We Look at Different Parts of the Body When We Gaze to Show Our Different Interest and Relationships. Triangle Gaze.
Upper Triangle Gaze - In formal interactions we focus our gaze in the upper triangle of the eyes and the bridge of the nose, zig zagging our eye contact between the eyes.We can show power by focusing on the upper triangle and extending the gaze length.
Upper and Middle Triangle Gaze - With friends we expand our gaze from just the eyes and upper bridge of the nose to go down and include the whole nose and the mouth
Middle Triangle Gaze - A signal of shyness, or lack of interest occurs when our gaze drops down to just the nose and mouth.
Full Body Gaze - Once we start flirting, the triangle gets even bigger - it widens at the bottom
to include their good bits (like the body). The more intense the flirting, the
more intensely we'll look from eye to eye - and the more time we'll spend
looking at their mouth.
If someone is looking into your eyes and lingering on the mouth as well it can be very seductive. It could be that they're imagining what it would be like to
kiss you.
Why Do We Widen Our Eyes in Fear and Surprise and Narrow Our Eyes in Anger and Disgust?
Why do we widen and narrow our eyes when we feel different emotions?
Eye widening vs. Eye narrowing
Eye widening - Fear and Surprise - The eye widening increases light
and sensitivity, expands our field of vision and we see more of what we like or what is
threatening.
Eye narrowing - Anger and Disgust - The eye narrowing squint
reduces light and sharpens our focus on the source of our displeasure.
Who Makes More Eye Contact The Listener or the Speaker?
Who makes more eye contact the listener or the speaker?
The listener does and should make the most eye contact in a regular conversation. The speaker actually breaks eye contact to signal they are beginning to speak and the listener makes the most eye contact to signal he is listening.
Researchers postulate (such a fun word) that the higher cognitive load necessary for thinking of what to say and how to say it requires that the speaker break eye contact and "rest" from the load it takes to make continuous eye contact.
Other research suggest that eye accessing cues used to access certain kinds of information in the brain take priority over looking at the listener. In my programs I recommend that if you want to be a good listener maintain eye contact 70 percent of the time.
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
The listener does and should make the most eye contact in a regular conversation. The speaker actually breaks eye contact to signal they are beginning to speak and the listener makes the most eye contact to signal he is listening.
Researchers postulate (such a fun word) that the higher cognitive load necessary for thinking of what to say and how to say it requires that the speaker break eye contact and "rest" from the load it takes to make continuous eye contact.
Other research suggest that eye accessing cues used to access certain kinds of information in the brain take priority over looking at the listener. In my programs I recommend that if you want to be a good listener maintain eye contact 70 percent of the time.
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
What does cutting hair after a traumatic event mean non verbally? What does it mean when a woman cuts her hair?
What does cutting hair after a traumatic event
mean non verbally?
No matter what the length our
hair it tells the world who we are, without us having to say one word. Hair cutting can then symbolize any transition. It makes
sense that when our outside lives change, we have been hurt, we end a
relationship, we get ready for our wedding or perhaps a long trip to the outback
or a new job that we change our hair, one of the first things people see and
notice about us. What’s on top of our
head reflects are thoughts and our emotions.
Some women who
have been traumatized, victimized cut their hair as a symbolic self-beating or
mutilation to show the world their pain, their victimization. It says, “I have
been scarred and cut on the inside, so let my head show my inner hurt.”
Sometimes its bulk and ability to cover us, makes it a security blanket, or
shield that protects us from close observation and harm and cutting it away can says, “I am vulnerable
to harm, I cannot protect myself.”
Historically,
hair was seen as a holding power, some even going so far to believe it acted as
a sense organ or antenna and or held memories. Across ancient history you find
often that when people where conquered or enslaved their hair was cut to show
others they were enslaved. It was understood that hair show power and that
cutting it would serve as punishment. Think of the biblical story or Sampson
and Delilah cut Sampson hair and the undefeatable Sampson was defeated. So cutting your hair brutally would
symbolically say, “I have no longer have power.”
For many
women, long hair is a fantasy women, “I am a fairy tale princess feature. We
were raised on the perfect fantasy princess and Cinderella, Sleeping beauty,
Snow White, and Ariel, they all have long hair. Sometimes our long hair feels
like a beauty fantasy builder, Evolutionary psychology research shows that
women’s hair is a signal for mate selection, there is significant correlation
between hair length and age, (younger women tend to have longer hair than older
women) and hair length and quality can act as a cue to a women’s you and
health. So if a women has been sexually abuse would want to cut off what she
may mistakenly believe her is the part of her that attracted harm so it says, “I cut my hair to show I am not longer want
to be sexually attractive, in fact I am ugly so be repelled”
Finally, some women cut their hair to
symbolically cut off the old and start anew. The hair cutting for them can is a symbolic
freeing from chains, a liberation or merely shedding of an “old skin” or
simplifying, making life easier and gaining time. So symbolic a women that cuts
her hair can be symbolically shedding of the societal standards of beauty,
cutting off expectations that she will act like a traditional women, changing how
she looked in the past, and embracing a new self.
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
A Body Language Expert Breaks Down This Group's Collective Gesture
A Body Language Expert Breaks Down
This Group's Collective Gesture
Here's an image that Kentucky University
basketball fans can probably relate to after Sunday's last-second loss in the
NCAA Tournament to the University of North Carolina.
Video of fans riding an emotional rollercoaster at a sports bar during the
last 20 seconds of the game — which ended in a two-point defeat for Kentucky
and a trip to the Final Four for UNC— went
viral on Twitter after the game. As the weight of the loss settled
in, many expressed their dismay with the same non-verbal cue: hands on the top
of the head, elbows out to the side.
The pose actually resembles a conventional "power pose" — but with one subtle change, body language expert Patti Wood told ATTN:
The pose actually resembles a conventional "power pose" — but with one subtle change, body language expert Patti Wood told ATTN:
This is actually a "slight variation in a cue that means almost
exactly the opposite to what they're using it for in this instance," Wood
said.
Traditionally, the "crown-and-cape" pose — as Wood defines it —
is used when a person wants or has power over a situation. Think about a business
executive leaning back in their chair, hands behind their head and elbows
extended outward.
The hand
placement is important from a body language perspective, Wood explained. Most
of the Kentucky fans have their hands on the top of their head, as opposed to
behind their head, and that's meant "to protect from a blow." "What's
interesting is that combination of the elbows out with the hands on top of the
head for protection," Wood said. "It's a mixture of, 'Oh my god, we
had the power and we lost it.' You've got the combination of the cape, which
would have been a win, and the hands on top — we lost the win."
If you watch the
video, you can understand where that emotional combination comes from. Down
three points with 10 seconds on the clock, Kentucky's Malik Monk gets the
ball and makes an impressive shot from the three-point line, tying up the game.
Then UNC's Luke Maye answers by
hitting the game winning shot with less than a second left on the
clock, ripping the rug out from under Kentucky fans' feet.
"There's a unity of emotion — you're
feeling it as a group together and that's what that photo is showing,"
Wood said. "You're all feeling that same loss in that moment."
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Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
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