Psychopaths and Malignant Narcissists Supply, Grooming, Seeding, Empaths, Character Assignation, Smear campaign. speak on body language and dealing with difficult people including toxic people like this.
Psychopaths and Malignant Narcissists do not have normal emotions. They are deep dark voids of emptiness. They search for "Narcissistic supply" to feed their void. Their main "supply" comes from healthy individuals. They particularly love highly emotional Empathy. They will feed of an Empaths positive emotions and once bored will abuse the Empath to get negative emotions. They will typically have a secondary source of supply in other lovers and tertiary supply of groups/ family members.
At some point, a healthy target will see the Psychopath/Narcissists for who they really are. The Psychopath/Narcissists has prepared for this. It has happened to them before. Psychopath/Narcissists false self-image/mask is everything to them. They must destroy anyone who knows them for who they truly are. So the target typically becomes the victim of a smear campaign/character assassination to eject them from the group/family so the Psychopath/Narcissist can continue to gain supply from the group. In fact, they may even get more supply if they are successful in their character assassination as their victim is made to appear like someone who did them harm and the Psychopath/Narcissists gains the sympathy of the group.
They have planned for this by grooming the group long before they assassinate the character of the victim/target. They have 'seeded" (see "seeding", "lie seeding") the group with negative information about the target and primed them gifting them dinners, entry into exclusive parties, clubs, vents, trips, jobs. (Think Harvey Weinstein.) T. If the group allows the Narcissist/Psychopath to get away with attacking the victim/target and let them stay in the group looking the other way they show the attacker their bad behaviors will be tolerated.
The group becomes their tertiary supply and they will create drama in the group to feed them often by triangulating group members pitting them against each other. The Psychopath/Narcissist craves a main source of supply and will search for another lover/Empath. If the group gives them no supply, no drama the Narcissists will disappear from the group when they find them and only reappearing if they lose the lover/Empath.
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
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Empaths, The Perfect Targets for Psychopaths and Malignant Narcissist's Supply. Character Assignation, Smear Campaing.
Psychopaths and Malignant Narcissists do not have normal emotions. They are deep dark voids of emptiness. They search for "Narcissistic supply" to feed their void. Their main "supply" comes from healthy individuals. They particularly love highly emotional Empaths. They will feed of an Empaths positive emotions and once bored will abuse the Empath to get negative emotions. They will typically have a secondary source of supply in other lovers and tertiary supply of groups/ family members.
At some point a healthy target will see the Psychopath/Narcissists for who they really are. The Psychopath/Narcissists has prepared for this. It has happened to them before. Psychopath/Narcissists false self image/mask is everthinging to them. They must destroy anyone who knows them for who they truly are. So the target typically becomes the victim of a smear campaign/character assassination to eject them from the group/family so the Psychopath/Narcissist can continue to gain supply from the group. In fact, they may even get more supply if they are successful in their character assassination as their victim is made to appear like someone who did them harm and the Psychopath/Narcissists gains the sympathy of the group. They have planned for this by grooming the group long before they assassinate the character of the victim/target. They have 'seeded" (see "seeding", "lie seeding") the group with negative information about the target and primed them gifting them dinners, entry into exclusive parties, clubs, vents, trips, jobs. (Think Harvey Weinstein.) T. If the group allows the Narcissist/Psychopath to get away with attacking the victim/target and let them stay in the group looking the other way they show the attacker their bad behaviors will be tolerated.
The group becomes their tertiary supply and they will create drama in the group to feed them often by triangulating group members pitting them against each other. The Psychopath/Narcissist craves a main source of supply and will search for another lover/Empath. If the group gives them no supply, no drama the Narcissists will disappear from the group when they find them and only reappearing if they lose the lover/Empath.
