Body Language in the Virtual World, Training Program to Improve Your Zoom Body Language, By Body Language Expert Patti Wood

Body Language

Create Real Connections in a Virtual World

By:  Patti Wood MA

About Patti Called the "Gold Standard" of Body Language by the Washington Post and credited in the New York Times for bringing the topic to national attention Patti Wood, is a true expert. She creates high energy interactive programs, filled with humor, cutting edge information, and valuable "Take-Aways." She is the author of nine books, and she speaks and consults with Fortune 500 companies and associations. You see her on National TV shows like Good Morning America, The Today Show, CNN, The Talk, CBN, FOX News, The Discovery Channel, The History Channel, The Today Show, and Entertainment Tonight. She is quoted every week in publications such as;  The Wall Street Journal, Psychology Today, Refinery 29, Readers Digest, The Hill, Politico, Bustle, Elite Daily, Bloomberg Business Week, Fortune, The Independent, Good Housekeeping, Oprah, and USA Today

 

What You Will Get

 

In every minute of interaction with another person, you exchange up to 10,000 nonverbal cues that determine what they think of you and how you will connect. If you have an essential idea to communicate, you need to buy in and ache for a true connection you need more than hacks. This high energy, interactive, humor-filled program will teach you the secrets of reading body language and how to use them to create and deepen your relationships in the virtual world.

 

Learning Objectives

These will be customized to the group.

·        Making the other person feel safe and open in a fraction of a second.

·        Using three tools to keep you from being exhausted on a virtual call.

·        Gaining and maintaining connection.

·        Reading people accuracy using the four first impression factors.

·        Understanding how the Freeze Flight Fall or Faint response is triggered in our face to face, and virtual interactions.

·        Improving your first impression and how others think about you.

·        Recognizing when you are with a credible, honest, authentic person and when your NOT!

·        Understanding the difference between danger signals and a

attraction signals

·        Using the Primacy and Recency effect in a virtual meeting

·        Encouraging acceptance and agreement of your ideas nonverbally.

·        What's the First Impression of your "BOX" in the Zoom Facetime world.

·        Body Language cues to note when someone's wearing a mask.

·        Learning the one mistake that people typically make when trying to read body language – and how it can sabotage your business and personal relationships

·        Recognizing "comfort cues" that can show you are stressed could make people think you lack confidence or think you are deceptive.

·        Creating rapport with your voice.

·        Understanding the power and danger of Charisma

·        Using insights into body windows to hide or reveal emotions.

·        Getting to the truth and revealing answers from even reluctant speakers.

·        Recognizing what part of the body is the most "honest."

 

 

 

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

I Search For Hope - Song by Patti Wood

I looked for her in the woods today,

took off my shoes to see her.

Put feathers in my hair to hear blue jays.

Twirled in my robe of Douglas fir.

 

Chorus

I stretched out my arms pushed shadows away.

Skimmed stones ‘cross my worries to keep them at bay.

I search for hope every day.

I search for hope every day.

 

I hung fairy lights on the trees

hoping to get their company.

Danced in a parade of buzzing bees.

Got the stings, hoping for honey.

 

Chorus

I stretched out my arms pushed shadows away

Skimmed stones 'cross my worries to keep them at bay

I search for hope every day

I search for hope every day

 

Bridge

Lay down in dry riverbed to ease my thirst.

Feel the concert in the ground, solace in the dirt.

Waiting for the breeze to soothe my hurt

I search I search I search 

 

Chorus

I stretched out my arms push shadows away

Skimmed stones 'cross my worries to keep them at bay

I search for hope every day

I search for hope every day

 

Wrap my loneliness in yellow vines

Lay my palm on rough bark

to hear her heart, is she listening to mine?

Will she spark? Will she spark?

Chorus

I stretched out my arms push shadows away

Skim stones across my worries to keep them at bay

I search for hope every day

I search for hope every day

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

What Will You Keep And What Will You Change In Your Life Going Into The New Year? An Exercise For You And Your Team

New Year New Behavior Exercise

In a song I wrote called “What Will I Keep?” my character sings in the first verse:

Sitting on the floor, piles of clothes on the bed
Dresses I danced in, glitter and shine from the life that I led.
Wish I could take all the soles of my shoes I’ll never wear again,
walk a grateful life, not the high heeled path I’ve tread … Full lyrics below

The character in the song is evaluating her life and wants to let go of certain parts of herself

As you sort through your life what are parts of your character and ways of communicating and being with people have you recently let go of and or wish to let go of? List at least three here:

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Share what you feel comfortable sharing on that list with someone and ask them for their list.

What parts of you will you keep? List and briefly describe three or more parts of your character, and or ways of communicating with others and living your life do you value?

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Share what you feel comfortable sharing on that list with someone and ask them for their list.

List three relationships that you value in your personal life and one reason why you value them.

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List three people you value in your work life and one reason why you value them.

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Now is the perfect time, no matter what you have or haven’t said in the past to take a few minutes this week to reach out to the people you value on each list and either share what you wrote face to face, over the phone, on a zoom call, email, text or short personal letter.

The character in the song isn’t me, but I have taken time this year to evaluate my life and what to let go of and what to keep.

