Dating and Relationship Tips From Body Language Expert Patti Wood

Answers to questions from Medium Magazine about Dating.

1.  What do you think about dating apps?

They work well if you are levelheaded. Do your research on the person you chose to interact with and head warning signs/red flags that someone is deceitful or dangerous.

2.  What tips would you give to someone who has to go on a first date? I am not sure why you say, "..has to go on a first date." You shouldn't feel forced to go on a first date. The essential tips would be to pick a safe place, let friends know where you are and who you are meeting, plan on the way to exit if you need to gracefully. If you don't feel happy and excited about the prospect of dating the person rethink the date. Have topics you like to talk about and that they may enjoy discussing. And number one, be interested and curious about your date. Expect to have a good time! You are discovering a new human being, and that is glorious.

3.  Choose one of the following questions:

o    What are some great conversation starters for a first date? Why?

What's the best thing that has happened in your life in the last week? In the last year?

What's the most unique positive thing about you? Examples: One set of twins, lived in another country, have skied in the Swiss Alps, you volunteer at Foodbank, you have lobbied with your Representatives for World Peace. You have been in the parade at Comic-Con. You are asking for a positive story. This question leads to great conversations and insights.

Who is a person in your life that is your True North, the most hones credible person you know? What kind of behavior do they demonstrate? What do they say?

4.  What are some original date ideas?

Do something fun, playful exciting. For example, Go on the Farris Wheel,  Blacklight bowling, Karaoke, an international farmers market, find a fruit or other food you haven't eaten, eat or cook it, go to a bookstore or library, and give each other a quest to find something in a book. You will get your adrenaline up and see how the other person enjoys the excitement and good adventure.

5.  How long should someone wait before entering a more serious relationship with someone? That depends so much on you. Do you feel comfortable and safe and your best self in their presence? Do they make you feel the world and other people in it are overall good? Do they like your friends and family. Do they speak well of people with whom they have close relationships? Do you feel good when you have spent 24 hours with them? Is your life even better because they are in it?

6.  In your opinion, what are some personality traits men find irresistible in women? Pretty, Laughs at their jokes/humor, Exciting.

7.  In your opinion, what are some personality traits men ( do you mean women? find irresistible in men? Funny, Tall, Handsome, good job/income.

8.  How can people find you? Patti@Pattiwood.net Bodylanguagelady@blogspot.com

9.  Do you have a book/online course/app you would like our readers to know about? Snap Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma

 

First Impression, Greeting, Handshake, Introduction Etiquette from First Impression Expert Patti Wood

Selling to the Different DISC Personality Types

• Dominance. GET IT DONE This personality is ambitious, intimidating, strong-minded, and daring. Think CEO. With this type, you want to focus on winning and profits; touch on the high points (think executive summary, not long proposal), and be direct. As we saw it written somewhere, "Be brief, brilliant, and be gone!" The best style is fast and high energy with many bullet points and bold headlines. Emphasize that what you sell is the best, the top the winner.
• Influence. GET APRECTIATED  These people care about social recognition, new experiences, and appearance. Many people in all different job titles fall into this group. Here, we're visualizing salespeople, advertising and marketing professionals, fashion executives, and so forth. When you write to this group, take a more personal approach. Be animated and enthusiastic. Tell brief stories Name drop, and focus on the big picture. Emphasize that what you sell is the newest, the leading edge, the "coolest."
• Steadiness. GET ALONG These are the "good guys" and "steady Eddies." They make wonderful friends, are loyal, and would rather listen and support than be center stage. They're generally family-centered. With this group, write in a relaxing, supportive style and focus on how your solution benefits them and their families, personal or corporate, and will keep things going, steady and sure.
• Conscientious. GET IT RIGHT. These are analytical types. They find the mistakes, point them out, and correct them. These professionals need data and facts to make decisions. They want you to stick to business. They are skeptical, value knowledge, and need to know the pros and cons of any situation. If you offer a white paper to download, this group will most likely read it. But it had better be actual research, not a thinly veiled advertorial. Emphasize that what you are selling is the "Right" solution, error-free, and follows the rules. 

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Nurses in Film, Nurses in Movies, Nurses Portrayed Positively in Movies.

I analyze the body language of characters in film and recommend four films that show the main characters, nurses who show calmness in the face of adversity and danger. The nurses in the first two films move slowly and deliberately, their facial expressions remain subdued and unruffled, and their voices are, for the most part, are spoken at a low volume with slight vocal variation or stress, and their breathing is steady. They show a soft empathetic shift when dealing with the death of a patient.

This calmness makes their shift to anger when they feel patients are at risk, more dramatic, and shows that they will fight and show their full power. Interestingly, I have seen that calm to anger shift to show that nurses care in other films.

The first is a classic film that I first saw as a child that showed me that I, as a female could one day do a great thing, The Lady with the Lamp. Later came the film, Florence Nightingale. The fourth film Angels in America shows that and a certain sassiness as well as an ability to deal with grief and death in patients they cared for over a long period of time.

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Body Language in LOVE IS BLIND reunion. Body Language of Shayne Jansen

Tuning into the Love Is Blind Season 2 reunion, nobody really knew what to expect. Were Shayne Jansen and Natalie Lee working things out? Had Mallory Zapata and Sal Perez reunited? Was Shake Chatterjee ready to apologize? Spoiler alert: No, no, and no. Although viewers might have been surprised by the way things turned out, the actual cast members seemed to know what was coming when they sat down together to discuss what went down. In particular, Shake seemed to know exactly how the conversation would go, and according to an expert, his body language during the Love Is Blind reunion was even “poised for war.”

Body language expert and author of Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma Patti Wood explained that Shake appeared to “position himself for battle” during his explosive appearance on the reunion. When hosts Nick and Vanessa Lachey questioned why he appeared on the show, Shake seemed to have a defense ready.

Wood notices that Shake sat “out and forward on the couch with his upper leg and knee outward.” Per her, this is a common “alpha male position,” that signifies that he was preparing for a fight. Here’s how she breaks it all down.

ICYMI, a lot of the criticism of Shake has to do with his treatment of Deepti Vempati, his ex-fiancée. During the show, he regularly talked about how he wasn’t sexually attracted to her — though he rarely opened up to her with such candor. During the reunion, he defended himself by saying, “We all have our physical preferences.”

And although that might not sound too controversial, his body language added an extra layer of aggression to the statement. When he said that, he flung his hand out. Per Wood, “That forward hand motion is aggressive. It’s a call. It’s a plea that ‘this is true for everybody.’”

Though Shake may have wanted his castmates to agree with him, their body language made it clear that he was on his own. While he spoke about love being “blurry” instead of blind, Deepti appeared to have a “micro-facial cue of rage,” per Wood. “She leaned back, pushed her head back, and closed her eyes,” Wood explains. “As if to say, this was so exasperating.”

https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/shake-chatterjee-body-language-love-is-blind-reunionPatti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.