Empaths
If you truly want to understand how smart warm wonderful women are targets of Psychopaths read the research of Sandra Brown:
At some point a healthy target will see the Psychopath/Narcissists for who they really are. The Psychopath/Narcissists has prepared for this. It has happened to them before. Psychopath/Narcissists false self image/mask is everthinging to them. They must destroy anyone who knows them for who they truly are. So the target typically becomes the victim of a smear campaign/character assassination to eject them from the group/family so the Psychopath/Narcissist can continue to gain supply from the group. In fact, they may even get more supply if they are successful in their character assassination as their victim is made to appear like someone who did them harm and the Psychopath/Narcissists gains the sympathy of the group. They have planned for this by grooming the group long before they assassinate the character of the victim/target. They have 'seeded" (see "seeding", "lie seeding") the group with negative information about the target and primed them gifting them dinners, entry into exclusive parties, clubs, vents, trips, jobs. (Think Harvey Weinstein.) T. If the group allows the Narcissist/Psychopath to get away with attacking the victim/target and let them stay in the group looking the other way they show the attacker their bad behaviors will be tolerated.
The group becomes their tertiary supply and they will create drama in the group to feed them often by triangulating group members pitting them against each other. The Psychopath/Narcissist craves a main source of supply and will search for another lover/Empath. If the group gives them no supply, no drama the Narcissists will disappear from the group when they find them and only reappearing if they lose the lover/Empath.
Empaths
If you truly want to understand how smart warm wonderful women are targets of Psychopaths read the research of Sandra Brown:
“The seminal aspect of the research was in detecting these women's unique and astounding elevated 'super traits' of temperament, personality strengths and weaknesses. These proved to be an amazingly compatible match for the strengths and weaknesses of a psychopath and brought a natural 'balance' to the honeymoon aspects of the relationship.”
“While the uncovering of her innate traits and conditioned behaviors explained much about this dangerous relationship and has brought huge intellectual and emotional relief to the victims, it does not seem to have gone very far in modifying the public misperceptions about psychopaths or their victims. On a recent radio show, after describing the huge elevation of some of the victim's temperament traits and explaining how it could affect her patterns of selection and even tolerance in these relationships, the host said, "That's a crock of crap! You're telling me that a few temperament traits can do that? I don't believe it. She picked him, she stayed, she needs to own it and she was probably abused as a child." These simplistic answers are what have been, and continue to be, at the core of the abysmal lack of public psychopathology education.”
“As mentioned, my research has revealed that women who love psychopaths (and other Cluster B personality disordered individuals) possess rather unique and extraordinary 'super traits' of temperament that make them the perfect target/victim of the psychopath. While the following does not cover all of her traits, these were the ones most highly elevated and were thus likely contributing factors:
“While the uncovering of her innate traits and conditioned behaviors explained much about this dangerous relationship and has brought huge intellectual and emotional relief to the victims, it does not seem to have gone very far in modifying the public misperceptions about psychopaths or their victims. On a recent radio show, after describing the huge elevation of some of the victim's temperament traits and explaining how it could affect her patterns of selection and even tolerance in these relationships, the host said, "That's a crock of crap! You're telling me that a few temperament traits can do that? I don't believe it. She picked him, she stayed, she needs to own it and she was probably abused as a child." These simplistic answers are what have been, and continue to be, at the core of the abysmal lack of public psychopathology education.”
“As mentioned, my research has revealed that women who love psychopaths (and other Cluster B personality disordered individuals) possess rather unique and extraordinary 'super traits' of temperament that make them the perfect target/victim of the psychopath. While the following does not cover all of her traits, these were the ones most highly elevated and were thus likely contributing factors:
Here is the research by Sandra Brown on what psychopaths look for in a romantic partner:
§ Extraversion and excitement seeking (Psychopaths are also extraverts and excitement seekers.) In other words, these women started out being the least dependent types on the planet!
§ Deep Investment in all relationships (The victim gives great emotional, spiritual, physical, financial investments in any of her relationships, not just the intimate ones.)
§ Sentimentality
§ Attachment – Deep bonding capacity (She has a deep bonding capacity.)
§ Competitiveness – stand ground – not codependent (She is not likely to be run out of relationships – she will stand her ground. Again, not the co-dependent type at all.)