Click the title below to the vocals in SoundCloud:

What Will I Keep? 

by:  Patti Wood

Sitting on the floor, piles of clothes on the bed
Dresses I danced in, glitter and shine from the life that I led.
Wish I could take all the soles of my shoes I’ll never wear again,
walk a grateful life, not the high heeled path I’ve tread.

 

When all of this is over,
I have a night where I don’t lose sleep
When my losses are sorted and counted
What will I keep?

 

Junk drawer is empty, threw out what didn’t match
worn-out keys that didn’t fit my heart tossed in the trash.
My pantry is bare, all my sell-by dates have passed
Filled the trunk of my car, bagged up my past.

 

When all of this is over,
I have a night where I don’t lose sleep
When my losses are sorted and counted
What will I keep?

 

Bridge

I live in this house alone
Plenty of time to find my place
Let go of the shallow, seek my grace/

 

When all of this is over,
I have a night where I don’t lose sleep
When my losses are sorted and counted
What will I keep?
What will I find in myself?
What will I keep?

You can several of my other new songs in their working versions on SoundCloud under my name. That's a free App you can download.  You go into the App type my name in the search bar and this song is down a few songs. SoundCloud is where I keep the rough versions of my songs before I take them to the studio and record them so know this is a rough version and is sung by the wonderful Libby Nation.

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.

     

Reducing the Stress of Dealing with People While Wearing a Mask by Body Language Expert and Speaker Patti Wood

As I giving consulting advice and offer training programs on customer service and wearing a mask I discuses why its stressful and what you can do. It's stressful dealing with people wearing masks because anything emotions in facial expressions are ways we decide if someone is safe to interact with and how they are feeling and responding to us. Reading those facial expressions is wired into our primal brains. In my book  Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma  I share the importance of establishing rapport and how behaviors like handshakes and smiles help reduce help us and know it's stressful to interact without them. Their are barriers to overcome.
How can you show your sadness, glee, or anger while still protecting ourselves and others from COVID-19?

One change you can make if your interacting with a mask on is to say your emotions out loud. For example, instead of just saying, "Good Morning," say, 'I'm smiling. Good morning." Instead of just saying, "Goodbye." Wave, and say, "I enjoyed being with you, Goodbye." Naming your emotions is a great way to improve communication.

Naming your emotion is also a great way to monitor your feelings and reduce stress. When you check in on your emotional state, you create a sense of control of your emotion, you can even choose to feel and go deeper into an emotion that your would like to feel. So say, for example, you are feeling stressed out on a trip to the grocery store during Covid 19. You want to reduce that stress. You can change what you think, feel, say, and do by calling out a good emotion. For example, as you approach the cash register, you can tell yourself that you want to feel happy and grateful for human interaction. You can know it relatively safe because you are both wearing masks and distanced. You can make the decision to reduce the stress for both you and the cashier, smile under your mask, and say, "I am smiling hello under this mask because it's great to see you today."  Grab that confidence and kick away the stress.

You can also change the way you sound if you smile under your mask. When you smile, it changes the shape of your vocal cords, so when you speak while smiling, it sounds different and enjoyable to others

Smile under your mask. People can't see your smile, but they can see the raise of your cheeks and a little lift below your eyes, and the crescent shape your eyes make, as well as the little crinkle folds around the eyes that occur when smiling so a smile CAN be seen when wearing a mask. Plus, smiling sends a message to your brain to release feel-good chemicals, some of the same ones we get from warm touch like hugging! 

For more tips and or coaching or training on Body Language While Wearing a Mask, including training on Customer Service While Wearing a  Mask Contact are office at Patti@Pattiowood.net 

Problems With Racial Profiling in Facial Recognition Software, Body Language Expert Patti Wood

I am an expert in first impressions and body language. I wrote the book SNAP Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma.

There is racial bias in facial recognition software.

1.) How common is this
problem?

1) Are there problems with racial stereotyping in facial recognition software.

Researcher Patrick Grother, said race-based biases were evident in "the majority of the face recognition algorithms we studied." Compared to their performance against whites, some algorithms were up to 100 times more likely to confuse two different non-white people.

”https://edition.cnn.com/2019/12/19/tech/facial-recognition-study-racial-bias/index.html#:~:text=In%20a%20release%2C%20Patrick%20Grother%2C%20one%20of%20the,more%20likely%20to%20confuse%20two%20different%20non-white%20people. 

Accurate first impressions are formed in the limbic system and based on reading up to 10,000 nonverbal cues in less than one minute. We can form that impression quickly and accurately based on an enormous amount of nonverbal data.

2.) Should facial recognition be used in schools? I don’t think we can stop the use of facial recognition software. We have too many guns and too much violence so people want to protect their children and the companies that make them can get huge government contracts and make millions of dollars putting in and maintaining them so they will lobby for them. It will happen so we need to make it as accurate as possible and take out the racial bias.

Stereotypes that are formed in the neocortex and are based on things like parenting, experiences, social media, film tv and social media and most research shows that impressions based on stereotypes in 30 percent accurate or lower.

What can be done to ensure that facial recognition doesn't show
bias?

Research show we form Stereotypes based on skin tone and even more so for facial structure (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3399873/) Skin and Bones: The Contribution of Skin Tone and Facial Structure to Racial Prototypicality Ratings)

I feel that we need to improve the software to take into considered the implicit bias that skin tone and facial shape make and to increase the accuracy of the software.

 

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.