How Do You Get Someone to Be Honest and Not Lie to You?

The Law of Honest Feedback

Make requests throughout your delivery and ask for agreement with each point and sub point.

Getting honest feedback is inherently difficult. The next few posts will give you different methods to get honest feedback. The following techniques and exercises are in my book and in my workshops.

The Law of Honest Feedback-

Make requests throughout your delivery and ask for agreement with each point and sub point

“It sounds good to me.” “How does it sound to you?”

“It seems reasonable to me.” “How does it seem to you?”

“It feels like a good choice to me.” “How it feels to you?”

Be ready to seem surprised, but not upset if they do not agree. Also, make sure you listen to their doubts carefully without interruption

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Bishop Eddie Long's Body Language after Sexual Molestation Allegations

More on my interview on CNN reading Bishop Eddie Long's body language,

Bishop Eddie Long's Body Language in his sermon after Sexual Molestation Allegations

When you are doing a body language analysis of someone suspected of wrong doing you go through a multistage process. One of the first steps is to compare the person's behavior with a baseline of what a normal innocent person's body language would be in the circumstances. You also take into consideration what the normal behavior would be for a power person (celebrity, politician, sports figure or in this case popular minister of a large congregations' behavior would be in these circumstances. Innocent people who are accused and the in the grip of media attention want to speak, they want to speak about their innocence, they want to speak as soon as possible and they want to speak continually until they know you believe in their innocence. Even if Bishop long was advised by his lawyers to "..not try the case in the media." I believe if he was totally and completely innocent of the molestation charges he would have said he was innocent of those charges. Instead he used the confusing phrase that, "I am not the man portrayed in the media.' Even someone guilty of the charges, could believe he was not a "bad" guy. Believing yourself to be "portrayed" differently than you see yourself is not the same thing as not having committed a crime. Recently, I watched a murderer's testimony of killing two of his ex girlfriends. He said, "I am not a bad guy." "I was angry." "I regret the killing ----(the second) girlfriend." "I wished I hadn't done that." He regretted killing the second girlfriend, because that led to his arrest! . But he believed himself to be a good guy.

In the Bishop Long sermon he also nodded his head counter to his statements several times a clear cue of deceit, he also did tongue thrusts of passive aggressiveness. More later. Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

The Love Language of Hands

For proof your honey cares (without waiting for him to say so!), check out your hand-holding style. "This gesture sheds light on the type of connection you share, as well its intensity," says body language expert Patti Wood in First For Women Magazine. To see how deep your bond is with your honey, find the star couple whose clasp resembles yours, then read Patti's analysis at the link below!

http://www.scribd.com/doc/38188766/First-for-Women-the-Love-Language-of-Hands

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Body Language of Bishop Eddie Long about Allegations, Sex candal. Long Speaking to Church Concerning Sex Allegations

Bishop Eddie Long doesn't say he is innocent nor does he apologize to his congregation for putting them through all the pain caused by the sex scandal. I just analyzed his body language for CNN Headline News "Prime News"
He paused, he read from his notes, he used his glasses theatrically. But he didn't say, "I didn't do it."

He used humor to work the congregation before he brought up the charges. He smirked, just liked Former president Bush, showing his glee at getting the congregation on his side. More later.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Who Wears The Pants?

Patti Wood, body language expert, reads the nonverbal cues that these power couples in Hollywood are displaying for Cosmopolitan. She reveals which mate has more control in the relationship. The placement of one's hand, a pelvis and chest pressed into another and walking out in front of the other person are all gestures that reveal who wears the pants. Patti reveals their meaning at the link!

http://www.scribd.com/doc/38188642/CosmoWhoWearsThePants

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.