on several attributes involving competence, character, sociability,
composure, and extroversion.
What she found:
Perceptions of professional attributes, like competence, composure, and
knowledge, "are effected most by dress, with formal dress resulting in the
most positive perception." Perceptions of instructor competence were
highest in the formal condition, with business casual a close second, and the
lowest ratings for the casual wear.
Of course, the study took place in the 90s, and the
definition of formal business attire in most industries has shifted toward the
more casual (though thankfully away from flannels). Nevertheless, it's worth
thinking about what is "formal" in your industry and dressing
accordingly.
It also
impacts how you see yourself on the job
This one is directed at those who are wearing jeans and sneakers in a mostly slacks and oxfords office — meaning, those who tend to dress more casually than others. Even if you're not violating a dress code, some evidence says dressing "properly" has an impact on how you see your own skill set.
In a
1994 study, Yoon-Hee Kwon, from North Illinois University studied how clothing
impacts the way you rate yourself on ten occupational attributes:
Responsibility, competence, knowledgeability, professionalism, honesty,
reliability, intelligence, trustworthiness, willingness to work hard, and
efficiency. Cross-referencing these attributes against broad guidelines like
"properly dressed" or "not properly dressed," she found
that when wearing appropriate clothes, a person's sense of these occupational
traits were augmented.
Once again,
the idea is not to show up at work dressed for a gala, or even to wear anything
obtrusively businesslike if your office is casual. The idea is simply, if
you're dressing like a schlub for work, maybe step it up a notch.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
How does body language effect the interaction at the Big Brother House?
Body
Language at the Big Brother House.
How does body language effect the interaction at the Big Brother House?
Space invasion,
proxemics Body Language Expert Patti Wood MA, CSP Author of SNAP Making the
Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma.
WHY ARE WE SO
UNCOMFORTABLE BEING CLOSE UP WITH STRANGERS?
In forced close distances, get intense at 2
feet. When a stranger comes closer than
two feet or less our bodies go into stranger danger stress response. You have
heard of Flight Fight response, well when a stranger gets to close the limbic
brain goes into a stress response and the brain releases cortisol. You may Freeze
in place, Flee for safety, Fight, perhaps expand and get big to show don’t mess
with me. (Arm’s length, our
bodies go into a “Stanger Danger” stress response. You have heard of the flight
fight response it’s more complex. Close strangers may make you want to freeze
in place, flee, expand into fight response, faint or fade.)
HOW CLOSE CAN WE GET TO
ANOTHER PERSON?
In Europe and North America our sense of self
is external so we have a body bubble wall that extends out from our body 18
inches.
THERE’S A CERTAIN DISTANCE
WE ARE ALL GENERALLY COMFORTABLE WITH.
Intimate relationships
0 to 18 inches, for people we know but aren’t going to be kissing 2 feet is what is called personal distance. If we don’t know them and are confined we ideally
want 4 feet or more (Think two arm lengths.) The interesting thing about the
Big Brother house is it forces people into intimate distance space
interactions_(0-18 inches) and social distance space one and a half to two
feet) We normally would create a relationship then reduce the distance in this
case the space requires us to reframe our relationships. It can make some
people get belligerent and stay in attack and defend mode and others form close
relationships very quickly.
WHY DO WE FEEL WE SHOLDN’T
TALK TO STRANGERS IN CLOSE SPACES BUT SOMETIMES WE FEEL LIKE WE NEED TO?
Social proxemics typically
when you have an intimate relationship think friend or family, both your
primitive limbic brain and social rules say you can and should be physically
close. If you are forced to be
close with a stranger you are battling the physical messages that say this is
scary and the social etiquette that says, I should be nice, after all we close.
OVERALL: ANY GENERAL WORDS OF ADVICE OR
TIPS TO MAKE CLOSE SPACES WITH STRANGERS LESS AWKWARD, AND MORE COMFORTABLE?
There is a tool I
call, “establishing commonality” so you’re in the situation together. So say to
them simple things you have in common like the weather outside, the
temperature, the background music, so you feel a connection that makes you like
each other. Yes there is a reason we talk about the weather finding out
something you have in common with a stranger reduces your stress, it makes you feel like you are from the same tribe
that you are in it together. By the way, you may establish commonality with
some members in the house by forming an alliance against someone else!
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
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