§ Low Harm Avoidance – does not expect to be hurt (She doesn’t expect to be hurt, sees others through who she is. In other words, not a person looking to recreate an abusive relationship of childhood. In fact, more often than not, these women were never exposed to abuse of any kind as children.)
§ Cooperation
§ Higher Empathy – can be genetic
§ Responsibilty and Re
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
GOODNESS How to Deal With Bad People
What are you doing in your life right now that makes you happy?
Who are the people in your life that radiate goodness, kindness, humor, and
integrity? Who are you grateful for today? Today, who has lifted you up and
done something awesome, fun, showed you they worked hard, showed you their
talent or who was just plain kind and real to you today?
What work and social activities, interests and hobbies lift you
up and make you feel alive, creative and successful? What are you glad you are
doing or have done today? Breathe in gratitude for all that is true and good in
your life.
Each day I write in a gratitude journal. Some days it's hard,
some days it's easy. I write about my friend Rose who can make me laugh for
hours on end. Somedays I am grateful for a huge business deal that is exciting
and challenging, some days it's long real hugs with my loved ones, warm socks
or thin mint cookies. Somedays I write about turning the car stereo up loud and
singing with Bruno Mars or going to a house concert with friends and being
"inside" the music of Eliot Bronson or The Ghost of Paul Revere, and
lately I am grateful for the joy in writing new songs and recording them with
talented musicians.
There is a lot of negative energy in the world right now. We see
evil and injustice. But there is also a sea change towards goodness. Yes, we
are heading towards more goodness. We are noticing bad behavior and saying,
"Nope I don't like that." "Stop that because I find that
unacceptable." "I choose not to be associated with or do business
with someone who acts against my moral values.' That's a very good thing. Bad
behavior might have been going on underneath and in the shadows before, allowed
and accepted but, right now there is so much light!
Let's be grateful for that light. Don't turn away from what
light shows you. I have read and been consulted on so many stories about people doing bad things, but I realized that there
are brave, good people that stood up in those stories and said,
"No!" There are so many authentic strong people speaking out
and showing what good behavior is. There is kindness. Let us all focus on
the good men and women in the world. And for you, focus on what it feels like
to work with and love people you value and trust. Be grateful for
them, grab a cookie and turn up some good music.
Look for the goodness!
Take Care,
PattiPatti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
Harvey Weinstein's Apology Statement.
I have done nonverbal behavior and statement analysis reads of apology statements for many years.
Someone asked me to analyze Harvey Weinstein's apology statement, but I had already read this analysis and thought they did a fine job.
Here is what I would add. First note the length of the apology. A person who is truly contrite is brief in his or her written statement. His statement, uses, justification, (the sixties made me do it) obfuscation, (Look overa here at thndI would add that you see his disorder thinking. He does not speak in logical order.
http://justnotsaid.blogspot.com/2017/10/sociopath-alert-harvey-weinstein.html
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
Someone asked me to analyze Harvey Weinstein's apology statement, but I had already read this analysis and thought they did a fine job.
Here is what I would add. First note the length of the apology. A person who is truly contrite is brief in his or her written statement. His statement, uses, justification, (the sixties made me do it) obfuscation, (Look overa here at thndI would add that you see his disorder thinking. He does not speak in logical order.
http://justnotsaid.blogspot.com/2017/10/sociopath-alert-harvey-weinstein.html
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
MEGHAN MARKLE was close to tears next to Prince Harry as the pair spoke about Princess Diana, according to experts speaking to Daily Star Online
Patti was asked by the Daily Star Online to weigh in on the body language of Meghan Markle as she spoke about Princess Diana. See her insights at the link below:
https://www.dailystar.co.uk/news/latest-news/663564/Meghan-Markle-Princess-Diana-Prince-Harry-interview-engagement-BBC-Royal-Wedding-video
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
https://www.dailystar.co.uk/news/latest-news/663564/Meghan-Markle-Princess-Diana-Prince-Harry-interview-engagement-BBC-Royal-Wedding-video
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
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